L.J. LaBree

[expressions-of-nature]

by Ville Kotimaki

[expressions-of-nature]

by Roman Heger

[sickbitterandcoveredinglitter]

Like a month ago I messaged a craft group about accessibility for wheelchairs and the answer I got was “there’s a lot of stairs but we have cute boys who can carry you”. And it’s…not good. As a wheelchair bound person I largely depend on people when I want to go out and do *anything* so I’m used to it, I laugh it off, make an annoyed post about it and off I go. But I wanna just say a thing real quick.

Even if I wasn’t gay, wasn’t a survivor scared of men, getting help as a disabled person is just…Not a pleasant thing to us! Imagine for a sec how you’d feel being carried up a flight of stairs. You’re a grown person. You’re being touched in an awkward way. You’d rather do it yourself. You’re So Uncomfortable. It’s not where I look for the beginning of a romantic relationship. So like…could abled people stop doing this thing where they think helping us in a condescending and infantilizing way is cute? Cause I’m real tired. Just get me a ramp or lift and I’m cool. I don’t need a dating service when I’m just trying to go about my day

[sickbitterandcoveredinglitter]

If you’re abled please reblog it cause like…the more ppl knows the better

[aceangelamethyst]

We need to do better. More buildings need accommodations and better access. Being in a wheelchair doesn't make you less human. Just a different form of travel.

[baraphalloplastyclinic]

I actually do think we should discourage women from becoming housewives. Do not become financially dependent on a man. That's how a lot of women ended up dead over the years. A man gets violent suddenly and you have to choose between homelessness or potentially dying at his hand because you have an enormous gap in your resume and no degrees or certifications or anything that will help you pursue a career that will allow you to be financially independent. He owns your bank account. His name is probably the one on the car. Try and leave and he can report it stolen. Where will you go then?

Don't become a housewife.

[ladyfoxfire]

And if you do become a housewife, take steps to protect yourself. Make sure you’re legally married, for starters; stay-at-home girlfriends have very little legal recourse to claim their partner’s assets in a breakup. Make sure your name is on the house deed/rental agreement, and have your car in your name, even if your spouse is paying for it. Have your spouse transfer money every month into an account solely in your name, so you can buy yourself things without needing permission, but also so you can save up to leave if needed.

If your spouse fights you on any of this, then don’t quit your job. The tradwife to poverty pipeline is real, and so is financial abuse.

[dressedupliketheking]

also, many women/people experience controlling behaviour and domestic violence from their partner for the first time during pregnancy. don’t risk thinking “he’s just stressed, it’ll get better when the baby comes” because it won’t. neither you and your child will ever be safe with that man. get out as early and safely as you can

[aceangelamethyst]

Being grateful for how life currently is does not mean I have to stick with it for all eternity...

Gratefulness does not equal Contentedness

[kosmogrl]

[kosmogrl]

[my-dailydreams]

[calvinandhobbescomic]

[under-the-arch]

No, Calvin was right

[distributing-direwolves]

Calvin was 100% right.

[turtletotem]

You’ll notice Miss Wormwood didn’t disagree, just gave him advice on how to handle the pain.

[the-book-ferret]

BLOOD MAGIC SEEPS INTO SHERWOOD FOREST IN THIS LUSH, GENDER-BENT REIMAGINING OF ROBIN HOOD.

In the kingdom of Loxley, the crown princess Renna hides treasonous magic in her veins, praying that her private blood tithes to the official church will keep her power dormant. When the High Sheriff of Nottingham returns from the war, he is far from the arrogant, brash sparring partner she remembers. His eyes, while still devastatingly handsome, are now haunted. The torment he endured at the hands of the enemy has forged him into a ruthless weapon—and he’s reigniting the hunt for witches like Renna. 

Everyone knows Sherwood Forest means death, be it killed by outlaws, strangled by tree roots, or eaten by witch-spawned demons. No one faithful to the almighty goddess would willingly enter the woods. It’s only when Renna’s vedra blood is exposed, forcing her to flee, that she discovers the truth: Sherwood Forest is nothing like they’ve been taught. 

With its pockets of ever-blooming spring, a clever fox companion, and a merry band of outlaws, Renna is more at peace in the woods than she ever was in the palace. But soon the trees whisper of a growing evil that threatens both Sherwood and Loxley. And while Renna no longer has a crown, perhaps she can defend them all by wearing a hood. 

Book one in the Renna Hood Dulogy. Perfect for fans of One Dark Window, The Foxglove King, and The Witcher. With romance simmering between enemies, elemental magic, archery, and Nordic and Slavic folklore inspiration, this epic fantasy romance steeped in delightful Robin Hood lore will have you singing oo-de-lally.

