[guerrillatech]

Stop trying to be productive

[bauliya]

“stop traumadumping to your friends tell this to your therapist” my god they paywalled human connection

[crippledpunks]

cleaning is extremely difficult. cleaning your home, your office, your car, your personal space, your clothes, your body, anything- cleaning is an intensive process that involves a lot of small movements, focus, and stamina. many people struggle with the various aspects of cleaning, whether it's the executive function involved with executing or conceptualizing each step involved, fatigue from having to gather supplies and move around, pain from long periods of time on one's feet or repetitive motion, drain from struggling to focus, or whatever else,

a lot of people are affected by the difficulty of cleaning. depression, adhd, schizophrenia, autism, fibromyalgia, hypermobile joints, EDS, POTS, MS, chronic GI problems, chronic pain, chronic fatigue and other disabling conditions can make cleaning and keeping a space clean over time very difficult if not impossible for a lot of people- please be kind to those who struggle with cleaning, and kinder to yourself if you struggle to keep up with cleaning. it is a very difficult task. it's not your fault you struggle with it.

[sweetcherryblossomswrites]

[thefingerfuckingfemalefury]

A mood

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[brightlotusmoon]

[thenightgaunt]

Sometimes the brain works. Sometimes you realize you just lost 4 hours to garbage. Sometimes you sit rereading the same page again and again for an hour because your brain will NOT FUCKING PROCESS WHAT IT MEANS and it drives you to tears.

[brightlotusmoon]

*blinks a few times* oh, shoot, I was just doing that

[fibro-memes]

[smilepilledhappycel]

i’m in a subreddit for people with adhd partners, as having a partner with adhd i often find her hard to understand.. obviously i’m no neurotypical myself, so i don’t fit in to everyone else’s causal ableism on the sub? is there any actual decent sources to understand my girlfriend better, and work with her better, that aren’t written by people who think adhd inherently makes someone abusive? ?

[semba-b]

As an autistic person I do not identify with the “autism creature” meme. I am an autism monstrosity, I am an autism beast, I am even an autism horror.

[heatheniousmaterials]

These are not mutually exclusive

[semba-b]

I know

[semba-b]

I’ve decided it’s name is GTFO to represent how I feel when I have a sensory overload, this is serious and canon

[ace-and-ranty]

I gotta say, one of the greatest achievements of my 20s was that I learned (mostly) to differentiate between:

"I truly do not want to go" and

"I'm just feeling the Demand Avoidance, and I will like it once I get there."

[ace-and-ranty]

Well, goodness, this one resonated much more than I was expecting. I mean, I get it. My mind was also blown wide open when I found out "demand avoidance" was a thing that existed, and that I'm not the only weirdo in the world who suddenly wishes it wasn't her birthday after anxiously waiting for her birthday for days.

Loads of people in the tags are asking how I do it? I feel this won't be groundbreaking advice, but here is what I have learned:

Previous experience. Really no way around it. Now that I hit thirty, I feel like I have done enough things to know, intellectually, from experience, what will feel nice if I overcome the avoidance, and what won't. For example, every time I go to the beach, I wake up early and would rather eat a tire than get off the bed. But I remember that every time I got up and went to the beach, I was glad I did it. So I just get up, feeling like shit, and get ready, feeling like shit, and I get to the beach and magic!! I feel great, I love the beach!! Sometimes you just gotta do it scared feeling kinda like shit.

Am I avoiding the thing or getting to the thing? I have a lot of demand avoidance around just, y'know, getting up, getting ready and going out the door. Universal human experience. If I notice that doing the actual thing (Swim in the pool!) sounds nice, but I'm avoiding having to rally myself to go do that (Fetch swimsuit! Sunscreen! Towel!), then I know it's demand avoidance and I should just fucking go.

Is the thing making me feel excited at all or just anxious? I have had previous occasions when I did the opposite; I convinced myself it was just demand avoidance when I really just. Hated the thing. And wanted to stop. If you feel a mix of excitement and dread, or excitement and anxiety, that might be demand avoidance. But if thinking of doing the thing just makes you feel actively anxious, then yeah. You don't want to do the thing.

Do the thing a little bit. Used often with dishes. I've seen this advice float around Tumblr a lot and it's correct. Commit to doing just a bit of the thing; a little bit of the thing; the smallest bit of the thing you can do. Getting started will make it clear right away if you don't want to do it (and in that case, you have permission to stop), or if you just having trouble getting started.

[copyrightcreep]

sometimes i think about the fact that my very 1st introduction to a (selective?) mute character was a pirate in a Dutch show about pirates. and the fact that seeing that character allowed child me to normalize that in my brain and see it as okay. my point here. normalise 'different'people in shows for kids. like put a gay couple in my cartoon. show disabled people in those dumb adventure kid shows. put POC people in kid movies! normalize the heck outta marginlized groups. so that kids can get used to them. and get introuced to the possibilities!

[rollhistory]

Listen, if you interrupt me with a new task while I’m midway through another, you aren’t allowed to be mad when I switch to the new task immediately. You clearly thought the new task was important enough to interrupt me with it!

