Heart Rules

✨Let go and let God✨

[yourmeltedsunsets]

One day you will realize that the same person is not found twice in life. Not everyone is replaceable. Be careful who you hurt.

In this fast-paced, ever-evolving world, we often take relationships for granted. We live in a culture that promotes moving on quickly, finding something or someone new to fill the void. But there comes a moment, often when it’s too late, that you realize certain people are irreplaceable. The unique essence they bring to your life, the way they understand your soul, and the connection you share cannot be duplicated. No matter how many new faces you meet, the bond you had with that one special person—be it a friend, a partner, or even a mentor—was singular. And losing that connection leaves an imprint that no one else can fill. It’s only when they’re gone that the weight of their absence truly sinks in, and the harsh truth hits: the same person does not come twice in a lifetime.

We often hurt those closest to us without fully realizing the magnitude of the damage. In moments of frustration, anger, or pride, we say things, do things, or fail to do things that cut deeply into the hearts of those who care about us. And we assume that apologies, time, or distance will heal everything, that life will go on, and there will always be another chance to make things right. But what if there isn’t? What if the person you hurt is the one whose presence you’ll never be able to replace? The one whose laughter, whose love, whose companionship was meant to walk with you through life’s trials and joys? The truth is, not everyone is replaceable. Some souls touch ours in ways that forever change us, and to lose them is to lose a piece of ourselves.

Be careful who you hurt.

There’s a reason this warning feels so profound. Hurting someone isn’t just about breaking trust or causing momentary pain; it’s about altering the course of a relationship that may never recover. And while we often think we have time to mend what’s broken, the reality is that sometimes, we don’t. Time doesn’t always heal; sometimes, it only widens the gap between two hearts that once beat in sync. The wounds we inflict in moments of carelessness or neglect can run deeper than we imagine. Words said in haste or actions taken in selfishness have a way of echoing in the minds of those we hurt, long after the moment has passed.

Not everyone will give you another chance. Not everyone will be there waiting for you to come to your senses, to apologize, to grow. Some people, once they’ve been hurt, once they feel betrayed or unloved, will quietly walk away. And when you realize what you’ve lost, it will be too late. The space they occupied in your life will remain, but their presence, their light, their love, will be gone. You’ll search for them in others, but you’ll never find the same soul, the same connection, the same magic.

So, be mindful of your words. Be intentional with your actions. Recognize the people who truly matter in your life and treat them with the care they deserve. Love them fully while they’re still within your reach, because one day, you may realize just how rare they are—and by then, they might be gone. Life is fleeting, and relationships are fragile. Don’t let pride, ego, or carelessness ruin something beautiful.

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[yourmeltedsunsets]

You fight for that 1 soul that you love the most

You give even the littlest for you have nothing boast

You ought to be so many things

Coz that’s what being dictated by your feelings

You tried to be everything

Only find that you mean nothing

When is this ever going to end?

Why can’t you let your heart mend?

Why not walk away from chaos and heartache

Disappear and let this cycle break

You love & treasure them dearly for years

But why are you in these corners, alone and in tears?

[yourmeltedsunsets]

The year is about to end.

Could this also be the end of us?

5 months. No texts. No phone calls. No FaceTime.

I’m guessing this is it.

I honestly don’t know why and how am I still here.

Waiting.

And I don’t know what exactly I am waiting for.

I think I’m waiting for you.

Waiting for you to talk.

Waiting for you to call.

Waiting for you to look for me.

Waiting for you to long for me.

Waiting for you to show up.

Waiting for you to love me the way I love you.

I’m not certain, but I think that I am waiting for a miracle to happen.

[yourmeltedsunsets]

I’m not certain, but I think that my Mama and Papa were in their 50’s when they adopted me.

Mayo pakong aram kan mga panahon na ito, but I think that it was the most exciting day for them — and same man sakuya simply because it was a new beginning for me. Not that I’m discrediting the womb that I came from, it’s just that, para sakuya man kaya, that was the day and time that God clothe me with a totally different life. Something that is unique and extraordinary. I’d say, something greater than the life that I would’ve gotten from the other side.

I had a great childhood ~ kung ano man si mga nagigibo kan younger parents, dawa may edad na sila Mama and Papa, nagibo man ninda ito.

Pick me up from bed dawa magabat ako.

