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Teaching You Authentic, Purpose-Driven Living. Start You #soulrevolution by #youbeingmore

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My latest read. Cannot wait to get stuck into this #soulrevolution #truthmap #femmekind #feminineenergy #divinefeminine #sacredfeminine #heartcentred #creativity #spirituality #sensuality #divinity #osho #shakti #sexuality #femininesexuality #selfexploration #selfdiscovery #soulawakening #selflove

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So what's a #soulrevolution all about then?

I mentioned #soulrevolution to someone recently and he told me it sounds  like some sort of 70’s funk soul rock band.  Of course, when that name came to me, I wasn’t thinking of funky tight-fitting flares, big hair and platform knee high boots.  Earth, Wind and Fire eat your heart out. Although that would be a good choice for a fancy dress party.

Well, here’s what it actually means to me and perhaps what it could mean to you too:

To ruffle the status quo.

To give in to your fears of change.

To break away, go against the grain of society’s ‘rules’.

To shout NO to “I-should-be” living, the fitting-into-the-World-life that is prescribed to us.

To take your maybe later life off the shelf and live it now.

To give in to your real desires.

To succumb to the calling of your soul rather than the voices of the World.

To take off the mask and surrender to the real you.

To live the life that’s meant for you. And to embrace the real, human being you know you really are and can be.  The truth of who you really are as a unique being. Before it’s too late.

Does it ring any truth for you?

It normally does take a mild tragedy, a loss, getting to a point of no return to cause an inner awakening, usually in the form of a mid-life crisis when you wake up and realise that you’ve fallen out of love with your life. Dead pan. A lifeless life. You know, the sort of life that feels like GroundHog Day – the same old shit, different day. When you’re going through the same old motions to chase the same old stuff.  And life just feels lifeless. Meaningless. Purposeless.

Literally.

You’ve become a shell of a human being, clinging onto people and stuff around you to feel some sort of joy. But you know it’s not coming from within you.

Here’s the thing:  unlike most of the natural World, we don’t grow organically as human beings into who we’re supposed to become. We’re clipped, moulded, coerced and shoved into pigeon holes and man-made systems, and we blindly expect to thrive and blossom in those conditions.

Ironically the very opposite happens: we try and become something we THINK we should be.

Have you ever looked into the eyes of a caged animal in the zoo? You can see their sadness – the eyes are a window the soul as they say. It’s nature creature shoved into routine and systems that’s not natural to it. That’s why you might often see the crazy chimpanzee rocking back and forth in the corner of its cage in a delusional hysteria because it knows it doesn’t belong.

But it has nowhere to go.

You do have a choice. The spirit of real you is wild. It doesn’t want to be caged in, to whatever you’re forcing it to be caged into.

Have you ever had that feeling that you don’t belong? That where you are isn’t really where you’re supposed to be or even want to be deep down? Like a piece of you is missing? That feeling that you can’t quite put your finger on but you know something just isn’t quite right…

You see, like the crazy chimpanzee, that’s exactly what’s happening to us and our spirit when we’re locked into systems; we’re fitting into one big man-made zoo which causes us to live unhinged lives. No not rocking back and forth, but it’s a different kind of madness: expected to act a certain way, hiding behind ego masks, women acting like men and men scurrying around in suits of bravado. We’re taught to bury our emotion, just swallow it, act like nothing matters. And values – what values!?!? Who gives a fuck about that? We here to make money! So let’s dismiss the folks who you are told are inferior, look up to the top dogs and become a professional ladder climbers of hierarchy, love thy neighbour and stab them in the back to compete for more money and status and think that THAT is ‘doing well’.

Without realising, you’re taught to become a slave to your ego all your life. It’s often sugar coated so you can’t often see it. But life becomes a game of proving your self-worth constantly. That’s the truth of the matter. And you never stop to listen to beat of your soul. Even if you do, it’s too easy to dismiss as the smorgasbord of shiny things that society has on offer is too tempting and like a magpie, you fly back for more and more never to feel full.

