thereâs not really much discussion of child neglect on here so i guess i have to do it
p l e a s e donât shame neglect survivors for not knowing âbasicâ things like how to eat a balanced diet, when to go to the doctor, how to drive, etc. you know these things (usually) because a caring adult taught them to you. we didnât have that. we often enter adulthood knowing jack shit about how to take care of ourselves. we know weâre missing information, and we feel so fucking lost.
itâs okay to, if you have a friend whoâs experienced neglect, try and help them learn how to take care of themselves. saying things like âhey, do you think you could try to eat at least one vegetable per day?â or âthat infection looks pretty bad, do you want to go to a doctor?â is genuinely helpful. but belittling us for not already knowing these things is completely unproductive and unnecessarily cruel.
donât be a dick to survivors.















