brief rant: why is romantic attraction often described so weirdly by allo people (from an arospec person) (this is NOT a new talking point but i'm yapping)
to clarify - i'm arospec (maybe acespec but i've given up labelling) and my best friend is aroace, which means we have like?? a lot of conversations on like whoaaa are allo people joking about romantic attraction etc etc
and i'm still?? really confused. i definitely (probably) feel it because i have before, but people really need to start defining it better!! like you look at an allosexual person's article on how to tell if you're romantically into someone, and it goes:
"how to tell if you're in romantic love with someone. 1) you miss them when they're not around. 2) you smile when you text them. 3) you want to be close to them often. 4) you may start daydreaming about your future with them and their likely constant place in it. 5) you'd choose them out of a room of people. 6) you'd feel jealous if they started putting you aside for another person."
do people not like their friends?? because i smile when i text my friends, and i miss them, and i want to be close to them, and some of them i want in my life forever (maybe even to live with), and i'd choose them from a room of people, and i value my time with them?? i know i'm not attracted to them. and i guess it's just issues with the phrasing of everything but uggggghhhhh. pet peeve idk. romantic relationships are not "more important" than other relationships you do not need "the one"
