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Mormon ads, in my tumblr??
No but seriously this is ridiculous. 3 billion dollars and you're paying tumblr? Tumblr????
mr beast partnering with the lds church to help bring in younger people so they can marry off said younger people was not in my 2026 bingo
So. Collecting personal information to then send missionaries to your door. To send emails to you. To send junk mail.
Also, I'm not gonna download it myself, but I'm curious to know which organizations are listed, if any LGBTQ+ or Pro-Choice organizations are included, since they would go against mormon doctrine.
It is insidious how much mormon beliefs/culture still determine my emotional reactions to events.
I feel so crappy today and took an extra hour to fall asleep last night, all because of a white lie.
A white lie to an urgent care doctor about having an appointment to a primary doc in february- I didn't finish setting the appointment up but I was planning to do so and explaining all that felt like oversharing. Except, he could see if I had an appointment- I think the provider is connected to the urgent care place -so I looked like an idiot.
So what if I got caught in a dumb white lie? I made the appointment so I am going to the doctor like I should, and it's not really the urgent care doc's business any further than my word, you know? He's just doing his job, he was very kind and didn't press me beyond emphasizing I should make sure I have an appointment once things open up after Christmas.
But mormonism's aggressive drive for perfection, all those years of teaching me I can never make a mistake, that even a white lie is a terrible sin (more so if caught).
I don't have much time to say this better. I just wanted to try and word vomit so that I don't have to spend any more of my Christmas feeling like this.
It's just frustrating. And painful. And annoying. To still default to mormon training even after 7 years out.
my high school used to start at 7:30 and I lowkey think that was child abuse
For 4 years I woke up at 6 am, at least (I took the bus and for a year or two it came between 6:40 and 6:50). Morning showerers, or people who put effort into their hair or makeup, probably had to wake up even earlier. Then we all went to school and sat in a health class where our gym teacher told us that teenagers are supposed to get 10 hours of sleep a night. Genuinely implying that we were supposed to go to sleep at 8pm if we cared about our health. The dissonance made my head spin. I haven’t been in high school for years and I’m still mad about it. Maybe even more mad
i am increasingly convinced that the wedding industry is having a statistically significant impact on young women leaving the mormon church. has anyone looked into this?
>mormons tell girls their most important roles throughout their entire life are wife and mother. extremely patriarchal, told in every way except in plain speech that they are expected to erase their personhood in favor of performing a strict role
>american culture says that the wedding day is about The BRIDE. it's HER day.
>mormon girls are not told about the strictures of a temple wedding until endowment because secret secret.
>mormon girls spend their whole lives dreaming about their american weddings with their wedding dresses and decorations and loving vows and a day about me me me me me me. perhaps the ONLY day that they truly expect might be in some way about them. the day they get to be star of the show
>wedding industry puffs these american girls dreams of their wedding up to extremes
>forced out of wedding dress on wedding day by a random bishop they've never met in their life because it's debatably not modest or white enough (even though it was made by a mormon dress shop) who also says your name wrong. you're not allowed to speak, and especially if you're in a larger city or a busy day, your wedding ceremony feels more like being processed at the DMV than a celebration of your love and commitment to each other. factory pace 15 minute wedding
>bishop follows you to the reception and loudly tells everyone that you and your new husband are the least important part of the ceremony because actually the holiness of the mormon temple church is what's really been proven today. better not get distracted by young love when really it's the Mormon Church That Matters
at least these are the throughlines i've noticed. i've never watched a woman's "I left the Mormon Church" video that didn't mention her wedding and how much it sucked absolute shit the whole time.
@tater-tot-pot-dish almost forgot to tag lmfao
thank you for explaining further! that makes a lot of sense.
totally <3. i also realized i kind of sketched this out but didn't fully explain. i don't think the heart of it is the opulence or extravagance; more that it's about the specialness of the day and the focus.
mormons think they're normal perfectly average christians until endowment because people who aren't endowed aren't allowed in the temple even if they're a mormon child in a mormon family. (to the point that exmormon youtubers and social media personalities regularly get comments from mormon youths saying that they're lying about the temple and endowment and all of it). + endowment takes place after high school graduation and the expectation is to marry YOUNG. so these girls are generally 18-22 (up to 24 if she both went to college and on mission), brand new to a church that runs on social pressure and expectation, and trained for their whole lives to obey and trust authority without question while ignoring their own feelings and misgivings. the consumerist american values and ideas of the wedding are in full play, including ideas that are WAY more powerful for mormon girls. it being the bride's day is supercharged in importance when the bride knows she will never get another day.
