Stop going back and fourth with the 3D because the only reality is your imagination. Your 3D may seem real because that is how you’ve been conditioned & programmed to perceive.
Your 3D world is a projection of your consciousness and that’s it. Your consciousness is the one and only reality.
This means reacting to your 3D(outer world) is only reacting to shadows, you are reacting to yesterdays, last weeks, last months, last years thoughts and assumptions. Whatever you see before you, you placed here. That can be a big pill to swallow, but once you truly understand this concept is when you can bring about change.
Because consciousness is your only reality, that means your 3D is very navigational and malleable. Nothing is set in stone and if a certain circumstance arises, know that you have the power to change it.
But how do I change it?
Well, now you know your consciousness is the only reality and your 3D(outer world) is a reflection of your past thoughts and assumptions, which means this was allll done inwardly. Your solution is to go inwardly, whether that be in your thoughts, visualisation, inner conversations - you decide how that situation is going to go. This can also be known as revision on the spot.
For example: you are lacking in the relationship department and you and your SP keep having arguments.
You would affirm the opposite of that situation,
“me and SP have a loving relationship”
“me and SP always get along”
And your situation would have to conform to your affirmations, because YOUR THOUGHTS CREATE YOUR REALITY. 
Depending on the type of person you are, you will have to persist in these affirmations until you see it reflected, if you are a visual sort of person construct a scene that imply you and your SP are getting along.
The time frame depends on how much you react to the 3D or not, because you cannot serve two states at the same time. You can’t react and rant about how badly your SP treats you or how much you argue and then try to affirm for the opposite, this will just delay your process.
So STOP reacting to the dead shadow world, you’re not doing yourself any favours. Put on your boss act, and show yourself you’re more than capable.
