♡ Mashael ♡

Jordanian Palestinian, they/he, flag in the icon is transtransmasc!

[ask-a-radqueer]

Welcome to Ask A Radqueer!

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Ever wanted to gain a better understanding of the radqueer community? Here, you can ask anything and it'll be answered authentically

Anyone, including other radqueers, can send in an ask to be answered by me and other radqueers! Feel free to add additional qualifiers to your ask (if you're only wanting to ask POC radqueers, for example)

Please be as respectful as possible when wording your questions

If you're wanting to join in with answering questions about being radqueer, you can do so through reblogs, comments, or submitting a post to the blog here - posts will be edited to add the links to answers as they come in, and links to follow-up questions too

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About the Blogger

I am Mashael, a queer disabled person with Jordanian and Palestinian heritage. I'm an anthropology and history graduate with a PHD in history, and in my studies I focused greatly on queer people and other groups largely forgotten about in history textbooks. I'm continuing this now, but also looking a lot at how historical anthropological research can help us to understand and tackle modern issues experienced by marginalised groups

I am also radqueer (and a radqueer community reformist), and relate heavily to transid and paraphilic experiences, ask away!

[ask-a-radqueer]

Sorry if this sounds disjointed or something, my brain fog is high, but I wantedd to ask, as a new radqueer and transID user, how I can deal with the hate. I will even see it from other endo systems or plurals or even other paraphiles. We used to be a big anti, saying transIDs were ableist, racist, etc. but we looked at the radqueer community and realized we have transIDs too.

How can I deal with hate as a radqueer and/or transID user online?

I think that as most radqueers and transID-users are marginalised in other areas, we already have an idea of the amount of hate we can receive for being public about who we are. The good thing about the radqueer and transID space is that it's so small and little-known in comparison to so many other communities

MOGAI and niche queer Tumblr makes it seem huge sometimes, but it isn't. Sometimes the easiest way to get away from it all if it's causing you problems is to get off that part of Tumblr, make a new account, or drop Tumblr entirely for a while until you're comfortable enough in yourself to handle it

I'm completely fine with encountering it because I'm confident that I know who I am and that I am well-researched. I know when to engage with a hate comment to make an example of it, and when doing that will only worsen the situation and hurt people. Overall, I enjoy debate and I enjoy being disagreed with, and hate just doesn't make me feel bad for being who I am anymore — that came with time.

If that isn't you, or isn't you yet, there's always the option of tag blocking, user blocking, having a seperate Tumblr account where you just engage with what you like outside of radqueer discourse, or just spending more time in protransid/rq-exclusive communal spaces like Tumblr communities or Discord servers. The right answer for you depends on how the hate is affecting you and how badly you need an escape from it

Are you a radqueer with an answer to this question? Feel free to answer it with a reblog or comment, or submit a post to my blog!

[necrobatics]

all by me ,, credit not required but appreciated ^vwv^

[ask-a-radqueer]

I usually consider myself anti-radqueer (mostly because of my strict anti-contact harmful paraphilia stance, and my dislike of how the term paraphilia has been warped by the radqueer community) but I guess I would more fit the definition of radqueer critical? Basically I like the basic definition of radqueer but some of the common beliefs in the community I strongly disagree with. All that is to say I hope I'm not unwelcome in asking for advice/help.

I need help, I'm struggling with a lot of guilt right now to the point it's severely affecting my mental health. I think I might be transintersex. I've heard that identifying in that way is intersexist, I don't want to harm intersex people. I experience dysphoria around not being intersex, and I've researched intersex variations almost obsessively because I believe so deep down that I was meant to be intersex. Is identifying as transintersex harmful? What should I do? If it is harmful to intersex people how do I stop feeling this way? I can't remember a moment in my life since I've known the term intersex that I haven't felt like I am intersex. How do I not harm real intersex people?

You're more than welcome!

It'll all be down to individual people's opinions, but I don't think an identity like this can be inherently discriminatory towards anyone

There is nothing about experiencing sex dysphoria around not being a form of intersex or not having a certain sex difference that is inherently prejudice or hateful towards me at all

I've seen people misusing the term intersex when they identify as transintersex, that can be informed by intersexist ideas and misinformation, but it doesn't mean that the identity is intersexist. It's all about being properly informed and using it with understanding of what being intersex is and why you feel as you do

I've actually done a whole post on transintersex (link) and a follow-up of some clarifications (link) which covers some problems I've seen with people misusing transintersex and/or intersex, and how the transid community can be better in this area

You shouldn't have to try and find a way to force what's more than likely a permanent feeling to 'stop' just because there are people who don't understand. It sucks that it's like that right now

If you'd even prefer a non-transid alternative, there might be some out there that may be more socially accepted in some MOGAI spaces (maybe Dissointersex exists?), but ultimately, those who truly want to understand shouldn't mind your preferred word

There is no crime or shame in having this experience :)

[ask-a-radqueer]

Kill yourself pedophile.