i think in the mormon girls' consciousness, she always knows she's going to be second fiddle. or fourth or fifth. she'll never hold the priesthood or be a leader to her family or community and even in the afterlife, she's beholden on her husband to call her forth by a secret name into paradise. and he can choose not to. but this day is supposed to be the day where she gets to be her own person and honored for her necessity to the whole process even if she's in a support role. where she gets to be recognized and honored for the role she's committed to.
and then. she likely can't wear her wedding dress and will be forced to buy another one in the mormon church giftshop that also sells the secret underwear. even if she does get to wear her dress, she has to put the shit quality mass manufactured one-size-fits-all temple garments on over it to feel ugly and undifferentiable during the ceremony. and her wedding ceremony is conducted in a factory style and it's exactly the same as the other girls that have gone ahead of her. to the point the bishops regularly get their names wrong. and then they don't get to exchange vows. and then they literally aren't allowed to have any kind of wedding celebration disconnected from the church so they can't hold a reception without a bishop in attendance to spend the whole time denigrating the importance of her relationship with her husband and telling all the non-mormons that the most special part of the day is over and they weren't allowed in because they're not holy enough and this reception is just a stupid meaningless party. telling everyone that the only part of the day that the bride had any say over and the only part where she's meant to be special means nothing and is nothing. the part that matters is the part where she doesn't.
during what is supposed to be her special day, she probably never feels more reduced to being an interchangeable hole whose purpose is producing flesh children and spirit babies. any other girl could have been standing there with your husband and it wouldn't have made a single difference. and this is the day your whole life has been leading to.
like, it's the young ages and the recent surprise of what the church actually is and the unbelievable sexism to their liturgy and how it's all mutually exclusive to an american wedding culture that mormon girls are primed to invest in. like these girls talk about picking out baby names and starting wedding scrapbooks at like 8. they're all trained by their religion to be the girl in class that is the most obsessed with getting married and having babies and then, right before what they've been dreaming of for their entire life finally happens, all of those dreams are crushed into dust and replaced with something i think every american would call a very bad wedding.
like. when you think about how a non-mormon girl who started her wedding scrapbooks at age 8 would react to the priest at her wedding getting her name wrong, to not being able to wear her dress, to not being able to choose her venue or have her different religion family members and loved ones in attendance, to have the same guy who got your name wrong in the ceremony follow you to the reception and continue to shit on your relationship in order to remind everyone that the Church is Most Important? she'd murder that priest and burn the fucking building down with everyone in it, laughing while people fled. and then she'd have a re-do and no one would be surprised. the mormon girls seem to leave the church about it, which is basically burning their whole lives down with how enmeshed the mormon church demands you be.
they train these girls to look forward to their wedding as the most important day of their lives and then their church structure actively manufactures the worst, most depersonalized and disrespectful weddings i could ever imagine. and then girls who've been dreaming about their weddings forever go "actually fuck this and fuck you."
Hmm, I hadn’t previously considered that the impulse that causes bridezilla (“This is MY princess day”) does have a positive face.
the other thing is that from a lot of testimonies of exmormon women ive listened to and read, many of them cite the endowment ceremony the day before/of their wedding as a genuinely traumatic event that first caused cracks in their testimonies. older women who had the old ceremony were even more effected—being told to preserve your virtue your whole life before being shoved naked under a strange poncho and touched inappropriately, the very strange and scary cultish aspects, the fact that you're regularly reminded that you're just your husband's property and cant actually talk to heavenly father, the movie and its bizarre revelations, all the while everyone around you (including your future spouse, who's usually already been through this bc he's done his mission first) is acting like this is the greatest thing ever and you want to escape but you cant because all your loved ones are there and if you dont do this, you cant get married—many say they came out of the ceremony to go bawl in private, being unsure of their choice for the first time, only to be told by fiance and relatives that it's ok, sure it's a LITTLE weird, but it's not that bad and by returning regularly to the temple You'll Get It eventually.
so i think all of this added to the wedding disappointment and the church doubling down on its patriarchal aspects while giving meager concessions, the excommunication of mormon feminists, the killing of youth group activities such as young women and of the relief society.... definitely contributes to the disillusionment of women in the church and their supposed revered role in it
it's kinda crazy what a common experience it is for like your parents to do something insanely traumatizing to you and then just not remember they did it at all while you remember forever
I do feel inclined to share that last week I told my therapist I was writing an essay about mormon rhetoric and then today when I shared that I was having a hard time with the essay because of the subject matter they responded with a, "Yeah, I saw that coming."
Then why didn't you warn meeeeeee (I wouldn't have listened)
look. it's healing looking into mormon rhetoric. seeing how it's used how the community is maintained by it and what is made by the rhetoric. but it's also exhausting.
healing is work and it's so tiring.
Hopefully my professor isn't gonna mind the fact that I cannot be an unbiased observer for this next assignment lol.
