Elly's Life Adventures~

Hello, everyone! I'm a thirty-something autistic (plus some other stuff) badass! Ahem, at least, I choose to think so on a good day. I live with my darling trash panda (partner) and our best friend Blake. We have two darling kittens named Pancake and Pickles and a precious, sassy bun named Basil. Anyways! It's super duper nice to meet you! And I hope that we can talk about all of the things together!

[bebx]

reblog if you’ve read fanfictions that are more professional, better written than some actual novels. I’m trying to see something

[stimming-along]

when i watch a movie and something embarrassing happens to one of the characters, i have to pause the movie and physically remove myself from the situation by pacing around before i can resume the movie.

[angelbread22]

Official Elly quote of the day: “See, Kitty! This is how you get good at blow jobs.” *holds out ice cream cone* “Or going down on people in general. My tongue has mad skills~”

Apparently I’m hilarious.

[z-mizcellaneous-z]

Everyone seemed to really need/appreciate this last time I did it so I'm doing it again:

pick the one you need to hear the most and pass it along.

I'm proud of who you've become.

You're worthy of being loved. You're not unlovable

You're safe. It's okay. It'll all be alright.

It's okay to be vulnerable.

You can put yourself first. It's okay to be selfish every now and then.

You were a child, it wasn't your fault.

It will get better. You will get better. It just takes time.

You are important. You matter.

You're not obligated to please everyone.

Your scars don't make you any less beautiful.

Voting ended onAug 3, 2023

[fuckysuckybrigade]

I love to use my disability “as an excuse.” Fuck yeah my disability is an excuse. It’s the most valid excuse I have. I’m not helping you lift that box/etc because my disability would make it fucking painful. Not wanting to be in pain is a good enough reason. I’m not going to put myself in pain to comfort your sensibilities.

Yes I’m using my disability as an excuse because I refuse to hurt myself for you. If you’re mad about it you can cry! ❤️

[fuckysuckybrigade]

Happy disability pride month.

In honor of my chronic pain flareup that I could’ve avoided by asking my wife for help here’s your reminder to say no to stuff when it is safe to do so!! Ask for help!!

This month practice saying “I can’t do that. It would hurt me.” or “can I have help with (x)?” Start with a friend or family member who you feel comfortable asserting your boundaries with and keep saying no.

[higgsboshark]

The thing about knitting is it’s much harder to fear the existential futility of all your actions while you’re doing it.

Like ok, sure, sometimes it’s hard to believe you’ve made any positive impact on the world. But it’s pretty easy to believe you’ve made a sock. Look at it. There it is. Put it on, now your foot’s warm.

Checkmate, nihilism.

[cheskamouse]

This is a powerful positive message..

[pluckyredhead]

I’m literally reading a book right now (Burnout by Emily and Amelia Nagoski) that says this is scientifically sound.

There have been studies done on rats and dogs where they develop learned helplessness in the animals by giving them impossible tasks. Eventually the animals stop trying, even when the task stops being impossible. (I.e. put a rat in a maze with cheese it can’t get to until it develops learned helplessness, then put the cheese somewhere it can get to it and it won’t even try.) But once they show the animals they CAN do something - i.e. physically moving the rat to the cheese - the learned helplessness goes away.

No one can move you to your cheese for you, but the book says DOING something - which they define as “anything that isn’t nothing” can help. Make a food. Work in the garden. Clean a thing. Do a favor for a friend. Call your elected officials.

Knit a sock.

If you feel overwhelmed by existential despair, do something. It doesn’t have to be big. It just has to be anything that isn’t nothing.

[adhd-informative]

This is really good advice for ADHD people because when executive dysfunction gets bad it’s easy to fall into this pattern of thinking. Do just one thing. It doesn’t have to be your homework, or a chore. It can be something small, it can be something you enjoy. But do just one thing to remind yourself that you can.

[hyperactivehedgehog]

This is what “humans want to be productive” really means

We want to make things. We want to do something and at the end of the process see that something has changed. We want physical proof that we did something. We want to be able to point at something and say “I made this”. We want to be creators

[doctordisaster]

I have had it with this likescolding. “Tumblr doesn’t have an algorithm so likes don’t actually do anything” motherfucker I am not clicking that heart to give some post better ~algorithmic visibility~ I am clicking that heart to help my internet friend microdose on serotonin as god fucking intended

[awetistic-things]

the pipeline of :

finding out you’re autistic —> becoming hyper aware of your autistic traits —> having imposter syndrome because you think the hyper awareness is actually just you faking it

[gaimez-deactivated20170317]

i wish puberty took you to a customize your character screen

[gaykuvira]

do you realize how many people would be dragons

[hipssway-lipslie]

you say this like it’s a bad thing

[no-internet-history]

For those who don’t get the memo

[visit-ba-sing-se]

I could have lived in peace (stayed warm in my bed) but my enemies (job that pays my bills) brought me war (e-mails i have to respond to)

[snapnarcissisticabuserecovery]

[thereignclub]

it is better to do good things poorly than to not do them at all. a 15-20 minute walk is better than not going, slow yoga or stretching is better than not moving at all. reading a few pages is better than not reading anything. baby steps are okay.

[my-autism-adhd-blog]

Autism Pride Day

Meltdowns

The Autistic Teacher

[salti-thelatediagnosedautist]

part of being autistic is slowly realising that you actually live in chronic pain and all your random little physical blips and errors might actually be caused by a chronic illness???

No, but seriously, no one told me that it doesn't hurt their elbows when they shake sauce bottles... it doesn't hurt their wrists and hands to write.... it doesn't hurt their feet to drive.... they don't randomly "lose grip" on objects or find keyboards or controllers difficult to hold... I was under the assumption this was all relatively normal?

Part of the reason I didn't realise this is because I don't always realise I'm in pain. My autism already makes me hyposensitive to pain, but because my "neutral" is to always be in like a 3/10 pain state, I don't always know that I'm in pain...

[catchymemes]

[mylittleredgirl]

i feel like every human should max out at one disability or chronic illness. like when i hit adolescence and my brain chemistry went “bipolar time now?” the response should have been an error message like sorry! this slot can only contain one (1) item and has been filled with childhood asthma. i would even allow the possibility that you can overwrite previous disorders like “you have equipped chronic migraines and so no will no longer display symptoms of bipolar disorder.” i just think it should work that way.