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[another-discourse-blog]

That was a shit take in regards to internalized misogyny and bumper stickers, women = bad drivers isn’t subversive and it’s reductive as hell

i figured "women = bad drivers" was a sticker the op tacked on to the end of a real line of bumper stickers to sum up their own feelings of the bumper stickers. nobody actually has a "women = bad drivers" bumper sticker.

The problem is thats not even close to the original intent of the bumper stickers. (Which said things like "Pwease let me merge" and "Hot girls hit curbs")

So back in like, 2020 or 2021, there was a sudden surge in "Bimbo culture". The thing is, this surge was pushed forward by the very same people that learned and adopted feminism in the 2010s. MANY of them learned most of their feminism on tumblr, and you can tell in the way they talk about it.

These women knew that the "Hot Girl" is somehow the most celebrated thing you can be as a woman, and utterly unattainable. It is a goal kept just out of reach to sell makeup and clothes and little sprays that show the hair on your face.

Consequently, the core ideals of this new wave of bimbo were things like "Hot girl is a state of mind. ANYBODY can be a Hot Girl if they want to" and "Women support women, not tear each other down" and "Men literally don't matter and their opinions mean nothing" and "You don't have to be amazing or perfect to love yourself and think you're worth loving"

For the first time in my life, I saw the prettiest, hottest, most popular influencer types actually uplifting the rest of us. There were videos of extremely socially anxious people going out in outfits where not a single piece truly fit them and people were filling their comments with "Look at you go, cutie! You look RADIANT!"

The Best Thing you could be in this new wave of bimbos was a Girl's Girl. You support other women no. matter. what. You are here for strangers armed with lipgloss and pads and ibuprofen. If a man makes a women look uncomfortable, you go up to that man and fucking bark like a dog until he leaves.

And I simply cannot explain how trans inclusive this movement was. The girlies LUNGED at the comments section of any trans woman asking for advice. It was a goddamned honor to help women who are new at this. Transphobes are not allowed because they are, in their exclusion of trans girls, simply not girl's girls.

It doesn't matter if you're unemployed and living with your parents. It doesn't matter if you suck at school or driving. It doesn't matter if you fit every shitty stereotype that has ever been levied at women. You are beautiful and amazing simply because you exist, and there is an entire army of women standing behind you to remind you of that if you ever forget it.

Thats why Hot Girls Hit Curbs. We are celebrating our faults (hitting curbs) and proudly asserting that we are still whole people worth celebrating. I am choosing to love myself and deciding for myself that I already am the greatest thing that society thinks I can be (Hot Girl). I don't have to do anything to earn that distinction. I just am.

It is one of the largest actual implementations of feminist theory that I have ever seen. Women are actually uplifting women. It actually decenters men (i've talked about men significantly more in this post than any bimbo ever would). Trans women are fully accepted and celebrated. It says any women can be beautiful simply if she chooses to be, and physical beauty doesn't mean jack shit about you as a person.

[marcusbrutus]

tumblr: constantly be aware of your own privilege. constantly be aware of your capacity of be evil. hey i know you really like that new piece of media but make sure you're aware of all of the problematic elements all the time. hey i noticed you reblogged a post from a designated Bad Person so please make sure you do a thorough background check on everyone you reblog from to make sure they're not bad, otherwise people might get the wrong idea about you. always be aware of everything bad that's happening in the world all the time because silence is violence. i see you not reblogging this post btw. activist burnout is a privilege so be aware of that. xyz people are required to reblog this post. if you're not constantly fighting against designated Bad People you are inherently complicit and therefore a Bad Person.

people with ocd:

[egregore-engine]

imagine, if you will, that it's 2005. and google is around and a useful and usable tool for things. and it's also like, not perfect, because nothing is, and obviously has a lot of inbuilt problems. but imagine everyone was like "google is bad because it doesn't have a Soul." and "actually google is killing the library." and "google is something only uncreative bastards use." and then imagine you are someone who understands that google is like, a basically neutral tool, and not only that, but one which will become so mundane and banal as to basically fade into the fabric of social reality, because it is a useful technology that got integrated into how we interface with the world. this is how I feel about everybody culture warring about AI. I don't think you have a real argument for your qualms, I think you're a liberal making idealist errors and a not even particularly useful idiot.

