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Cloudward Ho Poem in music
I wrote a song-thingy inspired by the season, based on the cloudward ho poem, thought i'd share for anyone interested.
It's entirely written by me, other than the words to the poem, so please share only with credit to me. Thanks!
View on Flat: Cloudward, Ho! Poem by Valk
Recovering from autistic burnout as a high-masking adult:
To recover, you literally need to manually learn skills that most people learn as a toddler
You need to learn what makes your body uncomfortable, and what to do to fix it
If you are high-masking, that usually means that you have learned to ignore every distress signal your body sends unless it is a distress signal that a neurotypical person would recognize. People have likely been unintentionally gaslighting you about your lived experience your entire life
If you feel bad or panicked for no reason, stop and try to pay attention to your body. Are you tense? You are likely feeling physical pain somewhere. If you've been gaslit about your pain your entire life, you might not be able to identify it.
Go through a sensory checklist.
SIGHT: Try closing and covering your eyes. If this gives you relief, the lights are probably too bright. You may also need differently-colored lights
SOUND: Cover your ears. Does this give you relief? If so, you may need earplugs or noise canceling headphones. You may also benefit from a neutral or pleasant background noise, like soft music or brown noise.
TOUCH: Are your clothes uncomfortable? Your chair? Your body? Do you feel greasy, like you need a shower? Do you need softer, sensory-friendly clothing?
TASTE: Do you need to brush your teeth or tongue? Would chewing on something help?
SMELL: Is there a strong or unpleasant smell in the room? Do you need to clean or empty a trash can? Would an air purifier help? Would a pleasant smell like a candle help?
INTEROCEPTION: Are you hungry? Thirsty? Tired? How is your posture? Are any of your muscles tight or sore? Scan your body slowly from head to feet, tensing and loosening each group of muscles. Going for a walk or doing a series of quick stretches may help a lot.
Learning how to do this stuff is not intuitive, if you've had an entire lifetime of gaslighting telling you that everything hurting you isn't a big deal and you're being dramatic over nothing.
This takes time, it takes work, it's not intuitive, and it's hard. Most people forget how hard it is, because they learned this as toddlers.
If you want to recover, you need to relearn your whole body. And get over your idea of "normal" and just wear the damn sunglasses and put on the headphones. If people stare, fuck em. You're disabled and they can deal with that.
to all y’all graduating, finishing a semester, thinking about starting school, leaving school, looking for a job, working, resting, improving, or trying every day to do whatever you can to be the person you want to be… I’m so proud of you, and I hope you are proud of yourself. it hasn’t been easy, but here you are, and you’re doing so good. I love you, keep it up, I know you can do this
Heated Rivalry Analysis and Discussion: Autism
I'll start off by saying this is all my opinion. As a person with a touch of the tism the representation in this show meant a lot to me and here's why.
Spectrum
By now I think it's safe to say most people know that autism is a spectrum, unfortunately that is so often overlooked in media. It's either the viewer seeing how the character behaves and reading them as being on the spectrum (usually not what the writer was going for) or being towards the extreme end. What makes Heated Rivalry so good on this topic is that Shane was purposefully written/acted to be autistic, it wasn't just chance. The team put in the work to represent the community without ever making it into some kind of joke. Usually when people purposefully add an autistic character into their stories their presentation of it is dialed up to 11. So often the character can't function in society on their own and need a "straight man"/caretaker. Heated Rivalry doesn't do that, does Shane have challenges due to his autism that make life harder for him? Yes, at times, but he is never seen as incompetent or unintelligent.
Super Power
Another thing common in the few autistic characters we do get is that it's treated as some type of super power. It automatically makes you a genius (Big Bang Theory, Good Doctor, Rain Man, Ect) but it doesn't. That's not to say you can't be a genius and autistic but they don't automatically go hand in hand like so much media portrays it to be. It is often treated like some kind of cheat to greatness.
The real "Super Power" of Autism is that it can lead to a person having hyper fixations (you can have them without being autistic or due to other neurodivergances). This causes a person to focus and invest more time/energy into a subject or skill. And as the saying goes "Practice makes Perfect". They are still putting all the time and dedication it would take anyone else but their brain has an easier time finding joy/curiosity in a task related to said fixation.
Autism also sometimes presents as a love/need for strict routines/schedules. And if you know anything about top level athletes is that they need such discipline to be at the pinnacle of their sport.
So yes, Shane Hollander does likely have a hyper fixation on Hockey but that's not a cheat for greatness. He still put in the blood/sweat/tears to get to where he is and it's not because he's autistic, that's just a small part of who he is and factors into how he interacts with the world around him.
Physical Weakness
So often autistic characters are written to be physical weak (nerd stereotypes ect). Another thing that makes HR so good is that Shane is a very strong man. I can only think of a few characters who were written to be autistic who were physically strong and even then most of those characters were "too strong for their own good" or "didn't know their own strength" and often lead to them hurting people. That's not the case here. Shane is an elite athlete in peak health, he also 100% knows just how strong he is. He also is completely capable of controlling himself and we never see him using that strength to hurt someone.
