Ari maybe a bunny

transsexual woman, TMA, she/it, 21, I will reblog nsfw

[arc-archaic]

Hi im Ari (she/it)

Im a transsexual woman and i will post horny things on this blog so if you dont want to see that block me or something.

Not currently active.

[k1ntsug1-r0b0t-g1rl]

i don't endorse incest at all, but you do you, keep it up faggot!

ngl telling a woman you don't know that you don't "endorse" her sexuality and then proceeding to call her a faggot is not the support you think it is.

Honestly id prefer hate anons to this how did you think this was at all appropriate.

[arc-archaic]

they need to let me kill everyone

[maidslime]

You will one day become disabled. Not if. It's a when. You will one day rely on someone for help in your day to day life. Whether it be now or when you're old, it'll happen. It's not an if. It's a when. This will happen.

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invoking marx's theory of labour on a post with the main message "if you do not contribute labour you're worthless and should be abandoned" is honestly astonishing

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also "if you're a puppygirl who isn't doing the dishes you're basically a man" is just such a disgustingly horrid take. perfectly fusing ableism, transmisogyny, regular misogyny, i can only assume the article is meant to be ragebait

[default-cube]

sorry i shouldn't be vagueposting when i dislike other people doing it. this is about tara knight's "dump your puppygirl"

[sins-of-sodom]

tara knight's recent essay "dump your puppygirl" is the worst, most dangerous, most transmisogynistic and most ableist piece of shit I've ever seen out of a "transfeminist" piece.

Dump your puppygirl

Weaponized incompetence wears a collar

this is not even the half of it. somehow every single sentence has what i can only describe as pure unadulterated hate for an incredibly vulnerable group of people. i dont think i could even cover how all of this is terrible. comparing a trans woman to that of a masculine opppressor. framing her as a parody of a woman that exploits the feminized labor of others like a goddamn businessman. very clearly stating that receiving labor you can't reciprocate is a bad thing. very clearly stating that being supported financially is a moral failing. very clearly stating that having emotional breakdowns is manipulative.

this article was written about the worst caricature of a "crippled leech on society", and rather than address the obvious communication issues displayed in the dynamics present the proposed solution is to oust (kill) the most vulnerable, marginalized party.

as a woman who relies on a caregiver to survive, who identifies with being a puppygirl and functionally inhabits the social position of a child, upset is an understatement with regards to how i feel. if my caregiver took this advice for either me or our mutual girlfriend we would both die. if the people in this hypothetical scenario took this advice the puppygirl would die. systemically if people absorb this information and act according to what it says those who rely on them will die. this is not just a shitty mistake. it's not an understatement to say this is violent and could have terrible consequences.

just because some people have dysregulated emotional responses, baggage, disability or otherwise a position of extreme vulnerability does not mean you can or should just dump us. it is on both of you to communicate and work through issues. do not kill your puppygirl

[yournewpuppygirlfalin]

this shit makes me so sad. ive been the girl waking up my partnere in the middle of the night crying. ive had days where just doinf the dishes is imposible. and i love ans cherish people who jave it worse. we are all terifies of upsetinf people. we wouls rwther kilp ourselves then ever feel like our loved ones lives are worse because of us. we just want love and help

[arc-archaic]

this is me too. im always so so so scared about asking for help and making other peoples lives worse because im disabled. this is just a vitriolic hate piece

[sins-of-sodom]

tara knight's recent essay "dump your puppygirl" is the worst, most dangerous, most transmisogynistic and most ableist piece of shit I've ever seen out of a "transfeminist" piece.

Dump your puppygirl

Weaponized incompetence wears a collar

this is not even the half of it. somehow every single sentence has what i can only describe as pure unadulterated hate for an incredibly vulnerable group of people. i dont think i could even cover how all of this is terrible. comparing a trans woman to that of a masculine opppressor. framing her as a parody of a woman that exploits the feminized labor of others like a goddamn businessman. very clearly stating that receiving labor you can't reciprocate is a bad thing. very clearly stating that being supported financially is a moral failing. very clearly stating that having emotional breakdowns is manipulative.

this article was written about the worst caricature of a "crippled leech on society", and rather than address the obvious communication issues displayed in the dynamics present the proposed solution is to oust (kill) the most vulnerable, marginalized party.

