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My therapist, who specializes in adults with ADHD, recently told me that all of her clients need a three day crashout period after a big life change. Finish the semester? Crashout. Change jobs? Crashout. Go on a really cool, really relaxing vacation? Crashout the moment you get home.

It's true of literally all of her clients. She works with a lot of them to put systems in place so that their crashouts are only three days. This includes the high-powered execs who travel regularly for work. It does not matter how successful or high functioning they are - they have ADHD, and a crashout is just part of the process of living with it.

I'm sharing this with all you ADHD friends out there, just in case you (like me) start shaming yourself if your crashout lasts more than one day. It turns out three days is kind of the best case scenario. Be kind to yourselves!

1nkwe4ver

Is there a new definition of the term crash out? I ask this genuinely. I have ADHD and this would be an interesting thing to think about going forward, but I previously thought the definition of crash out was just to get really mad and dramatic and aggravated.

emisexhausted

1. I'd really like to know that too

2. That's the ADHD?? Idk why exactly, but I just always assumed that's the 'tism. I mean, obviously it's not black and white and both probably *contribute*, but what?

1nkwe4ver

For the record, I went to their page and they’ve edited the post to say “crash” instead of “crash out” since the implications were off

Neurodivergent makes heartbreaking discovery- oversharing isn’t always about you accidentally overstepping your own boundaries and trying to decide whether you should be more private from now on.

I think, for me at least, the definition has been bent because criticism of you overharing moving come in the form of an “everybody shouldnt know your business” or something about not giving nosy people ammunition or access to your life. Then with the prevalence of parasocial relationships, there’s a clear issue of famous personalities oversharing because vulnerability and friendly attitude are so rewarded, and it’s hard to really remember the reality of how many individuals you straight up do not know are learning too much about you.

The issue is, personally, this has made oversharing seem like very much just a personal preference. Sometimes I’ll overshare and briefly feel bad afterward because it hits me how little I know the listener and that I might have preferred them not knowing that. But then I usually argue well I needed to vent, I don’t really care to keep it a secret, whatever.

It’s actually more a problem because you may be crossing the listener’s boundaries. Its not that they have a problem with you, or that they have no sympathy or joy for whatever you shared, or even that what you said was boring. There’s simply a level of intimacy people might prefer to have before they’re comfortable knowing something that deep about you. They may respond well, to be nice, cause once again, it’s not necessarily an issue with you- but it also puts a pressure on them to show up for you out of nowhere, in how they respond. Sometimes people have nobody, so a lot of people will put at least a little effort in to seeming okay with it. That doesn’t mean they actually are.

#to be clear vent to me all you want #if I’m not willing to engage I honestly just won’t but I generally like getting to know someone with deeper conversation #but everyone’s boundaries are different and it’s only just occurring to me how I may have been abusing this one

chasm-side

My therapist, who specializes in adults with ADHD, recently told me that all of her clients need a three day crash period after a big life change. Finish the semester? Crash. Change jobs? Crash. Go on a really cool, really relaxing vacation? Crash the moment you get home.

It's true of literally all of her clients. She works with a lot of them to put systems in place so that their crashes are only three days. This includes the high-powered execs who travel regularly for work. It does not matter how successful or high functioning they are - they have ADHD, and crashing is just part of the process of living with it.

I'm sharing this with all you ADHD friends out there, just in case you (like me) start shaming yourself if your crash lasts more than one day. It turns out three days is kind of the best case scenario. Be kind to yourselves!

chasm-side

My therapist, who specializes in adults with ADHD, recently told me that all of her clients need a three day crashout period after a big life change. Finish the semester? Crashout. Change jobs? Crashout. Go on a really cool, really relaxing vacation? Crashout the moment you get home.

It's true of literally all of her clients. She works with a lot of them to put systems in place so that their crashouts are only three days. This includes the high-powered execs who travel regularly for work. It does not matter how successful or high functioning they are - they have ADHD, and a crashout is just part of the process of living with it.

I'm sharing this with all you ADHD friends out there, just in case you (like me) start shaming yourself if your crashout lasts more than one day. It turns out three days is kind of the best case scenario. Be kind to yourselves!