Undiagnosed
This section ties into my earlier point on characters only ever being seen as high on the spectrum or viewers attributing autism onto a character.
Autism is probably far more common than we know and many people go undiagnosed until they are adults or are never diagnosed at all. So the choice to have it never be brought up in the show was a good mirror for real life while still providing true representation by having the crew/cast/producers openly say that Shane is autistic.
Socialization
His portrayal represents so much of what is many autistic people's reality. While Shane does have certain challenges/struggles surrounding his diagnosis because no one knows he is autistic (some might suspect) other characters' understanding that comes with knowing someone is struggling is absent. Where he might just have a hard time connecting with other people, other characters might see him as cold and standoffish.
Being undiagnosed means that no one makes accommodations for him. We see this in how characters tend to jokingly make fun of his dislike for going out. I can't say for sure but if some of the characters around him knew what he was going through they might have gone out of their way to make such meet ups easier on him.
The few characters we see who seem to truly be Shane's friends go out of their way to make life easier for him (Both Ilya and Hayden having ginger ale for him, for example).
"Meltdown"
The few times we do see Shane openly struggle with his autism they aren't overplayed. They aren't these huge screaming/crying/hurting yourself things. Yes, there are autistic people who experience such extremes but once again autism is a spectrum. When Shane does get overwhelmed it is something only characters who are really paying attention/care for him notice. A great example of this is at the end of The Cottage where he puts his head down on the table. It's not made into this huge dramatic scene, it's still happening but the people who love him know how to help him and do.
Sexuality
This is probably the most important point in my eyes. I don't think I've ever seen a purposefully portrayed autistic character who is allowed to be a sexual being. So often autistic characters are infantilized and/or seen as too socially inept to have sex and when they are it is made into this weird joke (Sheldon and Amy's sex life in the Big Bang Theory for example). HR allows Shane to be a person who has sex but also is autistic instead of an autistic person having sex. The difference is extreme.
Yes I've heard HR described as just smut (I strongly disagree) but even if it was I would praise it to high heavens just for the fact it let's Shane Hollander be the sexual icon he is. His character is allowed to have sex, allowed to feel sexy and have other characters see him as sexy and most importantly we are allowed to see him as sexy. Hell, we are encouraged to.
In his first sex scene we see him fold his pants and then walk towards the bed like he knows he's the shit. Ilya laughs at the pants folding not in mockery but in fondness and he still thinks that man is hot like burning.
In Summary: Let autistic characters get their freak on.
Episode Analysis Master List
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Discussion: Yuna Hollander
This is a reminder for those who handmake Christmas presents that now is not too early to start. It may in fact be a good time to start if you have a lot to make/your craft takes a long time. You should maybe start it now, whether that's brainstorming or actually doing the crafts!
Translating this into tumblr's preferred public service announcement format for this kind of alert:
Jan the calender part 4
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they're still terming random transfems as i type this i see which does make quite a statement doing this today specifically
watched three girls who reblogged its new blog mutual aidpost (made literally 15 minutes ago) already disappear from its notifs. transfems are not included in their pride :/
QUITE the statement to be nuking transfems at the current accelerated pace right at the start of pride month like this, isn't it
@staff @tumblr @changes stop doing this shit
Yet another new study debunked the basis for the anti-trans sports bans. It was never about sports but for creating legal avenues for exclusion and abjection. This is one of the largest analyses ever conducted, involving 52 studies and 6,485 trans people. Read the study here.
post so nice had to reblog it twice and force it down everyone's throats
At minimum about 4.5 thousand people liked this without reblogging it.
We gotta fix that.
https://www.tumblr.com/twopoppies/816696794938589184/loads-of-people-are-tweeting-that-their-tickets
Gina, they are moving people but I’m not sure if it’s certain blocks or how many tickets were bought. My friend had 8 tickets in block 406 and all 8 have been moved to 103 on 17th May for ‘production reasons’. Weirdly tickets for 406 are still on sale tho
Oh, that’s wild. Thanks for letting us know!
(sorry mod, ik ben rijkelijk te laat met deze vraag)
Wat vind je van de beslissing van Nederland om niet deel te nemen aan het Eurovisiesongfestival en ga je zelf kijken?
Goede beslissing, ik kijk niet
Goede beslissing, ik kijk wel
Slechte beslissing, ik kijk niet
Slechte beslissing, ik kijk wel
Geen mening
Wat vind je van de beslissing van Nederland om niet deel te nemen aan het Eurovisiesongfestival en ga je zelf kijken?
Goede beslissing, ik kijk niet
Goede beslissing, ik kijk wel
Slechte beslissing, ik kijk niet
Slechte beslissing, ik kijk wel
Geen mening
OK lads but. Why is the r slur coming back. It's 2026. Why am I hearing so many of The Youth use this word liberally and at whim. Do you need me to ground you. Do I need to sit you on the naughty step. Do you need me to strap you into the Learning Chair and deliver a 4 hour lecture about the history of the r slur, ableism, and why using that word is neither big nor cool. Or do you just need me to punch you in the mouth.