as a woman who relies on a caregiver to survive, who identifies with being a puppygirl and functionally inhabits the social position of a child, upset is an understatement with regards to how i feel. if my caregiver took this advice for either me or our mutual girlfriend we would both die. if the people in this hypothetical scenario took this advice the puppygirl would die. systemically if people absorb this information and act according to what it says those who rely on them will die. this is not just a shitty mistake. it's not an understatement to say this is violent and could have terrible consequences.

just because some people have dysregulated emotional responses, baggage, disability or otherwise a position of extreme vulnerability does not mean you can or should just dump us. it is on both of you to communicate and work through issues. do not kill your puppygirl

[kris-from-undertale]

I've said it before but I think it bares repeating:

There is a palpable and gut-rending irony to someone who considers herself a Marxist transfeminist spending several paragraphs detailing exactly how much of her labor, in dollars, has been "stolen" by the evil disabled transfem she helped keep alive during the 14 months that person couldn't work.

[sailatina3]

After reading this.... im sorry but Tara Knight has fully become a terf what the fuck is she doing.

[sailatina3]

This is a fundamentally transmisogynistic statement. You are objectively putting an association of malehood on a large portion of trans women. There's no possible excuse or justification for this, this is twerfism in blatant view. Why the fuck do you think you're a transfeminist?

[arc-archaic]

genuinely just terf shit.

[bundleofstx]

I’m sure the reaction to this one will be fun.

Dump your puppygirl

Weaponized incompetence wears a collar

[yay-bunnies-zone]

hold up im gonna enter a relationship with an emotionally unstable transfem and not set any boundaries at all. probably everything is going to be okay and if its not its cus shes basically a man. and shes the embodiment of capitalism.

[yay-bunnies-zone]

i dont know if the intended reading is "are women bourgeoisie?" or "emotionally immature tgirls are the lebensunwertes" but either way its really fucked up

[smallestbunnyever-deactivated20]

I have severe PTSD, autism and OCD. I have had breakdowns and episodes in the middle of the night that were disruptive. None of my partners were bothered by this, they were enthusiastic to help, slept fine after and consented to this as part of my relationship. When they experience any kind of distress, while It might not be as intense as what I have; I help them as best I can to calm down and feel better. My fiance has several severe mental health conditions including bpd and more that I do not know the extent of (more than me and worse than mine I'll have you know) and she has never once been an emotional burden on me even a single time, I understand the reality of her long term mental health conditions and I consent to this. Several times lately I've woken up to nightmares and had to call someone to calm down, nobody in my life is upset by this or is bothered by it and I'm lucky to have enough close friends and two partners such that I never need to rely on one person, not everyone has this.

Despite the nature of my OCD (I have pretty severe trouble being productive, remembering appointments, getting round to things) I have never once pushed this burden onto anyone else. I have a support system and health professionals helping me overcome this and when I miss my damn appointments, *I* reschedule them and write them on the calendar at least. Nobody in my life who has similar issues (and I know plenty) has ever acted the way described in this article.