The only way you’ll ever feel truly full is when you fill yourself up with inner joy, with meaning, with purpose, with the passion of letting authentic you shine. With being YOU.

That takes an inner revolution.

You see,  you know when something feels off don’t you? The question is are you brave enough to admit it to yourself? More importantly, do you want to do something about it?

Life is about accepting yourself for who you are. And a large part of that lies in shutting off the World. So it does take a profound revolution to stop and listen to yourself.  It takes an almighty inner insurgence to rise up against your ego and let your soul take over the reigns of your life.

To start reconnecting where you once felt  disconnected.

To revivify the parts of you that you thought you’d lost.

To fill meaning into the emptiness.

To rediscover sides of you that you’ve suppressed for years.

To feel the aliveness of passion that comes from simply being you and living true to who that is.

That’s what sparking a #soulrevolution is.

To truly dig deep, understand who you really are, what the truth of your life is really all about. It’s about paying attention to those nudges within and taking action to follow them, wherever they may lead to, without worrying what the outside World is going to think of you.

It’s having the courage to consciously step into a life that’s true to who you are rather than unconsciously in life that’s expected of you.

Be vulnerable. Feel the fear. Live with a little uncertainty for a while. Seeds grow in the dark for a reason.

When you just know that something profoundly doesn’t feel right, if a piece of you feels like it’s missing, it’s time to take it off the mask, spark your #soulrevolution and let the beauty of your inner spirit shine.

Soul sister, Soul brother you do have a choice…you can choose to arouse your soul, ignite that light that burns within and set the wild spirit of you free this year. Or, you can choose put your desires and your #soulrevolution on  the ‘maybe-later-shelf’ for another New Year to ring in.

Are you ready to spark your #soulrevolution this year?

[yogeetamistry]

Cheers! To an AMAZING #2017! love Yogeeta #happynewyear #happy2017 #2017🎄 p.s. get your #soulrevolution going too...!

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Your divinity is your truth. It's your authenticity. It's the real you. It's the purpose you're born with. It's the person you're meant to be. Most people deny it. I for sure did for a LONG time...and the longer you stifle the calls of real you, the more it hurts, the more life feels off balance and lopsided. But if you're really ready to step into the divinity of real you in 2017 then the truth of real you is what you need to revive...that's what's #truthmap is all about. Visit the link in bio for more about my early trials... #soulrevolution #selfdiscovery #soulawakening #selflove #shakti #spirituality #spiritualgangster #inspiration #2017 #divinity #empowerment #changeisgood #changeyourlife #purposedrivenlife #purposedriven #realyou #authenticity #authenticyou #feminineenergy #divinefeminine #sacredfeminine #heartcentred #creativity

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I love #rumiquotes. This one I think is one of my favourites. This is the thing in life: you have to find people that can fan the embers of the real you that glow inside...until those embers become a huge ROARING flame... But often, you can't do that alone. Especially if you've lived a life off course and trying to find the real you again. Which is why I've created a brand new programme called #truthmap. Currently in pre-launch, it's a unique self discovery and self exploration programme designed to take you on a personal journey to rediscover, revive and reignite the person who you really are. And then you can arrive into 2017 feeling like a whole new you can begin to create a whole new life next year... If the fire of you burns within and you seek someone to fan the flame of real you, to spark your #soulrevolution I've got a place left on my early trials. If you're interested in knowing more taking the last place, just comment or private message me to get in touch to arrange a Skype ❤❤❤ #soulrevolution #selfdiscovery #soulawakening #selflove #selfexploration #divinity #rumi #feminineenergy #heartcentred #creativity #spirituality #spiritualgangster #inspiration #empowerment #changeisgood #changeyourlife #shakti #spiritualcoach #freedom #firestarter #2017 #awaken #authenticity #authenticyou #raiseyourconsciousness #acceptance #changeyourlife2017

