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Heya I happen to be yet another introvert on tumblr. On this blog I'll share thoughts or stuff I relate to. Feel free to join me!

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[freetheintp]

Introvert Problems #1

Getting sick but being too frightened to make a phone call by yourself and hoping you’ll survive somehow. 

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Introvert Friendship

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I finally did it. I made a meme.

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How to Understand Your INFJ: Part 1

1. Accept that you will never really understand your INFJ. If it were possible for anyone to 100% understand any INFJ, an INFJ would have wrote a book on it by now. But the truth is, even we INFJs can’t completely understand ourselves, so we don’t expect you to. But we can tell when you’re trying, and that means a lot. 

2. Listen to what your INFJ is not saying. You know the quote that goes something like “the quietest people have the loudest minds”? That is very true of INFJs. The quieter we are, the more we probably have on our minds. We want friends and partners who understand that and will want to talk to us about it, and more importantly, listen.

3. Know that INFJs really aren’t that serious. Yes, we have a lot on our minds. Yes, we can be sensitive. Yes, we like to partake in serious discussions and debates at times. But we are happiest when we can just be playful, carefree and weird with someone who accepts that side of us. 

4. If you’re not happy, your INFJ is not happy. If someone we love is upset, we take on their feelings as our own. We are extremely empathetic. Sometimes even the sadness in the eyes of the person checking us out at the grocery store is enough to dampen our mood for the rest of the day. This is a quality that makes INFJs different from a lot of other types. We value people who understand this and don’t take every mood shift personally. It’s just hard when you feel what everyone else is feeling all the time. 

5. INFJs can be very stubborn. INFJs hate conflict and avoid it as much as possible, but if you hit the right nerve we will jump in and defend our opinions and values to the death. Later we will probably secretly try to understand your perspective (because we’re always trying to understand everything about everyone) and that might even cause us to agree with you a little, but we won’t tell you that. ;) 

6. INFJs can forgive, but we never forget. If you hurt us and then apologize, we’ll probably forgive you and give you a second chance. But we will never forget the hurt we felt and we will be cautious around you for awhile afterwards. 

7. INFJs are experts at hiding their feelings. We tend to bottle a lot up inside, so on the outside everything appears completely fine. Even the most intuitive types (except maybe other INFJs) can’t typically tell when an INFJ is upset. We both like this and hate this about ourselves.

8. INFJs feel a lot of responsibility, always. We need to make sure everyone is happy, but we also need to be there to listen to everyone’s problems. We need to make sure everything on a project goes right, but we also need to make sure everyone working on the project gets a say in what is happening. We need to make sure we get there on time, but don’t want to make anyone upset by rushing them. We are internal perfectionist and put a lot of pressure on ourselves. But we don’t come across as a typical type A personality because those type of people stress people out and we don’t want to stress anyone out. So we just keep our perfectionism to ourselves and it drives us crazy a little. 

Part 2 coming soon.

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When INFJ meets INTJ

INTJs are well-known masterminds. They see through people’s weak logic and attack it with their intelligence, making others feel completely incompetent.

INFJs are little-known masterminds. They analyze people’s personality and emotional weakness. INFJs see shallowness of people and carefully listen to their insecurity and worries. Now they know all your secrets.

What is interesting is when INFJ meets INTJ. INFJ will try to figure out emotional depth of INTJ. INTJ will try to measure INFJ’s intelligence.

Both usually fail because INTJs rarely reveal their emotion or personal concerns and most of the time already figured out all their problems. And INFJs, who usually seem peaceful, are extremely insightful and sharp when it comes to intellectual conversation. Plus, due to their introverted-intuitive nature, their interaction is very fast-paced and dense. While people around them try to understand what the hell they are talking about, they both conclude “This person is different”.

Then they become best sarcasm duo.

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[ithappenedtheotherday]

Study food - inferior Se

INXJ: “I brought snacks so I can give myself small rewards throughout the day to lengthen my attention span and overall enjoyment for learning.” INXJ: *spends 10 minutes eating all the food* INXJ: *spends next 5 hours regretting it*

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moodboard → @lightfortoday:

infj, ravenclaw, painter, lover of stars & cozy things

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I’m trying my best!

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Little things about the mbti types & astronomy studies 🌌 [info]

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× INFJ × Horned Serpent × Ravenclaw × Neutral Good × Aesthetic

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INFJ

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INFJ being: Feeling out of place most of the time. Like, I fit in most situations and everywhere, I am versatile and chameleon-like when need be, but as a result I don’t really fit completely anywhere. I feel the most comfortable when I am in my head. As far as relationships go, I notice that it is incredibly hard to speak to someone on equal grounds, I always need a ‘role of reference’ to know how I should pose myself. I am comfortable as long as I can fit a relationship in a predetermined scheme: mentor-student, mother-son, senior-junior etc. but conversations among equals, like student-student, throw me off.  My introversion has always been very evident: I have always needed my alone time, in which I overindulged because I am weary of the outside world and I do not trust my ability to navigate it.