I am physically disabled, I have a mobility disability - and so does my fiance. Both of us are completely capable of living alone and doing all our regular house work (yes you snide asshole that includes the dishes, even if we might leave them till the morning). Being disabled means we can't just do stuff whenever we want, especially not manual work - the fact I only do most chores once a week doesn't make me inherently lazy or demanding and the second that responsibility affects another person everything will be done on a realistic schedule. My partner struggles even more than me! Poor thing is on a thousand medicines every day and has to spend more time than I do resting - and yet she's still completely capable of keeping her place looked after and clean when I'm not there, however the fact of the matter is this isn't the case for all disabled people. Some disabled people have bigger apartments than her or don't have a dishwasher like she does or have to try and maintain a job alongside those chores. Disabled, marginalised peoples less likely to receive systemic support and less likely to be employed (especially less likely to be employed in jobs that allow them to work around their disabilities!). I've known girls who could barely manage on their own to keep a living space clean and to keep themselves fed, and that is not their fault; they deserve love and care too and i have done what I can to help out as just a friend. If I'm going to the supermarket; I might pickup some bits for them and drop it off - and my friends do this for ME too! Because the supermarket is very difficult for me to reach! Am I a lazy man slob for not going when I really should? Am I the essence of capitalism because the massive staircase leading up to Asda is difficult? Or was it the fact I can't always afford to take the bus? I'm moving into a new flat soon, and when my two roommates and I had to discuss chores and who would do what; I honestly said "I'd prefer a system where I am doing the smaller and less physically demanding chores, because as you both know I'm physically disabled and not going to be able to manage chores alongside the fact my commute has to include a hill now" and you know what they said? "Yeah that's fine, that's fair and understandable" because they understand that smaller chores for me are equivalent in energy expended to them and by discussing this and establishing a boundary we came to an agreement that will be fulfilled mutually - and you know what? Who was it helping both of them complete their right to rent checks at every step? and who was it drafting emails for them for our landlord? and who was it that arranged the viewing and confirmed to the agency we wanted the flat? It was me, the disabled autistic mentally ill puppy girl. Your inability to try and lift her up and instead just feed into her problems and refusal to try and help her grow is disgusting. I was once incompetent, I have a fucking learning disability for god's sake; when I moved into this flat I didn't know how to do dishes or mop or cook and you know what happened? I said "I'd like to help out but I'm not really sure how to do this task properly and I learn through example, could you show me how to do it" and then my relative stranger flatmates just taught me how to do them. And we became better friends as a result and I owe them my growth and development - but importantly! Not every girl knows how to ask for help! She's probably been called stupid, incompetent and useless her whole life by those around her and is scared of the pushback when she makes a mistake. Ask her to do some chores regularly that are reasonable within her health and schedule, ask her if she needs help learning a life skill that she may not have and then let her go from there.

Maybe I am a severely traumatised girl who needs to be pet and looked after a not insignificantly emotionally - but my partner's consent to this, knew this was what to expect and are enthusiastic to do that for me. If I ask one of my partners to do something for me, they know I really need that help and am not just exploiting their kindness. Sometimes I have breakdowns or unravel my emotions really quickly and decide it needs to come up in a doctor's appointment, was it so selfish of me to ask my fiance to take a few notes to send me when I'm calm? As far as I'm concerned absolutely not. You know how I explained polyamory to my first partner when we first decided we want to date? "I have needs that can't always be met by you and would fall outside of your boundaries, so if this wouldn't work monogamously" but polyamorous people are just greedy and lazy and leeches obviously.

So much for solidarity with the disabled, mentally ill, neurodivergent and traumatised of our community eh? Fuck them according to Tara Knight, they're just like men and capitalism according to Tara Knight.

[arc-archaic]

The original article and OPs continued insistence on being correct is pretty disgusting and reeks of eugenics rhetoric.

Help your sisters. Lift each other up, teach each other about the world and about your boundaries and about how you can live together without leaving each other behind. Because you can. Even if it fucking takes some effort.

[strawberry-crocodile]

i have a few eggposts going around and i hate soooo much how people couch their argument in cutesy metaphor like "oh you have to tap the egg you can't force it open" like okay what are you arguing against, exactly? like tell me, directly, what situation you're imagining that you need to publicly condemn. like do you think there's genuinely a plague of trans women, like, slipping estrogen in their friends' drinks and she/her-ing alleged cis men despite their protests? do you think we're going around telling people "you're a girl stop resisting"? like if you're going to argue with me about this you need to put down the fucking allegory and say what actions you think are or are not acceptable.

[strawberry-crocodile]

and if you do think "no one should tell people they might be trans and are allowed to transition" then endorse social contagion theory with your whole chest you fucking transphobe.

[mousidy]

it's interesting bringing up some transfeminist theory to my drag race watching cis therapist thinking she'll disagree but then she just starts spitting incredible transfeminist truth that would cause 100 years discourse on tumblr.