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Don't get stuck in your head. There's little clues. Secrets locked in your present moment. Life is talking to you. Learn to listen to her whispers.... #soulrevolution #present #divinity #lifequotes #lifeisstrange #spirituality #spiritualgangster #simplesecrets #authenticity #bereal #followyourheart #soulawakening #truthmap #selflove #shakti #bepresent #feminineenergy #divinefeminine #selfdiscovery #sacredfeminine #concsiousness #awaken #realyou #authenticyou #freedom #heartcentred #creativity

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I hope you love Rumi too. I'm thinking right now how I'm moving forward with #soulrevolution And I'm asking myself these questions. You CAN'T move forward without asking yourself: ~ how am I making a difference? ~ how do others need me? ~ how do I want to affect and change lives? ~ what I do I genuinely want for others? ~ what's my why? ~ what's the value I want to give? ~ how do I come from a place of compassion and contribution? ~ what do I want more for you than I want for me? #soulrevolution #purposedriven ##soulsuccess #divinelove #selflove #divinity #rumi #feminineenergy #divinefeminine #selfdiscovery #soulawakening #sacredfeminine #goddess #bereal #authenticity #authenticyou #heartcentred #creativity #spirituality #spiritualgangster #inspiration #empowerment #changeisgood #startwithwhy #purposedrivenlife #realyou

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Keeping a #journal, learning to unfold piece by piece, peeling back the layers of who I was not and getting to #discover real me has been something I cannot put a value to. There's divinity to be discovered within you. Release yourself and take the time to find it. Honour the void if you're wanting to discover yourself, keep a journal #priceless #realyou #authenticity #bereal #soulsuccess #divinelove #soulrevolution #femmekind #feminineenergy #divinity #sacredfeminine #divinefeminine #selfdiscovery #soulawakening #truthmap #selflove #shakti #spirituality #spiritualgangster #goddess #femininedivine

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My latest read. Full of stickies and highlighter and only on page 115! Women have a free and wild nature BUT NOT in the pejorative sense. Beautiful Ladies - learn to reconnect with your #instinct and your #intuition. LISTEN. We often don't listen to it but it's your #divinity within that guides you. It talks to you. It knows best. Reconnect with the #divinefeminine that you're born with #sacredfeminine #feminineenergy #soulrevolution #femmekind #soulsuccess #youbeingmore #simplesecrets #authenticity #bereal #realyou #selflove #sexuality #femininesexuality #shakti #yingyang

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I've been away for a few days celebrating my mum's 60th birthday and then having some me time at a delicious #anahatachakra workshop with the beautiful @hajnalkawray_tantrayogalove of @thulayoga And I've just seen this gorgeously heart warming image - those of you who know me know that I love birds and what they represent... You've got to learn to set yourself free and getting into that creative space just makes you come alive with desire of #realyou and #ignites your #soul #spirituality #spiritualgangster #divinity #sacredfeminine #divinefeminine #selfdiscovery #bereal #soulsuccess #divinelove #selflove #changeisgood #creativity

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How To Keep A Journal

When my life was transitioning internally, I knew I had to speak to someone. But instinctively, rather than reaching for a person to talk to, I reached for a small gold coloured, hard backed note book with a fleur de lys pattern, went to my favourite coffee shop and wrote.

And wrote and wrote.

And so my journalling journey began 4 years ago.

Keeping a journal wasn’t something that someone told me or showed me how to do. I just knew I needed to reach understanding within myself and the only way I could make sense of it somehow was talking to myself, out aloud but not out aloud.

There is a certain cathartic release in writing.

But is there a way to keep a journal?

How do you write in a journal?

How do you keep a journal? Do you have to write in your journal every day? Every morning? Every night?

There are too many questions and too many questions = confusion!

I believe there is no how to – except for the how to that works for you.

I don’t like to be prescriptive and you don’t need to be prescribed to; you need to be guided.

So in this weeks episode of simplesecretsTV, I share with you how I learned by myself to keep a journal, guiding you from my experience as my personal first hand experience is what I have that I can share with you with complete authenticity.

What I do know is that you’ll create a picture of your life in words. You’ll begin to see yourself unfold. And you’ll see your personal journey expand. Click below to watch  and listen carefully to what I share with you on how I decided I wanted to write in my journal and how it worked for me.

