Sweet Temptations

Hot chocolate sprinkled with red pepper flakes ~ A sweetness all my own~ Advice, experience, dates, all that good stuff ♥

[ambitioussugar]

I'm thinking about becoming a sugar baby, but I don't know if I'm fully aware of what I'm getting into. Any advice or dos and donts?

Don’t do anything or have anything to do with the sugar world until you know EVERYTHING about it! 

Going in half-assed will result in you coming back out with hurt and regret. If you don’t know what you’re doing, you WILL be taken advantage of and I’m not exaggerating or joking at all. 

Let me say that again…

you WILL be taken advantage of if you do not know what you’re doing!

Trust me. Making money is never easy, and that doesn’t really change just because you decide to be an SB. Like any job, you have to put in the effort to make any real difference in your income.

Research. Learn. Practice. And try again.

Seriously, practice is most important in my opinion. Most of your interactions are with people, so you have to practice your people skills constantly to better sharpen your charm.  

[ambitioussugar]

May I ask for some advice? I have an SD who lives out of town, and so when he's in my area, he stays in a hotel. I can't host, so when our relationship becomes sexual, I know we'll be going to his hotel room. I'm just a bit nervous safety-wise about it. Going to a guy's hotel room doesn't seem smart, but it is an anticipated part of our relationship... do you have any advice for navigating this? Thank you!!

I would say you’re right, that isn’t smart. If this SD is rather new in your life and not knowing if you feel a sense of security and trustworthiness from him, then no it’s not a smart idea. My advice is to actually wait till you foster a more trusting connection between your SD and you. Usually I would’ve communicated this with my POT before creating an arrangement to not waste any time figuring out the ins and outs afterwards. But since it seems you’re already in an arrangement, I would try to still communicate this with your SD but be reasonable with your request for them to wait. Give them a reward for waiting like some juicy pictures, or a risque shopping spree, or a sensual dinner. Like a taste before a bite. 

These days, when SBs and SDs look for each other asking that they have “chemistry” this is often mistaken for sexual chemistry. In the world of sugaring, I believe “chemistry” goes beyond the definition of whether or not you find me hot or not! I believe you have to feel a sense of comfort and trust with a POT before seeing if an arrangement can be made. 

Of course, figuring out whether a man can be trusted is NOT easy. We’re still very young and think that if we care about someone, that must also mean that you trust them. That’s entirely wrong. You can care about someone but still NOT trust them. Don’t confuse these two. 

Ask yourself “do I feel comfortable being in a hotel room with him alone?” if you feel comfortable saying yes without a twitch in your eyebrows, then I’d say foster that trust with your SD. It’ll grow into something more than sex. 

If you have a twitch and a curl to your lip, then I say work on building trust with each other first. 

Understandably, the process of sugaring is:

1. find a POT

2. go on a date with said-POT

3. if you like then YES, if you don’t then NO

4. If YES, then proceed with consummation of arrangement 

This is the GENERAL outline of finding that sugar, but it isn’t the ONLY way. Tailor your outline to best fit what your most comfortable with. It makes sugaring more rewarding and most likely, end happier for you. 

For instance, I communicated with my POTs that intercourse was off the table until I was comfortable doing so. Yea, it lost me alot of POTs and I mean ALOT, haha! But I dodged ALOT of regretful nights and moments by doing so. Money is always there and always will be, but our bodies won’t live through 100 years. Less regret is better than more money. 

[ambitioussugar]

So a friend and I have recently been talking about the idea of stepping into the sugar bowl, but we brought this idea up , have you ever heard of two girls teaming up? Like a package deal lol we don't think that's a thing but why not ask

Hello, it’s been a long time since I was in the game and don’t login into this tumblr account often enough to see if I have messages or updates.

In answer to your question is yes! I’ve seen two girls tag-team to share an SD but keep in mind that most times when two girls tag-team they are sharing the same man. That is normally the case, so that means this POT-SD needs to have enough surplus income to support two SB’s instead of one. Finding an SD with that caliber of support is RARE to find because supporting even one SB is a luxury for the rich. You would need to catch a white whale, haha!

Hope this helps! But I may have been super late responding too, haha!

[gotsugarforthesebrownies]

So I want to be real with you guys for a minute.

Sometimes I do have doubts about whether or not i’m ‘qualified’ enough to be in the bowl. 

I constantly hear about how the ‘sugar baby aesthetic’ is over-rated. And how sugar daddies like different things. 

But sometimes it’s difficult to take to heart. i don’t care about the cars, luxurious boat rides, I don’t have the most expensive make up, and I don’t have the most feminine clothing. Hell, I don’t even own more than 3 dresses. 

I didn’t really start dressing somewhat girly until about 20. During my teenage years I was so hung up on doing everything not to appear ‘girly’ because I thought being that way would negate the part of myself that was a huge nerd.

Of course I grew out of that. Found self confidence in myself, and now I know I can be both beautiful and a huge dork at the same time.

