Sometimes We Glow. More Often We BURN.

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[angrystarchild-blog]

That's the end of the queue— message me if you have me on any messenger (skype, phone, etc,) if you want the new blog. I might reject giving it out.

[gloamglozerglam-deactivated2022]

GROSS THINGS U SHOULD KNOW ABOUT CHEST BINDING IN SUMMER

you can find fashion advice on how to make things more visually manageable and more comfortable, but for bigger guys some of those tips don’t apply and some issues will come up anyway. here’s some stuff I could’ve stood to know last year.

if you feel the need to layer or wear something thick, sleeveless hoodies exist. they can save you a bit of heat.

take off layers when you can. wash carefully in the folds of your skin, dab moisture away occasionally during the day, and wash your binders OFTEN.

fungal infections: for bigger guys, these can happen between and under breasts. if you notice a vinegary smell when you unbind, that’s what that is. afaik there’s no massive health risk from this kind of thing on your skin, but still try to keep those areas dry and clean.

you might get some pimples on your chest, which is fine.

you might also get sebaceous cysts. LEAVE THEM ALONE. do not try to pop them yourself, it increases risk of infection. they’ll probably go away on their own; if one becomes inflamed, see a doctor.

in the heat, your binder will stick to your skin more and the shoulder straps will dig into your skin. don’t wait until you’re bleeding - if it feels raw at all, pad your straps. you can get bra strap pads online, or just make your own with whatever you have handy.

lastly: drink a lot of water. you’re wearing layers, and binders are skintight. you will sweat more.

I know everything is gross + miserable but hang in there and take care of yourself.

[transbutts]

Summer is around the corner! Please remember all these safe binding tips. Stay hydrated and don’t over exert yourself. Your identity is important, but so is your health/well-being.

*hal

[slimekid-deactivated20181003]

important things for new or young digital artists to remember:

don’t shade colors with black

don’t overuse the airbrush tool, especially when it comes to shading

layers have different settings, explore them!

if your lines are wiggly when you draw, check your brush stability settings

if you find your lineart is looking too stiff/not like your sketch, try cleaning up the sketch instead of lining it. it helps keep fluidity and the feel of your original drawing

crop your pictures, don’t leave a ton of empty space unless you add some kind of background

make sure your canvas is set to at least 300dpi 

draw on a large canvas ( i draw on a 3000x3000px canvas) it will be easier to line your work and everything will look much smoother even if you shrink it down

.jpeg files save space, but this file type may compress your art and sacrifice quality. when I post art I always use .png

[lampurple]

Actual good first-time college student advice:

Wear jeans/pants that “breathe” and bring a sweater, even if it’s scorching hot out, until you know which building blasts the AC to 60 degrees F and which feels like a sauna

Backpacks with thick straps are your friend!  Messenger bags are cool and all but if you’re commuting with a lot of stuff, symmetrically styled backpacks are better for your back

You are your own person and you can walk out whenever you need to or want to, so long as you’re not disrupting the class.  Meaning you can go to the bathroom without permission, take a breather if you’re anxious, answer an important phone call, etc.

If you don’t like the class on the first day, if you can- DROP THAT CLASS AND TAKE ANOTHER ONE!  It’ll only get worse from there!

If you can, take a class outside your major; it’s a good break from your expected studies.

You are in charge of your schedule.  Your adviser and guidance counselor is there to ‘advise and guide’ but if you don’t like certain classes and you can substitute for others, that’s your choice.

Consequently, if you are changing anything drastic in your plan, talk with your adviser and instructors.

Pay attention to your credit hours and grades.  Never leave this to the last week of school, you will be sorry and stressed beyond belief!

Unless it’s a lab book or otherwise specified, go to the class for a week or so before buying an expensive textbook.  Some classes, while having it on their required list, do not actually use the textbook a whole lot and you might find some of it scanned online.  Rent if you can or buy used online (schools actually don’t give discounts).  Use your best judgement on what you think you need.

Tell the people who go up to you selling or advertising things you are not interested in that you are in a rush to class and don’t have time to listen to them.  It’s less rude and they’ll leave you alone.

The smaller the class, the better it is to have some sort of acquaintanceship with a couple classmates.  They might save your ass if you are absent one day or need to study.  And talking with them makes the time go by faster without it being so insufferable.

You don’t need to join a club or sport, but internships are cool and useful!

If you can afford it, take a day off once or twice each semester if you’re too exhausted.  Just be aware of what you missed and if it was worth missing!

Your health is the most important, this goes for mental health too!!  Note: College-age/upper teens is when mental disorders like depression and anxiety are most commonly diagnosed.  Most schools have therapy services, especially during exam time.  Look into it if you need to!

Communicate with your professor if you are having trouble with something.  Anything.

Eat and stay hydrated.  Bring a water bottle and snack to class.

All-nighters will happen but never go over 36 hours without sleep.

