[shmaroace-deactivated20241124]

polyamorous aros i love you!!!!! thank you so much for giving two massive fuck-yous to amatonormativity

[exorcismpersonified-deactivated]

reblog to tell your mutual you’re proud of them and it’ll all work out

[lovelessrage]

Here's my loveless aroallo playlist

It's small, but it's there. Also curated mostly for me, myself, and I, so there's that if it doesn't speak to any experiences of yours.

[bottomoftheriverbed]

Happy new year everyone! Hope it's a good one for you and yours 🤍🤍🤍

[aromantic-aurea]

AUREA's Book Project Intersectionality Survey 2

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The AUREA Book Project Team is conducting another round of asynchronous interviews for the intersectionality chapter. Please consider sharing your experiences!

[tesco-finest-aromantics]

the first three words you see describe your 2024!

[gay-otlc]

Every time someone makes a negative comment about aroallos I become a million times hornier in my special evil aro way

[dykerard]

Good morning to aromantic kinksters, polyamorous aromantics, aromantic doms, aromantic subs, aromantics in long term sexual partnerships, aromantics who enjoy casual hookups, hypersexual aromantics, and all aromantics who have been stereotyped as manipulative or heartless for having sexual relationships

[anarochist]

Queer as in fuck you, aroallo as in fuck me

[aro-acethetic]

Aromantic + bisexual + aliencore + voidpunk for @anomalykin!

Sources:

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[aroallo-culture-is-archive]

aroallo heterosexual culture is never feeling truly queer but also not relating with your straight peers

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[dead-lavender-society]

saw this on a different post (commented by @genderkoolaid) but let's actually talk about this

i'm alloaro, and while i do experience some romantic attraction (you could call me arospec i guess but i just prefer saying aro and calling it a day) i don't think a lot of people understand how alienating it is to be alloaro, and how that impacts so many alloaro people, especially men and masc aligned people, as well as people of color, or really any group that we already over/hyper sexualize.

you get called "heartless" by your own community simply because you experience sexual attraction more than romantic attraction or because you ONLY experience sexual attraction.

i've seen this take in aro and ace spaces that sex is dirty, allosexuals are dirty, all we want is to fuck people and use them for sex. and while there is a time and a place to talk about the danger of the social pressure to have sex and be sexually active........it should not EVER come at the expense of harming others in the queer community

straight, gay, lesbian, bisexual, pan, queer, etc, all sexualities get thrown into this awful fucking place when we view alloaros as "only wanting to be players/have sex/emotionless fuck machines"

it's a disgusting mentality that really needs to be stopped because it ends up just repeating the same queerphobic narratives. and no, it doesn't matter if you say it to cishet aro men, because it's still harming aromantic people.

and trust me, it's an easy trap to fall into. you start trying to convince yourself that because they're still able to have sex that they aren't "really queer." but that's just not how queerness works.

[genderkoolaid]

oh adore this post 💚💛

I literally talked with a counselor about how alieating it is to be alloaro but wanted intimacy, and have to worry about

Alloros not knowing what "aro" is & having to explain it, hoping that they understand what you are talking about & will still be into you if there's no romance

Hoping that alloros won't develop romantic attraction or try and pressure you into a romance

Worrying about being seen as a heartless slut preying on the poor loving alloro by wanting a sexual-but-not-romantic relationship, or even having a partner get mad at you for "leading them on" by... being openly aromantic and telling them clearly you never want a romantic relationship, because they expected that eventually you would.

The eternal social implication that sexual friendships can ONLY be a short-term "fling", never a long-term arrangement with emotional intimacy, even if you WANT a long-term sexual friendship with emotional intimacy

And then when, on top of this, you have to deal with stereotypes about sex-obsessed queers who only ever want sex– which alloro queers try so hard to deflect from themselves, they end up hating you for "fulfilling the stereotypes" by existing as an alloaro queer (& I imagine theres a similar experience for alloaros of color). See also: the emphasis on romantic love as the reason WHY queers deserve equal rights ("Love wins!" "Love is never bad!")

[lovelessrage]

Usually I do a focus on positivity for different labels, but do want to do a quick shoutout for aroallos because I see so little rep and a lot of stigma. While sex aversion, esp in a community that shares a lot of members/experiences w/asexual people, is common, I do think there should be discussions around how we frame sexuality and some expressions of love in general. I see a lot of aroallos, even people close to me, express sentiments around feeling less-than or shallow for what attraction they have, and I think it's sourced from the same things that oppress all of us as a community.

It's a real shame when I can see that discrimination against aroallos comes from the love hierarchy placed on other aro labels, where some types of love [or just love in general] are placed on tiers, kinda like the hierarchy of needs, pyramid style. What that order is varies person to person, but I see sexuality often left on the bottom, as if it's fundamentally less important or more shallow, which is doubly hurtful when that's your major attraction.

Properly dismantling love focus and creatibg relationship anarchy doesn't JUST mean decentering love as necessary, it ALSO means dismantling the structures that frame certain types of love as dirtier or less-than. It goes both ways, from putting it on a pedestal to tearing it down, and I think if we're going to focus so much on the topic of deconstructing these ideals, aroallo perspective should be included.

To all aroallos, your attraction is your attraction. It's easier said than done to accept it, especially if people around you don't, but I hope this month is peaceful and welcoming to you. It's a struggle for everyone, but that doesn't mean your personal struggles are less than anyone else's in the community, nor does it mean you're less deserving of speaking your mind on it.

[Open for input on anything]

[drawnby27emilys]

Forgot to post these Ghosts pieces here🥺⚜

[sh4rk7]

I think of dandelions every time I see aroallo flag.

[whatareyoudoingwithamaserati]

Aroallo skull wallpaper? 🥺👉👈

ABSO-FUCKIN’-LUTELY!!!!!!!

[meoskyan]

woke up feeling like drawing a buncho aspec kitties hehe

might add more flags later but here's a blank template feel free to add other flags on :)

[alloarostuff]