Assaults of Thought

Blows a kiss to the stars *for Daddy-Wan Kenobi* 😘 18+ only

[satis-sun]

i just know zoey falls in love with tiny, forgettable moments. she remembers the color the sky was when they walked home together, the song that was playing in the grocery store when mira laughed so hard she snorted, the exact café where celine reached across the table to fix rumi's hair. she collects ordinary moments like souvenirs and brings them up months later when nobody else remembers them.

[sassylovermongerbear]

I love how, as a fandom, we all agreed that Zoey was a self aware freak who drool over Celine almost as much as she drool over her girls

[beaft]

being on the aro spectrum would be a lot easier if being single wasn't made to feel like a literal death sentence

[beaft]

it's all very well to say "friends are just as important as romantic partners" but in practice this simply is not the case lmao. you can share a flat with a friend but it's expected that sooner or later that friend will meet someone and will move out to go live with that person instead. if you're hanging out with friends you can bring your partner along but your friends can't come on a date night with you because that's third-wheeling and it's weird. you can know somebody for most of your life and still be second-best to some guy they met on tinder 6 months ago. you're meant to just accept without question the fact that your friends will prioritise time with their partners over time with you. being single is treated like a problem that needs to be fixed. we casually use expressions like "just friends" or "more than friends". everything we read and watch reinforces the idea that romantic love is what gives life meaning and therefore your life is meaningless. i try to keep my chin up but my god it is bleak out there

[fivekoboldsinacoat]

also: there are very very real material benefits & privileges for people in recognized romantic relationships (marriage, common-law or otherwise). Single people don't get them. (Or people in relationships that aren't legally recognized, for whatever reason

It isn't quite a death sentence, but IS often around matters of life (health, financial security) and death.

[koryxx]

gotta love the people in the notes doing the thing op is criticizing. “that’s just life, things change and you need to adapt” and “friendships have ebbs and flows, they aren’t static” and “people get swept up in romantic relationships but will come back when they realize their romantic partner cannot fill their every need” and “i love my best friend but i have a romantic partner and they do come before my best friend that’s just how it is.”

babes. we should not just accept this as normal and okay and healthy. analyze why it’s so absurd and confusing to you for someone to suggest maybe you should value your friends and maybe you don’t need to have a hierarchy of relationships. friendships are indeed not static, but “i have a romantic partner so now you don’t matter” isn’t the natural and normal ebbs and flows of friendship, it’s the amatonormative belief that friends are only important until romance comes into the picture—that friendship is a mere placeholder for the real thing.

(ever notice how common it is in media for someone to have an established “best friend” but then that title goes to their romantic partner to emphasize their elevated importance? this is a reflection of the belief that your romantic partner not only has to be the most important relationship, but should also encompass all kinds of relationships within it—your sexual/romantic partner and best friend wrapped in one—an approach to relationships that ultimately dooms both platonic and romantic relationships by “expecting too little” from the former and “expecting too much” from the latter. also, if “best friend” is less than “spouse,” why is it imperative that your spouse also be your best friend?)

the implication of folks being clingy or codependent or unrealistic for wanting their friends to not sideline their relationship of years for a romantic partner they met two seconds ago is the problem. we should be making time and space in our lives for all of our relationships, not just the romantic ones. because that’s what it is healthy and fair. and if you sideline your friends to make your romantic relationship the center of your world, only to realize that your romantic partner can’t possibly (and shouldn’t have to) fill all of your needs and you actually need friends in your life in a meaningful way, well, don’t expect them to have just been waiting around for you to realize their value.

and realize that this isn’t just a thing on a personal level. it’s not as simple as "oh your best friend prioritizes her husband over you? just make him your new best friend too! problem solved!" it’s bigger than that. romantic relationships, particularly marriages, are systematically privileged over other relationships: “amatonormativity intersects with other forms of oppression, especially gay and lesbian oppression and women’s oppression, to impose steep costs. amatonormativity is itself systematic in a way characteristic of oppression: legal penalties and discrimination interlock with social pressures and discrimination, stereotyping in the media, workplace discrimination, consumer pricing, and children’s education.” statistics show that married couples are less connected to their friends, family, and community than those who are single, and that not having a network of relationships outside of romance can lead to poorer health outcomes. this is more than your attempts to make people look ridiculous for being upset that their friend's spouse comes before them.