Give me a bath whenever I feel lazy getting one on my own.

My papa, he would play with me all the time.

He sends and picks me up at school.

He would take me for a ride with his bicycle.

Sometimes he would take me to his workplace kung ang pipinturahan na harong is just within the area.

He is a great painter by the way. He can tell how and what colors need to be mixed in order to get a particular tint. It was like a natural, innate skill of his, despite of the fact that he was an undergrad. It’s one of the things he’s greatest at. He is actually known for it. I remember, retired na sya sa pag pintura, may mga tao padin nagdidigdi samo ta gusto siyang kuanon para mag trabaho. Since dae nya na kaya ta nagluluya na an pag hiling, people would just come to our house and ‘consult’ nalang pag abot sa mga gagamiton na kulay and klase ning paint na pang kahoy, simento or bakal. Also, maski nuarin, dae lamang ko kayan narapado. NEVER ako kayan kinulugan maski sarong beses.

He is a great dad and is still being one.

My mama naman would buy things and dresses dawa dae baragay ta grabeng pagkatutong ko kadto. Iyo man yan ang pambawi nya ta pirming mayo ta school principal baya. She never failed to show her support for us. She would take me and my brother to Naga (almost every month) ~ for McDonalds, Naga Restaurant, minsan makakan duman sa Master. Babakalan bado sa Robertsons (the old one na Puregold na ngunyan) or Garmas, mabakal sapatos sa Footsteps.

Simplehon lang kadto ang lifestyle.

We never knew the branded stuff. Basta pag uli, may bitbit, may masusulot na pag simba or sa sunod na pag luwas luwas.

Every December, I would hang my socks sa may bintana, would even write my wishes and post it sa may pinto because “Santa Claus” is coming to town. I believed it for years. It was innocent, hopeful and exciting years kase, you always had this notion that by the end of the year, may maabot talaga na nakasakay sa sled, may reindeer and dara na si gift na gusto mo. I remember, minsan na din ako nagsäbit sako ta sabi ko gusto kong bike. Though mayo man nag abot na bike, kan nagdaradakula na ako, si Fuji bike na ni papa ang nagagamit ko.

These are just fractions of my childhood. Glimpse of my innocent years and the younger years of my Mama and Papa and kung paano sinda naging magurang samuya. Sobrang blessed and grateful na sinda ang naging magurang mi. They sent me and my brother to good schools and university. They provided everything that we needed. Supported everything that we wanted. Gosh kala ngani kang iba, mga spoiled kami. I’d say I was the favorite child tho. I didn’t had any scholarship when I was in college (so I didn’t have to maintain grades) didn’t even have to work ~ I was a full ‘Scholar ni Mama’. Which was a little different from my Kuya’s. If I’m not mistaken, scholar sya kadto so need nya mag maintain grades, nag part time din yan sa Jollibee. Dae yan sako pinaranas ni Mama. All I had to do was to study, eat, sleep and repeat with a weekly allowance of 1500 to 2000 pesos. She even bought me a Windows and Apple computer. Sobrang boot and supportive ninda sako.

Sadly, my mom passed away in 2020. Cancer took her. I remember the phone call I received, August 1st. That was the day I approved my mom’s DNR. Painful and heartbreaking decision ever but it was for the best. Dae naman siya mararahay digdi sa ibabaw. Naisip mi kadto, masakit lang din siya in the long run kung lalagan pang tubo ta nagtutubig na si lungs nya. I missed the chance na makabawi man lang saiya. Although I started working right away after mag graduate at the age of 19. It was just 5-short-years that I was given para makabawi saiya. Sobrang lïpot. She didn’t even saw the plaques of certificates and commendations I’ve acquired in my chosen field.

Ngunyan si Papa nalang ang natatada.

Halos gusto ko nang burutungon ang panahon to be stable sa gabos na aspect.

I may have wasted some good years sa ibang bagay, prioritized other people na dae ko man dapat ininot, pero iba ang pressure talaga pag nag gugurang na ang parents. Iniisip mo, pano ka mabawi when you don’t even have enough means. Although, I know, money is NOT the most important thing in the world, but it affects everything that is. Food, healthcare and even simple things such as clothing and other material things, of course, you want the best for them. Especially, when it comes to things na dae pa ninda naranasan and gusto mo iparanas ta nuarin pa.

