The crazy part about being a trans man is that you live for a time as a woman/girl being constantly talked over and never taken seriously. Then you transition and people talk over you even more and take you even less seriously, including by cis women who were your allies before you came out.
And when you get one moment where you express your voice, you try to impress your existence upon the world, tell your perspective and experience and refuse to be minimized- people will for real treat you like you're just here to bulldoze over the conversation, like men (derogatory) always do, and that you need to accept for once it's your turn to sit down.
Like. You're kidding right?
I am granted no status upon transition, no soapbox, no audience, I am in fact belittled and diminished and erased- and you're telling me I'm motherfucking used to speaking over others? Dude I don't even get to lead the conversations about me, when there even are any.
People are literally so out of touch with reality. They seriously think manhood is some magical category with universal privileges and behaviors and social position. Gender in society isn't coming from magic otherworldly plane like that, and gender dynamics between men and women are not static constructs that just mystically transfer cis experiences over to trans ones without variable or nuance.
Literally engaging with trans men's realities at all would dispel this myth- but that implies listening to us in the first place.
But some people will first jump to calling trans men whiny entitled boys when we don't match up to their boiled down approximations of us based entirely off of cis men, and whatever ideas and attitudes they think are bestowed upon us automatically by the fairy godparent of trans inclusive gender essentialism. From like. The moment we come out, or figure ourselves out as trans, or have like boy brains from birth or whatever.
And they really think they're trans affirming for this. For telling us to shut up if we advocate for ourselves or mention existing at all. #manmoment amiright
Listen to us, even if it makes you uncomfortable. You owe it to us to listen, because no one else is. We can't and shouldn't shut up, because if we do there is no one left to speak for us. Maybe if you were listening, you'd realize we don't have a voice.
