Only Acing My Sexuality

The Side Blog of a Demiromantic Asexual Header by @theprideful

[backgroundasexual]

Real tired of new words getting irreversible sexual connotations. There are enough!! Stop making it harder to talk without making some kind of unintentional innuendo I'm tired

[thesituation]

i don’t feel like debating that topic much farther bc truthfully if it comes down to “women will lose to men in every sport bc they don’t have as much testosterone!!!!!” my elite feminist response is honest to god “ok we will lose with honor as equals instead of having our own special Easy Mode Female category so we can win amongst ourselves” like i’m sorry i just can’t be persuaded. i’m a brick wall. i want co-ed sports

[thesituation]

i bring a sort of “women can lose at some sports against men if it means being regarded as equals” vibe to the debate that “testosterone objectively increases performance” people don’t really like

[backgroundasexual]

It's so interesting to me that these kind of takes never factor in the cultural issues at play. Probably because addressing that men need to fix their shit is a lot harder than just calling for the destruction of things created for women.

Like sorry I want the community event where trans flags are waved in the stands to still exist and not get absorbed into the event where straight men scream homophobic slurs at players they don't like

[thesituation]

i like how you seem to think that trans flags being waved by people protesting the transmisogyny borderline inherent in women’s sports is proof that women’s sports are a trans safe haven. and not one of the most hotly debated stages for whether trans people have the right to exist

[backgroundasexual]

Where did I call it a safe haven? I said it was more inclusive as a cultural activity than men's sports, which is just a fact. But yeah women's sports aren't perfect so might as well just destroy them completely.

[thesituation]

i don’t feel like debating that topic much farther bc truthfully if it comes down to “women will lose to men in every sport bc they don’t have as much testosterone!!!!!” my elite feminist response is honest to god “ok we will lose with honor as equals instead of having our own special Easy Mode Female category so we can win amongst ourselves” like i’m sorry i just can’t be persuaded. i’m a brick wall. i want co-ed sports

[thesituation]

i bring a sort of “women can lose at some sports against men if it means being regarded as equals” vibe to the debate that “testosterone objectively increases performance” people don’t really like

[backgroundasexual]

It's so interesting to me that these kind of takes never factor in the cultural issues at play. Probably because addressing that men need to fix their shit is a lot harder than just calling for the destruction of things created for women.

Like sorry I want the community event where trans flags are waved in the stands to still exist and not get absorbed into the event where straight men scream homophobic slurs at players they don't like

[seymourworld]

and i do think that humans in general arent really made to be constrained to romance and monogamy in the way its enforced and understood now and i do think a lot of people only feel like they really need it because its whats expected and normal. But i say that and people get mad at me so

[seymourworld]

like im not gonna claim to be an expert on psychology or whatever the fuck but like. the idea of only having ONE extra special all important person who must meet all your needs perfectly and who cannot be substituted for anybody else and who everyone else in your life must be lesser than in your eyes is insane

[backgroundasexual]

Genuinely baffling to me how almost nobody is upset with how much they changed everyone's faces to make them identical and boring in the new atla movie

[rabbitheatedgrrrl]

Not wanting to have sex is NOT a problem. It doesn’t matter if you are asexual or allo, there is nothing wrong with not wanting sex. It’s just an activity. That’d be like saying that if you don’t like soccer, you need to go to soccer therapy to figure out why you dislike it and figure out how to like it because it’s for your own good. See how ridiculous that sounds? IT IS OK TO NOT WANT TO HAVE SEX AND IT IS NOT SOMETHING THAT NEEDS TO BE FIXED!!!!!!

[xenasaur]

we talk about how cis people are just handed a gender and accept it without thought but I think what we fail to mention is that the same happens with sexuality

[xenasaur]

this extends beyond the bounds of simple heterosexuality. it's also about being told that you enjoy skinny white cis women with button noses and straight hair and no stretch marks and no cellulite etc. lotta gay people never let go of that one!

[backgroundasexual]

My aromantic ass really needs someone to follow around behind me and stop me from failing to interpret trope signals correctly.

Character: My husband and I aren't a love match, we have an arrangement that works for both us and we work well together

Me: Oh amazing platonic soulmates

Amatonormative Interpreter over my shoulder: It's a fake dating trope. They're fake dating.