[mousidy]

she was telling me that all her transmasc clients have soared up through their careers and have private insurance, while all her transfem clients are financially struggling and are on state insurance

she was like "they transition into privilege and patriarchy is happy to accept them as men" and what's awesome is she said her transmasc clients generally understand this privilege and use it responsibly, including in support of trans women

like girl they would kill you dead on tumblr.com

[mousidy]

and you know to be clear these aren't even things I would have said. I mean there's definitely Nuance at the very least. if I were to say the "transitioning into privilege" and "being accepted by patriarchy as men" things myself I'd want to be able to prove them out relatively rigorously, and I haven't done that, so don't take this as me doing a full cosign on these claims. but damn, she did just kind of say them

[mousidy]

on the transitioning into privilege thing: I don't tend to say this one because I think it's at least probably not linearly true. my theory of this one is kind of in a fetal development stage but I tend to imagine that coming out as trans is a sharp drop in privilege not immediately outweighed by manhood, but then that passing as a man and performing masculinity start to up one's privilege again. #privilegemath

[mousidy]

on the "being happily accepted into patriarchy" thing, my therapist was saying that men tend to be cool with it because it reaffirms that manhood is good and desireable. I hadn't really considered that angle in my own analysis. I usually operate under the assumption that an oppressor class will not be so happy to accept upward movement with open arms, but maybe your average man is not really concerned with gatekeeping manhood as a class, so long as the goodness of masculinity is being affirmed? definitely a thought that's influencing my theory a little

[dame-jigglebones]

gonna be honest that therapist is just spitting straight facts and I've seen it first hand. my own mom refused to accept me as a woman and in the same breath praised a trans man who works for her without even a hint of disapproval or a single pronoun slipup. benjamin "shitstain" shapiro complimented a trans man's masculinity directly and didnt even rescind it after he told him he's trans.

and yeah, the reason trans women are specifically targeted is directly because our very existence denies the validity of the patriarchy, which bakes into our very society that men must be above women. choosing to be a woman and throwing away being a man is inherently counter to that.

same reason women can wear pants but men cant wear skirts. its always been baked in that its (relatively) okay to choose masculinity over femininity, but absolutely not ever the other way around. femininity is supposed to be something to be forced into, not sought out.

[dame-jigglebones]

additionally, its actually necessary for an oppressor class to accept "upward" movement, when it means joining their ranks. this goes for any class with higher privilege. the best way to gain influence is to grow, and accepting new members into your class is an easy way to do that. it's why missionaries are like, even a thing.

[snapcracklepop-myjoints]

abled people are so funny because theyll be like 😳 wow i didnt think of that 😳 and its like yeah i'll bet

[snapcracklepop-myjoints]

so thats actually what those of us in the industry call uh. "the problem"

[stillnaomi]

you see so much in the UK that the people who are most motivated in the communist movement get driven away from marxist parties by regressive attitudes within them. the two most notable ML parties in the UK are virulently transphobic and politely transphobic in turn. a quicky growing Maoist party collapsed entirely the other year after suppressing complaints of racism (amongst other factors.) anecdotally, I've also heard from women who left an ML party after always being given cleanup duty after meetings and being subjected to other constant low level sexism

uplifting the most oppressed within the movement isn't a distraction from "the real work" of the communist movement, it's an essential part of keeping oppressed groups active within it. if you think you can build the movement with only the least oppressed workers, and the handful of racialised, queer, women, and disabled people who can stomach constant prejudice, you're already sabotaging yourself before you've begun. the struggle for revolution doesn't only happen during revolutionary moments, where the mass of people is so dissatisfied that they revolt and the state's usual methods of governance have failed. the overwhelming majority of revolutionary struggle happens in the years, or decades, leading up to that, where we slowly and steadily build the leadership infrastructure, educate the proletariat, and sabotage the state where we can. when you ignore chauvinism within the party, you're hobbling your ability to operate through 99 percent of the revolutionary process

[autogynophelia]

Three things have happened in my local trans community in the past month:

A transmasc drag queen made a call-out post about how a newly-out local trans woman is a sexual predator. (The sexual offence was that, 6 years ago, before she came out, she was at a drag show with the drag queen (who was her friend at the time) and joked that the drag queen's makeup looked a bit like semen.) The trans woman spiralled, got drunk, got hit by a car, and is currently in hospital.

A newly-out trans woman and a trans man met at a local trans support group. They decided to meet up again at a local pub. She apparently asked questions about his transition that he considered invasive, and in a voice that was too loud and risked outing him to other people in the venue. She now faces being banned from the support group.