Just another day using exmormon writing in my class assignments.
I can't use this in my assignment bc it doesn't pertain, but I had to share this quote from Ann Eliza Young's Wife no. 19
“She remained at Nauvoo, and the burden of her life becoming greater than she could bear, she became insane, — a common fate of polygamous wives, by the way, — and remained a maniac until her death” (73).
Yet another comic about leaving the Mormon church that can be applied to a variety of things. I also plan to include some version of this in a graphic novel I’m making.
For anyone stuck going to sermons and looking for some laughs:
[ID: title: “insufferable sermon BINGO.”
Row 1: “No context story about a stranger’s traumatic event” “Sermon on lost sheep” “got dad issues? God can be your dad solution” “I hate my wife” “I was an edgy teen too… I saw a porn once.”
Row 2: “Marriage is hard” “Accidental Holy Spirit innuendos” “Unprompted nationalism” “Really long verse excerpt” “Sex? Bad.”
Row 3: “disability porn/disability is punishment” “Holy gore” (free space) “No context story about his own/family’s traumatic event” “Singleness is hard.”
Row 4: “abstract background lights” “are we sure this isn’t a kink” “attributes positive event to God” “admits to abuse onstage” “Overly personal story.”
Row 5: “End times” “demons are 100% real and relevant” “missionary story” “weird nonsensical metaphor” “anti-intellectualism / college is bad.” /End ID]
Considering that I got away with only hearing 30 mins total of mormon speeches.. Not bad.
thinking about forgiveness
mormons would say forgiveness is the only way to heal from pain. that you can't start the path to recovery until you forgive those that hurt you. i can't count how many times I heard a standard "i was wronged by a person and I found it in my heart to forgive them and my forgiveness made them better" kind of story.
it stems from toxic positivity. the idea that anger and hate and sadness are a sin-the implication then being that anger, hate, sadness and many other negative emotions are immoral while happiness, love, and joy are moral. of course, that is wrong. no emotion is inherently moral or immoral. all emotions can go out of control.
so understanding that mormons see anger as a moral failing, and understanding why that's not true, opens up new paths to healing that mormons would never accept. new paths to healing i never knew existed.
forgiveness is not a prerequisite to healing. forgiveness is not required for healing. forgiveness is not always healing.
i don't forgive my parents for teaching me my body was sinful, for putting me on diets when I was only 8 years old, or for teaching me that asking for help was a burden on them. in fact, i think there's a lot i'll never forgive my parents for.
but i don't hate them for it.
maybe at one point i did, when i was most angry. now, i pity them.
they'll never have a close relationship with me, they'll never see my strength, my love, my brilliance for what it is and that's sad for them. they'll never be able to see me anything other than a lost sheep; i'll never be able to see them as anything other than victims of a selfish beast.
but i've made peace with their distant relationship. i've mourned the loss of their emotional investment. i'm prepared for the day a mormon prophet orders them to never speak to me again.
i've healed. or am healing. it's an on going process of scabs and bruises and scars. and i'll do it all without forgiving them.
yknow I would love to be more active in exmo communities I think that would be so great. but oh my god you guys the ableism is off the fucking charts. I want to have productive discussions about our experiences and the way they impact our lives to this day, I don't want to listen to people call mormons narcissists or sociopaths. also there's just so much cruelty?? yeah I'm mad too but I don't want to direct that anger towards people who are in the same awful situation we escapes from. far be it from me to begrudge anyone their anger and complaining but i wish the community didn't get so consumed by it because that's not what some of us need
For anyone stuck going to sermons and looking for some laughs:
[ID: title: “insufferable sermon BINGO.”
Row 1: “No context story about a stranger’s traumatic event” “Sermon on lost sheep” “got dad issues? God can be your dad solution” “I hate my wife” “I was an edgy teen too… I saw a porn once.”
Row 2: “Marriage is hard” “Accidental Holy Spirit innuendos” “Unprompted nationalism” “Really long verse excerpt” “Sex? Bad.”
Row 3: “disability porn/disability is punishment” “Holy gore” (free space) “No context story about his own/family’s traumatic event” “Singleness is hard.”
Row 4: “abstract background lights” “are we sure this isn’t a kink” “attributes positive event to God” “admits to abuse onstage” “Overly personal story.”
Row 5: “End times” “demons are 100% real and relevant” “missionary story” “weird nonsensical metaphor” “anti-intellectualism / college is bad.” /End ID]
Ive spent what feels like my entire life trying to hide every bit of myself others deemed unworthy or unacceptable, and now I'm finally not, im fully embracing who i am. Its relieving and freeing, but it's also so devastating. Im morning a childhood that wasnt really lived. I'll never get that time or those opportunities back.