[cryptid-sighting]

People actually were like this about Wikipedia for most of the 2000s

[devourallusurvey]

You ever think about many peices of media have zero women and thats just perfectly normal but if a peice of media has an all female cast people get... like that? Women should be allowed to kill over this btw

[loveshoplifter]

same but it's black people

[devourallusurvey]

That's right

[nonbinary-wrath-month]

The reason why so many of y'all's feminism sucks is because you still believe deep down in your hearts that there are only two kinds of people in the world: precious, ethereal, fragile dollthings called "women", and violent, lustful, rage-fueled apes called "men". Until you throw that idea away, 3rd-grade-tier "girls rule boys drool, girls are princesses and boys are stinky :(" is as feminist as we'll ever get-- and I hope it's obvious that that's lightyears away from the bare minimum of where we need to be.

[optical-trapping]

[thedreamthieves]

i think one of the worst things the left wing internet ever did was push the idea that oppression is basically a virtue, and being oppressed is a sign of your morality. it has made it like…impossible for some of you to hold the idea that most people are privileged in some ways and oppressed in others. AND a lot of you seem to have it in your mind that terrible people cannot be oppressed, and that oppressed people cannot do terrible things, which is a dangerous rhetoric to hold imo.

[goldcrescent]

I also think that the strength gap is at least partially manufactured women would in fact be stronger overall if little girls were encouraged to do physically taxing games and activities and eat their fill while they’re growing vs having to constantly diet and be sedentary indoors (or god forbid do intense cardio while under-eating). The amount of adult women honestly afraid to lift weights bc they think they’ll get bulky as though bulking isn’t a full time job that athletes have to spend all their time on and anyone on earth gets shredded from just using their adult muscles for their intended purpose, girl your bone density 🥀

[goldcrescent]

if you say women are intentionally nerfed from birth in 2026 people look at you like you’re insane and start condescendingly telling you about how women are just better at different things (but not during their periods haha) but this was a completely basic feminist talking point I grew up with like “girls can do it too! [shot of little girls climbing and running with boys]” nickelodeon commercial tier base level I hate it how is everyone suddenly dumber than the average 7 year old

[seflapod]

This is KING shit

[seflapod]

[seflapod]

[azspot]

“Because the truth is, tech doesn’t have an image problem. It doesn’t have a message problem. It has an intention problem. What’s wrong with the axe murderer who broke into my house is not that he hasn’t successfully persuaded me to buy into his narrative. What’s wrong is that he’s trying to kill me with an axe. Similarly, when you launch a product that’s designed to put millions of people out of work, block access to sources of verifiable truth, replace human creativity with slop, and lower the barriers to every sort of atrocity, the problem isn’t that you haven’t told the public a good story about those things. The problem is that you are trying to do them.”

— The 40 Most Rage-Inducing Problems in Tech

[seravph]

being so fr when I say that transmisogyny has put feminism back like 50 years

[seravph]

what i thought we had distanced ourselves from was the reduction of women to vaginas and wombs and the ability to bear children. i thought we had progressed past ‘dresses are for women and pants are for men.’ i thought we progressed past the idea that someone is less of a woman if she does not adhere strictly to beauty standards. i thought we progressed past the idea that naturally being comfortable adhering to highly feminine standards is vulgar. but i (sarcastically) guess no one could have predicted that trans-exclusive feminism would be the downfall of all the progress we’ve made

[autoenucleate]

“We’re in danger of losing what the entire second wave of feminism, what the entire second wave of women’s liberation was built on, and that was ‘Biology is not destiny’. ‘One is not born a woman,’ Simone de Beauvoir said, ‘one becomes one’. Now there’s some place where transsexual women and other women intersect. Biological determinism has been used for centuries as a weapon against women, in order to justify a second-class and oppressed status. How on Earth, then, are you going to pick up the weapon of biological determinism and use it to liberate yourself? It’s a reactionary tool.”

