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@ambre0022
I know we all react differently to finding out we have some disability or disorder. However, I’ve seen people seem confused when I react more happily to finding out I might have something with a name. But here’s why….
It means there’s people out there like me
It means there’s a reason why I behave the way I do
It helps me feel less alobe
It allows me to possibly receive help that I always needed, but didn’t get
It helps me understand my behaviours more
(Image description: the rainbow, trans, lesbian, nonbinary, bisexual, asexual, intersex, pansexual, genderfluid, and aromantic pride flags with centered text. Together the text says: “There is nothing wrong with you. You are supposed to be here. It’s okay for you to love who you love. It’s okay for you to be who you are. You are exactly who you are meant to be. You are not broken. You were born perfect as you are. You belong in this community. You belong in this world. You are wonderful and worthy and enough.”)
okay I cried reading this, so thank you
No matter what you can’t do you’re still a valuable person.
Just because there stuff you’re not able to do, doesn’t make you less important even if some people think so.
“You can do anything you put your mind to”
If that’s true, why don’t you take off and fly instead of walking? If that’s true, why don’t you jump instead of taking the stairs? If that’s true, why don’t you run instead of driving your car?
We all have limits - it’s just that some limits are so common that they’re being acknowledged and accommodated by society and thus aren’t seen as limits as reasonable accommodations for these limits exist in our current society.
Having limits only becomes a problem when you have limits that most people don’t have due to mental illnesses or physical/mental disabilities, because these limits aren’t accommodated or acknowledged by society.
If you’re a neurotypical, ablebodied person, you likely won’t notice your limits as society is built to accommodate them, but there’s plenty of things you can’t do - the thing is, you aren’t expected to.
Please take a step out of your bobble of privilege and realize that for some people, working or studying 8 hours a day is as impossible as flying like a bird is to you and stop telling disabled and mentally ill people that they can do everything they put their mind to.
Cause none of us can - not even you. You’re just lucky that the limits you do have is shared by the majority of the population. Many of us aren’t that lucky.
Autistic people shouldn’t have to hide out autistic traits anytime we go out in public
(Anti-kink, radfems, queerphobes, aphobes don’t interact.)
“if somebody becomes panicked when you accuse them of lying theyre obviously not telling the truth” shut up ugly im a survivor who got punished for shit i never did all the time of fucking course im gonna panic when im blamed for something i didnt do
since this post is actually getting attention rn i really want to emphasize this-
many of the “tells” of lying are traits commonly found in abuse survivors and mentally ill/disabled people.
stuttering, averting eye contact, panicking, raising your volume, fidgeting, and other similar traits are actions performed commonly by these groups, especially in situations of heavy stress- such as being accused of doing something we didnt do, especially if we are afraid of being punished for doing nothing.
im honestly begging people to think critically when accusing somebody of lying for small traits like these.
It’s not appropriative to stand up against Autism Speaks or do #REDinstead
Like, please do so.
Autistic people are, too often, fighting a culture of hate and dehumanization on our own. It’s hardest when everyone is saying these things about you. And it’s just. so. tiring.
Yes, please stand up for us.
Yes, please post that cute selfie of you wearing red.
Yes, please link ignorant people to descriptions of why “Light it up blue” is harmful.
Yes, please draw a picture for autism acceptance month. It would make an autistic person’s day.
It’s lonely fighting stigma alone. And it really hurts, especially when it feels like no one else cares about us. The blue lights and sob stories and talk about cures just isolates us.
If someone who cared would be willing to reach out, to say something, to make it stop… it would mean the world.
“uwu but if there was a cure for autism nobody would force you to-
Bullshit. Yes the fuck they would.
Want to get hired? Oh, you have autism? Well, we can’t hire you unless you get cured.
Want to get paid? Oh, we’re legally allowed to pay you less because you’re autistic. We can pay you a reasonable amount when you get cured!
Need accommodations? Why don’t you just get cured instead?
You know, you wouldn’t need all this therapy and assistance if you just got cured. You should just get cured!
We don’t need special care programs for autism! There’s a cure available! Just get it!
This isn’t covered by your healthcare because autism is a pre-existing condition, sorry!
My child was autistic and we didn’t want him to be, so we cured him! He didn’t want or ask for it, but we did!
