it's not actually cursed.

hi. i'm Felix and i'm probably cursed. 30. he/him only. [[+18 IC RP blog. Main: theaccursedamulet]]

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[hungry-skeleton]

Genuinely so mad that cuddling is seen as a strictly romantic thing that's so stupid cuddling is awesome and two consenting platonic pals should be allowed to cuddle as much as they want

[wildestlovers]

embarrassment is the cost of entry.

if you aren't willing to look like a foolish beginner, you'll never become a graceful master.

[theclassicsreader]

crazy how much i could get done if i didn't have "doesn't want to do things" disorder

[nocturnal-stims]

Baby void

🐈‍⬛️ Blackcatlovereclub on IG

[only-cat-memes]

[kroovv]

Please enjoy this snail measuring tape i got at a garadge sale today

[yellow-cat]

(voice of a person spiralling) its embarrassing but i still havent figured out if its ok for me to be alive

[thisisalovestry]

file -> phrases that are going to shift something in me forever

[insomniparty]

[rxttingcorpse]

[probuccalfat]

for a while now i’ve been learning that some people kind of choose to hate themselves like you can give them tools and resources and advice and they’ll even follow some of it and go “i still hate myself” and i feel strongly at that point they’re kind of choosing to stay in that mindset because it’s comfortable and familiar or something but some people are truly [gotye voice] addicted to a certain kind of sadness and hooked on feeling low

[probuccalfat]

you really do have to trick and teach your brain to stop catastrophizing and seeking out negative bias and like trust me i know how it sounds but if you wake up in the morning and say “it’s so shitty out i don’t wanna get up or do anything” your brain will Believe that and make it so. for months i had to force myself to follow up self-defeating thoughts with reasons why it’s still going to be a good day and what’s going good for me so i could teach my brain to work in the opposite direction and it works. takes a while and feels fake the whole time but you wake up one day and realize you actually really love yourself and there’s so much going for you and you can do everything you always wanted

[hidden671254839]

Hope I'm adding instead of derailing:

I struggled with this so hard, trying to push some positive into my view even though my brain kept coming back to negative. Turns out I couldn't process happiness because my brain's natural chemicals were SCREWED.

So if you keep trying but it's not working, please don't blame yourself! You aren't "doing it wrong" or "not trying hard enough" or whatever excuse your brain gives for it to be your fault. Look into antidepressants and then KEEP TRYING (therapy can help with maintaining effort).

[valentineish]

This is such an important point. Navigation of your mental health should not feel like repeatedly running into a brick wall. If you're struggling to live with yourself despite your efforts, that is a good sign to seek additional help and tools.

Sometimes, that will mean trying new or different psychiatric medications. That can mean talk therapy, or EMDR, or CBT homework. Occasionally, it will require some testing through your doctor, and starting care for an underlying health problem (many of which can involve psychoemotional distuption as a symptom). And it will always, always involve getting the people around you involved.

Because ultimately, the hard work of self-growth does have to include other people. Trying to do this shit alone is part of how many get stuck for years. Your loved ones have to know you're struggling. You have to be able to trust that they will challenge you while wanting the best for you. You have to have a hand back up sometimes, or a shoulder to cry on, or just arms to hold you. And sometimes, you will need to get professional help reinforce that support network in a very particular way.

Keep at it, and don't do it alone.

[fangs-4-fags]

my favorite thing about crocodiles is yeah they're fantastic swimmers and yeah they can run pretty fast and yeah the smaller ones can even climb trees but also. they don't wanna do any of that shit. they just go no, no thanks. that's not for me. i think i'll just wait for someone to mistake me for a log and get too close. and then i'll eat them. many reptiles love this strategy but none pull it off like the humble croc

[angelicdewdrop]

[softchad]

[memesupremo]

[herpsandbirds]

Ovenbird (Seiurus aurocapilla), family Parulidae, order Passeriformes, Alabama, USA

This species is not related to South American Ovenbirds (family Furnariidae), but is instead in the New World/Wood Warbler family Parulidae.

The common name comes from the oven-shaped ground nest they make, which is domed, and constructed of woven together plant materials (such as grasses and pine needles).

photograph by Robin Rudd

[duckbunny]

don't infantilise yourself. you are not a child who needs an adult to make your decisions for you. you are a splendid and magnificent autocrat and you are consulting your trusted advisors. you are exercising great wisdom by inviting an expert to give their opinion before making your ruling. often the path of wisdom is to say "good morning, I'm trying to [perform task] and I have a question about [aspect], can you tell me who I should speak to for advice?" before you do it. sometimes the path of wisdom is to hire a plumber. there are times when you cannot do things for yourself but that doesn't mean you are not an adult. you don't need a grown-up. you need a specialist.

[duckbunny]

this has come up a couple of times so let me be really really clear:

the path of wisdom is sometimes to hire a plumber.

the path of wisdom is always to hire an electrician.

[ceruleanheaven]

i am always one wrong word away from being shot by all the people who find me tolerable