I know God has a plan for me. And I believe dakul pang taon ang nakalaan sakuya. Sa ngunyan, mayo akong ibang gusto saka pangadyi, kundi ang maparahay si Papa saka maglawig pa ang buhay niya. Sana mahalat niya pa and mahiling ang mga maarabot pang achievements ko sa buhay. Dawa siya nalang makahiling and makaexperience kan gabos na dae ko naparanas ki Mama…

Dawa siya nalang.

PS: Take care of your parents. They won’t be around forever. Treasure every moment na yaon pa sinda and nakakaibahan mo pa. You don’t wanna live the rest of your life na pano ning regrets. They were once our feet, hands, everything especially kan kita nga saradit pa.

Though I know norms and traditions are changing, pero sana dae mabago an kaugalian ta pag abot sa pag ataman nin magurang.🤍

[yourmeltedsunsets]

To the Love of My Life

I still can’t deny the giddy enticement I feel every time I hear your assigned ringtone - jsyk.

Every night, I listen to the songs I once dedicated to you. They all bring me back down to the memory lane where captured moments are just full of bliss. Your photos and videos give me a clearer vision of you and versions of you that I wanna keep for the rest of my life. You know, you will always be my “greatest what if” my “almost” and my “wildest dream”. The one who was nearly my “EVERYTHING” yet remained to be something unreachable. It’s painful, heartbreaking realizing that what I thought we had or the connection I felt and still feeling for you isn’t enough to keep you and to be kept by you. Everyday, I keep on replaying unforgettable times that we’ve shared together, fun-filled conversations and your laughter just to combat the sting of your absence. There is this part of me, imagining the places we went to. And whenever I get the chance to get out and face the world outside, I’m half-expecting/hoping to find you there.

But, I guess, life has its own way of letting us know and understand that some stories are not meant to end the way we hoped them to be. That sometimes, some things are meant to stay in our hearts as nothing more than an ALMOST.

Now, little by little, I’m learning to find peace and contentment in the space that you’ve left behind. To fill my days with gratefulness for the days that you chose me, to be with me and for the memories that you allowed me to be part of. This is, indeed, one of the hardest decisions I had to take. Though choosing to do one thing is easy. But living with it is a totally different story. This time, I am choosing me.

Though you can still count on my prayers and love for you for I will continue to admire and love you from afar. I will continue to wish you success in every undertakings because I know they would make you happy…

Take care always, my love.

I will always love you.

[yourmeltedsunsets]

[yourmeltedsunsets]

I just wanna be treated right.

Too much to ask?

Or am I asking the wrong person?

[yourmeltedsunsets]

Friends, relatives or kahit family pa yan, pag toxic na and unhealthy, have the courage to cut ties. Let it go bago kapa baguhin or masaktan nang malala. For me, life revolves around relationships. We are connected with everything in so many ways and on different levels — romantic or platonic, relationship with our parents, with our siblings, at maging sa mga kasama sa work and within the community. All of these relationships affect our existence and well being. They can either make or break our own connection with ourselves and even with God. So when something is no longer working, pag hindi na nakatutulong sa pag grow mo, when it’s no longer serving you and the only thing is does is weigh you down, set it aside or drop it. Stay away from it if necessary. Your relationship with yourself is important. You, yourself, is important. You should not let yourself be consumed by something that is not aligned with your purpose. Pagka yung mga nakapalibot sayo are starting to make you wonder or even question your own worth, and if it’s making your faith weak or shake, mag isip isip kana kung tama pa ba ang mga sinasamahan mong tao. It’s not you being choosey, it’s you being selective. Tumatanda na tayo and we’re not getting any younger. We all have our own tables and it’s up to us who will take the seats. From time to time, we’ll have to remove some chairs and it’s okay. Hindi naman kase lahat deserving na umupo at makisalo kasama ka lalo na kung wala naman sila noong panahon wala kapang mailagay sa lamesa.

Kaya nga ako, I'd rather keep this 'selective civility' than waste my time and effort to people who don’t deserve my energy.

Reciprocity means a ton. Give and take must be a part of our guiding compass. Know your worth then add tax~ This is me talking beside experiences.

In my 28 years of existence, I can say na madami na din pala ako napagdaanan at nakilala.