Look, autism can’t be cured. But if it could, that cure would would absolutely not be a choice. It would just be disguised as optional.
Why must Autism $peaks slander the very good color blue like this
Blue is the favorite color of my goddaughter and to think disgusting people like them use it for their hateful rhetoric.
To other autistic people, do you ever get those moments where you’re hungry or thirsty, but executive dysfunction stops you from doing something about it?
YES ! That’s happen so much to me, even now I’m thirsty and I keep telling myself to go get something to drink but I just stay there.
Usually I have a bottle of water in front of me but it’s empty...
PSA:
If you deliberately keep referring to someone as a “person with autism” because we’re “people first and foremost,” even after they’ve told you they prefer “autistic person,” by not respecting their choice, you’re NOT putting the person first.
Aka, you’re being a “person with hypocrisy.”
The Power of the Autistic Community
Can you believe that canonical autistic characters like Julia from Sesame Street, the Blue Ranger in the Power Rangers movie, Symmetra in Overwatch, and even Rick from Rick & Morty have only come out in the last 2 years? Also in the last year not one, but two shows have featured autistic main characters: Atypical and The Good Doctor. No matter what grievances you have with these shows or these characters, it’s still pretty impressive that we are getting more and more representation out there.
Here is some more things that have popped up in recent years featuring positive autistic representation:
The Autistic Self Advocacy Network was founded in 2006, with Autism Women’s Network following shortly behind in 2010.
@stimtastic is a stim tool business founded by an autistic in 2014 that has become a big resource for many autistics and other neurodivergents to purchase practical devices to stim with.
Tags like #REDinstead, #Boycottautismspeaks, and even #actuallyautistic are recent phenomena, as they were created in the last couple of years.
The neurodiversity symbol and autisticat (created by @strangerdarkerbetter in 2016) have only been around for a short time.
A wonderful, amazing book called Neurotribes (that I have even read myself!), published in 2015, provides a thorough look at our history and what’s happened to us in an unbiased light.
The neurodiversity movement, which includes autistics and other people with developmental disabilties, is not just here on Tumblr–we are everywhere!
I remember what it was like before I learned I was autistic. I thought somehow I was wrong or broken. But because of all the information out there in our community, it’s like everything clicked into place for me. Without the autistic community, I couldn’t have figured out that I was just a very normal autistic instead of an abnormal allistic . I also learned many new coping mechanisms to help with my other neurodivergencies as well through my discovery of learning I was autistic. I am so much happier and healthier now, and able to help myself better than ever before.
I know we haven’t made complete perfect progress with all the work we’ve made. The fidget spinner fad, the book To Siri with Love, and the Netflix series Atypical have made some negative impressions for autistic people everywhere. But I would argue that even those things have furthered our ability to platform for our cause. We still have a long way to go until we get the acceptance and support we are striving for, but just look at all the progress we’ve made so far!
This is the power of autistics when we find each other and group together! This is what we can achieve when we become a community and speak out!
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Ok to Reblog!
Day 7 of Autism Acceptance Month 2018
Check out:
Day 1: Introduction
Day 2: What I Love about Being Autistic is…
Day 3: My Discovery Story
Day 4 (Part 1): Reactions to “Coming Out”
Day 4 (Part 2): Reactions to “Coming Out”
Day 5: Special Interests
Day 6: Supports and Appreciation
Someone else told me this in a reblog a few days ago, so I’m gonna tell you this.
Many of you probably feel discouraged today. But here’s the thing:
People may be reading and silently filing the info about #BoycottAutismSpeaks and #REDInstead silently away in their minds. Not seeing change doesn’t mean it isn’t happening behind computer screens. People who are wearing blue this year may wear red next year.
We are having an impact. We matter. What we’re doing matters. We are being heard.
this autism acceptance month, please consider and remember the struggle of autistic people of colour who are demonized more than white autistics
positivity is cool and all but repressing negative feelings is toxic to yr mind and body. dont feel guilt for having an array of emotions. its corny to fake positivity when it isnt sincere, feeling stuff even bad stuff is nothing to be guilty over. its okay to feel bad sometimes
oh god, they were roommates
This straight guy, who we’ll call Mike, has been roommates with Alex for a year. When Alex told Mike he was gay, he was absolutely fine with it. But then when Alex started to bring guys home…he started getting annoyed, resentful, disgusted.