It’s going to be hard and there will be times you might think about giving up.  This WILL happen.  You just have to make sure what you’re doing isn’t making you absolutely miserable and/or there is something rewarding and positive to look forward to at the end!

[saintmosshart]

I did none of this and it bit me in the ass every time so this is EXCELLENT ADVICE.

ADDITIONAL ADVICE

Don’t let a mental health day turn into a mental health week because you will be so screwed.

Pay attention to the syllabus and do not lose it. A lot of professors put all of the assignment due dates in there and ONLY in there.

If your school has blackboard or moodle etc. CHECK IT. a lot of professors will only post certain info there and not talk about it in class

Check your student email account weekly. A lot of it will be unimportant junk but sometimes it’s the only way professors will communicate.

[beauty-and-learning-blog]

Check your student email multiple times DAILY. 

[fightostudy]

THANK YOU. I’m so glad i have resources like this queued up in my ‘college’ tag bc honestly i was so stressed before

[studyingallnight]

Advice from someone who really fucked up their freshman year:

READINGS ARE NOT OPTIONAL.

I REPEAT. READINGS. ARE. NOT. OPTIONAL.

Put them in your schedule, read BEFORE class. And summarise it. For bonus points, come up with some questions about the text and go introduce yourself to your professor either after class or during office hours, and ask them about it. This will make them much more likely to remember you in a positive light (and possibly bump your grade up if you hit a hard patch.)

Your library will have a copy of your textbook. If you cannot afford to rent it, you can go to the library and borrow it from the front desk for a few hours whenever you need it. It is there for you, okay? 

SO DO YOUR READINGS.

[jordnstuff-deactivated20190917]

Wow all of this is so relevant to me rn trust me you really want to follow this

[angrystarchild-blog]

I'm making a new personal.

[screenshotsofdespair]

[angrystarchild-blog]

I was so drunk that last night I ended up putting on frilly underwear instead of normal underwear when I changed. Plus my mom SAW my drunk ass stumbling in the kitchen but somehow I made it work so???

[lopmon]

LMFAOOOO

[andromeda40002019]

pls dont stop inviting ur depressed loved ones 2 things even if they decline most of the time. knowing people still want 2 hang is immensely reassuring & accepting just one of the many invites can lead 2 something good &positive!!! dont give up on them!!! they need 2 kno theyre still wanted

[ulibeanzz]

sometimes my emotion is just the word “fuckign” 

[100493503004422]

me: [vibrating slightly because I had too much caffeine] everything in the world is my fault

[angrystarchild-blog]

I just accidentally deleted a ton of shit that I didn’t mean to delete

fuck

ok.

this is me just fuckit. ima delete almost everything

[angrystarchild-blog]

this year is just.

repeal 2016.

We’ve lost our Starman. we’ve lost our purple man. we lost Frey and so many others. 

The thing that really gets me, really hits me in the gut, is that this is part of life. Our idols, our role models, they’re older than us. They go before us. Blaze a trail, and one day the trail stops. It’s up to us to keep the fire going. And sometimes our trails are shorter- shooting stars that burn out quick-- or sometimes, we are comets that rival Halley’s. Seen for so long people will never forget us.

Bowie, Prince, they told me I could be me. They were part of a group of people I look up to and will never stop looking up to. You guys know me, know I’m one weird star child who knows they’re all finally reconnecting with their friends in the big expanse-- and we get to go too, one day, if we’re so lucky.

And one day I hope at least one person looks up at the stars, like I will tonight, and will thank them for the people that burned brightly and vividly.

I woke up and wore purple for no reason, today.

And when I found out, well.

Here’s to you, Prince.

One day I’ll see you laughing in the Purple Rain.

[lizzie-mcguire]

Rest In Peace, Prince (7th June 1958 - 21st April 2016)

[starsuggestion]

it is easy to believe that you are made of the dust of broken planets

[nitatyndall-deactivated20200510]

YA LGBTQ Novels Where the Focus Isn't Coming Out

When I was a young babygay, many of the LGBT YA novels I found were all about the angst and trials of coming out. Which is all well and good, but those can’t be the only narratives queer people see themselves in. So, I compiled this list.

I had three criteria:

Coming Out could be a part of the plot but could not be the whole focus (which is why Ask the Passengers, even though it’s good, isn’t on here, before you ask)

The protagonist/MC had to identify as queer/LGBT. No sidekick stories here.

The story could not be known to be biphobic or transphobic (which is why The Bermudez Triangle isn’t on here, also before you ask. Also bisexual-books has a great response to that book in particular, but this is not the place for that discussion.)

If you believe a novel on this list falls into the categories of bi- or transphobic or otherwise, please message me and I’ll look into it/remove it.

This is by no means a comprehensive list–feel free to message me with suggestions so I can keep updating!

The List is also on Goodreads!!