Made tons of wrong turns, made a lot of extramiles, experienced the most random things, explored my sexuality, tasted the unimaginable, did the unexpected HAHAHAHHAHA

I even loved the ‘wrong one’.

Cross the ocean for quite a number of people who wouldn’t even jump a puddle for me.

Sacrificed opportunities for some.

Let some dreams slip away. Dame, sobrang dame.

Only to find out na hindi pala worth it. Hindi pala dasurb ng iba yung mga yon. Onting regrets pero, I did what I thought I had to. I did things for people out of love and because of love. Kase ako yun. Ganon ako. Hindi man halata, but I am loving, caring, supportive, sweet and so effin’ gay.😂

Pero para sa batang ako— WAG KANA DITO. Jan ka nalang. Madaming problema dito. Your love is not gonna be reciprocated by some. Madidisappoint ka lang. Masasaktan. People here will take you for granted. Love you when it’s convenient. Exclude you when you’re no longer needed. It is what it is😉

Waley lang. Mema lang HAHAHAHAHAHAH

K. Fine. Bye. 👋

PS: I now have a smaller circle. But it’s strong and solid. And I am contented. And I am beyond grateful for them. ✨

[yourmeltedsunsets]

Dear Self

Change is necessary.

Pain is inevitable.

Breakdowns are unavoidable.

But know that you are stronger than you think‼️

Hate has four letters and so does Love.

You may be hating yourself for the things you failed to do, for all the wrong decisions that made you feel worthless and full of regrets, but don’t ever let go of that natural ability to love. Love and value yourself even at your most unlovable days. God allows pains and sufferings in order for us to find our way back to Him. Sometimes, He’ll let you cry a river in order to get a clearer vision. To wash away unnecessary connections, distractions and distrust.

Enemies has seven letters and so does Friends.

There will be instances in life that you might feel that you’re all alone, but you’re not. Friends are extension of our families. They are expression and manifestation of God’s love. They serve as your support system, filling in the gaps, extending a helping hand and embracing you with love and sense of belongingness.

Negativity has ten letters and so does Positivity. Life isn’t ALWAYS ‘okay’. There will be challenges, extreme difficulties and hardships. We sometimes feel so overwhelmed by the most random things happening around us — heartbreaks, disappointments, health issues, anxiety and depression. While waking up in the morning, breathing, seeing colors and hearing sounds, receiving chats or calls from friends and family — these are the things that we should be grateful for but tend to overlook just because we are in pain. Still, we are provided with options.

Failure has seven letters and so does Success.

Make use of that love for yourself to get up, to continue to move forward and never give up on yourself. We are human beings, gifted with wisdom and intellect. As we grow older, we become equipped with knowledge and skills required to survive in this world. But no man is island and there’s nothing wrong in admitting that you, sometimes, need help. That’s why you have friends. Your people. Take care of them and they will take care of you in return. Value their time and effort. Respect each other’s differences. Make it a harmonious relationship. Learn from them and make use of each learning as a stepping stone for you to elevate yourself and reach your goals while keeping yourself grounded. Once you reach the top, don’t forget the people behind your success.

Life offers choices. But if you’re stuck in a situation where it no longer serves you and you can no longer find a room for growth,remove yourself from the equation. Narrowing the options by eliminating the unnecessary will help you to weigh things and determine which is worth keeping.

Let your beliefs be firmer than your doubts.

Let your faith be stronger than your fear.

And let your prayers be louder than your worries. 🤍

[yourmeltedsunsets]

Men cheat the most.

Women cheat the best.

Men cheat for sex. It is usually rooted from having a feeling of enticement for someone new especially if the person is a complete opposite of their current partner. Romanticizing their despicable behavior as a result from the idea “ Hindi naman ako maghahanap ng iba kung hindi nagkukulang yung isa”. Prolly making sense but, is it really about the “pagkukulang nung isa” o talagang “mapaghanap ka?”. In addition to that, when men get cheated on, usually, they act like it’s the end of the world. They’ll start jumping from one person to another in order to feed their ego. With their best effort, they will try to project a facade built from phony arrogance showing that it’s a loss for the other party— that they are actually valuable, incomparable and irreplaceable.

