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@3bookworm
Finally making a pinned bio post,
Hello, you can call me Book
I am a college student in Engineering
I am pan/bi and polyamorous in an open poly relationship
Enby, they/them
Some things I enjoy are: reading novels, playing video games(particularly rpg/story heavy games), going on walks, and vibing to music
Vent posts will be tagged #vent
DNI: If you don't wanna interact :p
one of the "these can and should coexist" things to me is "there are numerous fat people who eat healthy and exercise and could beat the average skinny person in a hike" and "fat people who are fat and arent athletic and dont eat super healthy and do get winded walking up hills also are apart of fat liberation and deserve love too"
both of these are true and both deserve love and to be able to be accepted and get proper healthcare
I feel like the first class you played in DND tells a lot about you
Reblog and put in the tags what your first class was
it's a fairly plain and straightforward truth that at this time, there are many more littles than caregivers; many more who long to be babied than those who truly wish to give that experience. there are a good many reasons for this that would take too long to get into here, but suffice to say that for now it is true (though it need not always be true).
as a result there is a very common practice of what i call 'turn-taking', which is what it sounds like- littles taking turns acting as the caregiver, meeting some amount of eachother's wants (there is an identical practice across submissives in general). what differentiates turn-taking from switching is that the caregiving partner does not really want to be in that role. it is a role they take on to meet another's needs, sacrificing some of their own enjoyment for anothers'. they may derive some level of pleasure from that of their partner, but ultimately they'd choose to be on the other side if they could.
(note that i am describing this as if it is two people, but it's often a group variously taking turns.)
i have seen a few people express very critical attitudes toward turn-taking and paint it in a very negative light, which i think is a bit unfair. of course turn-taking is nobody's ideal. anyone would rather participate in something more mutualistic. but it's a practice that arises when people have unmet needs they can't find another way of fulfilling, and it seems cruel to lambast them for seeking out a way that if done correctly does benefit both parties. sometimes interesting dynamics can arise from turn-taking as well that respect both people's preferences while allowing one to take a caregiving role; for example maintaining the little identity of one while the other takes on the role of their doll or toy.
with that said, there are some negative aspects that often arise within turn-taking that i think are worth talking about in specific. the most obvious manifestation is when one partner is simply not giving their fair share. they allow others to push themselves into a role that is not their preference and do not do the same in return. this is selfish behaviour and no good! children must learn to share playtime and let everyone have a go.
sometimes, this lack of sharing arises from failure of communication. one partner believes they turn-taking, the other simply thinks their partner is acting as caregiver. it can be difficult to ask for your turn, but you cannot expect it to come if you never do.
at other times, one partner feels pressured to pretend they are enjoying taking on this role, or perhaps they enjoy it a little, but are pushed to make it the entirety of their play because they are willing to do so. this is unfortunately common. many of us are poor communicators or very unwilling to be the source of disappointment or to let someone down. it's important to be conscious of this tendency in yourself and in your playmates. you must be proactive both in expressing yourself and in learning what your playmate is thinking, feeling and truly wants.
sometimes as well, people simply opt out of their responsibility. they may even be encouraged to do so by their playmates out of guilt or desire to please. this is going to be a bit harsh, but i often do not like the boastful sentiment i see expressed that someone is 'so little they make other littles feel the need to look after them' (similar to the idea of a submissive so pathetic other subs with no normal dominant instincts want to dominate them). at times this is a perfectly fine space to inhabit. it is a very pleasurable and validating feeling to be the littlest of all. however you must be very cautious that you understand this is not actually a natural, fundamental extension of who you are, but a deliberate dynamic you are getting to inhabit. you cannot abdicate your role and presence within that dynamic, and you must take responsibility for it, not treat it as simply a natural arrangement of things (outside of the immediate space of play). in many cases when i see this dynamic, i am not actually seeing 'the littlest' or the 'most pathetic': i am seeing 'the least willing to adopt a role that doesn't suit them'.
i went back and forth on this next part but after talking to @innumerable-voices i feel more certain of saying this: if you are going to ask others to compromise on their wants to take a caregiving role you have some obligation to reciprocate, and conversely if you are not willing to ever adopt a role that doesn't suit you you should not ask others to do so for you. at the minimum you should be trying to find an interplay you feel okay in that lets you reciprocate a little. simultaneously, if you are feeling resentment or distress at a role you are being pushed to inhabit more than you'd like, you must express this clearly.
it is your role as a good playmate to investigate what is actually occurring emotionally within your dynamic from both perspectives and be a conscious and deliberate actor within that dynamic, with the aim of ensuring everyone gets to have a good time. even very little kids must play well and play nice! đˇđˇ
I'm gonna say it, I do think that even the laziest person imaginable should have a roof over their head, food in their stomach, and access to healthcare
listen to me, this is so so important: you've gotta get used to really giving it your 60% as a default. like don't half-ass it necessarily but try not to go over 70% or so of an ass. you'll feel better and live a happier more fulfilled life, and on the rare occasions where you do need to lock the fuck in you'll be able to pull off bullshit that the sad miserable wretches giving it their 100% can never dream off, because they're busy draining themselves dry and you have energy reserves to spare.