Over-complicating and over-analyzing things is my second nature and it allows me to draw insightful conclusions and see meaningful paths, but it also makes it incredibly hard to act and be reactive to what is going on around me. There is a profound disconnection between the world outside and the world inside my head. A love-hate relationship exists between them: I crave sensory stimulation and meaningful relationships, but I don’t have the energy, will, or patience to invest in them and I content myself with just musing about it. During conversations, I rarely say a word or express my true feelings, rather I go with whatever everyone seems to agree with because preserving the group’s harmony is more important. When a topic I am passionate about comes up, though, I would gladly keep talking about it for hours and when people jump to the next topic I can feel all of my arguments still pushing to come out. Often, I will refer to a past conversation when speaking because I simply wasn’t done with it, even when most people were.

Ni is described as living in the future, which is definitely true: as I’ve said, I am disconnected from the now and have poor detail-knowledge about my past, but Ni is essentially a controlling function, who looks at the future not just to find meaning in the present but to create a specific course of action. It is goal oriented in everything it does, even though the goal, as well as the single steps, is not always well defined. In everything I do and am, I am a perfectionist, I need to always be in control: I set impossibly high standards for myself that I can never live up to because as soon as I reach my objective, the standards rise up again. Ni focuses on concepts and models and Se is very low in my stack, so it is hard for me to remember all of my accomplishments: when I can’t live up to my expectations, my self-esteem sinks a little more because I can’t recall immediately and factually all those times I succeeded.

Ni-Fe forces me to create an ideal image of myself that I need to project unto others because I want them to accept me and perceive me exactly as I want to be perceived, which makes me really hard to get to know and rarely spontaneous. I can be cold and detached when discussing an issue and close off my Fe long enough to choose a course of action without being hindered by feelings, which is why I often appear cold and harsh. Ti also makes me quirky and cynical: I have a dry sense of humor that people seem to appreciate even though it comes out only with those I am more familiar with. My imagination runs wild 24/7: everything I see or think about immediately triggers a process of consequences and I start tracing steps in the future and imagine its development. It feels so real most of the time that, when I come back to earth, it’s strange to see that none of what I have imagined was actually true.

I am an idealist at heart even though it is extraordinarily hard to express with words what I think or believe in. I strive to make people happy often at my own expenses but rarely realize that I am projecting my own idea of happiness onto them rather than understanding what would truly make them happy. Being a good listener is what I am best at: I am that friend that people come to not much for my counsel but for the empathy and my ability to just sit there and listen, even for hours, just hugging you when needed. Empathy is a big part of my personality: I am an emotional sponge and absorb the feelings of the people around me easily, to the point that I need to make a conscious effort to distinguish them from my own and prevent them from taking hold of me.

As far as Se goes, I enjoy sensory stimulation and rewards: I am an occasional adventurer, given some time to adjust to a new situation I will experiment and enjoy it as much as any Se user, even if for shorter periods of time. Routine bores me and I crave new and meaningful experiences. I practice ballet, I draw, I write, I paint, I am learning the play the piano, I travel, I enjoy watching cartoons and go out for long walks, I sing. Nature is always new and magic and I often find myself gazing out of a window and admiring it with wide eyes. I have camped and spent nights awake to watch the stars or wait for the sun to rise, I crave the excitement of new adventures but I not always have the energy for them: the time must be ‘right’. I do tidy my room, stretch, overeat or fast when I am especially down or need to feel in control again, sometimes I muse about getting drunk and let all of my walls down too, but it rarely happens unless I am truly sleep-deprived.

How others see me: people close to me see me as excessively introverted, cynical, logical, cold, wise, responsible, and occasionally too deep. They believe that I should engage with the world more and that I have a tendency to over-complicate simple things. My being ‘dense’ about the environment and what is happening around me occasionally annoys them. People less close to me see me as sweet and caring, timid, quiet and overly silent, maybe aloof. I have been described as a cinnamon roll but also as cold and insensitive. I believe I come off as an ISXJ to most because I rarely show Ni’s musings and my need to feel in control and calculate possibilities to be sure of their outcome can be perceived just as an attempt not to stray from routine or familiar paths.  

The perception of INFJ: mystical beings, too wise for their years, who know everything about you and everyone else in your life. Occasional manipulators, profound spiritual guides who will cry when they mistakenly kill an ant. Impossible to get to know, would rather spend all their life inside their heads than socializing or being in the real world.

[humanarchetypehouse]

Reblog with the types you have tested as, the types you've thought you could be/were, and the type you actually are/believe you are now.

