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[sevdolo]

“Civilization”

[oracleofhimeros]

the fact that you can tell most trans people are straight because actual gay kids learn from an early age that most people aren’t attracted to us because they’re exclusively attracted to the opposite sex. like, gay teenagers with crushes on straight people have to figure out eventually that the crush is going to go nowhere. it’s never going to blossom into a full on relationship. it’s impossible.

straight people (especially men i feel) don’t really learn that. chances are that their crush will be reciprocated and if it isn’t then a majority of people are straight so it doesn’t really matter in the long run. this is how you get TIMS/TIFS who don’t understand same sex attraction. 

obviously there’s a sense of entitlement there as well. heterosexual men who call themselves women have been straight their entire life. they’ve probably had their feelings reciprocated by at least one women. so they don’t understand why lesbians reject them because they’re “women” now. they’ve never had to reckon with the fact that people who are actually same sex attracted are a minority of the population.

[whatslivinglike]

This is so true. When you grow up gay, you’re used to people not being able to reciprocate your feelings. When you grow up hetero, you expect a rejection that’s specific to you and that could change (maybe a woman isn’t that much into a man but eventually likes him and falls in love or whatever). And heterosexual men were told that “no” means that she’s “playing hard to get” and if you insist she’ll eventually say yes.

That’s what they’re doing with lesbians. Hoping we say yes someday, not understanding that we literally can’t. We won’t grow to like them, we won’t eventually say yes because biologically, we can’t.

So they call us bigots, and transphobes, and awful people who should “unlearn our preferences.” It’s like we told them “tell me you’re not gay without telling me you’re not gay.”

For better or worse, we homosexuals know better than most what rejection is. Sexual/romantic or otherwise.

[riddarkatto]

”When you grow up hetero, you expect a rejection that’s specific to you” - yes this! and that’s why they take it as a personal attack when you say you’re not into them

[goldenwestborn]

Toni

03/13/2019

Part of my Man Hater zine, you can read the full zine here.

[partialbirthabortion]

The language we use within a clinic to respect our patients' identities and make everyone feel safe to access abortion care does not actually have to be the exact same as the language we use to lobby and advocate, you know. Like, we can call abortion a women's issue and still be absolutely respectful of and appropriate towards the trans men who need to access it.

[toastbutteregg]

[pamperedpunk-deactivated2018072]

I feel like it’s such a male privilege to claim that biology doesn’t matter and is irrelevant to our lives, because their lives have never been negatively impacted by their biology. Trans women who say that biology doesn’t matter are speaking from their personal experience; it doesn’t matter as long as you’re born with a penis and never taught to be ashamed of your body. Giving up having children to have genital reconfiguration doesn’t matter when you’ve never felt pressured to have kids. Getting cat-called isn’t offensive when you’ve never been taught to walk faster, carry your keys in your knuckles, and pray for safety. Performing femininity is enjoyable when you’ve never felt obligated to do it or harassed when you didn’t.

[chocolate-and-discourse]

Sorry, I could never be a capitalist, I suffer from “wanting humans to have their basic needs met” disorder, where I care about people who aren’t me.

[chocolate-and-discourse]

Someone once asked me if, assuming we got universal healthcare, I would be okay with the rise in “healthcare tourism” where people who are sick come to our country to get their medical bills taken care of and life-saving medical treatment cheaper than in their home countries. I was just like, yeah thats fine, I’d actually prefer it if 0 people died from preventable causes kept behind a paywall for no reason.

[spoopy-valkyrie]

“even the addicts?” yeah dude did i fucking stutter

[femaledirk-deactivated20211013]

“Healthcare tourism” is a thing here and where I used to live before and I never thought anything of it, what kind of fucking argument is this

Capitalists are monsters

[fluttershyplushie]

the “debate” about trans people in sports kills me every time like as someone who’s in a sport that’s not divided by gender there’s literally no trend of any one gender doing better than the other. like i’m 7 months on t but when i compete against my friend she kicks my ass 9/10 times, rightfully so. like it’s just so incredibly stupid that we have to talk about this every couple of months as if it matters at all

[opabiniawillreturn-deactivated2]

oh what sport?

