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[thepersonalwords]

““I’m going to tell you something: thoughts are never honest. Emotions are.” - Albert Camus ”

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[aidashakur]

Forgiving people in silence and never speaking to them again is a form of self care.

[loni-del-rey]

My therapist gave me a sheet of paper with a list of legitimate rights. We seem to forget we have these rights sometimes, so I thought I’d share it.

YOUR LEGITIMATE RIGHTS

You have a right to need things from others. 

You have a right to put yourself first sometimes.

You have a right to feel and express your emotions or your pain.

You have a right to be the final judge of your beliefs and accept them as legitimate.

You have the right to your opinions and convictions.

You have the right to your experience - even if it’s different from that of other people.

You have a right to protest any treatment or criticism that feels bad to you.

You have a right to negotiate for change.

You have a right to ask for help, emotional support, or anything else you need (even though you may not always get it).

You have a right to say no; saying no doesn’t make you bad or selfish.

You have a right not to justify yourself to others.

You have a right not to take responsibility for someone else’s problem.

You have a right to choose not to respond to a situation.

You have a right, sometimes, to inconvenience or disappoint others.

[asoftwrongness]

Never let an artist paint you nice and pretty in their head

[open]

[dharmarainbow]

“If you’re in a toxic or unhealthy relationship, remember that while it’s NEVER okay for someone to treat someone else poorly, you chose (and continue to choose) to be in that relationship. You’re also choosing, right now, whether or not to set boundaries, say enough’s enough, or walk away. Choose wisely and always look out for yourself.”

— Stephenie Zamora

[phdmama]

Note to self

No is a complete sentence.

“Because I don’t want to” is a legitimate reason.

That other people are upset by your boundaries does not make your boundaries wrong.

[polyamorouscultureis]

[gentleaffirmations]

[faronmckenzie]

Toxic people will make you feel like you’re holding a grudge. No, dude. That’s a boundary.

[gahdamnpunk]

I know lots of people who struggle with this. Maybe some of you will find it useful too 💕

[bl-letters-i-never-sent-deactiv]

“Please don’t ever stay with the wrong person based on the fear of how much it will hurt to leave, especially when you know it’s the right thing to do, when you know eventually you will be much happier without him”

— B.L letters I never sent (via bl-letters-i-never-sent)

[aleeeeeeeene]

“Sometimes you just have to let people go. You come to a point where it’s painful to hold on any longer, so you have to make a choice. Is the pain worth it? And sometimes it is, but most of the time it’s not. You have to tell yourself that love shouldn’t be causing you that much pain, and you just keep telling yourself that until you believe it.”

— (via londonfromparis)

[aleeeeeeeene]

“You have to trust that whatever happens, you’ll cope. I think sometimes we’re so busy clinging to the present that we don’t lift our heads so see what might be out there. We think safe is what we know, but sometimes the unknown turns out to be the better option.”

— Sarah Morgan, Sleepless in Manhattan (via wordsnquotes)

[vollenden-deactivated20250930]

“Just be the best you can be. And if you can do that, fuck, man, I think we’ll be all right.”

— Frank Iero

[thepersonalquotes]

[ipoetried]

listen to yourself and watch your language. instead of saying “sorry for ranting”, say “thank you for listening to me”. instead of saying “sorry that i am overemotional”, say “thank you for trying to understand something difficult”. instead of saying “sorry if i am a burden”, say “thank you for the time and energy you invest in our friendship”. good things will come when you realize you are not an apology.