Posting on Reddit, he said: ‘First things first, let me say that I’ve never thought of myself as being discriminatory before. I had a gay friend in high school and we made it through some tough times together, I never felt weird about him dating a guy. So all of this is coming out of nowhere.
‘”Alex” has been my roommate for one year, and I pretty much knew upfront about him being gay. At some point we became friendly enough with each other that we could even joke about it, as in, sometimes he’ll pretend to flirt with me and I’ll pretend to flirt back. I’m straight and he knows that, but I don’t feel threatened by him flirting with me and he says most straight guys do.
‘The problems started because of this: Alex brings guys home sometimes. At the start I thought I was okay with it, since it’s really not my business who he sleeps with. He’s usually discreet enough about it that I don’t see/hear anything I wouldn’t want to see/hear from anyone else, but for some reason I’ve started feeling weird if I even see him with other guys.
‘I don’t know when it started but one time that really sticks out to me is when I came home and saw him and some guy making out on the couch. I don’t know how to describe what it was like to see that, except that for a moment I felt so bad I thought I was going to throw up. Alex was embarrassed (he didn’t think I’d be back for a while), but I told him it was okay since I was embarrassed too.
‘I felt bad for being as disgusted as I was, since there’s NO good reason for me to have a reaction like that. I thought maybe they just caught me by surprise and that’s why I reacted so strongly, but it turned out it wasn’t a one-time thing. After that, every time he has a guy over (not that often, but every once in a while) I just start feeling like shit and wishing that guy would leave, and I can’t stop thinking about what these guys might have done to him even though I don’t want to imagine that. It makes me really uncomfortable and grossed out. And these are just guys he fools around with, I don’t know what I’d do if he ends up getting an actual boyfriend.
‘Alex has started to notice and it’s affecting our friendship. The other day I came home right when some guy was about to leave, and the guy tried to be polite to me but I ended up being rude to him (don’t remember what I said, but it was really obvious I was pissed). When the guy left, Alex asked me why I was being an asshole. I didn’t know what to say, but then he asked if I had a problem with him sleeping with other guys. I said no. For some reason that pissed him off more and he said I can’t complain since I used to bring my fuckbuddy over and he was forced to see me being affectionate with her sometimes. (I was in an FWB situation with a girl in the early days of me and Alex living together, but I broke it off after a few months and I haven’t done anything with anyone since.) I agreed with him and told him I was just having a bad day and I don’t care who he sleeps with, but he looked more upset and told me he’s going to a friend’s place to cool off. I said okay. When he was leaving for some reason he casually said, “and you’ll be okay if I sleep with him as long as I do at his place and not ours, right?” Or something like that. I told him it’s none of my business what he does at someone else’s place, but when he said that I felt sick to my stomach and couldn’t stop thinking about it.
‘He didn’t show up later that night even though he was supposed to hang out with me and my sister. He’s never blown me off before and it made me feel like shit, but part of it was my fault since I made him feel like I was judging him for sleeping with guys. Now he’s acting like nothing happened but I’m worried I might mess things up if it happens again. I want to keep him as a friend, but he’d be hurt if he knew that whenever I think about him with other guys it disgusts me.
‘How do I deal with this? I’ve never been homophobic but I’ve suddenly developed some kind of homophobia where just the idea of my roommate’s sex life makes me uncomfortable. And I don’t react like this to other gay people either, it’s just Alex. I don’t know if this means I’m only okay with gay people as long as I’m not living with them or what. Does anyone else have experience with this? I want to get over myself and stop whatever this is, but if I can’t I’m going to have to leave since the last thing I want to do is hurt Alex, and if I stay here and keep automatically judging him for his lifestyle that’s what’s going to happen.
‘tl;dr: Roommate is gay, I am not but I thought I was okay with him being gay until I realised I feel crappy when I see him with other guys and it’s started to affect our friendship. How to deal with this/stop being such a dick?’
One Redditor asked: ‘Are you sure that weird feeling isn’t jealousy…? i mean, this only seems to revolve around Alex specifically.’
And Mike responded: ‘I thought about that, but I don’t know what I’m meant to be jealous of. He definitely has a more active sex life than I do, but reacting like this to something like that seems really strange and irrational.’
The Redditor responded: ‘Yeah i thought maybe you don’t like seeing Alex with other people because you want his attention to yourself?’