and more importantly, realize that romance being the most important kind of love is a modern concept. there are point in history and different cultures where platonic relationships were not so degraded—where they were treated with the love and passion and care and prioritization that has now come to be reserved for romantic love; where they were considered and treated as beloved family, not disposable side characters; where they would take on roles now only associated with family or spouses; where they were even referred to with language now considered exclusively romantic. so the argument of “of course romantic partners come first, that’s just how life is” doesn't hold up. that’s “how it is” because that’s how people make it. it is not naturally occurring; it doesn’t just play out like that.

we can change it if we so choose. if you don’t want your friends to have such importance in your life, just say that. don’t try to rewrite history or make people out to be dramatic or too much for wanting the people in their lives to value them. (and even if you don’t want that for your life, you should not only full heartedly support others doing so, but also advocate for changes that allow others to live the lives they want without unnecessary societal and legal barriers.)

if anyone is interested, minimizing marriage: morality, marriage, and the law by elizabeth brake (the book “amatonormativity” is coined in) and the other significant others: reimagining life with friendship at the center by rhaina cohen are good reads on this topic.

[furryprovocateur]

they should allow you to report posts for being gauche or passé

[girlswater]

[otherwindow]

why is it always a male character going mad avenging his dead wife and never a female character cradling her dying pure of heart husband in her arms then dragging the whole world down with her

[swan2swan]

[charlesoberonn]

First of all, this is a very clever use of this gif. Secondly, fuck you.

[newhologram]

Being disabled sometimes puts you in a weird spot because people will use your strength and resilience AGAINST you.

[b-quieter]

I think Zoey is the worst at poker.

She’s a horrible liar. She melts like ice whenever Rumi pouts and withers when she has to tell Mira no.

But she locks the fuck in at strip poker.

[b-quieter]

Warden: she’s in here, free to go as soon as the deposit clears.

Celine: of course. Thank you for your… discretion

Bobby: and for signing all 23 NDAs

Warden: *opens cell door*

Mira, 45 years old and sporting a nasty black eye, lounging lazily in her cell: hey guys. Thanks for the bail money.

Bobby: oh my god. *immediately rushing over and fussing over her* Are you bleeding? Are you hurt???

Mira: *smirking* not as bad as the other guy is, you should see what I left on his stomach-

Celine: -Ryu-Choi Mira, let me make myself very clear. You had better have a very good reason that I’m bailing you out of jail for assaulting a reporter.

Bobby: *shakes his head disappointedly* Mira, I know you know better than this. Is this really the example you want to set for your kids?

Mira: *grumbling*

Bobby: Mira.

Mira: *growling* he laughed at me and said it was a good thing we *aggressively air quotes* finally had a boy, since apparently we just couldn’t stop trying until we got one, otherwise Zoey and Rumi would never keep the baby weight off.

Celine and Bobby: …

Celine: … you should’ve aimed lower. I trained you better than this.

Bobby: I’m filing a restraining order. And mailing a glitter bomb. Then I’m taking the kids for ice cream while you and Zoey and Rumi go kick his ass.

Mira: too late. Why do you think I called you two instead of them?

[important-animal-images]

[derinthescarletpescatarian]

Two animals who appreciate the Warm Lamp

[mikkeneko]

[lizcliffgate]

"Why're you lying in the dirt, soldier?"

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a tiefling's tail, you know...🤤

[mediocreslop]

CAITVI💋🧁 by Tamias栗

[msburgundy-but-worser-deactivat]

whoever said diamonds are a girl's best friend clearly has never met ibuprofen

[luimnigh]

Actually literally accurate. The song originates in the 1949 musical Gentlemen Prefer Blondes, while ibuprofen was invented in 1961.

[si3art]

Baldurs Gate 3 girlies~ ^^🫶🏻💕

[inveigler81]

Wondering if I should post all 3, side by side.

[bebx]

“We hope this email finds you well” babe, the only emails I hope find me well are the ones from Archive of Our Own

[nezyy78]

🙂‍↕️

[memorycycle]

first thing id do as a skeleton is drink red wine from a goblet and have it spill out everywhere . second thing id do is play my ribs like a xylophone

[quentims]

Zoey