Inaccurate, low-effort, and most of all: a perfect example of how some people simply will not accept that others can have these sorts of identities and experiences and still cause no harm

If you truly cared about harm to children, you would spend the time you're currently wasting by sending these sorts of asks to internet strangers on advocacy for those struggling with urges to genuinely harm children to receive proper support, and on pushing for the criminal justice system to take harm done to children more seriously

To which end: StopItNow (UK-based) - helpline and resources for CSA/CSEM survivors, offenders, professionals, and struggling paraphiles. Plenty of ways to support them

Lucy Faithfull Foundation (UK-based) - similar to the above

Thorn (USA-based) - building innovative CSA/CSEM prevention technology

B4U-ACT (USA-based) - support for those experiencing minor attraction, focused on preventing offending and improving mental health

ASAP International - similar to the above

[ask-a-radqueer]

not sure if this is the right blog to ask since this isn't specifically radqueer related

I often see BAH blogs using the term brainmade about headmates that they come up with (like not sourced from preexisting people, characters, things, whatever). to my knowledge brainmade means not an inroject, but a headmate sourced from a BAH post would be an introject

so I'm wondering if brainmade actually means something else, or if I'm misunderstanding what these blogs mean when they say it?

You’re not misunderstanding its meaning, I’m guessing BAH blogs just use the term brainmade because they’re designing alters that, if they formed naturally in a system as they are, would be brainmade

It’s a bit of a complicated one I guess haha, because yeah if someone actually tried to form those headmates they’d technically be an introject

But I think brainmade here is being used just to mean “in a hypothetical system, if this alter existed they wouldn’t be introjected from a source”

[radqueerfess-deactivated2025100]

Hi Im here to boost some of my favorite rq blogs that I think deserve all the attention forever ❤️

@t6oxi9c

@pastelgothfemboy !!

@transjapanese-aimi

@herumafu !!

@labqueer

@ask-a-radqueer !!

@gattozucca !!

[ask-a-radqueer]

Check these other guys out! Thanks so much for the mention :)

[gattozucca]

daily art post- oh wait.. first of September?!

you know what that means.. !

HAPPY TRANSID MONTH!

I'm here to celebrate this beautiful month with a big heartwarming art piece I've took my time to make as perfect as possible!! (I tried my best really 😭)

here we have my lil girl, one oc that I really care about a lot :) she's transoni and transjapanese!

Each day, there will be a new sketch using YOUR OC'S based off each transidentity/theme assigned to said day!!! If you want to be part of it, look at my bio, I've linked the post there ^_^

... Some extra things i really want to mention

I wanted to give a big thank you to this community for giving me a such a welcoming space, I've never felt more like myself anywhere more than I did for the little time I've been here

It's such a beautiful thing, anyone being able to be themselves, use any identify they want, share their own flags, be accepted

I used to be closeted, an anti.. I thought all this was some kind of joke, a freak show, just because others were saying so. I've slowly started to realize that I'm also not that different from any of you, we are who we are and we shouldn't be afraid to say so!

If you're closeted, remember that you are loved

Never be ashamed of who you are ❤️‍🩹

[d7deadfall-4]

"Kill your local pedophile" and your local pedophile is an Autistic 15-year-old boy that can't go in public by himself

"Kill your local pedophile" and your local pedophile is a 12-year-old girl who doesn't know why she feels the way she feels about girls much younger than her

"Kill your local pedophile" and your local pedophile is a 6-year-old kid that will never grow out of being attracted to that age group

[ask-a-radqueer]

I identify as transharmed, but in a past life kind of sense. Is that normal/possible?

It’s possible because you just told me so!

The great thing about these labels is they don’t tell you why or how you should use them and you can use them for whatever reasons (or lack of) you see fit!

[dstryeddheartt-deactivated20250]

Lets look through the radqueer and transid tags!

*untagged nsfw* aw dang it

*untagged triggering content* aw dang it

*untagged nsfw* aw dang it

*untagged triggering content* aw dang it

*untagged nsfw* aw dang it

*untagged triggering content* aw dang it

*untagged nsfw* aw dang it

*untagged triggering content* aw dang it

for a community based around inclusion, we're making it really hard for a lot of people to be included.... it takes less than a minute to tag your content!

