fly away with me

still here, lurking | she/her | 27

[yoheyyosup]

strawberries on a summer evening

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you kids follow this blog. I reblog everything I love in it, meaning fics. Mostly kpop.

[depsidase]

[borderlinereminders]

The other day, I asked my partner, “What are you doing?”

Simple question, right?

Except… he suddenly got defensive. His tone changed. I could feel tension building, and I had no idea why. So I took a breath and asked, “Wait, what did you hear me say?”

He paused, thought about it, and said, “I thought you meant ‘Why aren’t you doing anything?’ Like you were mad I was being lazy.”

But that wasn’t what I meant at all. I’d genuinely just been curious.

And that moment reminded me how easily things can go sideways when we assume intent. Our brains, especially when we’ve had messy pasts, trauma, or relationship anxiety, tend to fill in the blanks with the worst possible meaning.

But that one question, “What did you hear me say?”, turned what could’ve been an argument into understanding.

It gave both of us a chance to clarify before our brains made up a story that wasn’t true. I was able to explain, and he was able to listen. Understanding what I meant changed his tension entirely.

Sometimes the fight isn’t about what was said. It’s about what was heard.

“What did you hear me say?” can defuse a storm before it starts.

[labelleizzy]

An excellent tool.

[classycookiexo]

[senatortedcruz]

Who’s Emilia Perez?

No one sweetie go back to bed

[djotime]

i just audibly gasped

[louisandthedagger]

:(

[stannisbaratheon]

who did you kill for this url

renly

[000l]

what is yours will always find you

[chibird]

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[ithinkimokeei]

[thoughtstherapy]

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[bigandlong]

If you see this on your dashboard, reblog this, NO MATTER WHAT and all your dreams and wishes will come true.

[69jarjarbinks]

Can’t risk it

[vangoghcore]

by laupopx

[weltenwellen]

Chelsea Dingman, from “Notes on Inheritance“

[mistarover]

in light of moonbin's passing- it's okay if you distract yourself. it's okay if for awhile you just pretend like it didn't or isn't happening. you're not a bad person if you laugh at something else after hearing the news or smile or feel other feelings.

at the same time if you feel like you're wallowing in grief, that's okay too. it's a complicated process. it's hard to understand. all i know is that he'll be missed a lot.

[snug-gyu]

SKZ + racoon memes (1/?)

for @agibbangs