romantic waffle on wheels with no talent

Jude. I only talk about the time I met Anne Lister's ghost. 

[neambus-moved-deactivated202105]

HONESTLY rice terraces are one of the most sophisticated and aesthetically beautiful forms of agriculture, if you haven’t seen what they look like, ur missing out

[neambus-moved-deactivated202105]

here’s just a few of them:

sources: x, x, x,x

[coffeepeople]

I find it endlessly fascinating that most humans just want someone who will get up in the middle of the night to close the windows with them when it starts down pouring. We want someone to dry our dishes after we wash them. We just want another person to do mundane activities with. We want to tell someone how the copy machine broke at work and we want to listen to how Debra is causing office drama again. We just want something so simple. We want human connection and honesty and to be bored with someone else instead of bored alone. 

[dreamsequencer]

[lierdumoa]

To my friends on the spectrum, let me explain to you an unspoken social rule that possibly nobody has ever explained to you before

If a neurotypical asks you, “What game are you playing?” they’re not asking you to describe the game.

They’re asking you if they can play too.

If a neurotypical asks you, “What are you watching?” they’re not asking you to explain the plot of the movie/tv show to them.

They’re asking if they can watch it with you.

.

When neurotypicals ask you “What are you doing?” 

What you think they’re asking: “Please explain to me what you are doing.” 

What they’re actually asking:  “Can I join you?”

Now here’s the really fucked up part. If you start explaining to them what you’re doing? They will interpret that as a rejection. 

What you think you’re saying: [the answer to their question]

What they think you’re saying: This is an elite and exclusive activity for a level 5 friend and you are a level 1 acquaintance. You are not qualified to join me because you don’t know all this stuff. Go away.

.

This is why neurotypicals think you’re being cold and antisocial.

IT’S ALL A HORRIBLE MISCOMMUNICATION.

[bonehandledknife]

I didn’t realize, even thought it took me almost three decades to learn this, that this was such a paradigm changing realization until we had our conversation today.

But it really really is. One of the most bewildering realizations I’ve had is most people don’t talk to learn things unless its related to work or directly towards their own hobbies, all the words and questions are bonding questions if done socially. They are “lets make friends” questions.

So if I answer their question without an opportunity for the person asking the question to give a response or to join in somehow, the asker feels alienated and starts shutting down.

Example: what are you reading?

True answer but not what they’re looking for: Title of book

Best answer for social scenarios where I want to retain/create friendship: This book is about x and y but it has z that i know u have an interest in too.

Example: what are you doing?

True answer but not: drawing

Best answer for friends: I’m drawing but would u like company while I’m working?

And sometimes frankly I’m not in a headspace where I can process people so the answer is something like, “I would like to do something in a day or later, do you want to plan something?”

Tldr: communication is wierd

[survivablyso]

HOLY

SHIT

that explains so fucking much thank you

(why the fuck do neurotypicals never just day what they mean ie hey this show looks cool mind if I join you)

[bonehandledknife]

Further annoying?

They don’t realize that’s what they’re asking and they just feel rejected and go away. So you can’t even ask them what you did wrong because they can’t even put a finger on why they feel the way they do they just know you made them feel bad for some undefined reason.

[13faeinapenguinsuit]

What’s messed up about this is that we are the ones that communicate explicitly and simply and are pathologized for it, while allistics literally expect us to READ THEIR FUCKING MINDS and that’s normal? How even is that reasonable? How is it we are the ones that society thinks are mentally ill?

Uhg.

Just so… for those of you who have to hide your autism, this is a great thing to keep in mind.

[aroloverboy]

Actual representation of me learning about asexuality 

[shmu-h]

I got tired of never seeing love stories that reminded me of myself. so I made one. for myself.

[shmu-h]

can y’all stop reblogging this/responding to this with “this is so unrealistic?” I literally made it because it reminds me of myself and my relationship, and I see a handful of people saying that it reminds them of themselves and their relationships. I know being trans/queer can make dating and finding love seem impossible, but part of that is because nobody is making media about us and our relationships, hence why I drew this.

My partner loves me for who I am, but more importantly I love me for who I am, queer as fuck, and I know that if he didn’t respect me the way I wanted him to, there are literally so many good people in the world who would. I am perfect and lovable and valuable not in spite of being queer but because of it, and so are you. 

[ohemaa-warrior]

[claudiamatossilva]

Hilda by Duane Bryers

[badkidgorgug]

More Hilda!!

[themockingcrows]

in this family we love and support Hilda.

[i-am-the-narwhal]

Yes! Hilda!

[luidilovins]

What i love about this artist’s depictions of women is even the sexualized ones the woman is always genuinely happy and enjoying herself. Frolicking or making funny faces, she’s living her life and looking sexy while doing it, not sitting in a sexual pose for the audience’s view.

[squish-this]

I always forget about Hilda and am so pleased when she randomly shows up on my dash. Always makes my day

[snailfarts]

I love Hilda so much and I want her to be happy

[smuttine]

more Hilda!

[agileo-101]

I freaking love Hilda, there’s needs to be more art like this.

[aspiringmonstergirl]

I will never not reblog Hilda

[bicapopart]

Hilda is a treasure ❤️❤️❤️

[luke-is-gay2]

I love this so much

[anachronic-cobra]

The idea of a pregnant couple posting about a gender reveal party only go to "PSYCH IT'S THE OTHER KID" is hilarious and also these are some fantastic parents

[kaijuno]

[deadblogggu-u-deactivated202010]

messy thing just to get my thoughts down

[saffronandgolab]

And then we also have to take into account that autism can show up differently in women and is often not detected or takes years to be detected since its pattern is not as 'traditional' as the pattern men show with autism.

[whitepeopletwitter]

[pxr-deactivated20190830]

we are boycotting amazon siri play despacito

[snoopingasusualisee]

apple’s not any better….gregorian monks start deepthroating

[snoopingasusualisee]

i meant to say throat singing but you know what that’ll work too

[linecrosser]

Alex, America’s First Son, has so many regrets right now.

[nevver]

[banzai-jinto]

but tell me you wouldnt wear at least one of these

[socialnetworkhell]

“Consensual sex” is just sex. To say that implies that there is such a thing as “non consensual sex”, which there isn’t. That’s rape. That is what it needs to be called. There is only sex or rape. Do not teach people that rape is just another type of sex. They are two very separate events. You wouldn’t say “breathing swimming” and “non breathing swimming”, you say swimming and drowning.

[dimxdada-deactivated20210403]

Reblogging this a second time

[zodiac--signs]

important as hell

[cyberthot666]

good morning america is a cult and police are domestic terrorists

[basementdemo]

im about to come out to my parents (i’m a heteroromantic demisapiosexual, meaning i only feel sexual attraction to smart people i already have a strong emotional bond with). i hope they accept my Queer identity

[basementdemo]

guys im shaking my mom threw condoms at me and told me to go bang a dumbass i dont know what to do please help me