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𓆏 romance/sex repulsed 𓆏 any pronouns 𓆏 oriented aroflux ace 𓆏 a place for my sexuality related rambles 𓆏 a safe space for everyone of all genders n orientations 𓆏 im really annoying hi

[aroace-and-afraid]

when did dying alone start being considered a bad thing. if i die alone im not gonna look at it in a "boohoo im lonely" way im looking at it like im a strong warrior who lived life to the fullest without needing anyone, winning battles on my own and making a name for myself as a legend. im not dying alone in the sad way, im dying alone in the way that a lone hero lays down their sword after a long journey, satisfied with their accomplishments without a squire following on their heels.

[aroace-and-afraid]

I hope all my aro homies enjoy marked-down chocolate week! If you don't like chocolate, then I hope you get whatever kind of treat you want for a cheap price. :)

[aroace-and-afraid]

remember kids! love isn't everything! you can live a perfectly happy life without it! you don't need platonic love NOR romantic love!! not having one or the other doesn't make you a "monster" or a "freak". you are perfectly fine the way you are! don't let anyone tell you other wise!

[aroace-and-afraid]

you’re cool >:]

omg I'm so late but WAAH THANK YOU <3 no u

[aroace-and-afraid]

shout out to loveless aros! gotta be one of my favorite genders.

[aroace-and-afraid]

it's not immature to be grossed out by sex and never wanting to have it/even think about it doesn't make you any less of a human being pass it on

[rhymeswithmeg]

it's not immature to be grossed out by romance and never wanting to have it/even think about it doesn't make you any less of a human being pass it on

[aroace-and-afraid]

as a cool frog in a top hat id just like to say that all frogs support both the aro AND ace community and arophobic and/or acephobic frogs are no longer frogs. they are simply lame.

[fixing-bad-posts]

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[paint-the-dusk-venetian-blue]

If love is so sacred, then tell me how I, a loveless aro, can use the word love without spontaneously combusting--

[auggator]

Evil Aromantic: an aromantic that embraces the "negative" stereotypes associated with being aromantic; this could include being loveless and/or heartless, being the villain / relating to aro-coded villain characters, being aplatonic or allosexual, or, more generally, being an "angry aromantic" or "aggressively aromantic" Evil Aros may or may not also relate to being evilpunk

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Loveless ; Heartless ; Evilpunk

[fuckyeahdavidandyonatan]

My heart goes out to all the queers who live in places where being queer is illegal/extremely frowned upon. Never stop being you, you are changing the world as we speak.

[aroace-and-afraid]

Pornhub

it sure is a hub for porn!

[aroace-and-afraid]

you guys ever think about just how big the aromantic spectrum is and go "woah"

like, there are!!! so many different types of aros!!! aplatonic, alloaro, aroace, demi, etc... it's so cool. there are so many people out there that feel differently than the normal romance standards set by society and I think that's amazing, man. to me it really does tear down the "lOvE iS wHaT mAkEs Us PeOpLe" bullshit because we're all living proof that it really, really doesn't. that guy down the street who doesn't want a partner? he's just a dude, dude!!! your coworker that doesn't want any sort of relationship or friendships what so ever? they're living their best life!!! your old classmate that is comfortable with their sexuality and has sex as they please without the pressure of a romantic relationship on their shoulders? they're absolutley vibing, man!!!

i hope that one day all labels under the aro spectrum will be fully acknowledged and accepted. we all deserve to be seen and heard. no matter where we fall on the spectrum.

[potatopossums]

you get to choose what your relationships mean to you.

you get to choose what labels fit your relationships best.

you get to choose what your actions mean in your relationships.

you get to choose your intentions for your relationships.

nobody else gets to decide those things for you.

nobody else gets to claim they know better than you; nobody else gets to say they know what you're "really" wanting or doing.

you are the only person who knows what you intend. nobody else can change that except for you.

even if others misunderstand you, you have done nothing wrong for living authentically. you don't ever have to conform to someone else's standards in order to move through this world "correctly" or "better." you don't ever have to change yourself in order to appease other people (whether allo or a-spec).

you don't ever have to live according to other people's rules. live according to yours. do what works for you.

[just-arospec-things]

Why is "dying alone" considered a bad thing lmao. Like imagine loving your life completely free and on your own terms. Working on your career and passion and friends and/or family. Just- immersing yourself in all the people and things you care for. Creating so, so much, and living a life of passion and peace and authentic self expression.

Just for people to feel sad for you because you didnt have like, a romantic partner or whatever. Maybe you didnt have much of family either. So what?

Alone is not necessarily lonely. Why do people think it is? I want to spend my life alone and fullfilled and so full of worldly and spiritual satisfaction that it practically rolling off of me in waves. That is what i want. No life can be perfect, but i want to get as close to my definition of perfect as i can. This is all that matters.

[kaznomi]

I do not want a life-long partnership, as an aroace person.

When I first learned about being aromantic and asexual, I saw a post on Tumblr about QPRs, aka “Queer/Quasi-platonic relationship”. Here is some quick information on what this means.

I thought that I was interested in this type of relationship. I have been in multiple QPRs in the past even. 

But, after really reflecting on it, I realized - it was the exact same situation as with romantic/sexual relationships.

I am not interested in any kind of relationship beyond friendship. Queerplatonic, romantic, sexual, anything like that. I do not want a “life-long partner”. I love being completely single. I am completely fulfilled and content.

Yet, that voice that tells me that I will never be happy without being in these types of relationships? Yeah, it’s still here. 

With QPRs, this was my unconscious thought process.

“If I am not in a romantic/sexual relationships, at least I can be in a QPR and be somewhat normal.” or “Maybe I will develop these feelings if I can hold out a little longer.”

I felt the exact same in QPRs as I felt in romantic/sexual relationships: trapped, awkward, uncomfortable, stressed. The fact I could not return these feelings would make me extremely stressed. In my last relationship, that was the biggest wake-up call. I was so stressed during that relationship and had no idea why. The second we broke up? I felt so much better.

My dream is living on my own, maybe own a pet, have my own space, but also have a few friends I can hang out with. This is completely fine! I am allowed to live however I want to as long as it isn’t hurting anyone.

Anyways, I guess I’m making this post to show people that you don’t have to be in ANY kind of relationship if you do not want to. I didn’t realize this until very recently, and if I had known earlier, it would’ve saved SO MUCH TROUBLE for EVERYONE. 

You can have a completely fulfilling life. You are not broken. It is your life, and you deserve to live it however you want to.

[arospec-daybook]

Not loving romantically does not need to be compensated with feeling other forms of love. You don’t owe anyone that compensation. Not loving at all doesn’t make your experience incomplete or lacking, it just makes it different and is equally as important as any other experience.