[idiot-haul]

Why is it referred to as coming out of the closet? 

[idiot-haul]

It could be coming out of anything. What wasted potential.

[idiot-haul]

Coming out of my cage and I’ve been doing just guys

[kingohats]

#if you want the pedantic answer bc I’ve actually researched this for my thesis#there doesn’t seem to be a for sure agreed upon origin of the phrase BUUUUUT#it seems to be a combo of two earlier phrases ‘coming out’ and ‘skeletons in the closet’#coming out started to be used by gay men in 1920s new york bc a “coming out” was the 1st time a debutante would debut into the dating scene#so gay men would have their “coming out” when they first went onto the gay dating scene#a skeleton in your closet is a shameful/dirty secret that would often only be revealed once a person died#for a lot of queer people their queerness was something they literally took to the grave#so being ‘in the closet’ meant you were the skeleton in your closet#I couldn’t find an exact confirmation of when the phrases began to be combined but it seems to be around early 1970s gay liberation movemen#at the time a popular protest chant was ‘out of the closet and into the streets’#which I think also helped to popularize the term#I’m putting all this in the tags bc I realize this is a silly post that is meant as a joke and I didn’t wanna ruin the punchline#but I also wanted to provide an answer for those who were curious

[important-cat-pics]

[vikingfunerals]

the commodification of friendship is the most annoying thing to come out of the internet in ages. like actually i love to break this to you but you're supposed to help your friends move even if it's hard work. or stay up with them when they're sad even if you're gonna lose sleep. you're supposed to listen to their fears and sorrows even if it means your own mind takes on a little bit of that weight. that's how you know that you care. they will drive you to the airport and then you will make them soup when they're sick. you're supposed to make small sacrifices for them and they are supposed to do that for you. and there's actually gonna be rough patches for both of you where the balance will be uneven and you will still be friends and it will not be unhealthy and they will not be abusive. life is not meant to be an endless prioritization of our own comfort if it was we would literally never get anywhere ever. jesus.

[satanhaus-deactivated20220217]

yo does anyone else feel CONSTANTLY guilty? like you’ve always done something wrong but you don’t know what it is?

[why-am-i-even-on-here]

Yes, and I’ve spoken to my therapist about it, who offered an explanation:

She says that people who from a young age were made to feel like they kept doing things wrong - people who’s parents had impossibly high standards for them, people who were bullied, people who have special needs, people who didn’t develop crushes on the “right” people, people who didn’t act like the “right” gender - basically ended up being made to feel guilty so much that guilt became their default response to everything. Guilt became the emotional response to anything which the person didn’t already have a set emotion for.

People for whom guilt is the default emotional response are also more likely to have low self-esteem, doubt their own experiences, and experience impostor syndrome. So, watch out for that too guys

[josphitia]

Unlearning this is a bitch

[tigergirltail]

It is indeed a bitch, but it CAN be done and it is SO worth it.

[the-haiku-bot]

It is indeed a

bitch, but it CAN be done and

it is SO worth it.

Beep boop! I look for accidental haiku posts. Sometimes I mess up.

[anarchistmemedistro]

[scribefindegil]

Tips for baking with brain fog

Brain fog in the kitchen can mean anything from forgetting an ingredient to accidentally skipping a recipe step, plus much more. Here's how to bake successfully, even when you're feeling foggy.

A useful article from King Arthur Flour (my beloved) on baking while disabled.

[capt-coffeebitch]

This genuinely might make me cry. I already deeply appreciate King Arthur for making the best GF 1 for 1 flour. And having good recipes. But an article posted by them from someone with disabilities about how to do the thing even with disabilities? That’s just genuinely lovely. I know that my bad there is low, but it’s low for a reason and hopefully stuff like this can continue to raise that bar for disabled people like me.

[ilsa-fireswan]

I love to see this! Another of my favorites is the baking with arthritis post.

Tips for baking with arthritis and other hand-related chronic pain

With some changes to techniques, a careful selection of kitchen tools, and tips from fellow bakers, the joy of baking can live on.

[ilsa-fireswan]

Check out this great addition from the notes!

[image text: @system-splintered says: My grandmother started having severe memory issues a couple years before she passed, and her husband laminated her recipes and got her whiteboard markers so she could mark off things she did. It let her bake for a lot longer than she would have been able to otherwise. End.]

[cricketcat9]

if anyone needs it ☝🏼💖

[valerie-an]

do you ever want to gently float up to someone and whisper “this isn’t a debate; i am actually educated on the subject and i’m telling you you’re wrong”

Yes and I would also like to gently float in general.

[valerie-an]

this is the most positive addition that has ever been made on my post

[worldheritagepostorganization]

World Heritage Post