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A judicious writer with flourishing dreams. Freelancer || Collaborations || Content Writer || Social media influencer || I like to sing-talk, reading the Adventures on sundays.☠ If you're still reading, that's pretty good. [Instagram- not_so_gorgeous]

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We all lose friends.. we lose them in death, to distance, and over time. But even though they may be lost, hope is not. The key is to keep them in your heart, and when the time is right, you can pick up the friendship right where you left off. Even the lost find their way home

Losing friends is a painful experience. Whether it’s from simply growing apart, betrayal or an unexpected death, the event can be a devastating blow to our emotional wellbeing

Yet this is life and we need to move on with memories. We grow.

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Me and Casual relationships

Being single gave me all the freedom but somewhere deep down in my heart I always wanted a companion as well. But the fear of getting into a committed relationship comes with high responsibilities which I don't posses. The guy I liked was well-educated, fun-loving and most importantly, understood what I needed from the relationship.

Finally we started dating and our relationship was well matured. We had a discussion on how we will stay honest with each other and enjoy the present without making any plans for our future. I was happy to have him and it felt like there was a sense of relief in having someone around who understood the challenges of my life. Without even realizing, he was becoming an important part of my life. This was not part of our deal, nor it was something I planned for myself. He was more practical and had his life sorted. He has his life well planned and his folks are in the process of searching a perfect bride. On the other hand, the thought of him leaving me and not having similar feelings for me started to hurt. I knew it was the time to turn pragmatic and take charge of my emotions. I know investing myself in a casual relationship is gonna hurt me. I am an emotional person and tend to get attached to people and things around me within no time. Sometimes, I keep all the logics aside and take a decision keeping my emotions in mind.

Having clarity about your needs matters. Period!

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Did you harassed me?

I haven't figured it out yet, Actually I am in denial. A quick pricky story. I am an eccentric girl who has no fears or flaws of consciousness. A friend of mine mistreated me (harassed me). Well As I said I am in denial to accept that I was harassed.

We were cool buddies and we used to make funny jokes all the time. I was not attracted to him.

One day after catching up, I started to move and he suddenly grabbed me with a genuine hug and complimented that I was looking good that day. But I started feeling discomfort when the hug lasts for a minute. He started kissing me in the cheeks and suddenly made a move to my Lips. There was no consent.

I never experienced something similar and I was more compelled to address it as well. I can see the denial plays in many ways.

I don't want to confront the harasser and Here I am with a bag full of trust issues.

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Still there this terrible desire to be loved.

Still there this horror at being left behind.

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on this march 8th, have a reminder:

i expect you to have adventures

i expect you to fall in love

to get your hearts broken

i expect you to have sex with the wrong people

have sex with the right people

to make mistakes and make amends

to take a leap and make a splash

and i expect you to unleash holy hell on anyone

who tries to hold you back

the bold type, season 1 episode 1

to having adventures

to making mistakes

to sleeping with the wrong people, and the right people

and to unleashing holy hell

the bold type, season 1 episode 10

happy international women's day to all of you<3

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Honor of LGBTQ & celebration of all diverse

We live in a dysfunctional environment where people don't teach their son to behave in sense instead they teach their daughters to dress properly.

I live in a society where people hide things which are prominent. Most of the Indian parents have great concerns with their pride(caste, religion, discrimination).  And it continues further.

The reality of being queer or trans is being hidden over a hundred of years, they were ashamed. My question here is, "Why?" Is it a crime to be a gay man or is it unethical?

Culture and traditions are just excuses. People are so afraid of coming out just because our society is not only going to judge them, they might kill them.

A 50 years back, Indians were killing girl babies, It was not that the moms of those generations had no love for the girl child. Everything in life has pros and cons and so were few glitches in these methodologies too.

I have the confidence that I can change the world's view, My dream is that all who feel different may know they are fabulous. The world needs you and your unique and incredible self. 

I will be a Mother one day and I am going teach my children how to treat everyone equally and I am gonna let them know, they might come out as trans, bi, gay, lesbian but no matter what their mom's going to love them unconditionally.

We are the fundamentals of our future generation, so act accordingly.

But it really is true that every story is unique, and we don’t have to try to fit in a box to be queer. Breaking out of boxes is kind of the point. 

We are who we are. Wherever we are. And we’re pretty great.

To all my brothers and sisters, I wish you a hearty Pride Month.

- Abby

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Long way to go

A rollercoaster ride made my life much easier to face the challenges. I am bold, strong, tolerant, and loved.

I looked into my past to figure out what went wrong, and I promised myself that I would never hold onto my sorrows again.

Let them go.

We all have a beautiful, long way to go, and we're about to do new things and will lose a few along the journey.

Make up your mind and never let the heart be broken.

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The way you treat yourself matters.

People try to push you off your feet, the thought of giving up my dream makes me kill myself. I used to consider the opinions of my surroundings. Now I know the reality is, that they just can't stand your success. They are dominant and they just want me on the leash.

But, why be unhappy because of someone else's expectations. I want to be happy when I still have a chance. You will never know what will hit you and all your happiness will be replaced by pure pain.