But when it comes to the bowl, I start to doubt myself again. It seems challenging to slip into this seductive role that men desire, while still maintaining a sense of self. 

I’m the charmer (out of the 9 types of seducers.Look it up!) and I can talk and stroke an ego like there is no tomorrow. I actually enjoy learning about people, and listening to these boring men talk. But what about when the questions are directed my way? What about when a POT wants to get to know about me?

“I like video games, edm, computers, HTML coding, drawing, anime, Asian drama, and can write gay smut out the woo-ha.”

I can’t say all that.

How do I even begin to talk about myself?

I feel like I have the natural good-looks down but not the feminine grace to pull things off. I feel like I do have to change myself in order to be successful; become more in tune with my feminine side, find some dresses I like, and for Christ sake learn to walk in heels even though i’m already pretty tall and have barely ever worn them. 

I’ve always admired these abilities in other women, but I have never explored the territory myself because I’ve never really had to.

This is going to be a journey for me in more ways than one. Even if my time here is short, I think I’d learn more about myself.

 Just wanted to share this with fellow sugar babies out there that may not be as poise/lady-like as other women, and/or just flat out huge nerds like myself. I’m going to try to post my experiences for that very same reason..because it may end up helping some other girls out.

[ambitioussugar]

You definitely don’t need to change yourself to get a good SD or to enthrall a POT. Communication and learning how to ad-lib is a skill you’ll most likely need to put work into. 

You can sound elegant AF and still be the huge dork that you are! I have very similar dorky interests as you, and I don’t change what I’m interested in for the sake of these men. POTs will come and go, and the good ones who accept your interests and hobbies, will stay, while others who don’t find it as interesting will leave.

For example, your interests:

" ....video games, edm, computers, HTML coding, drawing, anime, Asian drama, and can write gay smut....”

When a POT asks your interests, highlight HTML coding, computers, drawing and even video games. Saying that you like video games might give you a quirky touch and it shows POTs that you aren’t really the typical fashionista girl with Cartier bracelets and 20 brand name bags/purses. 

Personally, I’d probably leave out anime, Asian dramas, and definitely the gay smut (having nothing against your interests and it’s a great way to develop your writing skills, but POTs will most likely be a little too weirded out by it, haha!) If you’d like, you can say you enjoy writing as an interest of yours, and just omit the detail about it being about gay smut, haha! In my opinion, the following may make you appear less mature in their eyes which won’t go off to a great start. Most POTs want to find someone like-minded, not find someone like-minded like their kids, haha! You want to give off the impression that you may be their equal. They’ll want to know that you can keep up in a conversation with them and hold your own.

HTML coding, computers, and drawing will make you out to be a very intelligent person with a variety of interests that don’t concentrate in one department. You might appear more open-minded about exploring different things. Learning HTML coding shows that you take an interest in educating yourself for the sake of learning more about it. That makes you look brainy and knowledgeable in that aspect. Drawing may give off an artsy and creative trait. 

It’s a good thing that you have the skill of charm because POTs/SDs are like peacocks and always need to be petted with flattery. 

When it comes to talking about yourself, there’s an art to it, to be honest. SBs should talk about themselves, to be more appealing to their POT. It’s a factor on how we reel them in for that monthly allowance, hehe! Talk too much about yourself, they'll escape your hook-line and you come empty handed. Talk too little about yourself and you’ll never hook them in the first place. It’s a game of tug-and-release. 

You also don’t have to be the girliest-girl out there, but you do still want to look classy. I hardly ever wear dresses either, and more of a pants girl but there are ways to look feminine without having to wear a pair of red-bottoms and a little black dress. I’d dig through Pinterest to look for outfits that fit your style but still look somewhat feminine. Don’t change yourself completely because you won’t feel at all comfortable in the persona you’ve created. Confidence is more important than any silly outfit. 

The sugar-baby aesthetic is what most SDs want, but we don’t have to fit that mold to a T, because there really are many different types of SDs who like different things. The thing is men think they know what they want, but most times that isn’t the case until they’ve met someone who they need. :)

Work with what you got because POTs will appreciate the unique-ness that you hold. I also had the same difficulties when I started out in the bowl, and had quite a few doubts myself. Sometimes, being a sugar baby comes naturally to some girls, while to others its’ a learned practice. :)

♥  A.M.

[bellasugarxx-blog]

Hi, I just sent you an ask about the message I got from a man that wants to give me $50,000/month in exchange for him and his friends to do whatever they want to me. So obviously this sounds dangerous and really sketchy but I am currently living off the 1k/mo I get from my day job and rent alone is over 700! With 50k/mo I could buy myself a car which I don't have AND put myself through school and not have to worry about anything (financially at least). What would you do if you were in myposition

So I mainly started sugaring to put myself through nursing school. I haven’t really found an SD that has met my needs yet and received a message on SA from a man who wants to pay me “large sums of money” in exchange for him and his friends to do whatever they want to me. Now to me that sounds like selling myself into sex trafficking so I wast really interested in his offer but out of curiosity I asked how much money and he said *drumroll* $50,000 monthly..?!?! That’s $600,000 for the year!

