AspecScaredyCat

Teenage ace and quoiroflux She/her Your local dumbass who tries to be poetic Main: ScardeyCat132 Profile picture: my art Banner: pinterest (idk its the bibble meme I overlayed with the aroace flag)

[aspecscaredycat]

Hey there, welcome, salutations, pull up a chair

Asexual and Aro-spec (quoiroflux to be specific but no one gives that many fucks)

I am a minor, currently in high school, so that's fun.

Mostly reblogging stuff about heteroamatanormativity, aspec stuff, ace, aro, queer platonic, all that fun jazz. I may talk about my own experiences sometimes, but those'll probably just be shit posts from when The Ambiguous Attraction™ strikes.

I lowkey have no clue what else to say

All my other blogs if you're interested:

Main: @scaredycat132 , Swedish: @raddkatt132 , Art: @scaredycart

[kittyking445]

HAPPY PRIDE to Black Aros on this site btw. Whether ur Aroallo aroace non-SAM loveless etc I hope your pride month is a good one

[magnhild]

it's midnight on the 1st of june aest

[thepinkpestilence]

more people could identify as asexual/aromantic if they not only knew what that label is but also knew about how wide the spectrum could be. because not every ace/aro person feels the same way and even people who DO have a general idea on what it means, could still be like "yeah no i cant be possibly ace/aro because i feel/do this and that"

[the-irreverend]

And stay safe everyone!

[aro-culture-is]

aro culture is dreaming about living in a huge house with your friends where everyone has their own apartment and you can hang out whenever you want

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[heartattackinblackdye]

unconventional queers i love you!! people in alterous relationships and queerplatonic relationships i love you!! xenogender and neopronoun users i love you!! intersex and nonbinary people who still don’t feel accepted in the community i love you!! contradictory label users like lesboys and mspec gays i love you!! people who are queer due to polyamory, afamilial or aplatonicness, or something else i welcome you!! no gatekeeping this pride month

[nuclear-atm0sph3ar]

heres ur chance to like a a posts bc the pride flag thing is satisfying

[starsinoursystem]

this pride month I'm gonna need everyone to be radically pro transgender and also pro intersex and also pro ace and aro spec peoples thanks

[sortingmyideas]

we don't reinforce amatonormativity here bbg you're safe

[aro-ace-chaos]

I think sex neutrality is a way better idea to promote than sex positivity.

Obviously, sex negativity is bad. Treating sex as dirty and shameful and morally bad is stupid.

But I think it's also harmful to treat sex as something inherently good and wonderful that everyone wants and needs. Because that's not true either.

Some people don't want to have sex, and that's fine. Oftentimes, it feels like sex positivity treats sex indifferent, averse, and repulsed people as broken or missing something or inherently broken, and I hate that.

Sex is a morally neutral thing that some people seek out and enjoy, and some don't. That's why I like the idea of sex neutrality so much. It's inherently against purity culture and sex negativity, but I think it's also a much healthier way of viewing sex than as something inherently necessary and good.

Sex, for me personally, as a sex-averse ace, would be really damaging and bad. There is no scenario where sex could ever be good or nice for me. And I hate how sex positivity treats sex as something inherently good that everyone would enjoy, because that actively excludes me and my lived experiences, and does similarly for a lot of other ace folks and other people who don't want sex for literally any reason at all.

Like, it's just a thing some people do. There's no need to moralize it either way. Just treat it as a thing some people do.

[yelledwhispers]

"Don't you want your own family?"

Of course I want it. Just another kind of family.

My dream is to have a house full of friends, where we can eat all together then playing cards until late in the night, laughing and singing. Or where we can have a hot chocolate and a deep conversation. A safe and welcoming space for me and my loved ones.

I want an additional bed to host those who come from afar and a big kitchen table for lunches and dinners.

I want someone to cook pies with, to travel with, to spend the Christmas holidays with.

I want to be loved and to love. That's a simple dream, really. That's my concept of family

[eyefocusing]

get more asexual

[willow-does-stuff]

romantic relationships blah blah blah okay but what about risking everything for your sibling. what about the unwavering love and care that can only come from a parent to a child. what about someone who just wants their best friend back. ever thought of that.

[aro-culture-is]

Aro culture is vaguely wanting a relationship despite not liking romance that much, just to feel like someone’s priority and because you’re touch and attention-starved

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[poorlythoughtoutdescisions]

Hopeless romantic? more like

HOPELESS PLATONIC

[aro-ace-culture-is]

aroace culture is wanting a partner but we're just acting like friends bc i'm repulsed to the idea of someone kissing or having sex w me but i also just want someone to call mine as a partner but in a bestie way

if that makes sense

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