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[13personalities]

Introducing… ME!!!

hello friends!!! I have appeared!! Welcome to my own personal little corner. My online house, if I may.

Here are some things about me :)

• You can call me Mel or Lana, either is fine :) I am a minor so like… take precaution

• My pronouns are just she/her and i am somewhere on the ace and aro spectrum. yeah. thats about it. My mbti type is INFP-T too, if anyone is interested in that.

• Some of my favorite music artists as of now are: Anike, Forrest Frank, Hulvey, and several K-pop groups (ateez, enhypen, stray kids, le sserafim, etc.)

• im in a million bajillion fandoms and i’ll reblog stuff from MOST of them. you can always ask me about different fandoms and i’ll either eagerly listen or yap to you about it

• Not a big fan of haterism with malicious intent (towards people who did no wrong) but I think it’s ok to those who deserve it (the government) so watch what you say please (basically the usual dni if homophobic, transphobic, terf, etc etc. if you have stupid things to say, keep them to yourself)

• I can be an insane person sometimes. I’m also a hypocrite. Sometimes. I enjoy jet skiing at top speeds on waves and imagining comets hitting my school right before I take a test. Normal things.

If you wanna know more about me, asks are super duper welcome, even hate comments (like abt my personality or smth. I don’t care if you hate that im ace lol), I think they’re funny.

Lowkey unsure about this but I also have a side blog (here) which is like my art mostly and some OC stuff.

Have an amazing day!!!

[catchymemes]

[everythingismadeofchaos]

We all do, buddy. We all do

[mewvore]

Sometimes you need to read something twice to get it. You might need to watch a movie three times to understand it. You might have to have that album on repeat for a week until the lyrics make any sense. You're allowed to engage with it and can keep engaging with it until it means something to you. People will see a painting at a museum and laugh about not getting what the big deal is but like you can come back, you can see it at another time, and maybe that next time it'll be different for you. I'm of the belief the "media literacy crisis" would solve itself if more people just sat down and did it again. Watched, read, played, listened, etc like I don't think people are getting more ignorant necessarily I just think we're not glorifying personally replaying things nearly as much as we should be.

[sistertaxon]

Incidentally, one cannot read a book: one can only reread it. A good reader, a major reader, an active and creative reader is a rereader. And I shall tell you why. When we read a book for the first time the very process of laboriously moving our eyes from left to right, line after line, page after page, this complicated physical work upon the book, the very process of learning in terms of space and time what the book is about, this stands between us and artistic appreciation. When we look at a painting we do no have to move our eyes in a special way even if, as in a book, the picture contains elements of depth and development. The element of time does not really enter in a first contact with a painting. In reading a book, we must have time to acquaint ourselves with it. We have no physical organ (as we have the eye in regard to a painting) that takes in the whole picture and can enjoy its details. But at a second, or third, or fourth reading we do, in a sense, behave towards a book as we do towards a painting.

- Vladimir Nabokov, Lectures on Literature

[bizarro-report-deactivated20171]

[catwithaknife]

https://www.vice.com/en_us/article/kzqpd9/heres-an-insane-story-about-a-rogue-music-teacher-cutting-a-kids-hair

[snailbutch]

what the fuck

[guu]

i’m just gonna take this post for a moment so i can rant but like

i Hate how entitled adults can feel over a child’s hair!

it started when i was young myself, i wanted a mohawk, but my dad didn’t approve of that look on a “girl”, and insisted i’d regret such a bold cut. at 16 i was finally given full autonomy over my own head.

but then i have a son and everyone around us is trying to keep his hair short. when we finally moved out just me my partner and him, i told him he doesn’t need to get any haircuts he doesn’t want.

so he starts growing it out, it’s still short but coming on mid-length. his teacher makes a point to tell me it’s getting long as if i don’t have eyes. i hear her walking out with him one day talking to him about haircuts, as if to coax him into one. eventually i get child services called on me for ‘forcing a transgender lifestyle’ over what i can only assume is from a combination of me drawing cute ponies on his valentine box and letting him go to school in a ponytail.

he kept it short for awhile after but told me he wanted to grow it out again, so i let him of course. he comes home one day after getting a haircut at his grandpa’s and tells me he didn’t Want the haircut.

i ask why he got it then and learned he was bribed with a promise of a surprise IF he cut his hair.

tl;dr people need to back the hell up off of children and let them have owership of what’s on THEIR body! /rant

[e-v-roslyn]

Same thing about getting a child to curl or straighten their hair. Or do anything with it. Just let kids have control over their bodies.