while

Women cheat for love and affection — they crave for someone who is emotionally mature and reliable (and I think, this applies to both platonic and romantic relationships). Most of the women, possess great fortitude and forbearance allowing them to endure all kinds of torment. A blessing in disguise, most of the time, but also a curse. It is tailored to the idea that “you are expected to be that way because you are a ‘woman’. Lalake yan. Ikaw dapat umintindi dahil ikaw ang nakakaintindi.” When in fact, women’s capability to understand and accept things, even when there was a sudden change, shouldn’t be used and abused by letting them embrace pain and suffering that they don’t deserve. Ending, tinitiis nalang lahat. Bare minimums, unacceptable treatments, disrespect and so on in order to keep the relationship going until they end up empty and exhausted. So when they cheat, yung ipapalit, matic yan, kahit hindi performance at katawang pangkama, as long as that person is fully capable of handling with ultimate care for the depth of their emotions, ay pasok sa banga yan.

Well, sometimes it’s case to case basis naman.

Hahahaha minsan naman kase may mga babaeng hindot. Hindi marunong makuntento sa isa. Kaya ginawang lima. Charaught! Idk everything and I am, still, to learn lots of things pa. Still, cheating is a choice. Not an accident. It’s an effin’ choice! Ganto nalang siguro. For those people who are in a relationship rn, always be transparent. Communicate your feelings para maintindihan ng mga partner niyo yung kulang o wala. Hindi yung papupunan niyo sa tulong ng iba. But if you think that it’s no longer working, iwanan niyo nalang. Wag kayong umarteng loyal na demonyo habang ginagawang muntanga yung isang tao. Have the balls to speak up or be bold enough to walk away instead of prolonging the agony. We are all adults here. Let’s be responsible when it comes to relationships na pinapasok naten. Yung nalang hahahahaah sige bye. Goodnight mga bilat at mga burat🤍😘

[yourmeltedsunsets]

To My Greatest Love

My wildest dream

My ultimate what if

My favorite addiction

My sweetest masochist

My most played playlist

I love you 🌻

Unstable as it may seem, unacceptable and questionable for some, rest-assured, where you stand will remain firm and indestructible. My belief in the our bond is unwavering as my love for you is never ending. Years of love and hate, peace and chaos, music and quietness, poetry and rants, kisses and verbal onslaught, marks of love and bruises — they are all our representation. And I thank you for each fraction. I know, we are heading for something and it’s still unknown and unsure. We may not know where this is going, but I don’t need to fear or fret.

Magkalayo man tayo at may dumating man na bago, hindi na nito maiaalis na naging bahagi tayo ng isa’t isa. Madadagdagan, pero hinding hindi mapapalitan ang mga alaala.

[yourmeltedsunsets]

To the Love of My Life

I still can’t deny the giddy enticement I feel every time I hear your assigned ringtone - jsyk.

Every night, I listen to the songs I once dedicated to you. They all bring me back down to the memory lane where captured moments are just full of bliss. Your photos and videos give me a clearer vision of you and versions of you that I wanna keep for the rest of my life. You know, you will always be my “greatest what if” my “almost” and my “wildest dream”. The one who was nearly my “EVERYTHING” yet remained to be something unreachable. It’s painful, heartbreaking realizing that what I thought we had or the connection I felt and still feeling for you isn’t enough to keep you and to be kept by you. Everyday, I keep on replaying unforgettable times that we’ve shared together, fun-filled conversations and your laughter just to combat the sting of your absence. There is this part of me, imagining the places we went to. And whenever I get the chance to get out and face the world outside, I’m half-expecting/hoping to find you there.

But, I guess, life has its own way of letting us know and understand that some stories are not meant to end the way we hoped them to be. That sometimes, some things are meant to stay in our hearts as nothing more than an ALMOST.

Now, little by little, I’m learning to find peace and contentment in the space that you’ve left behind. To fill my days with gratefulness for the days that you chose me, to be with me and for the memories that you allowed me to be part of. This is, indeed, one of the hardest decisions I had to take. Though choosing to do one thing is easy. But living with it is a totally different story. This time, I am choosing me.

Though you can still count on my prayers and love for you for I will continue to admire and love you from afar. I will continue to wish you success in every undertakings because I know they would make you happy…

Take care always, my love.

I will always love you.