Hi! I hope this doesn’t find you too late! 50k/month raised a huge flag here, and “whatever him and his friends wants to do to you” is even more of a huge flag. I do understand 50k$ is a huge sum of money, but this is designed as a ploy to get you to agree to do things you won’t. For starters, “testing your submissive-ness with his friends”. 

I honestly hope to God you don’t fall for this. I know I’ve been telling everyone that just because someone didn’t get it, doesn’t mean you can’t, allowance wise, but please don’t let money blind your common sense and your safety. Stop thinking about what you can do with 50k/month and start thinking about what’s the actual catch. 98% of the men on SA (and people around the world!) DO NOT earn that much, not to mention spending that much.

Even if the 50k is real (not indicating there’s a slight chance that it is), would you really want to be treated like an animal everyday just for that? It may be a typo though - 5$k a month. 

Obviously, ultimately the decision is all yours, but I would never risk my safety, health (mental especially!), and even life for a mere $50k.

Be safe xx

[ambitioussugar]

Money is very attractive, especially with lots of zeroes behind it, but no amount of money is worth you trading yourself to unknown “thrills” these creeps have in mind for you. If you assume that it’s just going to be group sex thing, think again. I’d be thinking the worst possible scenario at this point. That includes hurting your physically, emotionally, and sexually without your permission. Once you agree to something that requires that much submission from you, you’ve basically waived away your rights as a human being. People can be cruel and don’t think that it could never happen to you. 

Now ask yourself again, is it worth $50,000?

[melaninsugarbarbie-blog]

It’s all in the wording ladies!

[ambitioussugar]

Learning how to say certain intentions in an elegant manner is very very VERY important! Communication and speaking skills will be your KEY to his WALLET! Haha

[bellasugarxx-blog]

So I got this email from a POT I’ve met couple of days ago, who gave me $200 without me asking. Proof that even though POTs give you money during the first date, doesn’t mean he’s generous in any way.

[ambitioussugar]

Jesus fuck, haha! I get that SD/SB arrangements have a similar structure to this, but this is too structured and leans way too much in his favor. Not even going to point out that he had the balls to say that YOU would pay $1200 for “good faith gesture” on top of “providing venue”. This dude is wrapped :D I wouldn’t agree to this even if he offered 100k because odds are, his personality is way to much to handle to risk damaging my own mentality. 

[ambitioussugar]

Nielsen Zipcode Analysis

This website might come in handy to get a feel of what wealth hierarchy your POTs may be in. 

Most SD websites at least give the city of where they reside in (if they’re being truthful about at least that). Google the general zipcode for that area and enter it into this website:

https://segmentationsolutions.nielsen.com/mybestsegments/Default.jsp?ID=20

This website is made originally for marketing purposes for companies and enterprises looking to see how well their products might fare if they were to present it in that area. Once you’ve entered in the zipcode, you’ll be given a list of what kind of people might live in that area and all sorts of various descriptions and information that might help. Of course, it’s not an exact science so don’t take whatever information to be entirely true. It’s more like a general outline of the kind of population that, more or less, lives in that area. 

Hope this helps some of you!

♥  A.M.

[ambitioussugar]

POT? Friend?? Platonic?!

Let’s call him Derrick (this is a psuedo-name, not his real name! Haha).

Went on WYP date Thursday and it went better than I thought it would! I was worried because my initial impression from a picture of him, he’s in his 40′s but it didn’t look like we would have much chemistry (and by chemistry I mean by just being able to connect with him socially). First time, I declined his wink just saying straight up that I was not interested, and then a day later I got another wink from him. If he winked again then he must be very interested, even after a “not interested” decline, so I threw him a large number of $400 to see what he would do with it. Surprisingly, later that day he accepted and sent me a message. I was a little surprised but his profile makes him sound very polite and nice so at this point my impression of him is getting better.

Towards the end of our date, I brought up the issue of intimacy and how it was not going to be a factor in our involvement, if we were to continue to see one another. Let’s just say that his wife weathered some serious illnesses. With only his daughter, he’s only interested in a platonic kind of arrangement and not at all interested in doing anything intimate. I was both a little shocked and sympathetic. My heart went out to him, and kind of glad that he said that he wasn’t interested in anything intimate because I thought we really got along with one another and would’ve been a shame. He agreed to give compensation every time we meet. Which I don’t think will be often, so this is more of a per/meet kind of arrangement.