[gokusclit]

I find it so insane when women don’t leave their bfs for raising their voices at them like immediately if a man is raising his voice at you you need to beat the hell out of him rob him and then throw him into a river like the fuck

[gokusclit]

Just one time is once too many you all need to know this. Get the bar above hell at ONCE

[backgroundasexual]

If you are a grown ass adult with financial freedom it's your choice what people are allowed to be in your life. And it doesn't matter what anyone else has to say about it, it's your life. So act like it.

[clonerightsagenda]

re: finding platonic explanations for things you cannot even imagine, I'd like to see an aromantic jealousy plot for a change. Character A is seethingly jealous of Character B's love interest but it's not because they're romantically interested in B, it's because they're aro and B is the most important person in their life and this is an unwelcome reminder that they will always come second to a traditional romantic partner in society's eyes and possibly B's as well.

And honestly you don't even need a powerful interpersonal connection to activate Hater Mode. I wasn't that close to any of my middle school classmates and I certainly wasn't interested in them romantically, but I was still so sick of hearing about the boy band guys they had crushes on that I fantasized about Justin Bieber dying in a plane crash. Not my most hinged of moments but idk what to tell you, middle school was a bad time

[apolladay]

for USAmericans: Have you ever talked to a first generation immigtant face to face

no

a few times

I have a friend who is a first generation immigrant

I have multiple friends who are first generation immigrants

I am a first generation immigrant

I'm bald/non usamerican

Voting ended onMar 11

[specialagentartemis]

Aro and ace activism is housing reform, is well-funded public housing, is an expansion of affordable housing, is allowing single people to get affordable and public housing, is rent controls to make it possible for single people to be able to afford to live alone on a single salary.

Aro and ace activism is healthcare reform, so that no one needs to rely on a spouse for health insurance, so that healthcare is available to everybody regardless of income, so that no one’s lived experiences or basic dignity are dismissed or overridden by doctors

Aro and ace activism is well-funded and expansive public transit, so that you don’t need to have someone on hand to drive you places if you are incapacitated, so that you don’t have to pay for an ambulance if you need to get to the hospital quickly

Aro and ace activism is disability and elder care services, so that no one needs a spouse to care for them, so that no one needs children to care for them, so that marriage is not a bind for disabled people, so that people on disability who want to and can live alone can

Aro and ace activism is community-building, it’s public events, it’s free social activities, it’s mutual aid, it’s activities that bring community members together without socializing relying on just a romantic partner

Aro and ace activism is developing a culture of believing when people tell you who they are and what they want rather than assuming you know them better than they know themselves

Aro and ace activism means a better world for people without “normative” desires or “normative” social support, which means a better world for everybody

[backgroundasexual]

Idk what hockey rpf girl needs to hear this but stop training your brain to do mental backflips to justify the shitty behavior of men. Do not invent rich and kind inner lives for them that don't exist. The way you spend your time does in fact affect how you interact with the real world.

[backgroundasexual]

This is a really popular post right now and I don't want to be a dick to op in the notes but the implication that the time they spent as friends doesn't count is driving me insane

[erodingsinner]

once you learn about pseudoscience you're forever doomed to get angry when people talk about like. love languages or stockholm syndrome. but forced to stay quiet lest your lose your mind trying to correct millions of people

[isuggestgetfatter]

BMI IS FAKE. BMI MEANS JACK SHIT. I AM GRABBING Y'ALL BY THE SHOULDERS THIS METRIC IS COMPLETELY USELESS AND IT WAS MADE BY AN EUGENICIST

[batmanisagatewaydrug]

was browsing through the tumblr top 100 ships list for patreon reasons and like. look. disappointing but not surprising to see harold potter ships still alive and well. people value their nostalgia and fun over trans safety, we know this. but the most popular one is fucking. harry's dad x his friend's little brother who tried to be a wizard nazi and then felt bad about it??? hello???

[batmanisagatewaydrug]

ooooooh the cope is fucking unreal

[batmanisagatewaydrug]

it's so extra lame because if you check the tag all the most popular posts are just generic ass m/m shit, like you could fill in the blanks with any names and it would be the same. move along and get your homoslop somewhere else already.