I feel like I need to say this post, and hell i'm probably going to pin it for a while. I am not going to be specific with what I am talking about, it is a sensitive topic, that a lot of people have strong personal feelings about. what I want out of this is for people to be able to take a deep breath calm down, and just, talk. this post is merely going to state the series of believe that make me believe what I do. if you disagree with any of these points your allowed to block me, or hell this is tumblr, you are allowed to simply going into my askbox and tell me what you think. what I believe is that the material Harm of actions you willing partake in is more important then a person's emotions. essentially I believe that there is wrong action but not wrong thought. this does not mean I am fine with things like fascism or racism, I quit strongly object to that. but rather that if your feelings arent contributing to the active suffering of others it does not matter. this ties into my second belief, which is that people do not have control over what they are attracted to, this should be easy to understand for a lot of queer people, we don't choose to be queer we simply are. I simply believe that this is true for all forms of attraction. this segues into my next belief which is is that I believe two fully consenting parties should be allowed to have a relationship with each other regardless of outside factors. along with that I believe that shame and self hatred is never a good emotional state to put someone into, not because I think people dont do bad things, but rather I think shame and self hatred are more likely to perpetuate cycles of self harm and suicidality and reduces the ability to grow as a person. and finally, I believe that accepting that any group is truly Bad and deserving of suffering is wrong. because as shown time and time again, those with power who wish harm to the vulnerable will simply stretch whatever definition of The Bad Group this is, to include all they consider undesirables. when reading this post you may be thinking of groups that disgust you or who have harmed you, and as a result believe are truly a group which is deserving of suffering. what I will say is that I accept that your pain is real. and that the person who causes you harm is not a person I would call Good, but that the paragraph above still applies to people like the people you hurt you. if someone who was Harmed by a queer person said that all Queer people were Evil, we'd agree that the harm they suffered was real but that one example doesnt make a whole yes? even if the one example you have is extremely personal and emotionally damaging. I think that will be all for tonight, if you have any disagreements with me but was willing to read all this, I would be happy to discuss to discuss what you disagree with. and if you have read all of this and agree. I would say please reblog. even if this isnt the original post!