[fluttershyplushie]

horseback riding

[radkindoffeminist]

And you think horseback riding is the same as every other sport, especially full contact sports like water polo, rugby, etc?

[itsjustwokehomophobia-deactivat]

this is so dumb actually i did horseriding for a straight 6 years and women have an advantage in horseriding due to being, on average, lighter and better at balance (if you want a source ask me). unlike many other sports horseriding does not require brute strength - many horseriders have a similar physique to, for example, a gymnast (no source for this just personal experience).

[sapphic-schizo]

unfortunately mommy and daddy can’t buy you critical thinking skills

[now-exiting-fuckability-deactiv]

Transwomen don't have an advantage in ~my~ sport therefore transwomen don't have an unfair advantage over women in any sport.

Oh, what sport is that?

Cup stacking.

Fucking hell. No shit.

[kineticpianox]

Did you know that modern C sections were invented by African women— centuries before they were standard elsewhere?

Midwives and surgeons living around Lake Tanganyika and Lake Victoria perfected the procedure hundreds of years ago. When a baby couldn’t be delivered vaginally, these healers sedated the laboring mother using large amounts of banana wine. They tied the mother to the bed for safety, sterilized a knife using heat, and made the incision, acting quickly as a team to prevent excessive blood loss or the accidental cutting of other organs. The combination of sterile, sharp equipment and sedation made the procedure surprisingly calm and comfortable for the mother.

After the baby was delivered, antiseptic tinctures and salves were used to clean the area and stitches were applied. Women rarely developed infections, shock, or excessive blood loss after a cesarean section and the most common problem reported was that it took longer for the mother’s milk to come in (an issue that was solved with friends and relatives who would nurse the baby instead).

In Uganda, C sections were normally performed by a team of male healers, but in Tanzania and DRC, they were typically done by female midwives.

The majority of women and babies survived this, and when questioned about it by European colonists in the mid-1800s, many people in Uganda and Tanzania indicated that the procedure had been performed routinely since time immemorial.

This was at a time when Europeans had only barely started to figure out that they should wash their hands before performing surgery, when nearly half of European and US women died in childbirth, and when nearly 100% of European women died if a C section was performed.

Detailed explanations of Ugandan C-sections were published globally in scholarly journals by the 1880s and helped the rest of the world learn how to save mothers and babies with minimal complications.

So if you’re one of the people who wouldn’t be alive today without a C-section, you have Ugandan surgeons and Tanzanian and Congolese midwives to thank for their contributions to medical science.

[trekmemes-deactivated20220205]

https://www.nlm.nih.gov/exhibition/cesarean/part2.html

[playfulpanthress]

Thank you, my sisters.

[comingoutofthecauldron]

stop telling your teenage daughters who say they don't want kids that they'll change their mind

[weirdqueeraltkid-deactivated202]

reblog the shit outta this

[morriganwarrior]

I haven't been a teenager in over a decade. Mind has yet to change on the subject.

At 14, I told my guidance counselor that I didn't want kids. He chuckled, patted me on the back, and informed me that when I got a little older, and I was with a guy, I would change my mind.

At 16, my grandmother nearly had a heart attack because of her three granddaughters, myself and the youngest agreed we didn't want to uave babies. Ever.

At 17, my father asked about my life plan. I told him: graduate high school, get my college degree, do some traveling and writing, go for this particular job I wanted, retired around X age, take month-long vacations to places I wanted to spend time in, etc. He asked, "What about a husband? Children? Normal things a girl is supposed to think about?" My response- a husband if a man came along that could share an adventure with me, kids were a No Go. He assured me I would 'grow up' qnd change my mind.