— Quote by Leslie Feinberg, from TransSisters: The Journal of Transsexual Feminism, issue 7, volume 1. 1995.

[recoveredcombatsister]

its a real shame we cant talk about gendered socialization as the violence that it is without some fuckass rocking up like "and thats why trans women arent women!"

[recoveredcombatsister]

like children gendered as girls are fed less and given less opportunities to play and make messes, and children gendered as boys are offered less help and given less emotional support, and this is hurting them! but no actually we need to stop trannies from using the womens washroom

[recoveredcombatsister]

its a real shame we cant talk about gendered socialization as the violence that it is without some fuckass rocking up like "and thats why trans women arent women!"

[recoveredcombatsister]

like children gendered as girls are fed less and given less opportunities to play and make messes, and children gendered as boys are offered less help and given less emotional support, and this is hurting them! but no actually we need to stop trannies from using the womens washroom

[recoveredcombatsister]

its a real shame we cant talk about gendered socialization as the violence that it is without some fuckass rocking up like "and thats why trans women arent women!"

[recoveredcombatsister]

like children gendered as girls are fed less and given less opportunities to play and make messes, and children gendered as boys are offered less help and given less emotional support, and this is hurting them! but no actually we need to stop trannies from using the womens washroom

[44-axyer-44]

NOTICE FOR PSYCHOTIC PEOPLES LIKE ME AND THE NEW TOMODACHI LIFE: Please please pretty pretty please be careful while playing Living the Dream, esp if you’re currently unmedicated!!!

The game treats the Miis like they’re real people and makes zero mention ever that they are not, and only ever refers to them and their POV as if they are real and you are their caretaker! While playing this honestly messed with my head pretty badly at times and made me worry a lot on if I was hurting real people/not doing enough for real people while I was playing!

I cannot imagine how much worse this would be for someone who’s unmedicated, non-dormant, or experiencing breakthrough symptoms! Do please be careful and PLEASE remember to have a way to reality check yourself while playing the game!!!

Also: If you’re not psychotic, please reblog this anyway!!! It may not seem like a big deal to you but these kinds of things are REALLY important to know for us psychotic folk in a world that is both hostile and negligent to us and our needs!!!

[arcade-confetti]

Oh youre "nonbinary"? Can i put you in a box please. Can i pleaseeeee put you in a box. We have two boxes and i really wanna put you in one. But dont worry. My boxes are very Woke and Nuanced. So its fine to put you in one. Pleaseeeee. Wow... youre such a bitch... not letting me put into one of two nuanced and essential necessary boxes... you obviously go into the box all those evil bitches end up in

[worstgirleva]

Male socialization is such an evil rhetoric. Yeah I guess not transitioning at the age of 5 is my fault and I'm evil for it. Yeah I guess not having the childhood I wish I did means I'm a danger and I should perpetually apologize for it

[zedogica]

"The fact that socialization is a specious argument became obvious to me during an exchange I had with a trans-woman-exclusionist who insisted that my being raised male was the sole reason in her mind for me to be disqualified from entering women-only spaces. So I asked her if she was open to allowing trans women who are anatomically male but who have been socialized female — something that’s not all that uncommon for MTF children these days. She admitted to having concerns about their attending. Then, I asked how she would feel about a person who was born female yet raised male against her will, and who, after a lifetime of pretending to be male in order to survive, finally reclaimed her female identity upon reaching adulthood. After being confronted with this scenario, the woman conceded that she would be inclined to let this person enter women-only space, thus demonstrating that her argument about male socialization was really an argument about biology after all. In fact, after being pressed a bit further, she admitted that the scenario of a young girl who was forced against her will into boyhood made her realize how traumatic and dehumanizing male socialization could be for someone who was female-identified. This, of course, is exactly how many trans women experience their own childhoods."

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Julia Serano, "Whipping Girl"

pg. 184