Types I have tested as: INTJ, ENTJ, INFJ, ENFP, INFP, ISTJ, ENFJ

Types I’ve believed I could be (through identifying w/description): INTJ, INFJ

Actual Type: ENFJ

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Types I have tested as: first INFP, then INFJ, INTJ, INTP, ISTJ (only once), ENFJ - you can see my weird function development here

Types I’ve believed I could be: everyone above except for ISTJ

Actual Type: INFJ

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Types I have been tested as: ENTJ, INTJ

Types I’ve believed I could be: INTJ, ENTJ

Actual Type: ENTJ

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Types I have been tested as: INFJ Types I thought I tould be: INFJ, INTJ Actual Type: INFJ

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Enneagram: How to get along with the types.

Type 1

- Be responsible for yourself, so I don’t have to do that for you, too. - I’m hard on myself. Assure me that I’m good, just the way I am. - Tell me that you appreciate my advices. - Be fair, and attentive, like I am. - Apologize when you are wrong. This helps me forgive. - Help me loosen up a bit, and teach me how to laugh at myself. But please, listen to my concerns first.

(Most common type among ISTJs, ESTJs, and INTJs)

Type 2

- Tell me you appreciate me. Be specific about why. - Share your joy with me. - Do care about my problem, even if I’m busy with yours. - Let me know that I’m important and special to you. - Please be gentle, even if you have to criticize me. - In intimate relationships; assure me that you’re still interested in me. - Remind me that you love me. - Tell me I’m attractive, and you really like when people see us together.

(Most common type among ISFJs, ESFJs, ESFPs, INFJs, and ENFJs)

Type 3

- Leave me alone when I work. - Please give me honest, but not critical feedback. - Help me to organize, and to keep my environment neat. - Don’t burden me with negative emotions. - Tell me that you like being with me. - Tell me that you’re proud of me and my achievements.

(Most common type among ESTJs, ENTJs, and ENFJs)

Type 4

- Give me compliments often. They mean a lot. - Be a supportive friend, or partner. Help me to love others and to appreciate myself. - Please keep the power of my intuition, and foresight in respect. - Though I don’t always want people to cheer me up from my melancholy, sometimes you still have to bring back the light to my inner world. - DON’T tell me, that I’m too sensitive, or I overreact something!

(Most common type among ISFPs, INFJs, and INFPs)

Type 5

- Please be independent, not a puppy. - Talk shortly, and straightforwardly. - I need to be alone to think. - Remember, if I appear to be distant, or arrogant, that’s because I feel uncomfortable. - Show me that you’re happy to see me, but don’t ever overact because that makes me doubt your honesty. - If I have to repeat something I said, and I become irritated, that’s because it was hard to say for the first time even. - Help me to avoid big parties, loud people, overheated emotions, and the violation of my privacy.

(Most common type among ISTPs, INTJs, and INTPs)

Type 6

- Be straightforward and honest with me. - Pay attention to me. - Please don’t condemn me for my worry. - Let’s solve our problems together. - Assure me that everything’s OK between us. - Laugh, and joke around with me. - Lead me gently to new experiences. - Don’t overreact when I overreact something.

(Most common type among ISTJs, ESTJs, ISFJs, and ESFJs)

Type 7

- Give me company, kindness, and freedom. - Have stimulating conversations, and laugh with me. - Appreciate my ideas, and listen to my stories. - Don’t try to change me. Accept me for who I am. - Be independent. I don’t like babysitting others. - Please don’t tell me what to do.

(Most common type among ESTPs, ENTPs, ESFPs, and ENFPs)

Type 8

- Stand up for yourself… and for me. - Be confident, strong, and straightforward. - Don’t talk behind my back and don’t abuse my trust. - Dare to be vulnerable, and share your feelings with me. Notice, and admit that I have a delicate side, too. - Give me space to be alone. - Admit, and appreciate the things I do for you, but don’t try to dazzle me. - I often talk passionately. Please don’t take it personally. - When I rage, I break things, or I shout. Remember, this is how I work.

(Most common type among ESTPs, ENTJs, and ENTPs)

Type 9

- It’s not what you say, it’s the way you say it. I’m sensitive to pressure and expectations. - I like being quiet and to serve, but don’t take advantage of me. - Don’t interrupt me when I’m talking, not even when I digress a little. - Give me enough time for decisions, and tasks. But you can push me gently. - Ask, if something’s not clear. - Please tell me, if you like me. It won’t go to my head. - Hug me, and show me your emotions physically. This helps me to open up. - I like a good conversation, but not an argument. - Let me know, if I did or said something right. - Laugh with me, and share your happiness with me.

(Most common type among ISTPs, INTPs, ISFPs and INFPs)