Nonsense from Zoë

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[alwaysbewoke]

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sometimes you say or do bad things while you’re in an awful mental place. sometimes you say things that are rude or uncalled for or manipulative. and i’m not going to hold that against you. mental illness is hard, and no one is perfect. but once you’re through that episode, you need to take steps to make amends. you need to apologize.

“i couldn’t help it, i was having a bad episode” is a justification, not an apology.

“i’m so fucking sorry, i fucked up, i don’t deserve to live, i should stop talking to anyone ever, i should die” is a second breakdown and a guilt trip. it is not an apology.

when you apologize, the focus should be on the person you hurt. “i’m sorry. i did something that was hurtful to you. even if i was having a rough time, you didn’t deserve to hear that,” is a better apology. if it was a small thing, you can leave it at that.

if you caused significant distress to the other person, this is a good time to talk about how you can minimize damage in the future. and again, even if it is tempting to say you should self-isolate and/or die, that is not a helpful suggestion. it will result in the person you’re talking to trying to talk you out of doing that, which makes your guilt the focus of the conversation instead of their hurt.

you deserve friendship, and you deserve support. but a supportive friend is not an emotional punching bag, and mental illness does not absolve you of responsibility for your actions. what you say during a mental breakdown doesn’t define you. how you deal with the aftermath though, says a lot.

[nebet-ren]

This is the most carefully-nuanced discussion of this I think I have ever seen. Thank you for writing this.

[piccadilley]

Lopez Island Ferry Terminal

January 2016

[justdoitdaily-fitblr]

Sunday nights can be pretty rough. Try not to let yourself get too sad or anxious about the week ahead. You can get through anything that’s going to happen this week. You will do marvelous things and it’ll be WONDERFUL.

[h-elloheaven]

Here is your Sunday evening reminder that you can handle and make it through whatever this week throws at you.

[misselaine-ious-deactivated2018]

Educhums unite! We’ve got this!

[executivelydysfunctioned-deacti]

[exeggutor-deactivated20171218]

everyone who died at the battle of hogwarts missed All Star by Smash Mouth’s release two days later

[severetstormwarning]

I did not deserve to be exposed to bridge to terabithia on the 4th grade that movie rocked my 9 year old world and made me aware of my own mortality

[zoiodlula]

[versalitas]

[alecsgrg]

[howlingcemetary]

I’m what the kids call

ready to fucking die

[soapmummy]

[kieljamespatrick]

[zoeann]

i would give anything in the entire world to have lunch with my grampa again.

[agoodjake54-deactivated20150429]

[ruinedchildhood]

Jinkies

[zoeann]

film buff: what's your favorite western?

me: holes

[twitterlols]

as a species, we are evolving

[aisforarthur]