Things I’ve learnt about INFJ
I’m an ENFP to no one’s suprise and I’ve been dating an INFJ for almost past two years, I believe I’m still not qualified enough to talk about them, they are a complicated bunch. So maybe this is specific to my INFJ, who knows.
But this is the Hitchhiker’s guide to avoiding upsetting your INFJ.
They need their time, don’t try to force a reaction out of them. I know it’s natural to want to help INFJs get out of their shell, but you can’t talk them out of this, when they say they need time, you need to understand that they need their time. They will come back if you’re willing to be nice and not keep poking them around.
Don’t drag a fight, it actually exhausts them. You’re just hurting them more by trying to get them to talk
They care, they are terrible at expressing it.. they won’t ever tell you how much they care about you if you ask them, they will wait for a cozy night and kiss you on you’re cheeks and then tell you that you mean the world to them and you have to remember that. You have to always remember that because they mean it. They mean it more than anything else.
It’s easy to make them laugh, it hard to make them happy. Just never give up.
Small gestures. They mean more than anything grand you can ever think off.
INFJs observe everything, they will observe how you eat how you smile, how your shoulders move when you laugh. These are the things that they will always remember and they will love you for all these tiny things they find Interesting.
They are not a puzzle, if you’re with them because you find them intriguing or mysterious, just walk away. Your whole motive shouldn’t be to decode them
They can spot fake people and they know how to maintain a distance from them, don’t ever try to tell them that they are wrong about their judgements.
Love them, they will love you back. They don’t complicate things. They mean it when they say they love you, they’ll let you know when they stop. Stop second guessing.
Cuddles. Cuddle and give them coffee and a lotssss of love. Everyone needs to be loved :)
To my INFJ and the most amazing person I’ve ever met @thebrokenfence