‘The day I made the post, I met up with my sister Laura [24F] and I showed her the post. She read the whole thing and called me an oblivious walnut and said it sounds like I have a crush on Alex. The same conclusion some of you came to in the original post.
‘Anyway, she talked me through it and we confirmed I’m not as straight as I thought I was. She also pointed out something in my original post, where I said the more I tried to reassure him I didn’t mind who he slept with, the more he got upset. Also: how he brought my old FWB situation into it. I just thought he was understandably mad with me for being an asshole, but Laura thought it sounded like maybe Alex wanted me to be jealous? We moved on from that topic pretty quickly, though, since I couldn’t really handle the implications of that when I’d JUST started to understand that I like this guy.
‘The next few days were mostly me sitting on my ass trying to wrap my head around everything. I was scared of messing up our friendship and losing him, but I was even more scared that I might just let this pass without saying anything and then he gets a boyfriend and I have to see him with another guy…etc. Because if that happened I would probably have to end it anyway, since as we’ve established, I’m not great at dealing with him being with other guys.
‘Probably could have planned it better, but I told him. Right after a Tarantino marathon, if anyone’s interested, since nothing says romance like graphic violence. I told him I’ve been such a dick because I was jealous. I don’t think he got what I was getting at because he just laughed a little and said I didn’t have to be jealous since it wasn’t like I’d have any trouble finding people to sleep with me. No clue how I explained, it’s a blur. Luckily he saw how nervous I was so he knew I was serious.
‘We talked. Long story short: all that flirting was real, but Alex didn’t have any hope of it going further because of me being an oblivious “straight” guy. So he’s been trying to get over me. He laughed really hard when I told him about how I mistook my jealousy for homophobia, and he teased me by saying he’d never expected me to be the jealous type. Then again, we both ended up laughing a lot of out of nervousness and awkwardness. I’ve never seen him like that before since he’s usually pretty confident. In the end we agreed to maybe try something out, and we kissed. Never kissed anyone with a beard before, so…interesting experience, but also really good. (Plot twist: it turns out I don’t have any problem with Alex kissing guys if it’s me he’s kissing.)
‘Since then we’ve kind of been easing into the whole dating thing, I guess? I know this place is wary about roommate relationships and I get why, but it’s been great so far. We had our first proper date last weekend and it was incredible, though a bit weird since we’ve done that a thousand times already and this time there was a new context. At home we still do our normal thing, but sometimes we get distracted. Last night I almost burned dinner because I had to kiss him and we got kind of carried away, haha. We’re taking the whole sex thing slow though since I’ve never done anything with another guy before.
‘I’m a little worried about coming out to my family and my other friends, especially since this is almost as new for me as it would be for them. My parents are very openminded and my mom especially loves Alex. But I have some more conservative family members on my dad’s side, and I can already imagine them blaming Alex for turning me gay. They can also be pretty racist (Laura’s boyfriend is Latino so she knows all about that) and Alex is mixed. It’s something to think about in the longterm, I guess. Alex has said he doesn’t expect me to jump out of the closet right away, but if we end up calling ourselves a couple then I’m not going to keep him a secret or anything.
‘So…we’re trying. And I am not a homophobe, and nobody needed therapy. Honestly, I can’t remember the last time I was this happy, and I never would have expected this when I made that first post. It’s a good thing some of you picked up on the actual problem and tried to get it through to me despite me being an oblivious walnut, so…thanks, guys.’
Funniest self-realization in the world? ‘Plot twist: it turns out I don’t have any problem with Alex kissing guys if it’s me he’s kissing.’
This was…. cute???
Someone make a movie out of this b/c this was an emotional roller coaster.
Would you stop doing something that damages a community if a member of that community told you your actions are doing damage?
[These are the words that Autism Speaks uses to talk about autistic people and our families: “Crisis, burden, barely living, despair, fear, missing, crusade, battle, desperate.” Our lives are beautiful, complex and valuable, but Autism Speaks is telling the world to hate us. This is why I #BoycottAutismSpeaks. facebook.com/BoycottAutismSpeaks]
https://autisticmama.com/do-not-light-it-up-blue/
[I am autistic, and I am speaking. Autism Speaks needs to STFU! #AreYouAwareOfMeNow]