He made several promises throughout the date. He said that he would take me shopping, he really wanted to take me scuba diving, and  wanted to take me to a beach trip before the summer was out. This summer he’s taking his daughter basically around the freaking world going from place to place to place! Damn, haha, lots of travelling so won’t be able to see him until much later in July or early August. So we’ll see if he’s a man of his word and keeps his promises, because he honestly seems like an awesome shopping partner. He said he could dress me and loved my outfit I wore that day for our date. I swear, if you heard the way he talked, he’s like half-girl (in a good way)! Haha

I get home and found that he slipped in another hundred, making my $400 into $500. Generous? Yes, I think so. Agreed to be platonic?! WIN!! And LOVES to go shopping?! O_O    

I swear I think I found a Unicorn, because he seemed more like a friend the way we talked and he never made an attempt to be physically close or be touchy in any way. He was very respectful, polite and super kind.

Hopefully, I can update more on Derrick and if this ‘arrangement’ (friendship?!) takes flight or is just going to sit on the landing strip. But he seems very promising! :) 

♥  A.M.

[oriental-sugar]

For my queens asking for advice on requesting a gift from a pot. Stay elegant, have your words ready to explain yourselves with class and eloquence. Ask a friend, we are in this together.

This is straight from ho tactics, with asking for a small gift and gauging how generous they are with hwo cheap or extravagant that gift may be. Good luck sugaring my queens.

Reposting to fix a mistake!

[ambitioussugar]

Good example when asking a POT for a token or gift for the first date. Elegance beats defensive every time.

Don't react defensively because it really shows your age and not in a good way.

[ambitioussugar]

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[thinwaisttexpensivetaste]

adriana’s guide to finding the perfect sugar daddy

alright my beautiful sugar babies and lovely ladies looking into entering the sugar bowl, i have been getting a huge amount of messages asking me all sorts of questions, so i decided to write this tell-all post on how to master the art of sugaring.

before you read on, just know that i do and always have had sex with my sds. if you are afraid of sleeping with older men, sugaring is not for you. 99.99% of the time, men will want to have a sexual relationship with you. personally, i have never met a man that has wanted a platonic relationship. don’t waste your time, if you cannot fathom the thought of having sex with a sugar daddy, being a sugar baby is out of the question.

i started looking for a sugar daddy on my 18th birthday. i created a profile on seekingarrangement.com and three days later, i found my perfect sd. at the time, i was in the midwest so the average per meet allowance was $300 but my sd and i agreed upon a $500 per meet allowance. if you want to read more about all of my sds, click here.

he was everything i wanted, a millionaire living in a huge mansion in the wealthiest city in my area, super attractive for his age, and also the biggest sweetheart in the world. he and i had the same ideas about what an arrangement should be like. we had day parties that turned into sleepovers, i invited my friends who all were interested in being a sb and were down to play with him and his friends, he provided an amazing house and of course, lots of cash for me and all of my friends. he and i had and still have an amazing friendship. we have each others backs on anything.

seeing that i had to move to los angeles for college, i started looking for a sd in la right away. i wrote up a new bio and changed my location so that los angeles daddies could see me. i did this about 10 days prior to moving so that i could start going on dates right away.

after arriving in la, i was living off of the money that i had saved and found a couple of ok daddies that i could see every so often for extra cash, but not anything amazing right off of the bat. after sticking with one for 3 months, i saw that even the $8k/month allowance he was giving me wasn’t worth it. after seeing his reaction to me crying, i could tell that he really didn’t care about me at all, and that i was literally only a fuck toy to him. we broke it off after that and i started searching on sa again. after going on way too many dates and not making enough money, i became an escort and worked under a madame. the money seemed amazing, $1k/hour with a 2 hour minimum (before the 30% cut that my madame took) but after seeing 4 clients i decided that i couldn’t do it anymore. i began searching again and refused to settle for anything less than perfect.

i ended up meeting my dream whale daddy. handsome, caring, and mega fucking rich, i couldn’t ask for anyone better. we ended up hitting it off the first night we met and agreed upon a $2k/meet arrangement until we trusted each other enough to start something monthly. i am currently with him, and life couldn’t get any better.

so how can you score the perfect sd, and how do you keep him interested? read on to find out.

1) know what you want from sugaring. i wrote down a list of all of the material things that i wanted from an arrangement, and all of the personality traits that i wanted in my sugar daddy. i decided on my desired allowance and what type of time i wanted to be spending with my sd. personally, i was looking for a sugar daddy that doubled as a friend. someone that i genuinely enjoy spending my time with. i am the type of sugar baby that wants to have sleepovers, spend cozy nights in on occasion, and meet my sds friends. i knew that i wanted my sd to drive a luxury sports car, live in a mansion, and have a huge amount of expendable income. there are a lot of “sugar daddys” out there that drive a moderately priced car, live in an average sized house, and make enough money to give a girl $4k a month and not break the bank. are they worth your time? maybe. honestly, sometimes you need to focus on getting that money before you can find someone that will take you on a last minute trip to ibiza. if sugaring is your only income, your best bet might be finding 3 men that want to see you 2-4 times per month for $4k/month each. but if you are sugaring to live in luxury, there is no point in settling just because the cash is good. personally i don’t feel okay with having multiple sugar daddies, i think that when you find your perfect sd you won’t need anything more than what he can provide for you. i have never had multiple steady arrangements going on at the same time, but i understand that its a better option for some girls. whatever your situation is, come up with a list of needs and wants, and be determined to find a sugar daddy that fulfills them.