This is actually what I was adviced to do at the work rehabilitation program I went to. Hasn't left my mind since. 10/10 solid advice
yay!!!!
using "what were YOU doing at the devils sacrament" to mean "yeah i made an embarrassing reference but you understood it which is also embarrassing" is very funny to me
my favorite part is that absolutely nobody says this except here. so if you use it in public, it's a dead giveaway that you spent the last ten years on tumblr. but then again, they recognized it, which means they were at the devil's sacrament
I tested this theory in the wild the other day at work. I was on a call with my department lead and a few other folks and I replied to an email the DL had sent me, thinking that, because he was on this call, he wouldn't notice when I sent it and would not catch me multitasking.
However, he replied to said email within five minutes, asking a question that required an answer. So I answered and was like "Also, I was going to apologize for answering emails during this call, but I see we're both here at the Devil's Sacrament, so I don't think an apology is necessary."
I watched him read that on screen and try not to laugh. And then at the end of the call as everyone started saying goodbye, he goes, "Hey, MJ, I meant to tell you. I like your shoelaces."
And I looked straight into my camera, stone cold serious, and said, "Thanks. I stole them from the president."
And the rest of the team was like, "What...the fuck...?" before he abruptly ended the call for everyone.
So now my DL and I know this about each other. He could be any one of us.
At a certain point, the appropriate response to "What were you doing at the devil's sacrament" becomes "stealing shoelaces from the president."
Reblog if you were stealing shoelaces from the President
yiou can only reblog this post on july 17th dont reblog it on any other day or you will be boiled
what the fuck
you can't boil me it's july 17th
it's july 17th again you can't boil me
based off that J cardboard cutout, thereâs something wrong with her
This show is for outcasts⌠and by outcasts heh, well letâs justr say⌠straight white men who like DND đ
all of dropout
Ya know what
No I've got beef with this take.
Like yes, if you've only ever seen screenshots of the more popular D20 games, or clips of Brenan Lee Mulligan losing his mind on game changer? Ok yeah, no I absolutely see where you're getting that vibe from.
But Dropout routinely features crazy talented and wildly diverse actors and comedians and writers.
They're shows are funny, wholesome, queer as all hell.
So actually, if you're sick and tired of the Big Bangification of entertainment, and you hate the idea of nerds and outcasts as depicted by Hollywood board members, here's a list of reasons why Dropout is actually fantastic.
1) Dropout is diverse as hell. If you care about inclusivity, if you care about representation? Sure, there are straight white guys here. But they are not the majority.
Dropout has introduced me to such amazing talents. Zac Oyama and Lou Wilson are two of the funniest people I have ever watched, and I am THRILLED anytime they are in anything.
Multiple shows routinely feature guests who are super funny and entertaining to watch, but who I would've never known about otherwise, including but not limited to: Rekha Shankar, Kimia Behpoornia, Ify Nwadiwe, Aabria Iyengar, Erika Ishii, Jacquis Neal.
None of these people are white, and plenty of them are not men.
And it's not just that they feature people who aren't white men, they have multiple shows hosted and written by people who are not straight white men.
Ify is the host of "Um Actually" which is like, if nerd trivia was actually fun. From the few episodes I've seen, they have a good mix of easier pop culture questions and super niche nerdy as hell questions. If you're sick of "nerd" being equated to comics or Star Wars, and nothing else? Great, so are the writers of "Um Actually"
"Dirty Laundry" is hosted by Lily Du, and is such good fun if you love drama and gossip about people you'll never meet. It's got the vibes of truth or dare at a sleepover, but the players willingly offered up their embarrassing stories and every episode comes with a cocktail recipe.
Rekha Shankar host "Smartypants", Vic Michaelis hosts "Very Important People", and while she may not be the main DM, Aabria Iyengar has DMed multiple D20 campaigns.
2) I can't think of any platform where every show is just, so gay.
You want outcasts? You know how every gay person ever feels super underrepresented in mainstream media??? Well guess what! There's countless instances of queer rep here baby!