Yes, I said I'd quit. But now I know If I quit I'd never forgive myself.

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They hurt you

I am a typical Indian girl with head full of dreams. As you all know, we Indian girls are cursed. I am a mischief little girl who followed the family's guidelines in order to achieve THEIR goals.

I graduated with a good score and joined the job where they needed me to settle and now I feel like I should follow my dreams and passion.

Actually I am good at content creating and promotional idea developing. I have done few projects which gave me a real hope to succeed in this platform. A few days back I was slut shamed by my own family stating that I will be screwed if I move on in this platform.

Know what? I cried for a whole night and I was on the verge of giving up my dreams, Suddenly I started seeing it in a different way.

Why am I not allowed to do what I like?

Why can't I take my own decision?

Why am I getting judged?

I opened up and stood for myself. If you can't support me then It's fine but you have no right to put me down.

Here I am holding up with a strong mind and a broken heart.

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We lost almost an entire generation of queers to the AIDS epidemic. I was born during that time, and grew up knowing nothing about it, being told that gay and trans people were a relatively new thing. Later being fed a commercialized, watered down, "safe" version that includes cops and corpos at Pride™, and alienates us from our history. And now that I'm closer to 30 than I am to 20, I'm going through the crushing realization that many who died of AIDS died younger than I am now. And that fills me with so much anger and sorrow, mourning everything that was taken. They took away the future of nearly an entire generation of queers, and then they tried to take our past. Even in the present, trans people are being buried under their dead names, their lived experience and legacy being overwritten with lies and revisionism. We all must continue to exist as proof that we have always existed. Remember the fallen and fight like hell for the living~

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They took away the future of nearly an entire generation of queers, and then they tried to take our past.

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Don't hold anymore

Some times I want this world to be a better place with diversity, equality and people know the real meaning of humanity, etc. Imagine a world without war, race, caste, gender humiliation, and poverty. It’d be so beautiful but I realize I was not born to make changes, It should start from oneself. So let it go, I have my own life ethics and I treat everyone same and I respect people.

No matter you treat people good, bad, abusive, loving, and loyalty….You are gonna end up in a grave beside me. So cut that shit you’re holding.

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Opinionated View

It's a myth that all victims bullying are loners with no social connections. I was not a loner yet I was bullied.

Diversity Group of people who are different from one another. The essentials of social spectrum keeps evolving day by day. Most organizations have well harmonized diversity in their workspace but we people still find difficulties in our day today life facing the discomfort on the eyes of society.

We can build trust, respect and understanding across culture, religious beliefs, gender, race, etc. There's always a but…… It starts from you♥️

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How to focus on work without distractions?

Focus is an act that defines your interest or activity in something. It can be difficult to concentrate on your work without distractions. I followed a few methods to improve my focus. 1. Don't multitask- Smart people don't multitask. It'll affect your performance. 2. Eliminate distractions- Mobile and Social media which we check on average every 10 minutes. 3. Set daily goals and write them down.  4. Add personal skills to keep the pace. By implementing these steps, you can manage and you'll soon reap the benefits of what you sow.

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Indian Girl

A boy asked me, why don't you get out of your house?

Look everyone is travelling, exploring..

You stay like this always.. shame!

I said nothing but smile.

What does he know about how hard it is to hide your dreams and live?

What does he know about responsibilities being a girl?

He doesn't know how many dreams I had to suppress just because being a girl, I was taught that I was born to be a submissive.

No girl in this world is devoid of dreams,, girls are Dreams.

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Inspiration

I am in the process of trying to make some significant changes to my life.

I have this one life. How do I wanna spend it? Apologizing? Regretting? Questioning? Running after people who don't see you?

Be brave. Believe in yourself, Do what makes you happy. You have this one life baby.

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How to be productive all day?

The most asked question in recent days, How to be productive? How to set my day as useful as possible?

I have the perfect response for this. In this digital age, staying on task and avoiding distraction is harder to accomplish than your actual work.

Mornings: Because how you spend your morning will directly impact how the rest of your day goes.

As many of you know, morning bliss gives you energy. Use your morning to focus on yourself. Wake up with a positive vibe, set your alarm tone to be a soothing melody. Make yourself a drink. Complete your morning routines.

Make a to-do list: Add your daily goals and tasks to the list and try to accomplish as much as possible.

Divide and conquer: Organizing tasks should include differentiation, you should tackle your challenging tasks before lunch. It will give you some relief in the noon.

Simplicity: As we work in digital life, Emails play a vital role in our system but emails are usually a distraction. Sometimes if the reply chain goes on then it's time to pick up the phone.

Create your system: You must focus on doing things that matter most. Some people use sticky notes, reminders to keep up their memory.

Stop multi-tasking: Changing tasks more than 3 times a day drop your efficiency in work. 'Haste makes waste', doing 10 things at a time delays your work goal.

Elimination of things: Try to eliminate things that are not important during your workdays.

At the end of the day value your results and take a gratitude approach. Nurture yourself in a positive way of thinking.