2) make the “perfect profile” on seekingarrangement.com. i had one and it is a huge reason why i found who i found. by that i mean i had a clear, close up selfie with a smile on my face as my profile picture. the lighting was perfect, i took the picture while i was facing a window with lots of light (around 3pm) so it made my eyes pop, my teeth look white, and my skin look smooth. i had 2 other public pictures, one mirror pic that i took in a crop top and shorts in good lighting, and another selfie of me not smiling. in all of these photos i was wearing a full face of makeup, but instead of wearing eyeshadow i only wore black winged eyeliner and mascara, and instead of lipstick i wore chapstick with a hint of shine. i got a ton of messages complimenting me on  my “natural beauty” (men are fucking clueless when it comes to makeup). for my private pics i had 5 full body pictures that i was wearing tight clothing in, it is crucial to have pictures that show your silhouette, this holds true for any body type! don’t edit (unless you have experience in doing light amounts of retouching) your photos, don’t hide your body in baggy clothes, and please for the love of god do not exclude a body picture from your profile. potential sds want to see exactly what you look like before they meet you so that they know what to expect before making plans to meet. and having a good amount of pictures on your profile makes the dreaded “send me more pics” question obsolete. i did have 2 other pics (one in a bikini and one in a sports bra) for men who i was really interested in, and a couple nude pics that i would send to pots that were willing to pay $20/pic with a 5 pic minimum.

but wait! your profile isn’t all about your pictures, to complete your perfect profile and have your inbox flooding with millionaires in no time, you must write out an amazing bio and explain exactly what you want under the “what i’m looking for” section. when i first wrote my profile it was a bit vague and typical, but after going through my first arrangement, i developed a persona. my persona is adriana, the barely legal 18 yr old girl with a genuine personality and a slammin’ body. adriana is a submissive princess that loves to call her man “daddy” and gets everything she ever wants. i realized that having this persona really made being a sb fun, and men liked it too. so i wrote my bio to match adriana’s personality, stating that “i need a man that needs to love to be called ‘daddy’” and that “i’m not attracted to men under 40″ (ladies, older men loved that i wrote that, they’re the ones with the true money, and there are way too many girls that state that they aren’t interested in anyone over 40). my bio and “what i’m looking for” section was written with good grammar and didn’t have typos, which also helped. i strongly recommend coming up with an alter ego and deciding to be her when you are sugaring. are you a vixen dom that will spice up a married mans private life? are you a sweet little girl next door that just wants to be taken care of? whatever you decide, make it shine through in your profile and remember that you can never be too specific. guys love reading about exactly what you want, and then you will have men sending you specific messages about how they can take care of your needs. i.e. “i’m done with school and i love to travel, so i’m looking for a daddy with a private jet” you may get messages saying “so you said you like men with jets? i have 3.” viola! now you have someone that is attracted to you and has what you want! perfect.

3) understand what men want, and learn how to find out what his specific desires are the first time you meet him. the guys that i would meet up with knew what i was looking for, and in general they knew what my personality was like. when i met with them in person, i really played up the part of my persona that they loved. with some men, they were in love with the fact that i was 18. other men loved that i was outgoing and not afraid to show my true colors at first. whatever they loved, i played it up. and anything they weren’t interested in, i tried to not bring it up without seeming fake. learning how to read a guy right off the bat takes a little bit of time but should be generally the same for most men that you find interest in. learning what they truly want is also a huge part of keeping them satisfied in bed. don’t be afraid to say naughty things, watch porn to get some ideas of what to say (and what not to say) if you are really clueless like i was. for me, i watched a lot of porn under the “teen” category on pornhub and listened to what the girls said and did, then i put my own twist on it whilst in bed with my sd. since my sd loved the fact that i was so young, screaming out “yes daddy, fuck my eighteen year old pussy harder!” made him cum in .025 seconds. don’t be afraid to talk dirty and always remember, it is your job to be their perfect fantasy.

4) dress for success. when meeting pots, i tried to stick to an outfit that wasn’t showing too much skin, but yet showed my silhouette. think tight jeans and a fitting shirt with a high neckline. i have found that men like it more when i wear lighter colors, rather than when i wear all black. whatever your body type may be, try to accentuate your best feature. have big boobs? wear a low cut dress that will show off your bust. have a great ass? leggings and cute tank top will have men drooling all over you. plus size? don’t be afraid to show off your curves in a cute romper with wedges. small bust? try a body suit with high rise jeans. tumblr is filled to the brim with cute outfit inspo with dupes that wont break the bank. i see a lot of posts from sugar accounts saying “great outfit to meet a pot: cute gucci dress with some red bottoms and a chanel clutch!!!” like what??? how tf do you expect every girl to wear a $10,000 outfit. yes, it is good to have a few designer pieces, but its not essential to wear designer 24/7. especially if you are brand new to the sugar bowl. i would assume that most men can’t tell the difference between zara and diane von fuerstenburg, and if they can, ask them to take you shopping. if anyone should be funding your wardrobe, it should be your sd.