[yourmeltedsunsets]

What we allow people to see in SocMed are just fractions of ourselves. Most of them are newly captured moments that are soon to be old pieces of memories that we can never go back to. We do it for the purpose of safe keeping, sharing or just simply for showing. It provides us a facade where we can make people see what we want them to see. Leaving their minds under a totally different belief and illusion. It’s a good escape for those who just wanna hide from chaos and cover their brokenness. For some, it’s just a platform where they can freely express how they feel towards something or someone. While for others, it’s a window where they can showcase significant life events and blissful winks and also to take a peak at somebody else’s.

Again, these are just fractions. They cannot simply define the entirety of someone else’s existence. For we do not have full visibility and understanding of its background, of what they’re dealing with and concealing behind those colorful and wonderful images and recorded instances of their lives.

So please, try to be gentle.

When somebody is celebrating, do not rain on their parade. If you can’t celebrate with them, scroll up and ignore.

When somebody is feeling down, try to lift them up. But know that you’re not required to do so. We all have baggages to carry. If you don’t have the energy for it, scroll up and ignore.

When somebody is just flaunting their smalls wins or ‘little things’, support them. We never know how much it means to them. If you’re not into it, scroll up and ignore.

Just show a little kindness. It doesn’t cost anything. The world is already a harsh and cruel place to live in. Refrain from adding up to it.

[yourmeltedsunsets]

Just a couple of days ago, I started writing again. I started jotting down the most random thoughts and feelings I have for the day. I even started making poems too. I resorted to it because it’s one of things I am greatest at and because whenever things start to pile up, it gets heavy. It’s making me sad and even cry while there’s no one to talk to.

Not that I don’t have friends and family, but I just think that there are things that I couldn’t just tell anybody and discuss it with them. Plus, I don’t wanna be an inconvenience to anyone. What makes it funny is that they start kicking in at the ‘loneliest hours’ for me. Where the world is just so quite, people are in their deep sleep. Although this particular time of the day gives me peace, it also makes me lonely. It makes me feel that I am alone.

But you know, times like this… it allows me to have a grasp of my own. Like how I really think and how I process my emotions and deal with them. I must admit, sometimes they’re drowning me. Making me overthink and I ended up with so many questions-

What is my purpose? Do I even have one?

Where am I headed?

Did I make the right decision?

Should I just let go?

Should I go here? Or go somewhere else?

Am I still loved?

Will I be successful in the future?

Sina Mama and Papa, are they proud of me?

Literally, tons of underlying questions that I am dying to know the answers. And because of that desire, it makes me anxious. That I couldn’t even live at the moment. I am just so caught up and occupied by them. I even thought of ending things so I could live in peace. So I could just stop thinking over and over. For it only makes me sick and exhausted. It’s really tiring tbh.

People have known me for being this joyful, free-spirited individual, loud, gay, blunt yet sweet and caring, loving gal. But of course, I also have my gray areas, dull moments, dark days or downtime. Most of the time I’d say “I’m okay” even though I’m not.

But you know how the law of attraction works - you just have to conceive something in your mind and soul, an idea, and keep on manifesting it and that’s what I do - I just keep feeding myself that positive thought that I am just okay. And it actually works, it gets okay and feels a little lighter at least.

Life is, indeed, half awful half wonderful. It’s full of surprises. Some days are good. Some days are bad. Although it’s really up to us on how to make things good. Make it better. I know we all have unknown battles to win, hidden problems to resolve. And I hope and pray that we all get the help that we need. 🤍

[yourmeltedsunsets]

Christmas is over but not for my heart 🤍✨

[yourmeltedsunsets]

Finding happiness again✨

[yourmeltedsunsets]

I never stopped admiring you. And I will never stop loving you💕

[yourmeltedsunsets]

I really hope and pray for all the purest, most genuine, kind-hearted, most loving souls out there 💖

That may they find someone they deserve and someone who deserves them too. 👭👫👬

May they find the right person who chooses them and will keep choosing them e v e r y s i n g l e d a y of e v e r y s e a s o n. ☃🌳🏖🍁

May they find that someone who is brave enough to receive and reciprocate the kind of love they willingly offer. 💯💝

And most of all, may they find that someone who is capable and willing to face and win with them, win for them, every battles, every challenges in a relationship. Someone who is like a WARRIOR...💪

and NOT a DESERTER who leaves and disappears when things get tough and rough.❎