Hope this helps you too and as always, if you have any comments or questions, please comment below on the blog.

Love Yogeeta

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Feel like you haven't achieved enough in life? Here's what to do...

“I don’t feel like I’ve achieved enough”.

“I’m not fulfilling my potential”.

“I just don’t feel like I’ve really achieved what I’ve set out to in life”.

A recent conversation with an acquaintance I had a few weeks ago was heavy with thoughts and phrases like this which were clearly haunting him.

And, with his permission, it’s inspired this week’s episode of simplesecrets TV.

“Your life is pretty good” I remember saying. He had a lot to feel good about:

a great job that pays well that he’s progressing in, living in an affluent part of suburbia, drives a nice car, eats good food, has good friends, gets to the gym several times per week. But still plagued with an overarching feeling of “not enough” with his life.

And it’s a dark echo of how many people feel actually do feel like this in the World today. No matter what you seem to be doing, your enough never feels like enough. That you just haven’t achieved enough in life. That you haven’t proved yourself enough to YOU to feel worthy as a human and that in the grand scheme of things, your life just doesn’t stack up.

So you keep striving and trying to find ways to fill this void of not enough.

But it’s not something you can just ‘fill’ with somethings, some more or some one.

There are two strong reasons why this happens in life and that is what I’ll be exploring on this weeks video and most importantly, what you need to do to get out of feeling this way

Feel free to comment as always and hop across to YouTube to subscribe to get notified of videos like this every week.

Ciao for now!

Love Yogeeta x

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Success Should I Wait For You? The Substitute for Self Worth

“I traded fame for love

Without a second thought

It all became a silly game

Some things cannot be bought

I got exactly what I asked for

Wanted it so badly

Running, rushing back for more

I suffered fools…so gladly

But now, I find, I’ve changed my mind

The face of you, my substitute for love”

Lyrics from ’Substitute for Love’ by Madonna

  What are you suffering to keep having what you’re having?

It’s a painful place to be when you feel locked into a life that you feel you can’t get out of.

“I’ve worked too hard to get here”

“I can’t throw this all away”

“I can’t bear the thought of starting all over again”

But can you bear the thought of a few more years, perhaps even decades of feeling totally numb within yourself? Feeling completely empty and disconnected from the source of real you that you’ve buried  behind a mask you’ve created, which weighs down the spirit of real you; keeping your soul muffled when you feel its nudges crying out from within as an inner yearning, a longing to be someplace else, being who you want to be, doing what you want to do?

Instead the wheels of the merry-go-round keep turning and you carry on playing in the outer fringes of your life, keeping your ego happy of the face of you that you want to show to the world. It’s the face of you that temporarily makes you feel good, helps you feel worthy and gives you validation and permission that you are a worthy of an existence on this planet.

Because without it, you wouldn’t really know who you are any more.

It’s the success you pursue as your substitute for self worth.

And I’m qualified to talk to you about this because that’s exactly where I found myself a few years ago and fell into the trap of ego satisfaction, paddling in the shallow end rather than playing out my life from the inner, deep depths of authentic, real me.

Yes, I confess, I chased my way to the top wherever I could find it. The quickest route I could find to have what I wanted to have – that’s what the notion always started with – money, status, glory, lifestyle, kudos. I got exactly what I asked for too. Money will buy me what I want. And it will make me feel worthy, it’ll validate me when I’m socialising, when I’m dating, when I’m networking. People will revere me.

And I was running and rushing back for more and more so I could feel worthy, my fix of feel good like a cocaine habit.

I was chasing an ideal, a dream of what success should look like and feel like.  I got seduced by what success is symbolised by. I was the self-confessed diva who had fallen into a life of pretence and pretentiousness to give myself a sense of over-inflated importance.

Most of all I was looking for worthiness. I needed to have all this stuff, the title, the money, the success, to validate my existence.

And in my world back then, of course, it meant I was better than anyone else if I had a better car, a few bottles of champagne on tap in the fridge, designer clothes to flash and five star holidays to demurely brag about over a Friday night drink.