The only trans woman who volunteers to run that support group is being kicked off the team by the trans man who is in charge of it. The reason is that she once told the guy in charge to "stop talking" when he was giving her several instructions at once, and also that a different transmasc volunteer has said they find her "creepy" and don't want to be alone with her.

All three trans women are autistic, isolated, and don't have much practice with irl socialising. Maybe they're a little bit loud, maybe a little bit abrasive, maybe they misjudge the appropriateness of sexual comment to a friend at a drag show, maybe they're too keen to make a new friend that they get excitable and speak too loud and ask too many questions, maybe they get overstimulated by being told too many instructions and need you to stop for a second to give them space.

Maybe their behaviour that you consider weird and unsettling is actually a trauma response to a childhood and adolescence of isolation and bullying.

And you know what the funny thing is? I have been sexually harassed at a drag show by the drag queen in (1), who was performing and making sexual jokes about various people in the audience. I have been in a public place with the trans man in (2) while he asked me loud invasive questions about my HRT regimen and about child abuse I suffered. And I have been misgendered and deadnamed repeatedly by the trans man in (3).

And do you know what I did about any of these things? Nothing, beyond saying "Hey, I'd appreciate if you don't do that next time 👍 No hard feelings 🙂". Because, not only am I aware that people make mistakes, and I consider trans men and transmascs a vulnerable demographic and it would be a totally unjust overreaction from me to attempt to socially isolate them for these offences.

But also, I don't have the social power to do anything about these things anyway, even if I wanted to. My normal response to experiencing even serious abuse at a queer event is to simply stop attending it, isolating myself, and perhaps telling a few close friends about it. Because I already know that my complaints will not be taken seriously.

Trans women are being isolated irl every day for behaviours that other demographics can do with impunity. They are not given any grace, any benefit of the doubt, any second chances, and complaints about even the smallest offence will be taken seriously and escalated. And they will not be able to fight back, because a trans woman who fights back is just confirming all the bigoted assumptions that the wider world already has about her.

[princess-rosiebird-nsfw]

maid.,, bring me th princess weed,.

[homersimpsonwouldsaythis]

I know a guy who would say this

[princess-rosiebird-nsfw]

wh.,

what??

[homersimpsonwouldsaythis]

[princess-rosiebird-nsfw]

?????????????

[yay-bunnies-zone]

do you need me to bunnies killing him, princess?

[princess-rosiebird-nsfw]

🙂‍↕️🙂‍↕️

[yay-bunnies-zone]

[equikage]

sasuke going 0 to 100 batshit makes a lot more sense when you remember orochimaru was probably feeding him meth

[mousidy]

honestly transgender and transsexual are two categories that often, but don't always, overlap, and I think we should be more aware that being transsexual comes with its own set of experiences and issues that non-transsexuals don't experience. and that's ok

[mousidy]

oversimplifying the differences in the experiences and needs of different types of queer people has not led to liberation for us all, has it?

[mousidy]

when that image was going around of someone saying transition should be "less about transition" and more about expression or whatever, that should have been understood as some deeply privileged, non-transsexual bullshit. like sorry but you don't speak for us, lol

[mousidy]

sorry for "making things even more confusing for cis people" or whatever but a lot of them don't seem to even understand you can change your sex anymore. a lot of YOU don't seem to understand you can change your sex

[mousidy]

honestly tired of sentiments like this being called "divisive." the only reason it's "divisive" to acknowledge that we are a community of different people with different needs and experiences who should listen to and uplift one another instead of shouting each other down, is that some of you can't handle the idea you're not the protagonist of the community, and you make a big shitstorm about it when someone else has needs

we're siblings, but siblings should be allowed to tell each other to shut the fuck up when we're being entitled and pigheaded

[mousidy]

and, to be so clear, sometimes it's us transsexuals that are being entitled and pigheaded. I haven't forgotten about transmedicalists. they should shut the fuck up for pretending that not being transsexual means you can't be transgender

[mousidy]

I'd like to apologize to pigs for my language by the way. you are beautiful animals and you deserve better. I'm visiting a farm with my girlfriend soon and I will be sure to give you apology pets

[arc-archaic]

oh you need to go to the bathroom and the door is locked? No worries let me just get that for you *pulls out my comically large keyring*

[smallestbunnyever-deactivated20]

This could be us but You're too worried about cleanup

[arc-archaic]