My Body Might Be Fucked Up But Brother I'm Walking

he/him. I keep trying to sneak into the palace of Ithaca but the clap of my splendid and large thighs keeps alerting the suitors

[azrakon]

[the-grand-author-ne]

[remy-labelle-purple]

[kuttithevangu]

Being a calm, gentle, non-reactive person is really hard work, which is probably why many people are none of these things. Personally I think it’s worth it but sometimes one does want to just roll around on the floor wailing at the top of one’s lungs

[kuttithevangu]

People in my notes who think I’m repressed or dissociating: you will feel better when you learn emotions are not a binary of Not Feeling It vs Being Overwhelmed By It

[should-be-sleeping]

Every once in a while, I need to outwardly state that my being kind is a choice. Not just to remind people that they are also capable of making that choice but to warn the person prodding the wasp nest that is my patience that it would be far easier to not continue making that choice. I could just go apeshit, brother.

[anachronic-cobra]

It's hard to be the calm one in any situation, especially when the other people involved just want to be upset. Especially when you ALSO want to just be upset. But being able to understand that emotion and feel it while still being rational and functioning normally is just good emotional regulation! It isn't dissociating or "not feeling", it's a conscious skill you have to practice.

I like to think of myself as a calm and rational person. This is at least partially because I'm low empathy and I don't have that emotional influence from other people being upset about things, so it's really just my own internal shit that bubbles up, but I have therapy to help me regulate that. But it's also a conscious effort to be kind DESPITE low empathy making it harder to care when it doesn't personally affect me. Even if I don't benefit directly from being kind, it matters to the people who need that kindness, and I do want other people to be happy.

Being kind is a choice and I fully believe that it is a choice for EVERYONE who is kind, even the people it seems to come easy to on the surface. Which is what makes it so wonderful that so many people in the world are kind.

[rainydaydecaf]

I never saw people say stuff like this enough when I was a teenager, so I’m saying it now.

I’m in my mid-thirties and I have never had sex. I’ve thought about it and could have had one or two opportunities if I put in more effort, but I always decided against it because I just wasn’t into it at the time.

I can safely say that I do not feel I have missed out on anything. I was perfectly capable, by myself, of learning about my own body and boundaries without anyone else there to muddy the waters. The immense pressure that was there in my teens/twenties to Have Sex Just Do It is basically gone. I’m vibing. I’ve got my routine by myself in bed that I enjoy, and that’s enough for me.

And in the unlikely event that I ever decide to have sex with someone in the future, I don’t feel at all like I’m lacking some essential Knowledge or Skill that would “make it good” for someone else. I fully expect to ask my partner out loud what they like and to receive an answer clearly communicated and to relax and have fun. And if it’s a disappointing experience, I’m fine with that too. It is what it is.

Sex is just not that big of a deal. I suspected it as a teen, and I’m more sure of it now. It’s fine to have it or not have it. It’s whatever.

[toskarin]

oh my god it hurts

[toskarin]

and it's going to hurt forever

[toskarin]

every now and then I see people passing screencaps of these posts around, and in the months after I made this post there were people checking in on me assuming I was going through grief or depression or something

to set the record straight, the context is that I had covid and was bleeding from my throat and lungs, but for some ungodly reason, I was feverishly driven to drink lemonade and kept screaming and writhing because I was pouring fizzy lemon juice on open throat wounds

[anachronic-cobra]

I think the most annoying thing wrong with my body rn is Can't Walk Right And No One Knows Why Disorder

[liebelesbe]

june is over... goodbye pride month, hello disability pride month!!

[liebelesbe]

let's all be disabled this month... together 🤝

[liebelesbe]

if you're not disabled yet: no need to worry! i can help. come closer.

[notatzimisce]

I will never shy away from the word goon. goon is the only way to describe a particular type of henchman, lackey, or thug. look at these guys. they're goons.

[anachronic-cobra]

The critical difference between goons/henchmen and lackeys/thugs is that goons have STYLE (which complements their supervillainous boss' style). A lackey/thug will get the job done but goons/henchmen are in it for the lifestyle

[babyanimalgifs]

Little fish eats his foods 

(Source)

[bunigojade]

[aflo]

this is so sad he doesn’t even know there’s a double barreled shotgun pointed at him

[identifying-fish-in-posts]

Pacific spiny lumpsucker (Eumicrotremus orbis)

[duke-of-fire]

[splickedylit]

His Foods :) 👍

[cheaphalloweencostume]

the idea that a sex scene in fiction is fundamentally useless/simply for audience titillation UNLESS they’re fucking infodumping exposition while they bone or something is so funny and myopic to me. like, you really genuinely believe for real that there is NOTHING to be gained about your understanding of a story or characters simply from how they approach and engage in sex? really for real?

[cheaphalloweencostume]

i'm not convinced that art only has something to offer us when we personally want to participate in the activities being depicted

[birdplushie]

"it's not that deep" START DIGGING!!

[magn-animously]

DIG

[14-opossums-in-a-trenchcoat]

DIG

[buriedunderyourmum]

DIG

[hannisconfused]

DIG

[kitsunesakii]

DIG

[yourlocalfandomfriendo]

DIG

[apple-notplural]

DIG

[vivitur-moritur]

DIG

[spacecat24-7]

DIG

[chub-froggy]

DIG

[thatghostthateatspeople]

DIG

[krowbreaker]

DIG

[spid-the-spider]

DIG

[annabelle--cane]

DIG

[yellow-faerie]

DIG

[vampiraptor]

[philosopherking1887]

OOPS TOO DEEP

[breaks-hetheon]

CLIMB

[artist-of-obsessions]

CLIMB

[fablegate]

CLIMB

[marzibird]

CLIMB

[the-luckyrabbit]

CLIMB

[staarbles]

CLIMB

[modmad]

[sebwritesstories]

[crossedblade]

Knights with body modifications, please.