I am just a little pikmin! You’re the one with the whistle!!

[rollhistory]

‘You need to learn to prioritise’ no YOU do! You’re the one dishing out tasks!! All I need to do is take things back to the onion!

[foone]

Also, I have the ADHD! If you stop me while I'm doing X and ask me to do Y, I will immediately switch to doing Y because THAT IS THE ONLY WAY IT IS GETTING DONE. I do not have the option of finishing X and then getting around to Y, I will 100% forget and I know this about myself from years and years of experience of living in my brain.

You ask an ADHD person to do something, you're getting it RIGHT NOW or NEVER. Those are the only two times.

Welcome to time blindness, enjoy your visit, I live here.

[thotsfortherapy]

so for those of you who don't know, I was recently diagnosed with ADHD-I. So far, I think my favourite thing that I've learned is the idea of "embrace the pivot".

Have you ever found a productivity system that works for you (whether it be your Google calendar, bullet journaling, agenda-ing, etc), and you're so pumped because it's like finally! Now I can actually get some stuff done! But then time passes, days or weeks or years, and the novelty of it runs out, and then it kind of just... Stops working. It can be so frustrating, because this thing that used to work no longer works for seemingly no reason.

But, that isn't a failing of the thing, that thing worked for a certain amount of time, and that's good! I used a massive agenda in my first year of uni, and it kept me on track for all my assignments. My second year agenda? Barely touched it. Instead, I started to use a bullet journal, and that was the thing that helped me through most of the year. But as time went on, my spreads got less creative, and in the final term, I didn't even want to touch it because it was too much work. So I switched to Notion.

The agenda didn't fail me, and neither did the bullet journal, it just worked for a certain amount of time. And when that time inevitably runs out, you can just say, "thank you for serving me for so long, I'm going to pivot to the next thing." And then you do it without feeling like you should try harder or like that thing failed you.

This doesn't just have to apply to productivity either. Systems, tools, habits, hobbies, coping mechanisms.. They all serve their purpose. It's okay to let them go when the time comes.

[aadhad]

??? Did anyone else get this message?

[identitty-dickruption]

happy disability pride month to ADHDers. people with ADHD that prevents them from being able to work or study or maintain friendships. people with ADHD who forget to eat or can’t cook or burn anything they try to cook. people with ADHD who are restless and impulsive and do dangerous things because boredom is physically painful. happy disability pride month to people with ADHD who are sick of people acting like ADHD isn’t a proper disability

[aadhad]

Hello! I am relatively newly diagnosed adhd-c even though I had suspected it for a while and I recently finished up my bachelor’s degree in engineering. School was really good for me and my brain because it gave me really strict deadlines with somewhat harsh consequences for not meeting those deadlines, but now that I’m out of school I am really struggling with my executive dysfunction. I was wondering if you or anyone you knew had some tips on tackling that issue, anything is appreciated! (For context, the only advice I’ve received is from my NT therapist to ‘keep a planner!’ which I have already tried to many times before :’) )

It took me a while to get to this ask, sorry! Note: I've found coping mechanisms don't translate well from person to person, but it can't hurt.

First, I started being kinder to myself about planning implements like calendars and planners. I use one sometimes for a couple weeks and then never again. That doesn't mean the planner was useless, it was just helpful for a much shorter time than for an NT. It's not good advice to just "keep a planner" because the "keep" part sucks.

Meds really help if you have access. The shortage is a huge problem for me lately, but when I have my meds, I can at least get out of bed in the morning. I don't think this advice is new to any of us, but it is true :)

Cleaning is really difficult for me, especially when I'm working full time or more. I try to combat this by making little routines with some visual or location trigger. For example: I clean my counters / put away dishes while my Brita filter fills up.

I also have tried to use the "bored" part of my brain as a "go do something" trigger. It only works if you do something the second you notice boredom. Example: Waking up and playing a sorta-mindless game on my phone until I'm bored and then once I notice I'm bored, I swing out of bed.

The opposite of this "mindfulness" technique is to simply shut off the brain to do something. I know this isn't consistently easy, but sometimes enabling autopilot helps a whole lot. "Just do it" from an NT usually means power-through (which is almost impossible), but this "just do it" means don't think about it at all because it can sike you out. Even a faked "whelp, gonna do this now" pushes you into action mode more reliably than stressing about whether or not you can do a thing.

Also get rid of any apps that auto scroll. It's really hard to do, but I promise you it'll be better in the long run. It sucks executive function dry for even non-ADHD people, let alone those of us who already have deficits.

Finally, this is a way of framing that was incredibly helpful to me from about a year ago. Your ADHD mirrors the patterns of some chronic illnesses. It has flare-ups where you are suffering with no end in sight, and other times where you are fine. Unlike what a lot of people think, you can't just "coping mechanism" through the whole disorder. ADHD is not the result a lack of coping mechanisms, and we have to be gracious towards ourselves about it. More importantly, our employers have to legally be gracious about it.

[negativefeedback-teen]

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