AMAB Non-Binary Discussion @amab-non-binary - Tumblr Blog

hey is this blog still going?

not really

thank you for making this blog! as an AMAB Non-Binary, it feels like we're all but erased, in an already erasured community, honestly having a lack of platform for amab enby discussions in the non-binary community has always led me to feeling as though my gender is not valid, so it's nice to find a gem such as this, thank you!

#Anonymous

I was wondering if any other androgyne identifying people feel like it's hard to find blogs talking about their experiences. The tag androgyne comes up with "androgynous" people but very few who identify as androgyne. It feels like I'm being erased.

Almost certainly there are. The basic reason this blog exists is that there’s so few (openly) amab nonbinary people of any type that all of us feel pretty alone.

#dove #amab #nonbinary #androgene #Anonymous

I feel like more of a woman when I'm horny. Does that mean this thing isn't real...

The idea that autogynephelia a) exists and b) that if it did exist would make trans women’s transness less valid is bullshit. Inasmuch as gender is real, it’s all real, including variations and fluctuations,

#dove #so much of lgbt discourse consists of two prongs #1: that isn't a thing #2: so what if it were #Anonymous

sundyke

it’s so often the “dudes” who are the most self conscious and accountable about being dudes, who end up not being dudes at all. like, obviously not all of them, and there’s nothing that can really be done to force a conversation about it before someone is ready, but it is painful to watch.

so many unhatched eggs focus so much on accountability, cause like, they believe its the courteous and right thing to do for the sake of the other women around them. meanwhile, it becomes a struggle for them, because as long as they are still being self-conscious about every little action they have that fits into dude patterns, it seems impossible to realize they can just stop being a dude. and because being self conscious is “the right thing” for good “dudes” to do, they will keep on doing it until they can break the cycle.

in the end, i feel like it delays a lot of closeted transfems from from ever realizing the only reason they are so self conscious about not wanting to replicate bad dude behaviour, is because they’re not dudes at all.

brainpukes

ummmmmm like you can @ me next time instead of vaguing

sundyke

*yelling* EVERYONE SAYS THIS

i wanna try and get on hrt but i have like literally no idea were to even start what should i do first?

1. find a gender therapist and go to a few sessions. they will write a recommendation letter for hrt and they will probably know of at least one doctor willing to prescribe hrt that you can take the letter to. 2. find an informed consent hrt clinic or doctor willing to work on an informed consent model. informed consent means you don’t see a therapist, but rather the doctor describes what is likely to happen to you and the medical risks involved, and you either consent to that or not.

if you need help finding a therapist or doctor, try to find a local lgbt or trans specific group. you can also try posting on trans internet forums, like reddit has had relatively active trans forums. both of these kind of groups are likely to have various kinds of shitty people in them, but they can valuable none the less.

#amab #dmab #nonbinary #hrt #lily #medical tw #doctors tw #monster-teeths

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orangelemonart

recs for trans women are so rare on tumblr!! spread this, people.

phoenixcollective

Please reblog this, in total it’s about $38.50 to make a huge difference for a trans woman/trans feminine person.

my make-up smudged...

hi there! wanted to say thanks for running this blog, as an AMAB i've often felt like i wasn't "nonbinary enough" b/c of my body shape and awkward presentation, often afraid to do or say anything about it to anyone. this resource helps so much! thankyou c:

we are glad to help!

#amab #dmab #nonbinary #positivity #lily #Anonymous

help i feel so scared. idk im an amab gay man and recently ive been really confised about my gender identity, like im confortable being a man and called he him his and identifyig this way causes me no discomfort but i love the idea of being cute and wearing dresses but it terrifies and could i be like genderfluid or nonbinary?

There isn't a sharp distinction between gnc and nb. If IDing as nb is comfortable and male isn't, go for it.Dove

Photo taken at work last month. We were having a departmental meeting and I figured I should try to get a bit dressed up. A year ago I would not have imagined I could dress like this in everyday life but in practice I have no problems and I am so very happy.

sending on anon cause scared of reaction. The "nonbinary amab people who do not identify partly as female benefit from transmisogyny" was from page 12, its a direct quote, it seems to be a really common view with people which is honestly just really upsetting because I feel like i'm, amab nb not either gender, forced to id as partially a binary gender (female) if I want to have my experience with transmisogyny not be invalidated when they are very real and cause me to want to stop living.

anon abt the quoted message? For all intents and purposes I fell like I am treated as a trans woman because I want to go on HRT and look like how a lot of butch women do, Ideally id like to not look like neither gender but thats simply not possible so its safer to look more "Feminine" cause nonbinary people aren't even recognized as a thing, especially not AMAB nb people, so I have to deal with the never ending fear of being attacked cause transmisogyny and having my experiences dismissed by (1)

my supposed community and it feels really bad and just makes it one more thing 2 worry about (2)

(i think this is all the same message. anon, please correct me if i am wrong.)

us mods here do not agree about everything. we are 4 different people, and we come from different backgrounds. i am of the opinion that transmisogyny does not solely oppress female/woman-identified people (and i feel like whenever i say that i also have to say that men and afab people are never oppressed by it, because some people will take any opening to be assholes).

mostly, i believe everyone here can think critically about their life, how it relates to various systems of oppression, and so (with a few obvious outliers) can say whether or not they, individually, are oppressed.

-lily

#amab #dmab #nonbinary #lily #Anonymous

Does anyone else feel dysphoric and weird about being sexual? Like, having a drive and wanting sex makes me feel like I'm falling into a Man gender role that I'm not necessarily comfortable with. I'm wondering if anyone has that or has dealt with that who I could talk to.

I don’t necessarily feel dysphoric about it, but weird? Definitely. My dysphoria in general is pretty mild though. I suspect other readers of this blog feel more strongly.

~ Dove

#agendermetalbender

Yeah the authors seem to be gender nihilists, which I don't ascribe to personally. Plus they have inconsistent discourse about nb people, and once again fail to even consider camab nb people unless presenting us as "male-aligned man creatures" to make a point about how nb is too broad to make any meaningful conclusions within the patriarchy, and yet apparently the worse that all nb people get is misgendering and erasure, because we're all cafab now. I don't have time for that.

(this is about the political womanhood ask) i think that i understood that post very differently than you did. i am sorry it was not more helpful for you. if i come across any more explanations of political womanhood i will be sure to post them.

#amab #dmab #nonbinary #lily #Anonymous