Always You.

Hi, I'm Andy. I'm 30, ASD, ADHD, Queer, and a goddamn mess of a human being. TERFs, SWERFs, Exclusionists not welcome.

[anxietyproblem]

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[just-another-cat-blog]

pride month!!!

[lemonsharks]

Is that a miette?

[jeanjauthor]

Pride for you!  Pride for a thousand years!!

[lost-and-cursed]

you COME OUT to miette? you come out to her as queer? oh! oh! pride for mother! pride for mother for One Thousand Years!!!!

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[anxietyproblem]

[dankxsinatra]

[roxylalonde]

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[shatterdome-underscore]

love it when whatever is wrong with Lou Wilson synergizes with whatever is wrong with Ally Beardsley

[anxietyproblem]

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[knighthearts]

happy pride month for it/its users, polyamorous people, xenogenders, non-transitioning trans people, and other "weird" identities. btw

[fforsythiaaa]

Once when I was in undergrad, someone described something as “problematic” in class and our professor was like, “That’s cool, but ‘problematic’ doesn’t really mean anything. It means that the thing you’re describing has a problem, and in and of itself that’s not bad. Art, especially, should always have problems, or else it’s not interesting and not art, either. It sounds like you’re trying to say that this is bad, but you don’t want to say ‘bad.’ Is that right?”

So from then on whenever one of us called something problematic, he would make us talk it out until we could name the “bad” thing we were hinting at. In this particular class, 7/10 it was some type of oppression, and the remainder was like, “I’m uncomfortable because this is very new/confusing/pushing boundaries that made me feel safe.”

Once we stopped calling things “problematic” and stopping at that, class got way more interesting and... we all had to say, like, “that’s racist” or “that’s misogynistic” or “ew capitalism gross” out loud, which a lot of us had never done in a classroom before. Or we had to be like, “Uhhh... I’m not sure what’s so bad?” and confront our own beliefs and that was maybe even more useful.

Anyway. Whenever I see the word problematic, I can’t help but think of this professor being like, “Good starting point, now let’s get specific.” I think when we have to commit to saying “that’s ___” it requires a lot more careful thought about the truth and impact and complexities of whatever we’re claiming. Sometimes there really is some bullshit afoot, and also sometimes it’s art, and it should be full of problems, because that’s what art is.

[hypokeimena]

#'this is present in the text' is often a good first step #but those second and third ones (naming it; describing its function) are vital (via @elucubrare)

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[jvlianbashir]

my friend's discord server has a "proof of touch grass" channel where they post pics of them doing regular activities outdoors/in public. i think many online spaces could benefit from such a thing

[weaselle]

when i was super depressed - like struggling to eat anything barely able to get out of bed to pee depressed - my good friend asked me every day to send her a picture of me holding a leaf and a picture of a meal i was eating and it helped me significantly

(also, she was never judgey - if my meal was a single potato chip she would simply say good job eating a potato chip today <3 )

which is to say, i agree proof of touch grass is a good idea for online spaces

[yadelah]

This kinda required my brain a bit

[transandrogyny--turtlebug]

Whoever tagged one of my posts recently as "maybe you're fat because you're disabled" really shifted my perspective big time. Ive always had people blame my weight for my pain, but that's not even true. It just confirmed what I was feeling, so thank you

[softerseasons]

I think this is something important that often gets lost in fat liberation discussions that I've personally seen, though I'm so sure it has been said a lot and I'm just not in those particular circles.

It does not matter why someone is fat, they deserve respect and basic human dignity as much as any other living person.

However, when you dig specifically into the attitude of "well you're a Bad Fat bc it disabled you", the people using this argument to make people hate themselves (bc let's be real, that Is a major goal of it) often can't comprehend or accept the reality that becoming or being disabled, or getting temporarily sick, can often lead to weight gain, due to the simple nature of how our bodies work.

We tend to have this mental image that if you're seriously ill that you won't be able to eat and you'll waste away, but the human body is a complex organic machine and it does not run on simple binaries, ever. It is not "Sick = 0, 0 = Lose Weight". The body has a million ways to lose control of the efficiency of its own processes, and many of those lead to weight gain.

And that's before even getting into the really obvious stuff like how restricted movement leads to a more difficult time being in a calorie deficit while still being properly nourished (you know, like, common sense 101 stuff). When you add the complexities of each individual human body to that...

Well, this wouldn't need to be discussed at all if people like that actually cared about fat people, though. It's definitely an understanding that has helped me, though, with my own compassion for my own body and the way it holds on to fat, even in the moments when I am still overwhelmed by the way society has taught me to feel about myself due to my size.

[biggest-gaudiest-poltergeist]

"taken" style action movie where a man searches for his wife. as he fights baddies in gunfights and hand-to-hand combat, it's slowly revealed that:

his wife hasn't been kidnapped

their marriage is not healthy or functional

this guy isn't rescuing his wife, he's hunting her down

his wife is a crime boss, those are her henchpeople he's fighting in a john-wick bloodbath

the tension builds until, drenched in blood, our protagonist steps forward for the final showdown. he pulls a manila envelope from his bullet-torn jacket and throws it at his wife's feet. he's just spent an entire trilogy biting & killing & maiming....all so he can deliver his shit wife her divorce papers

[penumbriel]

call it Taken… To Court

[biggest-gaudiest-poltergeist]

#Taken 2: Court

[back-on-my-bullsh-again]

And, for a comedic bit, I want one of the wounded/dying henchmen to just say they're a notary or something and he could have had it done in 5 minutes. And she would have known that had she bothered to get to know the people she employs.

[princncess]

porn is bad because [christian talking point] and [alt-right study] and [misunderstood neurochemistry] and of course [feature of capitalism]

[princncess]

thank you SO MUCH for reminding me about [feature of patriarchy] and [problem caused by lack of kids' sex ed] random tumblr user in the notes! louder for those in the back!

[fantaboy91]

The adult content warning on this post is really just the icing on the cake