1nkwe4ver

Is there a new definition of the term crash out? I ask this genuinely. I have ADHD and this would be an interesting thing to think about going forward, but I previously thought the definition of crash out was just to get really mad and dramatic and aggravated.

“He’s been thinking which really worries me.”

Girl there is not a thought in that man’s head besides how much he’s craving steamed artichokes

#wicked #wicked:for good #Fiyero

starvulture

Collecting these rn

kittynugg

went through all 20,000 reblogs and compiled the additions. you're welcome

pt. 2 in a second because there are three more but i hit the image limit

kittynugg

anddd that's it

starvulture

hi ily for this

kittynugg

there is another my job is never done op,,

empressofsamoyeds

Adding the ones I've seen on my fyp (also because I NEED y'all to see the "Y/N is your friend and asked the CEO to promote you")

(Edit: forgot to mention but the audio of the first one is priceless and at least 50% part of the humor)

dailyfloweys

Day 244 | If Flowey Got Limbs

1nkwe4ver

This is probably weird but I really feel like if he got limbs he’d look like a goat or something

copperbadge

The sandwich gender spectrum post has escaped containment again and reading the responses at this point is almost as fascinating as the original field work that provided the data. It's very hard for some people to grasp, even on Tumblr, that sandwiches have no inherent gender.

Liking a specific sandwich does not gender you in any meaningful way. Loudly rejecting a sandwich because it would portray you as too effeminate or masculine, or demanding a sandwich as a way of asserting your gender identity -- that is the what I'm discussing, not the sandwich itself. A man eating a veggie wrap doesn't impact my data because that's actually very normal; men performatively rejecting a veggie wrap as too feminine is what the post is about.

Don't get dysphoria because you like a sandwich that the patriarchy has assigned to another gender, my beloved trans readers. That's the tox-cis-ity talking.

copperbadge

You know, that's fair.

couldnt-think-of-a-funny-name

quick question how come when the marigold went into the totally normal mothers they spontaneously became pregnant but when the marigold went into the totally normal hargreeves it just gave them powers again....frankly more spontaneous births would've been extremely funnier

1nkwe4ver

I THOUGHT ABOUT THAT

My conclusion was that whereas the marigold was an entirely foreign substance to the mothers, the Umbrellas entire existence was formed by the marigold. Even in this alternate universe where they theoretically somehow existed without it, the truth was that there was no natural timeline where they existed without it, and their bodies were probably missing it. There were like slots left in their bodies missing marigold and when it came back, they got their powers back- just in extremes and with some illness as side effects because they weren’t born with that much so it took a lot of adjusting.

But that’s never stated and is probably giving the writers too much credit.

1nkwe4ver

Here’s something about S4 I’m just realizing.

So all the marigold in the new timeline was in that vial glass thingy, and that’s why the 8 of them were the only folks who had it and needed to be absorbed for all the marigold/durango to combine, yeah?

So what about the shot glass Klaus tossed over his shoulder? That’s the exact amount most of them had in their bodies, but that little vial was negligible?

#tua s4 #this still upsets me

catmask

i dont consider myself a 'fashion guru' by any means but one thing i will say is guys you dont need to know the specific brand an item you like is - you need to know what the item is called. very rarely does a brand matter, but knowing that pair of pants is called 'cargo' vs 'boot cut' or the names of dress styles is going to help you find clothes you like WAAAYYYY faster than brand shopping

catmask

this also goes for aesthetic or -core titles. 'y2k tank top' is going to get you resellers and fast fashion brands advertising to people looking to meet a current trend. 'thin strap crop tank top' is going to get you a diverse group of results and not upcharge you to hell and back

additionally, shop second hand when you can, second hand and thrift sites typically organize clothes by the cut and color. theyll be more affordable than a depop seller curating you a style to sell you

daftpatience

useful terminology for different kinds of clothing shapes :)

normalmammal

haven’t seen sinners so i have no stake in this discourse but it is insane to me that supposedly the majority of the “fandom” just wants to fuck the singular white guy. just incredible

1nkwe4ver

??? What white guy. I’m so lost

Edit: to be clear I have seen the movie but haven’t looked into the fandom content