[ask-a-radqueer]

not really a question, more just a thought that i don't have anywhere else to share! partially prompted by the anon about radqueer discourse being so binary between pro/anti.

i think a lot about how the line between radqueer and not radqueer is as simple as whether someone claims that label or not. like personally, i don't consider myself a radqueer, but i've seen people who are radqueer and have the exact same opinions as me. i've also seen people who are anti-radqueer and have the same opinions as me. it's a really weird position to be in as someone who's in mostly anti-radqueer spaces. i wonder how many of the people i interact with would consider me radqueer enough to fit their DNI if they knew all of my opinions.

i don't really have a point here, i guess. thank you for running this blog. ❤️

It really is just down to whether or not you use the label a lot of the time. It's insane to me that the difference between mild harassment and extreme harassment can just be deciding to use a word on yourself.

It sucks that hateful people have turned the label of radqueer into a 'brand of person', as if being radqueer inherently encompasses not just your views on specific self-identities, but your behaviour, morals, ethical views, lifestyle, the lot.

It's so so common to see this done to non-conforming identities, and radqueer in isn't even really an 'identity' as much as it's an ideological descriptor for a lot of people. People are so inclined to take words for ideologies and turn them into all-encompassing identities against the will of the people using them, just to create stereotypes and reasons to judge them. It's far easier to justify hatred towards a group if you turn their contextual opinions into their entire being.

[ask-a-radqueer]

I saw a post earlier that’s making me worried, so I wanted to ask. Is it wrong of me to block conabusive relationships? I fully support them, and I believe you should do what you want to do (as long as everything is fully consensual, of course), but I feel uncomfortable and triggered by seeing people talking about harming or being harmed by a partner, even if consensually. Does that make me a bad person?

There's nothing wrong with curating your space to make it less triggering and therefore safer for you! Don't let people make you feel bad for having triggers around abusive dynamics, even if it's just roleplay

[ask-a-radqueer]

i feel like theres so much discourse where you're either radqueer or anti radqueer in the broader liom community and like. surely people recognise it's more complex than that. radqueerness is not a binary, and while i don't understand or feel comfortable with some radqueer labels, i completely understand and identify with others. so i'd say i'm on the cusp of radqueer and not really radqueer, and yet all i ever see is people arguing you're either for or against... like i thought we all agreed binaries are dumb and illogical lmao. anyway is this weird binary anti/pro thing something you/other people have noticed? or is it just a me thing

Has anyone else noticed how binary pro vs anti radqueer discourse is?

Absolutely, and it's such a common thing that there's oodles of reading to do around binary opposition and how it's used to categorise people into groups and set them off on one another, creating a distracting division from the common goals and ideologies that the people involved otherwise share. It's present both systemically and socially, both large-scale and small-scale.

Nerdy aside for those interested but I read Beyond Good and Evil a few months back and it's relevant to this issue (though Nietzsche is definitely not in alignment with my morals or politics- he's a bit of a dick). We water morality down to just 'good' vs 'evil' and judge people and things based on that false dichotomy. We view those who we deem to be 'good' as the opposite of those who we deem to be 'evil', when they're not directly opposed at all.

In a radqueer context, people deem themselves to be good because they think their opinion is correct, and then proceed to deem disagreers to be evil. Boom! Anti-radqueer and pro-radqueer are now the words used to describe two opposing forces, and most people view one as good and the other as evil and fight about it, even though it's really not that simple or binary.

There's little need for an external force there at all, it's so easy to fall down this path of creating a binary opposition to live within, and it quickly becomes a toxic, argumentative, and unconstructive environment.

I really do hope that people recognise this more and decide to approach new things less with the intent to label their opinion as soon as possible, and more to discover what they think outside of the constructed 'opinion binary'. What their unique perspective is.

Some quotes I kept from Beyond Good and Evil to finish off with:

"He who fights with monsters should be careful lest he thereby become a monster." -> Don't let your sense of morality deteriorate in the name of fighting against what you deem to be evil or the opposition

“Madness is something rare in individuals — but in groups, parties, peoples, and ages, it is the rule.” -> Commentary on groupthink and how groups can make irrational, 'mad' decisions so much more easily than individuals

“The strength of a person's spirit would then be measured by how much 'truth' he could tolerate, or more precisely, to what extent he needs to have it diluted, disguised, sweetened, muted, falsified.” -> What makes someone truly weak-spirited is their inability to handle the truth of the matter

Are you a radqueer with an answer to this question? Feel free to answer it with a reblog or comment, or submit a post to my blog!

[ask-a-radqueer]

If someone is transage younger to older and they chronologically age past their age would they then be older to younger?

