My past in sex work and how I make the most out of it now
Note: this will be an extremely long post just about my past and a few pointers near the end I wish I realized when I was starting out (and actually listened to it) lol.
I’ve been working in sex work for about two years. I wouldn’t classify myself as an expert or someone that knows everything about it but, I have explored all different “alleys” when it comes to escorting. I remember the first day when I sat in a coffee shop with a petite red head that was in her 40’s wanting to recruit me. She pointed to her dark circles under her eyes from working too late and would laugh, “Eventually the job will do this to you.” She told me she could help me making a lot of money, but she required a cut out of it. She would screen my clients for me, set me up with a car that would drive me around and all I had to do was preform my services, take the cash, and leave.
I started out at $300/hour (that’s what I kept) and at the time it was a lot of money for me. I wasn’t self entitled, even though I knew I could get away with charging more but I didn’t have the experience nor RISK to do so. It was hard my first month… nobody really booked me because I was “too new”. Reviews weren’t coming in and that same petite Red Head continuously promised me things would get better. I don’t know what it was but one month clients continuously kept pouring in. I was constantly booked and able to make enough to help me pay for a small apartment and keep my way through school. It was flexible hours and easy at the time. Fast forward a few months later I was becoming one of the top girls the agency had. I had a lot of great reviews and truly I really helped pave a way for that redhead’s income. It was literally a thunderstorm of a night and I told her I wasn’t available working because I wanted to see my vanilla boyfriend at the time but a client was persistently calling and paging her that he NEEDED to see me tonight. He offered to pay for four hours rate but only see me for two. I ended up cancelling my vanilla date and curiously drove over in literally the pouring rain to his mansion of a house. Upon arrival he popped a bottle of champagne and sat me down. He just arrived back from his “rich ass” vacation in the South of France and while I usually couldn’t hold back my eye rolling (I hated the pretentious types) with him it was more of an ease because some part of me felt intrigued. We talked for the first hour, and for the first time EVER in my sex work experience I felt like this was not really a “job” that I hated but something that I truly enjoyed. I saw sex work from a different perspective the one where, clients aren’t animals but they just wanted to be taken care of and have someone that “cares” about them in that moment. The feeling they want? To be needed. He tipped me an additional $400 and I remember crying in my car how much money I made that night. The next day I bought my first ever OWN “luxury” watch which was a MK one. It paved the way for luxuries in the future I would want and how I spent my money.
It seems to be a common pattern, call it a trap if you will with the amount of money we start earning becomes excessive eventually. We start buying expensive bottles when we are out with friends, we don’t cringe when we do a shopping spree that is $500-700 because we know we can make that back easily with one or two appointments, etc. The value of money suddenly becomes blurred because it becomes so easy when you get used to sex work that you often forget why you are even working. Are you working to just spend and live as is? Or are you investing in a future for yourself? Both which are heavy questions with a lot of thought… I knew I wasted my time not investing towards the future I wanted. I eventually became fully independent and branched myself off from my agency (which caused an explosion of drama) and I was in a new territory. I had clients that wanted to stay with me from the agency and then I had a whole new amount just based on my reviews wanting to meet me. (I also had an awesome woman teaching me the ropes of being independent so I do owe it to her for my success) I slowly increased my rates to meet the standard in my city $400-500/hour and to match the market price of the other girls rates when I was posting on boards and things. I began travelling (touring) a bit but I was a complete noob lol. The new freedom of being independent and having a rate that worked with my lifestyle was a steady income for me and helped me towards investing in my future. I continuously started upgrading my closet, buying a few designer things, and even updating myself. I bought better make up, better hair products, etc. I was investing in the type of woman I knew had a lot of potential and I wanted my physical attributes and my confidence to explode with “goodness.” What I definitely recommend is investing back some of your money into YOURSELF. This doesn’t mean go buy the most expensive purse, but, get small things that make you feel more sexier / give you that confidence whether it’s better make up, hair products, heels/ lingerie etc or all of it - do it!
It wasn’t until maybe 8 months ago that things suddenly started taking a big turn for me. I was starting to get messages from guys in different cities wanting me to visit, and offering a higher rate for me to fly out. I started getting messages from other escorts about meeting, and I thought to myself – I am so business minded, why have I never thought about networking myself? About 2-3 months ago I believe I networked all around to change up my clientele to something more “exclusive” and by word of mouth only, which was a goal of mine from day one. I now tour excessively and the income I generate just from 3-5 days is what I used to try to make in a month. For the past few months I have been heavily investing it into a business I currently run, a project I currently want to move forward with and saving my money as well. I am at a point in my escorting work where I don’t need to advertise in order to “have” clients but it’s something that I managed to build because I worked extremely hard to get there.
What I suggest to you, new escort or experienced is that:
1. Have a plan! What do you want from sex work? Temporary relief? Long term goals? There is no right or wrong answer here… Just be completely honest with yourself and don’t fall off your path!
2. When the money starts rolling in, and trust me it will a lot of it, please remember to save 20-25% of each “payment” you get!!! I promise eventually it all adds up, but this is so extremely important in case you have a crisis or something you truly need money for you have a savings account to help you.
3. Don’t be so easily trusting!!! There are people in this world that are WILLING to tear you down, willing to rob you of everything you have, and shit on you so they can move up in this world. Keep yourself private, don’t let everyone know your business. Hide your fucking money!!!
4. Eventually everyone finds out about your “secret” how will you deal with it? Something you need to think about and trust me it’s not as bad as you think it is… Eventually it’ll blow over.
5. Do not become a machine… Have a life and live it! Go out with your friends, meet new people, enjoy reading books or doing yoga in the morning… keep being yourself don’t let “making money” over control your life. I understand if it’s for survival, but don’t loose yourself because eventually you will burn out (which you’ll be more mad at yourself) and it won’t be pretty.
6. Invest in yourself. Buy make up and hair products that show your beautiful looks. Get lingerie sets you look sexy in, buy condoms that are ribbed (if you like that lmao) or have some sensation shit (whatever makes YOU feel good), get that lube that you enjoy as well - make working and your personal life fun and sexy!!
7. Never fear for expanding. A business needs to grow, don’t feel afraid to take risks and jump with them just have a back up. Take a professional photo shoot, make a website, expand your business entirely. Start networking, start travelling and touring, do different things that aren’t apart of your usual business routine because one of them could be a goldmine that could HELP your business increase drastically. Maximize on all opportunities as possible.
8. Please stick with your restrictions and stay within comfort. I understand for survival your willing to risk things, but your life is far more important. I’ve been in sticky situations where I needed that extra $400 to pay for a bill and if I didn’t shit would hit the fan… You can always pay in small amounts. Pay $20-40 whatever you have just a small amount to tackle the big amount until it slowly starts dissolving. The reason I say this is because, if a man is willing to let’s say pay you double (800) for a service you aren’t comfortable with like him being a Sadist for an hour and you’ve never met him… There are some serious safety precautions here. Don’t risk it. ❤️ but, you do as you please just understand your life is very important and there’s a million ways to pay back any bills you have… you can always start in small portions (it’s very doable!)
That’s all I have for now I’ll maybe update more later… but congratulations if you stuck with me to read this long, unedited, portion of writing on a mobile device because I haven’t had my computer in a freaking month 😂😂 I know that this might not agree with everyone but this was MY personal experience and a few pointers I LEARNED that I wish I knew a bit earlier!!!