-Nita

Realistic Fiction: Lesbian MC

The Summer I Wasn’t Me by Jess Verdi

The Miseducation of Cameron Post by emily m. danforth

Everything Leads to You by Nina LaCour

Scars by Cheryl Rainfield (huge trigger warning for self harm and sexual abuse for this book, FYI. It is a wonderful book, though.)

If You Could Be Mine by Sara Farizan

Starting from Here by Lisa Jenn Bigelow

A Love Story Starring My Dead Best Friend by Emily Horner

Gravel Queen by Tea Bendhun

Fat Angie by E.E. Charlton-Trujillo

Lies My Girlfriend Told Me by Julie Anne Peters

What We Left Behind by Robin Talley (also contains genderqueer MC)

This Is Where It Ends by Marieke Nijkamp

Realistic Fiction: Gay MC

Aristotle and Dante Discover the Secrets of the Universe by Benjamin Alire Sáenz

Gone Gone Gone by Hannah Moskowitz

Openly Straight by Bill Konigsberg

Sprout by Dale Peck

One Man Guy by Michael Barakiva

Here’s to You, Zeb Pike by Johanna Parkhurst

Realistic Fiction: Transgender MC

Parrotfish by Ellen Wittlinger

Beautiful Music for Ugly Children by Kristin Cronn-Mills

Just Girls by Rachael Gold

Realistic Fiction: Bisexual MC

Far from You by Tess Sharpe

Empress of the World by Sara Ryan

Not Otherwise Specified by Hannah Moskowitz

Speculative Fiction: Lesbian MC

Huntress by Malinda Lo

Bleeding Earth by Kaitlin Ward

The Abyss Surrounds Us by Emily Skrutskie

Speculative Fiction: Bisexual MC

Love In the Time of Global Warming by Francesca Lia Block

The Island of Excess Love by Francesca Lia Block

Ash by Malinda Lo

Adaptation by Malinda Lo

Inheritance by Malinda Lo

Grasshopper Jungle by Andrew Smith

Coda by Emma Trevayne

Otherbound by Corinne Duyvis

Pantomime by Laura Lam

Ink Exchange by Melissa Marr

Speculative Fiction: Gay MC

Proxy by Alex London

More Than This by Patrick Ness

Boy Meets Boy by David Levithan

Maggot Moon by Sally Gardner

More Happy than Not by Adam Silvera

Chicken by Chase Night

Historical Fiction: Lesbian MC

Wildthorn by Jane Eagland

Silhouette of a Sparrow by Molly Beth Griffin

Lies We Tell Ourselves by Robin Talley

Queer/Not Otherwise Specified MC:

The Mermaid in Chelsea Creek by Michelle Tea - Speculative Fiction

Santa Olivia by Jacqueline Cary -

Brooklyn Burning - Steve Brezenoff

[nitatyndall-deactivated20200510]

Reblogging because I’ve updated this list to include some more recent releases!! :) Please let me know if there’s a title you think should be on here and I’ll look into adding it! 

[thatdiabolicalfeminist]

just so you know

the US minimum wage that we all agree is too low to live on ($15,080/yr) is far more than many legally disabled people receive in benefits

the maximum SSI for a single person is $8,796/yr if a disabled person marries another, each drops to a max of $6,600/yr

while you’re fighting for 15 maybe look at that too

[fogblogger]

Not to mention we aren’t allowed to have more than $2,000 saved at a time. EVER. Like EVER or we lose all benefits completely. In the bank, in cash, it doesn’t matter. The government literally keeps us poor, while also making us pay immense amounts of money for health care that we require to even survive or function (let alone work enough to be able to get off of benefits, not to mention that there are a ton of people who will never be able to do that anyways). It’s a very, very broken system and not one that was ever meant to actually help anyone. 

Plus, “marriage equality” is still a huge problem for disabled people (as you can see), which is something almost everyone is ignorant to/doesn’t care about. 

DO NOT LEAVE DISABLED PEOPLE OUT OF YOUR ACTIVISM. 

[nocturnalvisionary]

Btw that’s $733 a MONTH they want us to use for rent, food, and everything else. I asked once why it’s so low- how that’s even fair. She responded that they only factor in how much it would cost for rent and for food (with food stamps). That’s it. That’s all the government thinks we need to live. Rent and food.

[illness-adnauseum]

And in case you weren’t aware, the disabled cost of living is much higher than the fully abled cost of living.

Mobility aids are expensive. Medications and supplements are expensive. Special diets to accommodate illnesses are expensive. Avoiding a long list of allergies is expensive. Wheelchair accessible home and car modifications are expensive. Hiring someone to do all your cleaning and laundry because you can’t is expensive.

And yet they still give us so little money that abled people couldn’t possibly live on it.

[watsons-solarpunk]

Issues to address

[notablesandwiches]

i know i reblog this post a lot but this is personal for me. if i didn’t have such strong support from my family i’d be homeless, starving, and/or without medical care.

[fifth-gate-rester]

Same