Because without it all of this ‘have’, I’d simply be a nothing and a nobody.

All I was doing was fitting into the World, the ideals of what and how we should aspire to live that we are sold over and over again; it’s a trap that many people fall into.

Without a second thought, we can all get trapped in this samsara of a life, looking for the very feelings and values we really want to feel from things outside ourselves. When really, the gems of real you are simply buried within you.

“Which careers pay the best?”

“Where’s the money?  I’ll train myself in that”

All based on logic and reasoning.

And then there’s the added family pressures for some of you and fitting into the mould of what mommy and daddy think you should be doing. To keep up with Jones or the Kumars. And so the ascent begins, the steep climb to the top. The view is better, right? So they say…

But ask yourself this question right now: if you lost everything tomorrow, of material worth, title and status, how much of yourself would you lose as well? Who are you and how would you measure yourself?

The sad fact of the matter is the only way we measure our self worth these days is through achievement, success and material. Not through inner value. And trying to detach yourself from that is painful task, believe me, having been there.

It is possible though.

You see, I got to a certain point and I started to feel an overwhelming numbness and emptiness within me. A lack lustre feeling that there was so much more to me than where I was.  I couldn’t put my finger on it. I didn’t know what it was but back then it felt like a huge void within me, a deep, dark abyss. From the outside I was doing ‘well’; from the inside I was dying a slow death.

I was totally unfulfilled. My life lacked meaning. There was a huge chunk of me that was missing.

Intrinsically, I was deeply unhappy. I didn’t love my life. This really wasn’t the idea of success that I had in my mind.

But the thing is, you simply can’t fill that void with more ‘stuff’.

This isn’t how they advertise it in the media for sure. My outer success had morphed into a distinct inner unhappy success and I began to spiral into a deep depression that would last several years.

Of course, I hid it very well.

Here’s what was happening: it’s the real me that wanted out. The soul of me was yearning to be some place else and I wasn’t playing the part IT wanted me to play.

That is what happens when we design our lives from the outside in and start with the end in mind and the eventualities of what we want to have: we trap ourselves into doing things, into jobs, careers, businesses  that perhaps we shouldn’t be doing, to keep having what we’re having and the lifestyles which ensue from it that we think we have to keep up with.

And the real essence of you simply begins to evaporate like the steam from a hot cup of coffee into non existence.

You get beaten around edges, chipped, bruised, battered along the way, bent out of shape because you’re not aligned with your souls work ad driven by ego.

The ego and the soul simply need to come together in a democratic dance.  Guided by the soul your ego then needs to play out your work.

THAT is the right way around. Rather than logically trying to stuff yourself into the pockets, nooks and crannies of life to fit in with how the World tells you that you should be living, for the ‘mask’ and face of you.

Lead life by your ego and eventually, you’ll be headed for problems.

The real me had been buried under this landslide for years. But one day, I decided to exhume her.

Fortunately, the fire of the spirit within me was just about still alive. A spark of me still there and all I had to do was blow, gently. Add some tinder of care, attention, compassion and love, shut myself off from what the World was saying and drop down into my soul.

And blow gently.

To turn that spark into a tiny flame. But when you keep fanning a small flame, it begins to grow.

That flame of the real, authentic you just gets bigger and bigger and your truth simply grows. And the more you surrender to that fire, that painful initiation, the more it burns away everything you’re not and allows you to congruently flow from that place you know that is real you.

“Set real you free…” the voice nudged.  So I took a deep breath and jumped…

I’m not telling you to jump if that’s where you are in your life right now. But I do implore you to explore the missing pieces of you before it’s too late.

Dive deep and exume the fragments of real you, resurrect them back into existence. Acknowledge what is important to you, I mean what is truly important and meaningful  to you. And  begin to re create a life from the inside out again, be it a small part of your life to begin with.

You don’t have to be a complete masochist, like me, and walk away from it overnight.

But start now.

Start to journal about your life – self inquiry is a HUGE way out and was a MASSIVE piece for me in my own journey of self discovery.