5) take care of yourself. it’s your job to look your best at all times. a girl that looks worn out is the last thing a sd is looking for. so please: learn how to apply makeup properly (youtube tutorials are great), shower everyday, wax, shave, style your hair, whiten your teeth (groupon always has deals for pro whitening for $100-200), moisturize, use a perfume (less is more), use ph wipes for your coochie, eat healthy, exercise, paint your nails (nude tones or subtle french tip always are a good choice), wear a bra that really fits and matching underwear to go along, wear jewelry (at least cute stud earrings), have good posture, and always remember to smile.

6) be positive. nobody enjoys being around a sad person, especially not if they’re paying for it. a positive attitude not only attracts men, it makes them want to stay. remember that an arrangement is not as emotionally involved as a real relationship. always smile, always be polite, always look on the bright side. keep it light and fun. feed their ego, tell them that they’re the best you’ve ever had. after all, how can you get sick of a sexy ass woman thats always happy to be there?

7) set goals, and tell them about it. whether you are trying to travel the world, graduate from college debt free, or own your own business, let sds know. men love to hear that you have dreams and goals, it gives them even more of a reason to fund you. even if you don’t agree on an arrangement with a pot, having a reason to why you sugar might inspire them to connect you with people in their circle that can help you achieve your goals.

8) practice your conversation skills. have topics and questions that you can bring up when the conversation gets old. keeping up on the news is a good way to talk about things that most businessmen find interest in. ask your sd questions, especially where you are asking their opinion, it makes them feel important. i try not to get into deep topics with my sd until i know that they have similar views as i do, conflicting views about meaningful subjects can ruin a relationship. when speaking, try not to slur your words and try to use correct grammar. i still swear around my sd, but i try to keep it to a minimum because i know some men find it tacky. at least try to cut it out where its unnecessary i.e., saying “fucking shit i cant find my fucking sock fuck my life” when you could say “i cant seem to find my sock”

9) be adventurous. and by this, i don’t mean try anal. a lot of men find an escape in having a sugar baby, your’e young, wild, and free. if he says he wants to go a few states over for the weekend, say yes. you haven’t tried sashimi yet? go to sushi bar and split 9 plates of it with him. he loves to go skiing? ask him to buy you lessons. he wants to bring another girl into the bedroom? give it a try. whatever it is, sugar daddys are tired of the “ew, no” or “omg i’m too scared!” type of women. generally, sds don’t find a stubborn attitude cute.

10) control the bitch in you. yes, you’re a princess. yes, you deserve the best. but being unnecessarily bitchy or moody isn’t a good way to impress your sd. that “i’m a crazy bitch” mentality doesn’t do so well in the sugar bowl. sds already have issues at work or at home, the last thing they need is for the girl thats supposed to be his get away creating drama. remember that an arrangement is supposed to be fun for the both of you, while you’re getting that shmoney, he wants to feel good after he has spent time with you. its called “mutually beneficial” for a reason.

11) don’t be afraid to ask, and then ask for more. remember that sds will have no problem asking you, or even telling you, to give them head. so you, should have no problem asking them for money or gifts. i have only slept with men that have already given me an allowance, and you should always do the same, so instead of asking for more money i just ask for what i would spend my money on. i’ve asked for typical sugar gifts, like lingerie, shoes, dresses, but i have also asked for concert tickets, pets, plane tickets (to places where i went alone). every time i ask, i get what i want. your sd should have no issue with buying you whatever your heart desires, within reason. but easier said than done, right? asking for money and gifts can be hard at first, i used to feel bad when i asked. but now, after experience, i just bat my eyelashes and say with confidence “please can i please have _____ daddy! pleeeeease!” and they say yes because it was cute and sweet. say it in a way that they cant say no. if you really want something, get him hard as fuck and horny as hell, then pull his dick out of his pants and right as your mouth is about to touch, pull away. then when he’s begging you to give him head, say “only if you buy me _____” and he’s bound to say yes. i only recommend this for girls who are in a solid arrangement, because this could come off the wrong way to a guy you just met. when it comes to talking about an actual cash allowance (which by the way ladies, is the only type of payment you should accept until you trust your sd enough to wire money into your bank/paypal you) you should always ask what they’re comfortable with first. once you have an idea of what he is looking to give you, make sure you’re not settling for an allowance thats lower than what you need. find out what the average per meet allowance in your area is, then don’t go any lower than that multiplied by the number of times you’ll be seeing your sd. i know in la the average per meet allowance in los angeles is $1k, and in the midwest it is $300. whatever it is, don’t be afraid to bring an allowance up. if the man has money, he won’t mind talking about it in a polite way. lets say you want a $6k/month allowance and he offers you a $4k/month allowance. both of you agree that you want to see each other once a week. mention that your rent/mandatory monthly expense is $x, and that you’ll need more cash to cover that. tell him that you’re not just a sugar baby for the money, that you want to truly experience luxury and that a $6k/month allowance could provide you with that. if he’s truly rich, an extra $2k/month is chump change to him. and also, when you’re not afraid to ask for gifts as well, that can save you a lot of money. my sd dropped $2,300 on lingerie for me, on top of an allowance in one day. if you add up all of the gifts that your sd will buy for you, it can go way over the monthly allowance that you want. i.e., you want a $6k/month allowance, but agree on a $4k/month allowance plus shopping, and he ends up spending an extra $5k/month on your shopping trips. so instead of just getting a $6k/month cash allowance, you got an allowance valued at $9k. that way you don’t have to spend your own money on clothes/shoes/whatever the hell, so you have your cash allowance for necessities and savings.