Dimension 20, is bursting with queer characters (including my favorite explicitly asexual character in any media ever. Riz my love â¤ď¸), queer players, and gay as hell storylines. Like idk where to start even, it feels like every campaign I've watched is just brimming with characters who are some flavor of queer or outcast. There's even a whole campaign done in drag if that's your style.
Once again, shows like "Game Changer" and "Make Some Noise" are full of diverse players. And this includes so many openly gay and genderqueer personalities. Ally Beardsley, Vic Michaelis, Jessica Ross, Grant O'Brien, I could go on.
Ally Beardsley underwent their transition while being on multiple shows, and everyone was so openly supportive of them.
Vic Michaelis is like, one of the only she/theys I have ever seen treated with any actual regard to their gender on screen. Like, not only are their pronouns properly displayed when they're introduced on any show. But she's also not just put in a "woman" box by default.
Which brings me to
3) If you are a woman enjoyer like me? Can I just say?
They are so loud, and so weird, and so wonderful. They aren't hollywood "quirky" in a way thats still sexy. Isabella Roland is DEMANDING we look at cartoon buttholes, and its hillarious!
Like. I could go on and on and on, but Im getting tired of typing. So rapid fire, a few other reasons I love Dropout
Have vehemently supported and stood by the SAG AFTRA strikes
As far as I can tell, all of their shows are made by super creative individuals who are deeply passionate about making fun shit
Multiple cast members openly support Palestine, women's rights, queer rights, and human rights.
There are at least 3 episodes of their shows dedicated to making individual cast members feel loved and supported, I can not watch them without sobbing. They are the kindest things.
These shows are FUNNY. and they are funny and witty and creative without punching down. If a joke is crass or dark, it is very obviously in good faith and almost always at the expense of the person making the joke.
Jacob Wysocki. I just love him.
Game Changer apparently has a system in place to gauge what players are willing to consent to. The show is by nature, a surprise to the contestants on it, but even though no one is ever made to do something they are uncomfortable with, they also get some ammount of warning when theyre asked to participate as to how extreme an episode may be
They've put actual effort into making their platform actually accessible. Content warnings with timestamps, subtitles that don't censor shit
The subscription is $6.99 a month, but they have absolutely NO advertising. (To compare, Netflix is $17.99 if you dont want ads) They also don't limit devices.
They still practice COVID safety. You can literally see crew in some shots wearing masks even on recent shows.
Anyways, sorry to hijack this post. I just. I really love and appreciate seeing creative people have a platform to make things they want to make. And if Dropout was made for anyone, it was made for theater kids actually. But also absolutely for the outcasts.
It really says something that a lot of monogamous people consider polyamorous and aromantic to be "opposites" but every polyam person I know took one look at aromantics and said "they're just like me for real"
Poly folks x aro folks in the sense that "alloromantic heterosexual monogamous people view love and sex as an entirely different entity than me, and that makes life kinda strange"
official aro-polyam solidarity post
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When I say women should have higher standards for how they're treated, this is exactly what I mean. At the first insult? Kick. Him. To. The. Curb.
dungeon meshi but they end up in the back rooms, a cursed idea that was eating away at my brain
Peer-reviewing @monikoishi's tags because they're banger.
I ended up having a really interesting conversation with some people at the bus stop today. They were getting out of some sort of âclean and soberâ meeting and had starting saying how they were so bored because they didnât have anything to do, and had to stay at home because all their old friends would pull them back. So I said something like, âSo this is the time to do all the stuff your parents told you they didnât have money/time for!â âWhatcha mean?â âYou know, like when you were five and you REALLY wanted to have that toy or do that thing and you were like, âPlease mom please I gotta have this I gotta go do thisâ and they went âHell no you think Iâm paying for that do you want to goddamn EAT?â â And this light went on in their eyes. The lady is going to go check thrift stores for an Easybake Oven and I told her about Wilton cake decorating classes. The dude is going to Griffith Park and ride horses, because, âI always wanted to be a cowboy, and you canât drink when youâre on a horse âcause youâll fucking die!â Fuck it. This is what being an adult is. Sure itâs bills and work and relationships, but damn it, itâs also time to do the things you LIKE. I signed up for a free class/lecture on Water Gardens. Iâm going. Itâs time.
Jill. Jill you are wonderful.
no joke, this is such an important aspect of overcoming trauma. I mean the trauma of abusive parents, the trauma of broke ass parents who got toxic because of it, the trauma of capitalism. Like fuck it. Go to Wrestlemania. Build a shit ton of terrariums.