Typically yes! If your transage is static and you're trans24 forever, then when you're chrono-23 you'd be YtO, and when you're chrono-25 you'd be OtY (if you used x to y labels on yourself that is, not everyone likes them)

[ask-a-radqueer]

What IS radqueer, I've been deep into the community for a short while trying to find the meaning of radqueer or the views behind it but I really struggle because every post I see is about what it isn't

It's not a cult, it's not mogai, it's not in affiliation with the LGBTQIA+ community.

So what even is it?

Summarised answer: There's some variation when it comes to what radqueer inherently includes, but it always supports at least transids and paraphilias on top of other queer identities as per its recoin in 2022.

(links might not work, either sites are having issues at the moment or they're blocked in the UK after the new online safety act which I hate deeply sefodimgdrg).

Original definition and other sources that define it:

Here's the original definition, which outlined a much more specific ideology, but I rarely see it referred to especially because it's just easier to summarise it down to the recoin. It talks about these identities as inherently queer, and discusses supporting all queer identities, defining them as "whatever is at odds with the normal, the legitimate, and the dominant." It also talks against calling things disorders and illnesses, which isn't touched on at all in the most used definition.

Bonus carrd that includes more than transids/paras under radqueer. I'd say most radqueers today would agree with this.

Even the LGBTQIA+ wiki gets the definition pretty close to correct. Only issue is lots of radqueers do not consider these identities to be LGBT+, or might consider them queer in a different sense. This is why usually don't trust super anti-radqueer sources to get it right; it's so often summarised down in bad faith to act like our community is doing a lot more 'LGBT community infiltration' or harm than we actually are

My extended rant:

There are some radqueers who would very much say we're affiliated with MOGAI/LGBTQ+, I'd say the community formed off of the failings of the MOGAI space to include certain marginalised identities that are aligned with queerness - that's why it was originally coined in the first place.

I like the way that @theproblematicnerd / @nonconformityhub puts it in this Notion which I've referred to a few times:

"The term has little to do with non-heterosexuality or non-cisgenderedness yet creates one of the biggest problems you can create for the queer community’s foundation - it questions how far they’re willing to take their core ideas by redefining ‘radical queerness’. Essentially, radqueer says that if gender is a social construct that we can define and experience in our individual ways regardless of what’s expected by society, then can this apply to other social identifiers? And if you shouldn’t be discriminated against for your innate sexual attraction, which attractions should be protected and destigmatised?"

Some radqueers may think about paraphilias a queerness expanded by sexuality, and transids as queerness expanded by transness - radqueer 'opens up' the idea of what queer is - but I've also met radqueers who do not like the idea of calling transids/paras queer at all, so it really depends.

Are you a radqueer with a different interpretation of what radqueer means? Feel free to answer it with a reblog or comment, or submit a post to my blog!

[radiomogai]

got a problem, I dont want to be radqueer nor do I identify as one due their belief system, however im anti-transition + anti-bad faith, however I want to use trans____ / rq material specifically for sh purposes, / self protection (transharmed) additionally I feel like both anti and pro communities frame me as a bad person which I already struggle with combatting daily. im like stuck in those limbo place im not trying to transition to ___ I want to harm myself/satisfy the “i am suffering”itch

unfortunately we ourselfves aren't able to try to help with this problem, both because The OCD and because this is not a topic we feel confident enough in to help a stranger with, but i'm posting the ask nonetheless in the hopes someone else can indeed help you with your situation!! i'm sorry you're going through that anon, it really sounds like you're stuck between a rock and a hard place

the only other thing i can think to suggest is maybe try asking @ask-a-radqueer for some advice on your predicament? we've spoken with him several times before and found him to be very respectful and thoughtful! i trust that he's not going to try and convince you to be a radqueer or convince you to transition, but rather that he could be someone you could talk to without feeling like you're being judged as a bad person for what you're going through

[ask-a-radqueer]

OMG hi Radio! It sure has been a while I need to get on Discord more don't I? haha - you're always welcome to send people my way!

I'm not 100% sure what's being asked here, I'm assuming this is an "is it alright for me to use transids without being radqueer" type deal? To which end I'd direct you to this post (link)

As a sort of general response to the other things you said, there are anti-radqueers who will give you a hard time for using transids and there are radqueers who will give you a hard time for using them without being radqueer - probably less so, but it certainly happens and it sucks. There are lots of people, radqueer and not, who will do nothing of the sort though

If you feel that a transharmed label helps you, especially so if it helps reduce stress or real physical harm to yourself or whatever the purpose, I don't see why you can't use it at all!

Same goes for any supposedly 'radqueer material,' we make labels and resources that can ultimately be used by anyone. Just because a radqueer made it doesn't mean you can't find solace in it as a non-radqueer or even anti-radqueer