And I'm being so for real right now: most people I see using this are self-described progressives who would literally cry themselves to the point of atomic dissolution if they were accused in the online town square of being Not That Woke Actually, so like, maybe stop using the ableist slur to try and seem edgy and cool and acerbic, because it's super fucking weird to see you all post your pithy little paragraphs of Marxist commentary to your blog called Capitalism Kills or Postfeminist Rants or whatever, and then tie it all up with a nice big fuck you to disabled people.
There are so many better words and phrases you could be using to describe your nemeses that don't carry the weight of centuries of eugenics. For example: you're all acting like a bunch of crusty teatowels and you need to do better, else I shall be forced to unplug your WiFi and put your phone in the microwave.
#it's coming back for the same reasons as the OG rise of modern eugenics #authoritarian politics + financial downturn + pandemic + national orientation toward total war #= the need for the elimination of the 'burdensome' disabled other and superstructural justification for it (via librarycards)
I love dandelions!
*puts a dandelion in your hair*
Reblog to put a dandelion in prev's hair
i feel so seen!!
(twitter thread)
Examining 'gender detachment' in the asexual community
Saving @derinthescarletpescatarian 's tags because I just like the way they are worded.
This is so cool
This is so validating because the respondents in this paper are saying some of the same things I've been feeling and thinking for years.
I'm asexual. I figured that out not long after I first came across the term in high school. But figuring out my gender took a lot longer. I didn't really think about my gender identity for years, it wasn't until I was in college that I started trying to figure out what my gender was. That process took years.
I didn't really feel attached to my assigned gender, but I also didn't feel the gender dysphoria that trans people described. I didn't particularly feel like I was neither of those either. For a long time, I honestly didn't feel like any of the gender descriptions and identities I was coming across really fit. I just didn't care that much about what my actual gender was. Eventually I decided upon the agender label as that seemed the most apt. As the paper says, it's really hard to be truly without gender in this highly gendered world. Agender is a way of defining myself in a way that people who experience gender might be able to understand when "I'm just me." isn't really an acceptable answer to the "what's your gender?" question.
I don't mind being perceived as a gender, none of them are offensive to me. While I do like when I am perceived as male or at least not female, I think that more has to do with growing up female and not wanting to be pushed into traditional female roles and values than a connection or repulsion to any gender. I'm impossible to misgender because I frankly don't care.
Honestly, the biggest problem I have with my gender, is trying to define it to people. There's been a large push in recent years for asking people for their pronouns, or including pronouns in things like email signatures and surveys. And don't get me wrong, I'm not saying this is a bad thing! This is very affirming for a lot of people. But it feels like I need to pick something that doesn't quite fit. At pride, for instance, there's always pronoun buttons. But they're all she/her, he/him, they/them, she/they, he/they, it/it, xe/xir, etc etc. And that's great. I'm always glad that there are a lot of options for people. But there's never any pins for any/all pronouns. I've never picked up a free pronoun pin at pride, despite always looking, because they all feel like picking what pronouns I don't want poeple to use and the answer is that I don't care. I fround an any/all pronoun pin once at a queer museum and I cried.
I really suggest you read the paper if you haven't. Not just the article, the whole paper. This is probably the most seen I've felt in a long time.
@abalidoth
Gender is a mug's game, and I don't wanna play.
[Image ID: Image #2: Tumblr tags reading: #this shouldn't be surprisig as an enormous amount of gender coding and reinforcement is based around courtship #which is the whole reason 'gay' and 'lesbian' as insults have been used to imply not being a real proper man or woman #if a keystone of coercive gender enforcement wasn't based around courtship then being a girlish man and being gay would not be culturally #seen as being heavily related #it's harder to think of gender as all that important or fundamental to you when most of the messages about Why it should be important to yo #are just telling you it's for something else you don't want or want differently to the way they're trying to force on you #it's like saying 'oh it's important to grow your hair long and develop strong arms so you can get electric shocks every weekend' #well I don't want electric shocks every weekend so why is all this hair maintenance and painful weightlifting important again #no you Have to want electric shocks every weekend that's what makes us Human /End ID]
sticking his finger fully into his hot coffee just to feel something
Trad man got the Tie Seatbelt and the Cue Ball Gear Shift That Doesn't Move
käärijä eurodisco tour 2026:where are you going to or are thinking to (maybe) go? poll part 1
columbia theater berlin
sasazu prague
uebel & gefährlich hamburg
die kantine cologne
trix antwerp
l'alhambra paris
dynamo zürich
legend club milan
technikum munich
szene wien vienna
analog music hall budapest
progresja warsaw
Im putting all hope on TBA and hoping its not goddamn tilburg (fun fact: my phone suggests Tilburg whenever i type any cursewords (: ) Context: I live far enough away from tilburg that i cannot get home after a gig there, and Joker out performed there...
GODFUCKINGDAMMIT
Not superstitious and not not superstitious but a third secret thing (read a lot of fairytales as a child and doesn't believe them but also would never be rude to a mountain while still on it just in case)
I've said it before but this is both the Icelandic and the Irish approach:
Of course we're modern educated people who don't believe in fairies
But we're also not gonna fuck with 'em, we're not idiots
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