Make sacred time for yourself. Get some quiet reflection time and have a conversation with yourself. Not just dark stuff. Be explorative.  Peel back the layers of the REAL you. Answers will come, please don’t worry.

Look at your life symbolically and create a truth map. Be brutally honest with yourself about your life – honesty is holistically cathartic. It’s like letting the cat out of the bag – once it’s out, you can’t put it back in and there’s an overwhelming sense of relief that comes with it that washes over you like cool water on a hot day. And getting to the crux of your truth map really is the key to moving forward from a place of real, authentic you.

Mostly, explore your inspiration.  Pay attention to the things that you love and start to indulge in your creativity.  Look for those things that just make you feel alive and go and fill your time with more of those things. Life is way too short to live out in a pretence.

Unfold little by little, piece by piece, like a beautifully arranged symphony and reveal the beauty and the essence of real you to yourself once again.

You have one life. You can either fill it with the momentary beauty of stuff or you can fill it with the eternal beauty of you.

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Is success not bringing you the happiness you thought it would?

In today’s episode of simplesecretsTV, I speak of my own experiences of being stuck in ‘unhappy success’, why it happens and the one thing I began to do to start to lift myself out of it and find the missing pieces of who I really was.

  Success doesn’t always equal happiness. It’s a strange paradox of life.

Lots of people think that it does. I raise my hand first – I used to, for a very LONG time (and I’ll tell you all about my story on the next blog).

I guess a lot of it comes from what is constantly bellowed out that if you’re not striving for success, money and the status, then somehow you’re less of a human being.

But on another level within you, the story can go something like this (and I KNOW this because it happened to me):

You strive for your idea of what you THINK success is and what success means to you. Like a fantasy, a romance, almost like a love affair that you’ve built up in your mind and all the things it’s going to mean when you get there. An oasis, a utopia, on the horizon that you can see, if only you can touch it….

So you look for ways to satisfy that heaven and bring your dream closer to you and bring it to life.

But like a fantasy that you create in the confines of your imagination, does reality ever stack up to the virtual reality inside your mind?

You can often end up in life that can give you what you want but you don’t FEEL the way you thought you would.

The oasis is often an illusion.

And, it becomes especially difficult once you become caught up on the merry-go-round of living a pretentious ‘outside-in’ life, to showcase what you’ve got, to keep doing what you’re doing to keep having what you’re having, and your life becomes about a showcase.

Whilst deep, deep down, feeling numb after a long day and self soothing with a glass of wine to ease the stresses and pressures, you realise that it doesn’t really actually mean what you thought it would.

Something feels ‘off’.

You have to keep ‘doing more’ for that inner sense of validation. You realise that the meaningful, fulfilling feeling isn’t intrinsic.  Doesn’t it simply become a constant chase of HAVING more and more to keep validating yourself as being a worthy human being and of importance (because that’s the story we’re sold, right?)

It’s attachment. It’s disjointed. Because enough is never enough and underneath it all, lies an “Am I enough?” feeling.

So do you ever really arrive? I mean, really and truly?

The answer is no.

You see really, deep down, it’s happiness, acceptance and self worth that you’re looking for. You’ve simply looked for it in the wrong place by placing it in the amount of success you have.  Your worth, your happiness and self validation is buried within, but you look for it by chasing it on the ‘outside’.

In the process, the glory of you, the beauty of your worth, the golden nuggets of who you really are, the crowing glory of the gems that make your soul the unique individual from whence you should really shine, simply get buried into the landslide within you. And to rediscover those gems of real you can feel like an almighty mission impossible.

All too often, when you play out your life in the fringes of your ego, you don’t always get the happiness that you really want, because you’re not being satisfied at a soul level.

And that’s what can cause that inner feeling of discord and numbness within, a void that inside you that needs filling, a lack lustre feeling of not being completely fulfilled, a dullness of not feeling alive every day and often, with  an inner knowing that you yearn to be some place else, being someone else, doing something else.

