a space for aspec

‘sup, i’m having an identity crisis rn but let’s just say i’m greyro/ace, this page is for any aspec-ies that like seeing posts on how fuckin awesome we all are, ily’all, and i hope everyone aces this whole following me thing

[queer-pickle]

Since I’ve been seeing some more Aphobic Bullshit on my dash again:

It’s perfectly fine to identify as asexual and/or aromantic for a while but eventually realize you are a different sexual/romantic orientation! Trying out different identities and terms is a perfectly normal part of questioning and no matter if you stick with ace/aro or not you’re perfectly valid to be exploring your identity!

Same goes with identifying with a different orientation for a while but eventually realizing that you are ace and/or aro! I’m proud of you for finding out what your identity is and you are valid and welcomed to the community!

(All aspec terms and identities are included in this of course! Also if you’re an exclusionist please don’t interact)

[theladyaroace]

Here is my project for pride this year! I was going to do the rainbow pride flag as well but it just wasn’t feasible to fit that many stripes on one nail.

[theladyaroace]

Oh hey so I did a sort of tutorial thing for these here! For those who wanted to know how it was done.

[carrot-gallery]

Reasons LGBT cafes should exist

Non-sexualized spaces

Inclusive so u don’t have to out urself

No alcohol so younger ppl have full access

I fukkin love chai lattes

No pressure to find hook-ups, lookin at you my aro/ace pals

No need to socialize u can literally sit at a table and be gay all by ur self

Please make these a thing

[mischeviousfaeriedragon]

Adding to the list that autistic LGBT people would appreciate having this kind of space because clubs are such a sensory nightmare.

[profeminist]

Great point!

[adamcansuckme]

Not to mention genderfluid/trans people could give their chosen names to the person behind the counter and not get ugly looks

[a-space-for-aspec]

my town has one of these !! it’s amazing and has awesome food and helped with our pride !!

[a-space-for-aspec]

it’s ok to be aspec and;

love rom coms

love the idea of romance

be a romantic person

love cliche love stories

like kisses

not be bothered by sex scenes in movies

love romantic music

love valentine’s day

date

hate rom coms

hate the idea of romance

dislike romance and cliches

be uncomfortable around couples and the concept of romance or sex

not date

literally every aspec person is different! and every experience should be respected!

[officiallytox]

Don’t forget that it’s okay to be sexually active as an aspec, as asexuality determines attraction, not libido.

A great many aspec people have low or no libido, but that isn’t a requirement of the identity. I was hoping to see that on this list, so I thought I’d add it myself when it wasn’t but discomfort with sex was.

When I started learning about asexuality, I learned it to be the absence of wanting any sexual contact at all, some people even being repulsed by it. Because of that, it took me almost a decade to figure out what my identity was, because I rather enjoy being sexual, but I can very rarely think of a time that I was ever attracted to someone. And I have been, I know I have been, I’ve sexually desired a rare few individuals in my lifetime, and fantasized about them. So rare, I could count those people off on one hand and have fingers left over.

That was another thing that made me struggle. But then I learned the difference between attraction and desire, something I had to figure out on my own, and not knowing/understanding about demisexuality took me even longer to realize I was aspec. Because I had been attracted to specific people, and that’s the only thing that stopped me from identifying as ace for so long, especially as someone that does enjoy certain sexual contact.

Demisexuality fit in place for me because of that, once I understood the label. I feel happier with that label and I have my own neat flag specialized for my experiences.

I meant to only add that point onto this post but I ended up writing my whole experience fucking oops, I’m so sorry, but it’s my blog so I’ll post it anyway.

[burgundybirds]

ok so hear me out, “gaydar” but for bisexuality

BI-FI

“are you getting any Bi-Fi in here” “i only have like two bars of bi-fi” “why is there no bi-fi in here” “the bi-fi signal is great in here”

and my favorite: “what’s the bi-fi password?”

and for pansexuals? PAN-SCAN

[mind-altering-bugs]

I made a bi-fi icon:

[themerrymisnomer]

this is beautiful

[pastel-prouvaire-deactivated201]

@sicklesbian @lightgetsout

[mellbeh]

@elecocochoco

[elecocochoco]

Jumped on that bandwagon

[ply-positive]

Quickly somebody do a ply spy

[queer-coffee]

Here you go! Just had to!

[ply-positive]

Woah this is really great!!

[strategicgoat]

Apparently a “tracer” is a detective - I find that fitting for an Ace Trace

[strategicgoat]

I made ace trace

[kattheconpletenerd]

This post is Legendary and I feel honored

[your-local-salty-bitch-deactiva]

I LOVE THIS OMG

[girls-are-really-fucking-cute-d]

omg i’ve never seen the real post only screenshots, this post was the beginning of so much @hufflepuffjeditimelord is our hero♥️

[a-space-for-aspec]

agender pals are lit

reblog if u agree

[a-space-for-aspec]

agender people?

arospec people?

acespec people?

VALID !!

DOUBLE VALID !!

TRIPLE VALID !!

INFINATELY VALID !!