At 19, I shocked my former babysitter who had known me since I was a toddler, when I confirmed the rumour she'd heard that I didn't want kids. She patted my mom's arm and reassured her in a sweet voice that, "Don't worry, girls say a lot of silly things before they meet the right fella, and wise up. She'll give you grand babies"

At 22, I was talking to a college professor who chuckled at my making a comment about how, "thank goodness I'm never going to have to worry about juggling child rearing eith marriage, work, and life", then she realized I was serious. She asked if I was alright, thinking I could-not (not didn't-want) kids. I told her the truth, could have but didn't want to. She was aghast, then told me that I'd change my mind when my husband wanted some kids.

Well, I'm over 30, still have absolutely no desire to give birth, adopt, raise, or have much of anything to do with children. I don't hate children, I don't think people who have them are crazy (more power to you, to create and/or care for another person), and I don't think it's impossible to have a life AND have children. I recognized at an early age that I don't have that biological imperative to procreate, I don't have the patience to deal with children (something that has shown very little improvement as I've gotten older, in fact it might be getting worse), and I don't feel my life is incomplete without creating another life- I am good with living my own and doing my best to enrich the lives of those I care about (I try my best to be a good friend, to be a good sister, good daughter, good pet-owner, and a good person in general).

So please, please stop telling girls (or really kids at all, but especially girls) that they will change their minds. Please don't tell them that meeting 'the right guy' will make them suddenly feel broody, that their potential future husband's desire to have children will make her reconsider and see things his way. For one, a couple should have had that conversation and decided if it was a deal breaker, LONG before they got hitched. For another, it's her body that gets to grow and birth another human being- her husband's desire to be a father doesn't supercede her autonomy.

Please, let girls make their own choices? Girls are forced to mature too fast as it is and are bombarded from all sides with SHOULD (you SHOULD be a size 2, you SHOULD wear this dress, you SHOULD have a boyfriend to be a normal teen, you SHOULD always smile), they don't need another judgement from someone who hasn't walked a mile in their particular shoes. Respect teenage girls and their ability to look at the world, themselves, their situation, and their future, and make an important choice.

*gets off soap box, slides it back under the sofa, lets out a sigh*

Thanks for attending my TED talk. G'night.

[arcaneglitch]

[theconcealedweapon]

[postirony]

like, how the fuck are any of you still defending barbaric nightmerica or any of its institutions?

[smileythirteen]

we as a society have surpassed the need to shave our bikini lines. we’re either making swimsuits into actual shorts or just letting ppl show their pubes in public bcuz im tired of this

[rneadowsoprano-deactivated20211]

So much of patriarchy relies on men genuinely believing women are too stupid to catch on and women genuinely believing men are too stupid to do terrible things on purpose

[memeuplift]

[nosferatehm-deactivated20240814]

"orientations dont always fit into neat boxes and definitions" is a homophobic statement. If you really feel this way then you’re most likely bisexual. Gay means exclusive same sex attraction there is nothing complicated about this so If you don’t feel this way then you are not fucking gay!!!! Bisexuals are attracted to both sexes and straights are exclusively opposite sex attracted. You are really stupid to find this complex.

These bisexuals are making things so hard for gay people.

[terfbangs]

“homosexual is too restrictive for me!!” so what youre saying is youre bisexual

[kvetcher-deactivated20210920]

libfems will say “destroy the patriarchy!!” and can’t even acknowledge that the patriarchy is men :/

[angeryducc]

They act like the patriarchy is some nebulous cloud of influence that they can defy by wearing heels “for themselves” when really it’s their fathers

[ophelias-revenge]

[laundryandtaxes]

I think it is very rare for a human being to be totally unsalvageable but I think it is very clear to me that many men lack, and will lack until the day they die, the basic understanding of women as human beings just like them with individual desires and fears and personalities, which would be required for men to ever be suitable for interactions with women. Many literally cannot get it in their heads that women have personhood in the exact same sense they do.