Things I like

He/him, 35 years old, pansexual in a polyamorous relationship. I'm very kinky and submissive. I love bondage, hypnosis and a lot more. I have a huge praise kink. I love meeting new people so feel free to dm, I don't bite, and I'm even willing to put on a muzzle if you want.

[a-delicate-touch]

threatening to withhold aftercare as a "punishment" for bratting is insane btw

[strangefreakbitch]

Threatening to withhold aftercare at all is pretty fucked up.

[eternalticklez]

I'd dead ass argue threatening or actually withholding aftercare is abuse. You are actively harming your partners mental health for your own sense of control. It is fucked up and not okay. If you can not handle your partners behavior, safeword.

Safewords are not just useful in an actual scene, they're also useful in taking a step out of a dynamic and saying "hey. I know you're my sub/brat/dom/whatever. But XYZ is making me feel ABC and I need you to stop or I will be (doing a reasonable action, like leaving the house to cool down, or not engaging in the behavior they're presenting you.)" You're allowed to use a safeword in any condition, and when you are in any position in that dynamic. Safewords are not just for subs. Doms use the fucking safeword if you need to please! Yall need to learn how to communicate and lay down reasonable consequences for actions you genuinely don't like.

[homoidiotic]

“T-Fags” is a photography book exploring fag identity for trans men, trans masculine and non-binary people, by @el_hardwick & @orionisaacs_

[shyxbeardedguy]

Up Close & Personal

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[manuciruja]

awww the like button turns into a rainbow when you press it! that's so cute...hey staff what's with all the trans women you keep nuking?

[manuciruja]

i think we should be ridiculing them more for this. you don't get to try and go all "queer website" when your staff likes to go on nuking sprees targeting the trans fem users

[smadsel]

would be remiss not to mention that the rainbow notably straight up just removed the trans flag colors from it. like they’re gone. it’s the progress flag minus the trans flag colors.

[smadsel]

that’s not the whole flag, now is it

[manuciruja]

hey staff what the fuck

[villainessbian]

hey staff don't you think you're being too on-the-nose

[shrodingers-catgirl]

HEY STAFF DONT YOU THINK YOU'RE BEING TOO ON-THE-NOSE

[interestingmistakes]

Reblogging this manually. Op doesn't want credit for fear of being terminated.

[weterpete]

Um no I'm pretty sure those are both switches

[spookyscarysnails]

[dknightlight]

Posting this iconic piece of media that I just NEVER found online isolated except in an archived reddit thread

[somethingusefulfromflorida]

[fforsythiaaa]

Once when I was in undergrad, someone described something as “problematic” in class and our professor was like, “That’s cool, but ‘problematic’ doesn’t really mean anything. It means that the thing you’re describing has a problem, and in and of itself that’s not bad. Art, especially, should always have problems, or else it’s not interesting and not art, either. It sounds like you’re trying to say that this is bad, but you don’t want to say ‘bad.’ Is that right?”

So from then on whenever one of us called something problematic, he would make us talk it out until we could name the “bad” thing we were hinting at. In this particular class, 7/10 it was some type of oppression, and the remainder was like, “I’m uncomfortable because this is very new/confusing/pushing boundaries that made me feel safe.”

Once we stopped calling things “problematic” and stopping at that, class got way more interesting and... we all had to say, like, “that’s racist” or “that’s misogynistic” or “ew capitalism gross” out loud, which a lot of us had never done in a classroom before. Or we had to be like, “Uhhh... I’m not sure what’s so bad?” and confront our own beliefs and that was maybe even more useful.

Anyway. Whenever I see the word problematic, I can’t help but think of this professor being like, “Good starting point, now let’s get specific.” I think when we have to commit to saying “that’s ___” it requires a lot more careful thought about the truth and impact and complexities of whatever we’re claiming. Sometimes there really is some bullshit afoot, and also sometimes it’s art, and it should be full of problems, because that’s what art is.

[msliminal2]

Subby boys with praise kinks are so adorable. Like awwww you’re already half hard and blushing just because I complimented you? How precious~ 🤭❤️

[colourofthekites]

forcing lie ins cause I naturally wake up early now

[just-another-cat-blog]

pride month!!!

[lemonsharks]

Is that a miette?

[jeanjauthor]

Pride for you!  Pride for a thousand years!!

[lost-and-cursed]

you COME OUT to miette? you come out to her as queer? oh! oh! pride for mother! pride for mother for One Thousand Years!!!!

[yaknowlikenyah]

Brats fold INSTANTLY when there's a soft dom involved. Within every brat is the goodest toy just begging to be used

[yaknowlikenyah]

Cute underwear

[transmechanicus]

Dredge teaches you important lessons such as “Fish goes bad quickly at room temperature” and “If you don’t get a good night’s rest the phantom shark will get you”

[testmule]

added some ears to the black and tan muzzle

[quietwingsinthesky]

did i tell you guys i failed at being sexually harassed at work today?

[quietwingsinthesky]

okay so, guy at work, who i find out afterwards is famous at this place for being a sex pest, comes up and starts with what i also learn is his favorite opener to conversations where he’s going to be a sex pest, namely: “Do you know where the term ‘blow job’ comes from?”

and here he made his first fatal error. his moment of hubristic sex pesting. because of course i know where the term blow job comes from, i love learning about sex and the history of sexual terms! i know so much about oral sex that i could write a book on it!

his second error: approaching a little autistic freak with what he intended to be an uncomfortable sex question that would make me feel weird and gross. Friends, Romans, Countrymen, I Have Never Misjudged A Man’s Intentions So Incredibly In My Life. because i did not realize he was trying to harass me. because i love talking about sex facts, albeit not usually at work. unless. someone prompts me. my coworkers are the kind of people who are generally online enough to know terms, but not exactly what they mean, and they realized they could ask me a while back and get good answers without the resulting awkwardness because i do not experience shame. i am primed to answer questions like the one he has proposed.

So I Answered It.

and well, really, what happened is that I began answering it, then realized the answer required a bit more context. I mean, you can’t just say “oh, well, the term first appears in writing in the 1940s” without first explaining that ‘blow’ by itself already had sexual connotations for centuries, and then, really, are we talking about the origin of the term or the origin of the act. and well we have a ton of literature and art depicting fellatio throughout human history, did you know a lot of it was men performing it on other men? oh, that reminds me, there are a multitude of latin words for oral sex performed on penises, and hold on let me quote you the entirety of catullus 16 from memory and explain it’s fascinating insights into the roman world of homosexuality-

i do not know how to turn any of this ^ off, by the way. i’m sure some people out there have a switch that disables their infodumping mid-speech. i do not. and i also didn’t realize he wasn’t looking for a real answer until my other coworker explained so hours later. he could not excuse himself from the conversation he started, and i made a conservative man at least 30 years older than me to listen to my catullus recitation. i will sodomize and facefuck you, indeed.

anyway, i think i got a bad grade in being sexually harassed. my pro tip is maybe don’t start with what a very autistic individual will misconstrue as you earnestly asking them to explain sex to you. the special interest shield will cause splashback damage.

[marcolikestowatch]

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