But you’re stuck in your ‘unhappy success’.  And you don’t know how to change and shfit that inner paradigm of your life so that you get into a life that you know you really want.

  I want you to know that there is a way out for you. I promise. In a couple of days, I’ll share intimately with you on my next blog my own experience of this life paradox that we can often find ourselves in.

I found a way out and I can help you find it too if you find yourself stuck here and you’re willing to take a road less travelled.

Speak to you soon,

Love Yogeeta

[yogeetamistry]

My new read. Started on it yesterday and 300 pages down already. Full of highlighter pen and sticky notes. Very interesting is an understatement! #sacredfeminine #femininedivine #divinefeminine #vagina #spiritualgangster #goddess #awakening #confidence #femaleempowerment #soulrevolution #youbeingmore #soulsuccess #spiritualcoach #lifecoach

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What your life crossroads is really trying to tell you…(and it’s not what you think)

“I just don’t which path to take…”

“I just NEED to make decision – it’s easier said than done!”

“I don’t know if I’ll be doing the right thing – what if it all goes wrong and I’ll be back to square one again?”

“Nothing makes sense. I just don’t know if I’ll be making the right decision”

“I really need some direction – what if I take the wrong road and it all goes pear shaped?”

“What if I fall flat on my face – I’ll be the laughing stock”

Does that sound familiar to you at all? That inner monologue,  which plays round and around in a never-ending repeat loop, with a sinking feeling as you spiral into the sticky quagmire of decision-making hell.

And the more you continue to ruminate, the more ‘ifs’, ‘buts’ and ‘maybes’ seem to litter your path like sneaky little landmines that could blow up in your face at any moment dare you traverse the road less travelled.

Getting to this proverbial crossroads is usually preceded with a prolonged inner feeling of discontentment, discord and unrest.

You’re in your ‘over here’ space.  But really, you want to be ‘over there’.

You might already know what your ‘over there’ is.

Perhaps you just yearn to be some place else, being who you really want to be, doing something else, but you don’t know what that is just yet.

Or, like me once upon a time, you’re simply too scared to surrender to the real you.

It’s a bit like milk that’s turned sour; from the outside, your life might even look okay. But it’s only when you take the lid off that you know there’s something very wrong.

It almost feels  like you’re going ‘off’, turning sour. You don’t feel whole or complete. Life somehow feels stale. Uninspiring. Unfulfilling. Meaningless. Flat. Dull.

But here the biggest problem of all keeping people stuck at a crossroads:

and that is you think life’s trying to tell you to make a decision.

You’re logically trying to force a decision aren’t you {whilst you sink deeper into the decision-making doldrum}

This isn’t what a life crossroads is about and forcing a decision is NOT what life is trying to tell you to do.

Here’s what it REALLY means:

It’s trying to tell you that there’s a big gap between your outer life and your spiritual path.

It’s subtle guidance from  your higher self to look at your soul work. It’s life nudging you to make a decision in line with your spiritual calling.

You’re being called to reflect.

I know you know that deep down, your heart and your soul lies elsewhere.

THIS IS A TIME TO REFLECT NOT TO FORCE A DECISION.

To open up the very questions where a lot people in life fear to tread or don’t even get to:

The ubiquitous: “Who Am I?”, “What’s my life really all about?” “What is my purpose and can I really find it?”

Now’s the  time to reflect and look at your life symbolically. Don’t get into the pain of regret, the rage of if only’s and pissing yourself off to the point of depression with mistakes you made, years wasted, opportunities you didn’t take and unfulfilled dreams.

Reflect on your ‘over here’ story with compassion and symbolism of how to dots lined up and where the next ‘dot’ could lead.

And look at it this way:

THERE IS NO CROSSROADS… really.

You wouldn’t be at a crossroads if you were infinitely satisfied and happy where you are, would you?  Because really, you just want to be ‘over there’.

It’s the nothingness called the unknown that you’re struggling with. Over there is where you really want to be.

So, the very first place to start is here, which is what I did with my own life:

Get super, super honest with yourself about your life.

What you really, truly love. What you don’t like. What you really, truly hate.

