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@backgroundasexual
I bring a real 'actually people who are pregnant do deserve some special consideration because they are effectively at least temporarily disabled if not permanently after some complications' vibe to the party that a lot of people don't seem to like
There is something deeply insidious about people who cannot let there be space for asexuals who don't want to have sex and feel the need to inject "but some asexuals do like sex!" into every conversation and I'm no longer going to be nice about it
This is what it feels like by the way. Wider society tells us we must like sex so we create a space we can talk about not liking it, but then a bunch of people come in and admonish us for making jokes about not liking it because that's not inclusive of every single ace
There is something deeply insidious about people who cannot let there be space for asexuals who don't want to have sex and feel the need to inject "but some asexuals do like sex!" into every conversation and I'm no longer going to be nice about it
Real tired of new words getting irreversible sexual connotations. There are enough!! Stop making it harder to talk without making some kind of unintentional innuendo I'm tired
i donāt feel like debating that topic much farther bc truthfully if it comes down to āwomen will lose to men in every sport bc they donāt have as much testosterone!!!!!ā my elite feminist response is honest to god āok we will lose with honor as equals instead of having our own special Easy Mode Female category so we can win amongst ourselvesā like iām sorry i just canāt be persuaded. iām a brick wall. i want co-ed sports
i bring a sort of āwomen can lose at some sports against men if it means being regarded as equalsā vibe to the debate that ātestosterone objectively increases performanceā people donāt really like
It's so interesting to me that these kind of takes never factor in the cultural issues at play. Probably because addressing that men need to fix their shit is a lot harder than just calling for the destruction of things created for women.
Like sorry I want the community event where trans flags are waved in the stands to still exist and not get absorbed into the event where straight men scream homophobic slurs at players they don't like
i like how you seem to think that trans flags being waved by people protesting the transmisogyny borderline inherent in womenās sports is proof that womenās sports are a trans safe haven. and not one of the most hotly debated stages for whether trans people have the right to exist
Where did I call it a safe haven? I said it was more inclusive as a cultural activity than men's sports, which is just a fact. But yeah women's sports aren't perfect so might as well just destroy them completely.
i donāt feel like debating that topic much farther bc truthfully if it comes down to āwomen will lose to men in every sport bc they donāt have as much testosterone!!!!!ā my elite feminist response is honest to god āok we will lose with honor as equals instead of having our own special Easy Mode Female category so we can win amongst ourselvesā like iām sorry i just canāt be persuaded. iām a brick wall. i want co-ed sports
i bring a sort of āwomen can lose at some sports against men if it means being regarded as equalsā vibe to the debate that ātestosterone objectively increases performanceā people donāt really like
It's so interesting to me that these kind of takes never factor in the cultural issues at play. Probably because addressing that men need to fix their shit is a lot harder than just calling for the destruction of things created for women.
Like sorry I want the community event where trans flags are waved in the stands to still exist and not get absorbed into the event where straight men scream homophobic slurs at players they don't like
and i do think that humans in general arent really made to be constrained to romance and monogamy in the way its enforced and understood now and i do think a lot of people only feel like they really need it because its whats expected and normal. But i say that and people get mad at me so
like im not gonna claim to be an expert on psychology or whatever the fuck but like. the idea of only having ONE extra special all important person who must meet all your needs perfectly and who cannot be substituted for anybody else and who everyone else in your life must be lesser than in your eyes is insane
Genuinely baffling to me how almost nobody is upset with how much they changed everyone's faces to make them identical and boring in the new atla movie
Not wanting to have sex is NOT a problem. It doesnāt matter if you are asexual or allo, there is nothing wrong with not wanting sex. Itās just an activity. Thatād be like saying that if you donāt like soccer, you need to go to soccer therapy to figure out why you dislike it and figure out how to like it because itās for your own good. See how ridiculous that sounds? IT IS OK TO NOT WANT TO HAVE SEX AND IT IS NOT SOMETHING THAT NEEDS TO BE FIXED!!!!!!
we talk about how cis people are just handed a gender and accept it without thought but I think what we fail to mention is that the same happens with sexuality
this extends beyond the bounds of simple heterosexuality. it's also about being told that you enjoy skinny white cis women with button noses and straight hair and no stretch marks and no cellulite etc. lotta gay people never let go of that one!
My aromantic ass really needs someone to follow around behind me and stop me from failing to interpret trope signals correctly.
Character: My husband and I aren't a love match, we have an arrangement that works for both us and we work well together
Me: Oh amazing platonic soulmates
Amatonormative Interpreter over my shoulder: It's a fake dating trope. They're fake dating.
I find it so insane when women donāt leave their bfs for raising their voices at them like immediately if a man is raising his voice at you you need to beat the hell out of him rob him and then throw him into a river like the fuck
Just one time is once too many you all need to know this. Get the bar above hell at ONCE
If you are a grown ass adult with financial freedom it's your choice what people are allowed to be in your life. And it doesn't matter what anyone else has to say about it, it's your life. So act like it.
re: finding platonic explanations for things you cannot even imagine, I'd like to see an aromantic jealousy plot for a change. Character A is seethingly jealous of Character B's love interest but it's not because they're romantically interested in B, it's because they're aro and B is the most important person in their life and this is an unwelcome reminder that they will always come second to a traditional romantic partner in society's eyes and possibly B's as well.
And honestly you don't even need a powerful interpersonal connection to activate Hater Mode. I wasn't that close to any of my middle school classmates and I certainly wasn't interested in them romantically, but I was still so sick of hearing about the boy band guys they had crushes on that I fantasized about Justin Bieber dying in a plane crash. Not my most hinged of moments but idk what to tell you, middle school was a bad time
for USAmericans: Have you ever talked to a first generation immigtant face to face
no
a few times
I have a friend who is a first generation immigrant
I have multiple friends who are first generation immigrants
I am a first generation immigrant
I'm bald/non usamerican
Aro and ace activism is housing reform, is well-funded public housing, is an expansion of affordable housing, is allowing single people to get affordable and public housing, is rent controls to make it possible for single people to be able to afford to live alone on a single salary.
Aro and ace activism is healthcare reform, so that no one needs to rely on a spouse for health insurance, so that healthcare is available to everybody regardless of income, so that no oneās lived experiences or basic dignity are dismissed or overridden by doctors
Aro and ace activism is well-funded and expansive public transit, so that you donāt need to have someone on hand to drive you places if you are incapacitated, so that you donāt have to pay for an ambulance if you need to get to the hospital quickly
Aro and ace activism is disability and elder care services, so that no one needs a spouse to care for them, so that no one needs children to care for them, so that marriage is not a bind for disabled people, so that people on disability who want to and can live alone can
Aro and ace activism is community-building, itās public events, itās free social activities, itās mutual aid, itās activities that bring community members together without socializing relying on just a romantic partner
Aro and ace activism is developing a culture of believing when people tell you who they are and what they want rather than assuming you know them better than they know themselves
Aro and ace activism means a better world for people without ānormativeā desires or ānormativeā social support, which means a better world for everybody
Idk what hockey rpf girl needs to hear this but stop training your brain to do mental backflips to justify the shitty behavior of men. Do not invent rich and kind inner lives for them that don't exist. The way you spend your time does in fact affect how you interact with the real world.
