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[theunmarkedtombstone]

THE VAMPIRE LESTAT S01E04 - THE DEVIL'S ROAD

[fruitgravies]

the failure(s); the many loves of the vampire lestat

prints • insta • twt

[spicymochi]

your month, your seal!

[blackbirdink]

A truce.

I finally finished this one. I loved this show so much, I had to make myself an ending where they make up after death, just so I feel better. Even though the show is over, it still won't leave my head.

[aro-ace-culture-is]

Aroace culture is not knowing how or when to come out, or if you even should. Like what am I gonna say "Greetings, parental figure, I would like to inform you that I will be completely and utterly bitchless for the remainder of my time on earth. Thank you for your time."

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[aethelflaed93]

Having watched the finale, and digested it (somewhat), I wanted to articulate one of the many things about the show that I have loved and always long to see in fiction. That is, the ouroboros of nature/nurture, excuses/explanations, abused/abuser. I sincerely appreciate that Gadd allows several things to be true at once, as they are in real life.

By the end, we are able to see that Niall is a conniving liar, lacking in empathy and a sense of duty to others, a misogynist who is content to treat women and children as collateral, unwilling to take offered opportunities (even as an adult) to self-reflect and to improve himself. He is cruel and petty and selfish. His own suffering is where the world begins and ends.

Ruben is a violent rapist, a murderer, a bully, a lazy sexist, and a brute. His self-image is as fragile as spun sugar, and he holds life cheaply enough that people (both men and women) may be considered merely things to be destroyed and obliterated, property to be held or discarded.

(They are, I think, both addicts).

And yet.

They are the products of their environments, as we all are. The choices that we are capable of making as adults are made possible by the nature of the mechanisms with which we are fitted in our formative years. How are we composed, mixed, alloyed, wired, patched, rigged up, constructed brick by brick, or chipped and chipped and chipped like the knapping of flint? (Pick your metaphor, I suppose).

Niall is bullied, abused, assaulted, raped, dismissed, mocked and belittled, again and again and again. As a child, as an adolescent, as an adult. His opinions, views, fears, doubts and worries are minimised and invalidated repeatedly. If we are supposed to learn moral courage, compassion, and emotional intelligence from adults/elders/family, then who, precisely, was modelling any of these things for Niall?

Ruben is raped, abused, (implicitly) neglected, left behind and passed around from home to home, institution to institution. He is everyone's problem because he is no one's responsibility. (And certainly should never have been Niall's). If we are supposed to develop a sense of self-control as we grow, to understand boundaries and autonomy, to learn to recognise the necessary barriers between self and other, how, exactly, was Ruben meant to grasp any of this? Who is showing him the way, and making him feel safe?

Of course, these are explanations for their behaviour, not excuses. Or are they? Where does one end and the other begin? At what point can we say that decisions made as an adult should not be allowed to sprout from the muck of our childhood any longer? Our 20s, 30s, 40s? When, when?

And is it even possible to do otherwise?

I've personally been frustrated with reviewers and critics who have found Niall and Ruben crudely drawn or unbelievable, and most effectively read only as metaphors of masculinity, because those critics haven't the experience or wit to imagine real people living such lives.

I am in my 30s, a parent, a homeowner, employed, responsible, sensible...an adult by any metric. I still make decisions that have their origin in childhood experiences and trauma. It is draining to be constantly on guard against an earlier iteration of yourself, to act in opposition to wiring installed by a shoddy workman. And, obviously, there is plenty to be said for the way in which boys/men are permitted or quietly encouraged to react to trauma, and the ways in which women are disallowed these modes of expression. (And must, like women generally do, perform the cleaning up afterwards).

Nevertheless, reckoning with abuse means that it costs you to fight your worse instincts, just as it costs you to pursue them when you fall into old patterns.

So, when do you get to put down the burden of such work?

(When you die).

[wolfythewitch]

My piece for the Sing O Muse zine! Its coming out in July so keep an eye out for the tag :]

[deleuzes]

richard gadd on playing ruben (x)

[noelhope]

half man

[woke2]

Richard gadd pioneering a genre of gay tv previously unseen outside of my dead dove ao3 bookmarks just wasn't something i ever considered could happen

[girlmostlikely]

ENOUGH WITH THE PROTEIN MARKETING! PROTEIN POPCORN THIS PROTEIN WATER THAT NOT EVERYTHING NEEDS 50G OF PROTEIN OK. WHERE IS THE FIBER. WHERE IS IT. WHERE IS IT?????

[estrixart]

bleh :P

[st-hedge]

*looking at a ship* they’d look good killing each other

[dick-hardboiled]

There is absolutely a platonic explanation for that

[dick-hardboiled]

But I will also entertain the non platonic for my own edification do u understand

[goldensunset]

[grrwoof-woof]

"but the text never explicitly stated it!!!" hey, so that's actually what they tried to teach you in those english classes you barely passed 😁

[aliferousmetal]

[nessieartss]

Has uncle Ryomen seen Jin’s two brats? 🤔

Of course he has! They have a family picture together!

[subsequentibis]

not an apologizer but a contextualizer. yes the character did that but please understand the Circumstance. yes they had other options but they had to make this choice in a sea of available bad choices. and also it made the narrative more interesting. won't anybody think about the narrative!!!!!