Knight with a house crest carved into their backs. An order where all members have their tongues pierced with a jewel that burns should they lie. Body modifications that are not even possible outside of fantasy.

[anachronic-cobra]

[pangur-and-grim]

I hope my spider fucking book will hold universal appeal

[limbel]

when youre reading smut and youre positive you have their entire geometry figured out but then someone grabs a knees that shouldn be there

[thespiritofeon]

yo…. when jet breaks in the tea shop and accuses zuko and iroh of beinh firebenders….

do you think any of the patrons looked at zukos scarred face - obviously done by a firebender - and immediately think jet was an asshole? like

jet: hes a firebender!!!!

patrons, thinking about the backstory they concocted for zuko and iroh where their home was invaded by firebenders and they barely survived with their lifes so they could come and have a peaceful life selling tea in a city the war doesnt touch:

Jet: He’s a firebender!

The Patrons to the Tea Shop internally: You fucking stupid, sir? I think you might be stupid.

THE TAGS

[captainlordauditor]

#if someone shouted something racialized at a food service worker and he pulled swords#if be like ‘yeah that’s fair’

[brain-deadx0]

He didn’t even use his own swords. He took them from a guard and the guards let him

[vareidow]

[anachronic-cobra]

Learned today that there are two DIFFERENT kinds of empathy and the reason empathy tests are so all over the place is that I'm high in one kind and low in the other

Like, I have high cognitive empathy I like to think. I'm pretty good at recognizing other sides of an issue, even if I don't agree with them. I'm good at putting myself in other people's shoes and understanding why they're acting a certain way, but the fact that they ARE acting that way doesn't tend to move me emotionally if they're not impacting my life directly

But I have like NO affective empathy. My emotions are not affected by other people's emotions. I can't recognize what someone else is feeling until they tell me. If someone is happy I will celebrate with them because I want them to know that I want them to be happy, but their joy does not necessarily cause me to feel joy. A person crying does not move me to pangs of sympathy, but I still want them to feel better, because everyone deserves compassion.

This also causes me to try to comfort people by listing off the reasons a situation might be happening when all they really wanted was commiseration. I am learning not to do that, so there's usually a moment of quick backpedaling in any serious conversation someone has with me.

Compassion without emotional investment is a skill I have spent YEARS figuring out and I'm certainly not perfect (I'm especially not good at understanding people being angry about things, for example, and I never know what to say when people are sad or hurt, but I'm working on it). But it IS a skill that can be learned, and it's helped a lot by cognitive empathy.

I bet it's even HARDER to learn for people who struggle with cognitive empathy. And especially so for people with high affective and low cognitive - the emotional toll must be a lot higher.

[were-writes]

Will humanity ever be free of the influence of Edna Mode? Can any of us so much as consider the character design for a hero or villain without her manifesting in the room, fully aware of our sins?

[were-writes]

You know what, another layer of difficulty is when you’re thinking about villains, and the wise words of Megamind come into your head. You don’t just want your child to be just a regular villain. But how do you make your villain a Supervillain with no cape? Where is the drama? But Edna says no capes, you must deny them the flair. It is impossible to please them both, and it’s tearing this family apart.

[sci-the-superb]

you. you get it.

(tags via @jeremiahsmysteriosotouch)

[deadblogdontlook]

Counteroffer: Big dramatic cloak to protect your identity that you drop on the floor before every fight

[krshush]

#there are two wolves inside you #one is edna mode #the other is megamind  (@remnantofahero) 

[silver-tongues-blog]

I can’t believe the compromise is Obi-Wan Kenobi

[marlynnofmany]

“No capes!”

“Game on, then.”

[cheeseanonioncrisps]

Okay, but I love that Gandalf is just dropping his cloak to reveal another, slightly smaller cloak underneath it.

[worldheritagepostorganization]

World Heritage Post

[anachronic-cobra]

You can always take a page out of Megamind's book too - easy tearaway capes for a quick escape

[anachronic-cobra]

I think the worst and unfortunately most prevalent take in like every fandom is the idea that if something isn't explicitly stated in the text in the exact right clear words, it didn't happen, or that it makes a character is bad representation of something.

You gotta be able to recognize when the story is trying to tell you something even when they're not holding your hand. Most characters aren't gonna therapy-speak their way through communicating their life experiences with other characters, you gotta know how to understand what's going on in the narrative without the characters telling you outright. That's just media literacy.

A character isn't bad representation just because they didn't look into the camera and list off their identity labels/neurodivergencies/disabilities/what have you. The difference between canon and headcanon isn't "did they say it in those exact words onscreen", it's "what was the narrative actively trying to address about this character", whether explicitly or by implication.

A character isn't bad rep for not having the experience or vocabulary or will to understand what they're going through. The representation is for the audience to recognize and understand, not the character. If the character doesn't understand, or doesn't want to understand, it's because the character isn't the type of person who would understand, and that's what the narrative is addressing.

That's not to say whether poor representation does or doesn't exist, that's a different subject I'm not going to get into. But I think a lot of people could benefit from stepping back from wanting to be told without a shadow of a doubt that a character is or has this or that and start looking closer at how it serves the story being told - that's where you find the answers.