1. Always confirm the same day that you guys are meeting. These men have crazy schedules and they can cancel on you same day, best to know before you do your hair & makeup.Â
2. Never drive or uber a long distance to meet them. They should offer to come to you and if they donât they should offer to uber you. I always get ubered to my dates, I never give them my real address obviously but somewhere close that I could walk or a place I could drive to and leave my car. Driving or ubering a far distance because he said he would reimburse you isnât worth the risk. These men ainât shit! they will lie to you. Donât risk being out of gas or money, never worth it.Â
3. Always vet them before you meet them, nothing worse than going on POT date to find out he wants to pay you 200 per meeting. ASk questions nothing to invasive but just enough to see if can meet your needs. If you want monthly allowances make sure heâs open to that. IF he wants to do per meet to start, discuss how much. You can obviously negotiate a better price in person, but make sure you guys are in the same range $$$.  Don'tâ waste your hair/makeup and a cute outfit on a fuck boy who thinks heâs a sugar daddy. NEVER go on the POT with someone who gives you weird vibes, I mean if heâs weird over the phone he probably wonât be better in person, nothing is worth your safety.Â
4. Be cute but comfortable, Opt for the heels that are more comfortable over the ones that may look better with the outfit. Â Nothing worst than being out and having your feet hurt the entire time.Â
5. Be sexy and alluring without showing too much. I have big boobs so no matter what I wear their gonna show, but I always wear dresses that arenât  too tight or show that much cleavage. He may want to take you to social events with his colleagues or friends, you donât want to show up on your first encounter with your boobs out or a dress that barely covers your ass. You want to give off a lady in the streets but a freak in the sheets vibe. You donât have to spend much to look great, Forever 21 or Zara has great dress options that are affordable. Macyâs always has in store sales on shoes ( Got a couple of heels from there), DSW also. A little black dress with some cute heels and some simple accessories can go a long way, ladies. For new sugars, you can spend under 100 bucks buy a cute outfit that you can re-wear to multiple POT dates. Ball on a budget until you can get him to take you, to Saks ;)
6. Knowledge is key! reading book  Ho Tactics and the art of seduction has really stepped my sugar skills up. Body language and confidence is everything! This may sound silly but I practice my faces in the mirror so I can get an idea of what Iâm looking like when I say certain things, also what angles i look best in so I know how to tilt my head or smile. You have to mindfuck these to give you everything you want but never had. I always give eye contact it shows that you are really engaged it also turns guys on. I always order martinis or wine because of the way the glass fit in your hand. Eating a  olive off a  toothpick while eye fucking a guy will drive him crazy. Always ask follow up questions, whens heâs going on and on about his job or life, in general, show that your interested make comments be engaging. Also, brush up on current events, I use the SKIMM to help keep me up to date on current events. Be pretty but also cultured.
7. Always choose a high-end restaurant in your area. I usually yelp and look for restaurants with $$$ that has the best reviews, I legit have been to areas in D.C that I wouldnât have been able to afford or even heard of. Set your standards high and donât lower them. Donât ever go out with a guy who thinks going to some cheap chain restaurant is acceptable. Like your makeup shouldnât cost more than the menu. Gain knowledge on the nicest spots in your area, if he wants to take you somewhere lower end thatâs the easiest way to spot a Splenda. If it doesnât go anywhere at least you got to go to a nice ass restaurant, ate some good ass food, and drank some wine that cost as much your textbooks. Still a win.Â
8. If youâre meeting for a quick date such as Starbucks ( which I donât even recommend, they give me Splenda vibes) Â make sure you choose a time when itâs not too pack. You donât want to walk into a packed Starbucks with the line to door and no seats for your first date it sets an awkward tone. You want to be in a quiet setting where you can discuss the arrangement privately, without random people walking by every minute. Â Choose a time after lunch, or later in the evening.Â
9.Safety First! Never give out private information, give out fake email address, phone numbers, etc. The only thing Iâm truthful about is that Iâm a student and my age. Never get into a POT car, or go back to his place. I also send my friends my location so they know where Iâm at all times. Also download a safety app, very useful. If a guy gives you weird vibe excuse yourself to the bathroom and call a uber, try to find a different exit and leave his ass. Never meet up in a sketchy area or place. Make sure the place is public and that it is quiet but moderately packed. Never meet up too late in the night, and don'tâ over a drink. Overdrinking puts you in a bad head space which can lead to a bad situation that could be unsafe. I have no more than 3 cocktails on date depending on the time we are together. These sites are filled with psychos, be careful !.Â
10. Last but not least Never give up the pussy until you get yours. Things happen maybe you drank too much, or he was really cute so the chemistry was there but it is never a good idea to sleep with POT before the arrangement has been hashed out. Â This is not normal dating and he is not your bf. Unless heâs paying your bills, tuition, rent or aiding your makeup addiction why does he deserve pussy???? Always get your first, these men will fuck and dip out never to be seen again. GIving him quick access will not get your bills paid sis, donât do it. Before you think about giving him some think about your rent thatâs about to be due, the tuition you still have to pay, that car payment, or Rihanna new makeup line thatâs about to drop. Â Pussy is power use it wisely!
Feel free to add on ladies. Pusssy is power, letâs encourage each other and help each other to mindfuck these men! #TeamVagina