[captainroxythefoxy]

This happened to me when I was little too!! Growing up I had naturally tight Shirley Temple curls. The only problem was that you can’t get a hair brush through it if your life depended on it until it grew out over a few years.

but This One Lady from church decided that leaving my hair messy and curly was child abuse and threatened to call social services on my family every damn time she saw me until one day she was the designated kid watcher and ho boy my momma tells me i came out with tears in my eyes and greasy slicked down hair and that’s where she ends the story because i think my mother beat her ass but yeah.

Leave kids hair alone.

[disease-danger-darkness-silence]

I’m going to be honest, parents who are super-controlling of their children’s hair creep me the fuck out and I’m not entirely certain why except that I get a vague feeling they kind of relegate them to, “annoying talking doll” status.

[pretentioussongtitle]

I loved my daughter’s long blond hair. It was thick and wavy and beautiful but when she told me she wanted it cut short ‘like a boy’(she was four)  I took her to the salon and let her whack it off. 

The stylist was skeptical, ‘are you sure?” and the thing is, she said this to me, not my daughter. So I asked my girl ‘are you sure you want it cut short?’ She was. The hair went. The stylist acted nervous most of the way through like she was waiting for one of us to burst into tears, but it looked cute! And my daughter loved it! (And it’s been short ever since.)

[kintatsujo]

Autonomy over your hair is bodily autonomy and we as a culture need to start holding bodily autonomy as sacred

[mdzhb]

there is a reason that so many of us who’ve experienced trauma will reclaim control over our bodies and our selves by cutting and dying our hair. it’s part of us. it’s part of our expression. that’s vitally important to people, especially kids, who are still early in the process of learning how they fit into the world around them.

[theconcealedweapon]

For some reason, “stop enforcing your gender identity and sexual orientation on children” never applies to cis-het people who are the only ones actually enforcing it.

[naamahdarling]

About this:

Some reasons, not exhaustive:

Parents tightly controlling this shit is damaging and super often indicative of sexism or queerphobia they will begin imposing or are already imposing on the child.

Early form of indoctrination into boys vs. girls behavior; it begins super young when the child is very malleable. Sets the stage for strict gender roles.

A parent who does not respect their child’s autonomy over something as trivial as their hair is absolutely not going to defend their child from other assaults on their autonomy, unless those assaults are property crimes that challenge or might lead their child to challenge their ownership of the child’s body.

It’s disgusting.

It also goes for life partners. Controlling someone’s appearance either directly, or indirectly through repeated “hints” and shit-talking people who don’t meet their standards is at the very least toxic, and sometimes it is downright abusive. There’s a reason “woman cuts her hair in a way that she knows you don’t like” is seen as a “warning sign” that your wife might “leave you.” The hold is breaking. I did it, progressively, as things spiraled down. It wasn’t rebellion. It was reclamation. (Also me realizing that I really didn’t like having long hair. This is way better.

By the way, cutting someone’s hair without consent is assault, same as punching them, and in many places it is legally recognized as such. Get their asses.

[tall]

[light-wren]

BTS performing the whole set in Korean next year perhaps …..

[bebx]

[unclefather]

[tyrannosaurus-rex]

these parents really looked at their vagina fresh child and killed him on sight huh

[powerfulwizard]

When I first read this I was like hah cool he used the name from the random guy on twitt-oh fuck oh no

[turtle-noise]

This took me an embarrassingly long time to get, I had to go to Twitter before it clicked and

[iced-bees]

happy 5th birthday to jack ingof!

[oneheadtoanother]

[cascadiarch]

Love the use of ‘the,’ here.

[strawberry-souffle]

PSA: stuttering in fics

as someone with a speech impediment, all of the people saying that only one type of stuttering is valid are wrong.

stuttering CAN look like this: "t-this is a-an example s-s-sentence"

OR this: "this-this is an example sen-sentence."

OR this: "t-t-t-th-..t-ttttthis is an example sentence."