[a-space-for-aspec]

it’s ok to be aspec and;

love rom coms

love the idea of romance

be a romantic person

love cliche love stories

like kisses

not be bothered by sex scenes in movies

love romantic music

love valentine’s day

date

hate rom coms

hate the idea of romance

dislike romance and cliches

be uncomfortable around couples and the concept of romance or sex

not date

literally every aspec person is different! and every experience should be respected!

[a-space-for-aspec]

if you identified as aspec and then realized you’re not, that’s ok! you were valid then and you’re valid now!

if you identified as not-aspec and then realized you’re aspec, that’s ok! you were valid then and you’re valid now!

[entertainingfaith]

I'M DOING AN EXPERIMENT

To prove something to a friend, please

REBLOG IF YOU THINK ASEXUALS BELONG IN LGBTQ+ SPACES

LIKE IF YOU THINK ASEXUALS DON’T BELONG IN LGBTQ+ SPACES

[spacexualkids]

:)

[ladyofthefanart]

REBLOGGING SO HARD.

[too-easily-obsessed]

YOU BETTER FUCKING BELIEVE IM REBLOGGING WTF

[sakuraaa-s]

GET 👏🏼 RID 👏🏼 OF 👏🏼 ACE/AROPHOBIA 👏🏼

[sylveonagainstddlg-deactivated2]

im gonna reblog this everytime i see it ,,

[sjw-hitgirl]

REBLOG THIS ALREADY!

[drithligh]

I have never ignored a like button in my entire exsistance on this blue/teal whatever y'all colour it website tungle dot com!

[kaar-ne]

As an ace myself, the amount of likes on this post doesn’t go well with me.

[not-all-fantasies]

☝️My thoughts exactly. I don’t like it.

[insaneprotecter-deactivated2019]

guys please

[magic-bluebird]

It concerns me that ace people have such a tough time with this.

[strawbunny-shortcake-deactivate]

Aces don’t deserve this shit.

[whats-under-cirava-patch]

Aces deserve better???? Wow???

[voidchangeling]

Don’t know if I already reblogged but damn if I won’t do it regardless!

[badromantics]

do NOT reblog AND like this. It’s hard enough to tell which of yall is aphobic and which of yall isnt

[castiel-multifandom]

It’s sad how many people like this, how can any of you think this? The A stands for asexual, aromantic and agender in lgbtqiA!

Rebloging this for asexual week

[cold-and-analytical]

I mean, if they want to be, yes definitely! I know a lot of aces that don’t feel like they/don’t reside in that community too, though, and that’s okay too! Just, be respectful?

[flish-looks-at-stuff]

aces 👏 are 👏 lgbt+ 👏 and 👏 deserve 👏 love 👏👏👏👏👏👏👏

[damn-shawty]

REBLOG

REBLOG

REBLOG

!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[a-space-for-aspec]

since it’s lesbian day of visibility;;;

shoutout to my lesbian aces !!!

shoutout to my aro lesbians !!!

shoutout to my grey / demi lesbians !!

shoutout to any aspec lesbians !!! y’all are valid as fuck and deserve love !!

[a-space-for-aspec]

hey,,,, um,,, guys,,, it’s not hard to like,,, respect eachothers identities,,, so like do that now,,, thx in advance

and idgaf if you think it’s ‘weird’ or ‘wrong’ or ‘not a thing’ if they identify a certain way and respect those around them, then they’re valid mkayyyyyyy

[a-space-for-aspec]

agender people are valid! respect their identities!

acespec people are valid! respect their identities!

arospec people are valid! respect their identities!

💚🖤💜

[a-space-for-aspec]

ace people, aro people, agender people, aspec people, and basically anyone who falls under the ‘a’ in ‘lgbtqia’;;;;;

hey, you’re valid.

you’re amazing.

you’re not broken.

you don’t, and never will, need fixing.

other people can’t tell you how you feel, you are you, and you know best.

you are perfect the way you are and even if you change, you’re still amazing and valid and i love every atom in your body so fuckin much ok

[a-space-for-aspec]

if you’re having a bad day, here’s a reminder that it’ll get better.

here’s a reminder that you’re valid, from the most known to the least known identities, you’re valid.

if someone’s being an asshat, well fuck them. not literally ofc, but fuck them.

if just everything is fucked up, hey bro, here’s a sign it’ll get better.

[a-space-for-aspec]

shoutout to my pan aspecs !!

panromantic asexuals and aromantic pansexuals are valid and amazing in every way !!

so are normal pans and aspecs separately, but together WOAH SO AWESOME !!

💖💖💖💛💛💛💙💙💙

💚💚💚🖤🖤🖤💜💜💜

[wandererslullabi]

@a-space-for-aspec Hey I really love this post and all but could you please not refer to non-aspec pan people as “normal” pan people? It creates the idea that aspec-ness is inherently abnormal and othering. You can say “allo pans” or “non-aspec pans” if you need. (Allo is short for allosexual/alloromantic and refers to anyone who’s not aspec)

[a-space-for-aspec]

ooo yes omg i’ll change that rn lmao, thanks for letting me know :))

[a-space-for-aspec]

hi i havnt posted in a while but quick update aspec people are still rad ok bye