12) learn how to spot the fakes. personally, i have only ever found sds on seeking arrangement. i think that finding an sd through seeking arrangement is the most straight forward way to go about things. also, you can filter out men by using the advanced search option. i would put filters on so that i only saw men that made $1mil+/yr, and their “lifestyle budget” was set at substantial or high. i would either message them something short and sweet or give them access to my private pics. my little intro was “hey daddy, would you be interested in a teenage princess?” it was definitely a little forward but it piqued the interest of many men, including my current sd river. being that i was looking for the total package (not only willing to give me a nice allowance, but also ridiculously fucking rich, and very nice) i would delete every message that i got from a man with an income lower than $1mil/yr. i would, however, go on dates with men that offered me money just to meet in their first message. did i have any intentions of getting into an arrangement with them? hell no. but was the extra cash for literally eating food nice? hell yes. but there are always men that you should stay away from. this includes:

men that obviously have no interest in seeing you succeed

men that drive shitty cars but claim they’re worth millions

men that try to talk dirty with you over text before you meet

men that ask for free nudes

men that ask to fuck for free

men that say that they “don’t need to pay for sex”

men that have an issue with giving you money

men that have ridiculous mood swings

men that refuse to give you a cash allowance

men that are full of shit and you can tell that they are lying to you

men that promise you ridiculous amounts of money before meeting you

men that refuse to meet at an expensive restaurant/bar

men with no confidence that constantly need their ego stroked

literally any man that gives you a bad gut feeling

usually you can tell when someone is genuinely wealthy, but theres always a few sneaky guys that slip by. try to see what car he drives or look at the shoes he is wearing. the wealthiest men that i know don’t compromise on either of those things. also, watch for things that indicate wealth, like veneers, a spray tan, a nice watch, botox, freshly ironed clothes, etc. on top of that, rich men are typically confident people. remember that being successful in business is only 50% smarts, the rest is the connections that you have and can keep up with. that requires a confident person, plus having a fuck ton of money is a confidence booster.

13) don’t give up. i went on 60+ dates before i met my perfect sd in la. i carried on messages on sa with over 550 men. there are plenty of rich men out there, you just need to find them. remember that almost every man wants a hot girl to fuck. remember that almost every rich man cheats on his wife (sadly). you know those beautiful mansions that you see on your dash? someone owns them, and 90% of the time its some old rich guy. those big companies that you see everyday? someone owns those too, and the likelihood of it being an old rich man is through the roof. just know that theres always a man out there that is rich and willing to give you the life you deserve. i always see girls selling themselves short, hanging with men that aren’t in the 1% just because of an allowance. but if you really want luxury, don’t settle for anything less than the richest of the rich. and never decide to give up because you haven’t found the perfect arrangement right off of the bat.

14) remember that sex is a part of sugaring. whether you wait 3 months or 3 hours to sleep with your sd, it will eventually come. i have never heard of/been offered/been involved in a platonic arrangement. i don’t believe that it exists, or if it does i would assume the allowance is much, much, lower than a sexual arrangement. and when it does come time to fuck your sd, you better pop that pussy girl. be prepared for slow thrusts and a lot of moaning and twitching when they cum (from them). sex with an older man is definitely different than sex with guys 18-25, so just know that some weird shit will go down. i depersonalize during sex with sds, even with one night stands i barely feel anything, so for me i have always described sex with an sd as shitty sex. who knows, maybe if i was in love with them it would feel amazing, but all i’ve experienced so far is numbness. maybe that contributes to why i don’t mind sleeping with my sugar daddy, i honestly don’t know. for me, sleeping with a sd didn’t eat me up inside and rot my soul. you know what it did? put money in my hands and louboutins on my feet.