OR this: "this is, uhm, an example, uh, sentence."

OR this: "this is an example sssssss-sentence."

OR this: "this is an examp-...this an example sentence."

sometimes the sentence won't even come out of your mouth at all.

there are probably many examples i'm forgetting, but that's the point! it usually is a mix of a few of these, but some people do one of them more often than others! some people with speech impediments have certain sounds that they almost consistently have trouble with (for me it's "st").

people with speech impediments also rarely-if ever-stutter whilst they're singing or whispering.

most importantly!!!! people with speech impediments are capable of saying a sentence without stuttering!! it can just be a gamble sometimes.

and if more people could portray the frustration that comes with stuttering and not being able to get words out, i'd be a very happy girl.

(fun fact: sometimes when my mouth won't let me say what i want to say, i get so annoyed that i just yell or grumble out "WORDS.")

this was your speech impediment PSA!!!!

[strawberry-souffle]

out of all the posts i’ve made i’m happy that it’s THIS one that blew up

[the-haiku-bot]

out of all the posts

i’ve made i’m happy that it’s

THIS one that blew up

Beep boop! I look for accidental haiku posts. Sometimes I mess up.

[narcissistcookbook]

fun fact: you don't need to be dead to haunt someone. you can literally go round to their house and do all the stuff a ghost would do right now

[everyrukiakuchiki]

[pigeonrevere]

rewatching season 1 and both times mike tries to introduce el to his hobbies she VISIBLY loses interest and instead goes to look at a woman... he tells her about his tv and she turns away to go look at a picture of nancy. he tells her about yoda/his toys and she turns away to go look at his science fair trophy which is a statue of a woman. she's left alone in the wheeler house and she explores nancy's room. she never gaf about his hobbies she gaf about womanhood and missing out on the experience of growing up as a girl

[penandinkprincess]

parenting commitment level 3000

[penandinkprincess]

apparently a requirement for working at poison control is a talent for stand-up comedy

[anxietyproblem]

[allthingswhumpyandangsty]

[baradragon]

speaking from a place of privilege (good url)

[baradragon]

some of you should not be reblogging this

[assdad]

[creature-wizard]

I recently saw an actual news article censor the words "sexual" and "molest." Fucking shit hell fuck shit fuck.

[angiethewitch]

ooooh, storytime!

for a while, my husband worked as a call handler for the ambulance service. during his training, they had a talk from someone wanting to introduce new policy and he wanted to use my husband's group as a tester group. fun, right?

well, the talk was about how saying suicide was triggering. if a caller says theyre suicidal, the handlers should say "unalive" instead, because saying the word might actually trigger the suicidal person.

if the caller says they were raped and need help, the handler should say "S A" instead, because rape is triggering.

I don't know about you, but if I phoned up the ambulance service to ask for help because I want to die, I wouldn't want them using tiktok speak and trivialising the issue. I think that would make me less likely to ever ask for help. SAY THE WORDS. how are we supposed to address the problem if we can't even name the fucking problem.

luckily, my husbands main instructor literally said "well, that's fucking stupid" to the man wanting to introduce this policy and it hasn't been implemented. but it might. we are watching language be erased. NAME. THE. PROBLEM.

I wish I were making this up, I wish I could say I was exaggerating. I'm not.

[handsaniti]

So fun fact, people who are trained in helping to deescalate suicidal people will always say to put it bluntly.

“Do you want to kill yourself?”

A, it has the benefit of making sure everyone is on the same page. Self-harm and attempting suicide are two different things. You can want to harm yourself without wanting to kill yourself. It can also let you know if the person is passively suicidal or if they’re in the process of killing themselves.

B, stigmatizing suicide leads to more suicides.

C, you will not cause someone to kill themselves by saying the word suicide. It is not a magic word that speaking the name of will cause someone to jump off a roof.

[breelandwalker]

Also, speaking to causation on this trend (separate from issues of censorship), lay people need to learn what "triggering" actually means.

Because way too many people do not understand the difference between "This word is an activating reminder for something traumatic in my brain and it has a rapid and deeply negative impact on my mental health which may result in dissociation, flashbacks, spiraling, panic attacks, or similarly serious reactions" and "ewww that word makes me UNCOMFYYYYY."