What are the things that keep you feeling flat? What is uninspiring? What on the other hand, lights up your soul?

Get yourself a journal and write it down. Devour your truth. Feel it.

Be bold and courageous enough to admit it and stop treading water in denial.

Over there is the pot of sweet nectar at the bottom of the rainbow. But you’ve got to reflect over the truth map of your life before you confront the minefield of fears, doubts and limiting beliefs to bridge the unknown to get a taste of it.

The thing with honesty is this: once you let the cat out of the bag, you can’t put it back in. When you’re brutally honest about your life, once you stop making the excuses, it’s a weight lifted off your shoulders.

Staying in the mildest midst of denial simply keeps the brakes on your life and keeps you firmly on the path to serve your ego, not the deepest calling of your inner most desires and your soul work.

This is not about how to stay on the ‘Have’ train; you’re getting a chance to look at the ‘Be’ in your version of human being.

Reflect on decisions you’ve made. Paths you took. How it served you then and why it no longer feeds the inner you. Ruminate over things you’re drawn to, fantasies, deep desires and also, pay attention to those things that repel you.

Look at life symbolically, the good things and the not so good. What were the lessons? You can find lessons in every situation if you peel back the layers.

So, reflect, get honest and begin to release and surrender to the real you. You have a chance so embrace it with both hands.

And you’re ok to hang out in this void for a while without trying to force the flow.  You know that over thinking is only going to create more problems that don’t exist.

Yes the void is a scary place and you’ll try and fill it with something trying to look on the outside to make sense of how you’re feeling and fix the situation– people, courses, books, relationships, logical over-thinking.

It’s dangerous when you’re grappling and you become impulsive rather than responsive.

Hang out in the emptiness. It’s where all creation starts. Learn to FEEL LIFE instead. Feel the possibilities, the paths and the decisions.

Nope, you don’t have to make a decision. Simply explore within your inner self. Open the box. Look inside. Marvel. Delight. Just open the inner box.

FEEL IT.

However, I do have to mention this to you: there’s going to come a time eventually when you will make a decision.

Because that light of honesty can quickly turn into a shadow that follows you if you try and ignore your truth.

Honesty is the beginning of the end of something that doesn’t serve your soul. And if you don’t honour your truth, you won’t be able to run away from it. It will follow you like a shadow reminding you that you let it out: “so what are you going to do with me now? Why are you staying here? Are you just going to let me keep on following you?”

And not honouring the deep, creative aspect of your soul will irritate and nudge you from within whilst it begs you to release it.

And I get you, you will be afraid of letting go of whatever you feel you have to, whether it’s power, status, money, relationships, career – whatever has kept the ego-ic you going but unfulfilled until now.

But this ego-cide is exactly what you’ll need to open up to your soul’s deepest calling.

[yogeetamistry]

Are You At A Crossroads in Life? {and what it really means}

A life crossroads. It feels more like a spaghetti junction, isn’t it?

You’re in that place of confusion and indecision and you just don’t know which way to turn; you just don’t know which path to take, worried that if you make a choice, it might just be the worst decision you’ve ever made.

So you think about it some more   But the more you think about it, the worse the problem becomes, doesn’t it? Until you’ve tied yourself up into the worst internal knot ever and you just don’t know how to undo yourself.

It’s shit. Because the longer you stay there the more and more you begin to feel paralysed.

Stuck. In a sticky quagmire of indecision, confusion, worry and perhaps even fear.

Well, I know something about this, having been stuck at my own sticky crossroads for literally years.

In this week’s episode of simplesecrets TV, I talk about what being stuck in a life crossroads really means (and it doesn’t mean what you think it does), what life is trying to tell you and what could happen if you don’t get out of it.

Is this something that’s affected or has affected you right now? Leave a comment on the blog or, if you really want to comment privately, email me on [email protected]

I’ll be talking more about this in my blog post in a few days time and expanding on some of the all important ‘life signs’ of what being stuck at a crossroads really means and how to to navigate your way out of it.

Love Yogeeta