Things my therapist said that changed my brain chemistry
1 . Did you tell them? Then how would they know?
2. How many choices were available to you?
3. If it worked out, would you be this worked up? So is your problem the decision you made or how it turned out? Then, you're trying to control a future you can't see?
4. So they have to act a certain way to be in a relationship with you? And you decide what way that is. Ah, so like, a puppet master
5. Was it the goal? Then what's the problem?
6. Do you really want it or do you think you're supposed to?
7. If your daughter did that would this be your reaction?
8. So you're punishing yourself for surviving the only way you could?
9. You are mad you couldn't control their reaction?
10. What did you expect would be the consequence of that action?
11. Sounds to me like you're judging the actions of a teenager with the wisdom of an adult. How is that fair?
12. You were a child
13. You did the best with what you had. There was no other option.
14. You're autistic. This is what it means to be autistic. This is normal neurodivergent behavior.
15. You're literally 24. No 24 year old has that much figured out.
16. It's your phone. You're not it's human.
17. And this matters to you, because.
18. So you're a person with a personality disorder exhibiting symptoms of a personality disorder? Oh.
19. Are you looking for solutions or escaping action in a healthy way. Isn't this just glorified procrastination.
20. How much more could you have done with what you have.
21. Thats basic human behavior.