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Alondra /Detroit /20/ trying to get through life

[anxietyproblem]

[anxietyproblem]

[kermitreactions]

[mothcub]

[arianagrandre]

Lana Del Rey + album trailers

[dankmemeuniversity]

[liviafalcaru]

[whitepeopletwitter]

[dat-soldier]

[ripe]

[hangtimemillionaire]

unrestrained summer fun

[those-arent-poppies]

[zicnarfromero]

[studyblrsophie]

I spent my entire school career afraid of being wrong because I was taught that to make a mistake was embarrassing. Now I’ve discovered that making a mistake just means you are one step closer to the right answer, and everyday I have to work to shake the mindset that a single wrong answer equals failure.

[petalya]

in therapy my therapist and i were talking about my own feelings of self worth in relationships. and she asked me to say qualities about myself that someone else would be attracted to, on a romantic and platonic level. so i named some things like compassionate, empathetic, etc. and she said “you named things that you can give someone. ways you can serve, rather than ways that you are” and y'all..my mind was blown that’s gonna stick with me forever like she then proceed to tell me actual innate qualities about myself that she liked and thought anyone else would like as well and i hadn’t even considered those because like she said i was focused on things i could do outwardly to attract and maintain connections rather than who i was as a person..goddamn!!! thats tea!!!

[petalya]

With this in mind, this also makes me think of the ways people describe us. When people say the reasons that they love/like you or describe you as a person, are they only naming ways that you serve them? Are they equating your worth with how much you do for them?

ex. “You’re such a good listener. You’re so generous, you’re so compassionate. You’re always there for me. You always hold me down. You’re reliable”

vs.

“You’re so funny! You’re very vibrant. You’re creative, passionate, and intelligent. You’re optimistic. You’re so talented at ____” , etc. I think that’s very telling.

[hauntified-deactivated20210730]

This FUCKED relationships up too because once this hit me, I realized people can just be in love with the way you make them feel instead of who you actually are. ALWAYS pay attention to the last little “vs” but there because it IS super telling

[nevver]

[banzai-jinto]

but tell me you wouldnt wear at least one of these

[amyscascadingtabs]

the ending part in lorde’s supercut when she sings “in my head i do everything right” on repeat and it gets quieter and less clear for every repetition until it fades out… that’s its own emotion tbh

[catchymemes]

[babelady]

when that seasonal depression hit someone add a pic im on mobile

[winduppup]