15) be affectionate. if you’re with the right sd, you won’t have an issue with this. hold his hand at the dinner table or in public, look in his eyes and smile, kiss him at random, hug him tightly, scratch his back after sex, scoot closer to him when you sit down together, cuddle with him, lean on his shoulder; the little things you do can make a huge difference. men can tell if youre faking it (for the most part) so try to be very lovey-dovey to let them know that you actually care about them. don’t take it too far, telling them that you’re in love with them when they don’t feel the same way or aren’t in the position to do anything about it can ruin the arrangement. but treating your sd like you’re in love with him will make him want to give you the world. after all, who doesn’t want to be loved?

so far, this is what has gotten me to where i am today. i cannot even imagine my life without sugaring. it has been the biggest blessing in my life, its like the world is at my fingertips. if you think you are ready for the sugar bowl after reading this, go for it. i hope you all take my advice or at least had a good time reading this :)

xoxo,

adriana

[ambitioussugar]

Absolutely gorgeous advice! 😊 Although I have to say that platonic arrangements are real and do exist. They're just damn hard to find and keep, like finding a shooting star and actually catching it, haha

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Watch: 12-year-old Arturo also explains to anti-vaxxers why it’s not “my child, my choice.”

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[one-day-mine]

The 5 Tears Of Sugar Daddy

The 5 Tiers of sugar daddy

Whale Daddy- will buy you an apartment, car, and all the luxuries your little heart desires. Most likely a spoiled girlfriend/kept woman scenario. Congratulations!

Sugar Daddy- gives you an allowance, buys you something pretty now and then, takes you on vacation. Just because your man is not a whale, does not mean you shouldn’t appreciate and care for him.

Splenda Daddy- a little bit of cash, some presents. May be Splenda due to financial situation OR will. Stay friendly, why not? They can be great friends.

Salt Daddy- does not understand how sugaring works, but not inherently bad. I.e., the ones who think VS and 300 USD is a good offer, or offer an unstable/unsustainable arrangement. Politely tell them they’re on the wrong site, or that you have met a really nice guy that you care for.

Fuckboy- does not care how sugaring works. Selfish and only looking for sex and how to manipulate, bully or browbeat girls into sex, but have no intention of cherishing their partner. Thinks that sugarbabies are a means for that thanks to CNN. Will also turn on girls and scream at/insult them due to internalised shame- they KNOW they are wrong, but they take it out on you instead. May even resort to date rape, ‘financial’ coercion (I would have given you 1k right away, but you said you weren’t up for chemistry on the first date, etc. etc.), or rape. STAY AWAY. Have fun sugaring.

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[laceandpuppytails]

In-Depth Sugar Protection Tips

-If you find your POT while doing a reverse image search and there is a LinkedIn link to his profile, don’t click on it unless you are logged into a fake LinkedIn account. LinkedIn notifies someone when someone else looks at their profile, so if you are logged into your real profile, it will expose your real name. -Amazon Wishlist will show your name and a bit of your address to the person buying for you. Get a P.O. Box or use DeliveryCode.com. -Amazon Wishlist is pretty shitty to sex workers. Don’t make it obvious on your Wishlist that there is an exchange of goods or services in a sexual way or they might delete you. Use DeliveryCode.com, which was made for sex workers. -One more thing about Amazon. There is a really awful feature that allows someone to select a “I will send this myself” button while checking out from your Wishlist. This makes it appear as though the person has purchased your item, but in reality, they haven’t. -Also PayPal. If they get a hint that you’re a sugar baby, they will suspend your account with all the money in it. Either constantly keep the money flowing out of it, or find other payment options. -Remember that PayPal reports to the IRS if you receive enough money to be taxable. Cash is always the best way to get money because it is untraceable. -Invest in a fire-proof safe for said cash. -Always have a backup plan, an escape route. Don’t let your guard down. Share your location with at least one friend or fellow SB when you’re on a date. Watch your drink. Protect yourself.

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WTF IS THIS BULLSHIT. TAKE IT DOWN AND BURN IT

[ambitioussugar]

Am I the only one that hears the Sailor Moon music in the background! Haha, >_<

[ambitioussugar]

Sudy App?

It’s really interesting how far technology has come! People will probably think I’m suuuuuuper old for saying this but ten years ago, I remember when people even didn’t know what an “App” was, haha! I’ve never tried the app but have some reserves with how effective it is.

It’s kind of sad to see how exposed the sugar life has gotten these days because lots of girls are rushing into the lifestyle and not being at all smart about their safety, smart about their sugar money, and being really really reckless! 

The Sudy app is an interesting twist, but I honestly think it’s going in the wrong direction. It’s made sugaring convenient. And when you make things convenient, men get lazy and they treat the sugar life with less formality. Less formality, especially in the sugar bowl, means more pushiness, more rudeness and less class. 

I fear that girls who have JUST heard or found out about the sugar life will go straight to this app and be very impulsive about the lifestyle, while only knowing the bare basics of how things work and think that that’s enough. 

Maybe I’m just a very traditional, old-fashioned type of girl, haha, and believe slow and steady wins the race but sometimes, certain things shouldn’t be rushed. :)

♥  A.M.