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(Updated: March 13th 2025)

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about me: im female, 27(1998), half nigerian and half russian born in russia, moved to england when i was 11 i speak russian, english and learning croatian audhd

my hobbies & interests: art, painting, reading, writing, mixing, curating music, photography, trail running, dancing, making people laugh, exploring new locations, interior design & architecture, true crime, matcha lattes, yoga, crying, learning notes and music theory, fucking things up to fix in later, connecting the dots and recognising patterns, psychology and sociology, history and media studies

music: night tapes, blk odyssy, srtemas,amaria, dj heartstring, steve lacy, yebba, upper90, essel, tame impala, sir, funk tribu, mareux, sophie woodhouse, fontaines d.c., junko yagami, megra, do not resurrect, angel vox, deftones, imogen heap, skeler, locked club, ic3peak, gullyspit, mazzy star, chlar, mac demarco, ll coolj, city morgue, zillakami, don toliver, the drums, beach house, crumb, little dragon, sneaker pimps, the doors, jeffersin airplane, ten year after, blue oyster cult, smoke city, poertishead, suicideboys, bones, aquanote, ramirez, freddie dredd, c.h.a.y., boris brejcha, southstar, the beloved, new order, the smiths, slowdive, sampha, linking park, guano apes, surrenderdorothy, red hot chilli peppers, gorillas, Paramore, muse, baugruppe90, yvncc, ronen, wolf alice, stef mendesidis, mac declos...

movies: frantz, eternal sunshine of the spotless mind, lilya 4ever, requem for a dream, no country for old men, pearl, poor things, x, the grand budapest hotel, matrix, mirror 1974, titanic, natural born killers, domino, house of wax, the hills have eyes, bridge to terabithia, taxi driver, girl, interrupted, Pleasantville, but I'm a cheerleader, buffalo 66, leon, wolf of the wall street, blade runner 1982, pulp fiction, dracula has risen from the grave 1968, lolita, the red shoes 1948, black swan, I origin, virgin suicides, nostalgia 1983, paprika, the boy and the heron, the boy in the stripped pajamas, kikis delivery service, spirited away...

books: a piece of cake, battle royale, invisible women, inferno, lud in the mist, the fourth turning, the eye, being mortal, Norwegian wood, master & margarita, the idiot, siddhartha, all that remains, the Mahabharata, tales from a thousand and one night, the biology of good and evil, the alchemist, the romance of reality, the overstory, the rape of the mind, the revolution of hope, do androids dream of electric sheep, tao te cging, the denial of death, the bell jar, the book of five rings, the art of war, the geography of thought, require, for a dream, klara and sun, 1q84, salmonella men on planet porno, solaris, the second sex, the anatomy of human destructiveness, the courage of hopelessness, the castle, the trial, the seventh function of the tongue, psychocybernetics, the romantic ethic and the spirit of modern consumerism, neurosis and human growth, the women's liberation movement in russia 1860-1930, the epic of Gilgamesh, beyond good and evil, to kill a ockingbird, 1984, animal farm, the philosophy of chance, the loser, midnight in Chernobyl, the institute, the dreamseller...

tv shows: breaking bad, prison break, orange is the new black, dubai bling, singles inferno, rick anf morty, arcane, inside job, bojack horesman, 13 reasons why, sex education, baby reindeer, skins, the end of fucking world, squid game, mask girl, narcos, queen gambit, the office, dexter, stranger things, ratchet

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ADHD and rejection sensitivity tips & notes

miscommunication might feel like a personal rejection, experiencing hype-vigilance toward partner reactions.

neurologically adhd reacts differently when social feedback is perceived as negative. the brain literally magnifies signals of social threat, even from subtle cues - tone of voice, delayed response, minor critisim.

IMPORTANT:

intense emotional pain doesn't meal objective truth

avoid impulse emotinal reactions and behaviours even if you feel like getting something out of your system feels freeing or like defendin ones ego.

express emotions journaling or record yourself and do not post or send it to anyone. save it as a progress for future review, analysing biases for future growth. repeat each time when sweeped with intrusive and compelling feelings

learn to verbalise feelings without blame and try to not escalate emotions: "i feel anxious, can we clarify expectations? i feel emotional because this is important, i need a moment to calm down"

journal: list 1-3 things you survived, overcame emotionally

pre plan your responses strategies, grounding techniques.

time delay gives prefrontal cortex a chance to regain control - therfore, strenghthening it

focus on physical sensations rather than judgements, labeling sensation reduces escalation

self discarge:

*cry *shake the tension physically *shout in the pillow *write

set clear expectations and boundaries to everyone: "i need clear communication, i need direct communication, i need specific answer or thought"

And remember:

adhd + rs is amplified in high-conflict, high-uncertainty relationships so seek partners and relationships that are explicit, consistent and calm. avoid emotional ambiguity, ambivalence, inexactness where possible

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Why 99.9% help sources for adhd online are useless?

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I’m convinced that men that hate gays and just simply homophobic had been molested jn some way

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by Armando Veve

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Statue of Princess and Priestess Takushit at the National Archaeological Museum of Athens

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Jewel Book of the Duchess Anna of Bavaria (1550s)

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anouk de groot

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theater of the mind

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Your solitude is someone’s dream

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So the whole life is about resisting against your weaknesses? And what happens when you get tired of constant resistance and just want to experience? Just live and feel some sense of enjoyment from existence instead of only resisting and suffering from the constraints of your nature

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Every time I try to heal myself from depression and do all these therapies, work outs and meditations I feel accomplished but empty and then I ask myself? Why am I doing it all of if I feel empty? If I just drift through life waiting for my end day. I’m greatful for everything but I really don’t see the point in trying to be when I feel like an alien. I cannot enjoy socialising, sharing, being with people , working. I feel like I’m forcing a life upon myself and everyday is just empty. And of course good things happen but I always get back to this feeling. I don’t understand why I should keep myself suffering for the family who’s happy. Isn’t that selfish? And how do I keep pushing when I really can’t imagine living, even dread it

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Supplements and adaptogens for adhd:

*thank me later*

red ginseng 1000mg

rhodiola Rosea

lion’s mane

ginkgo biloba

ashwagandha

(withania somnifera)

Bacopa Monnieri

L-Theanine

L-tyrosine

Rhodiola Rosea is a powerful adaptogen which has been studied on those with ADHD for its effect on brain functioning and shown to increase levels of the neurotransmitters serotonin, dopamine and norepinephrine and increase alertness. It’s also been shown to support attention, memory, and mental fatigue

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Bacopa has demonstrated beneficial effects on cognitive performance, verbal learning, delayed word recall, memory acquisition, and decreasing anxiety

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L-Theanine able to elevate brain concentrations of GABA, serotonin and dopamine, three very important neurotransmitters that regulate mood disorders like anxiety, depression and attention deficit hyperactivity disorder

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[shisasan]

April 28, 1966 Anne Sexton: A Self-Portrait in Letters First published: 1977