Ash

[yardsards]

One thing that a lot of transmasc people struggle with before they fully realize they’re trans is the question of “do I hate being treated like a woman because women are treated like shit, or do I hate being treated like a woman because I’m not a woman?”

and one method (though not entirely foolproof) to figuring that out is asking “would I be upset if another girl was treated like this?”

like, I’d be just as mad if some dude said “you can’t do math because you’re a girl” to a female classmate as I would if he said it to me

however, I never got uncomfortable at waiters calling my female friends “m'am”, I was only uncomfortable when they called *me* that

and obviously everyone’s feelings are different and there’s tons of variables at play, but if you find that there’s a lot of the second scenario going on with you, there’s a good chance you’re not entirely cis

[aerialsquid]

Where was this post 18 god damn months ago.

[bourtange]

neato: a 13th-century number notation system created by european monks

[thechildofchristmas]

this is…. actuallly really cool? like, this is probably the shortest number notation in existence and yeah, it’s tricky to use and absolute hell for doing math with, but the ability to denote a 4-digit decimal number into a single character is just really cool as an engineer and it probably had a ton of uses back then like denoting quantities or maybe even secret code you can probably draw this on a combination lock to remember the password and people would be none the wiser

[kiophen]

6,766

[nerdneeniya]

[sunlitcas]

cas + religious symbolism

[mishha]

4x01 / 15x19

[girlmadeof-stars]

what was the reason?

[asha47110]

Procreate 19hr 27 min

The lovely Daily Prophet template I used can be found here: http://creativeedtech.weebly.com/blog/harry-potters-daily-prophet-newpaper

[usermeggy]

[gabrielokun]

[joannaeris]

Soft❤️

[678i0u]

Iron Man (2008) | Avengers: Endgame (2019)

[karazrel]

marvel execs are calling in the assassins as we speak

[there-is-still-some-liquor-left]

andrew garfield, air lifting tom holland out of his home to take him where all spider-men go after evading micheal mouse’s assassins: come with me if you want to win a tony

[rexrattorum]

Look my new friend!!!

But what’s this??

Oh?

OH??

OOOOOHHH!!!!!

[espurrellie]

HERE

COMES

A…

FRIEND!!!!!

[rexrattorum]

!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

BEST ADDITION

[monstermonii]

Here’s where you can get it, since people only seem to be commenting links instead of reblogging them.

[anxietyproblem]

[anxietyproblem]

[thoughts-in-shower]

Depression and Anxiety is like radiation. There’s always a little bit of it in the background but not enough to kill you. Then once in a while you get a free trip to Chernobyl.

[humanityinahandbag]

LISTEN UP

Today I did something that terrified the fuck out of me. But ladies, we all gotta do it at some point. 

I got a contract for fulltime work given to me. 

I looked at it. 

I realized, calculating the amount they wanted to offer, that it would actually be less than I’m making part-time now. 

So what did I do?

Let me tell you, every single piece of me wanted to stay quiet and settle and work my way up the ladder. 

Until I realized that

I am worth more than they were offering, and it would be an insult to value me at any less than my actual worth. 

I have a masters and a year’s worth of teaching under my belt. 

I am a qualified professional who wants to make more than assistants pay. 

Their reasoning for the pay was insurance. I’m given insurance that’s worth a great deal, so I shouldn’t worry too much because that added up to a bigger salary. Except insurance doesn’t do jack shit if I can’t pay for an apartment or car costs or student loans. 

What did I do?

First

I breathed. I took a breath. I washed my face and had a quick cry in the bathroom. Ain’t nothing wrong with a real fast cry. 

Second

I left a note on my bosses desk asking if he could speak to me about my contract whenever he was next available. 

Third

Once in my bosses office, I calmly handed him my contract back and said, “I’m very honored that you thought of me for a position, but I cannot accept what you’re offering me. I have a masters and I’ve taught in this school for a year, and I’d been under the assumption that I’d be receiving a different position than this.” He asked me what I was looking for. I said, “I would work for no less than [MY RANGE]. And if you cannot offer me that, then I’ll have to continue working for you part time until I can find another position elsewhere that can.” I thanked him very much for the offer. I was polite and upfront about my expectations for the position that I wanted. 

I can’t tell you what will happen. But I can tell you that going in there and establishing myself as a no BS worker who looks out for herself and negotiates got me farther than if I’d said nothing. 

I don’t know the outcome yet. I really don’t. 

But I can tell you that he is currently rewriting my contract with higher pay. 

Will it be high enough to keep me there? I don’t know. 

But I do know that today was me putting myself forward and taking a chance, and chances, no matter how small, do pay off. 

Ladies. 

DON’T BE AFRAID TO SPEAK ABOUT YOUR CONTRACTS. 

IT’S FUCKING TERRIFYING. 

BUT DO IT ANYWAY. 

BECAUSE YOU’RE WORTH MORE, AND THEY SHOULD KNOW THAT. 

Thank you for coming to my TED talk. 

[humanityinahandbag]

GUESS WHO FUCKING GOT HER MONEY TODAY

Speaking up about your paycheck actually works

[standingonabeachatsunset]

OPs first post came across my dash and I wanted to reblog it, but then I decided to see if there was a conclusion to this story and this makes it even better!

[imfemalewarrior]

You need to negotiate your pay! Educate yourself on pay in your field and with the organization where you work, and negotiate based on your findings. 

-FemaleWarrior, She/They 

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