Woman First

💫I am here for my fellow women who are often dismissed by other feminists. 💫I support women who are homeless, drug users, disabled, sex workers, abuse victims, wlw, women of colour, women without access to food or healthcare or education or contraception. 💫and so much more. just...women. 💫I don’t tag very well so kinda assume a content warning. 💫I’m 24.

[lilith-apologist]

me when people i follow on my main are talking about how much they hate terfs:

[finnpoee-deactivated20190501]

“The s/m concept of “vanilla” sex is sex devoid of passion. They are saying that there can be no passion without unequal power. That feels very sad and lonely to me, and destructive. The linkage of passion to dominance/subordination is the prototype of the heterosexual image of male-female relationships, one which justifies pornography. Women are supposed to love being brutalized. This is also the prototypical justification of all relationships of oppression—that the subordinate one who is “different” enjoys the inferior position.”

— A Burst of Light: Essays by Audre Lorde (via drziggystardust)

[menstru8r-deactivated20210616]

god i fucking hate creepy ass dudes who try to force their way into lesbians’ spaces and lives

[kiefbowl]

Flexible as in more malleable and hence easy for men to forcibly change, huh? Idk anon but that sounds quite homophobic and misogynistic

Agreed. As radfems we should be willing to be critical of “studies.” Who wrote them, who funded them, how did they draw their conclusions? Men have published hundreds of studies on female sexuality that are downright stupid. I read an article on one where a study asked what was the biological reason we “evolved” to perform cunnilingus (as a species) that basically surveyed a) only surveyed men and b) did not seemed concerned about fellatio. I forgot what they concluded but it was stupid. It’s a stupid question to begin with.

[gently-radical]

what do you think of women who switch between the bi and lesbian labels? like someone who is sure they like women but not sure if they like men

I think that we all struggle to figure ourselves out and that as long as you’re never using those labels for anything other than finding yourself there’s nothing wrong with taking your time or being uncertain. That being said, I personally think that trying to figure out how you feel about men is only going to hurt you. If you know you like women, there’s no reason to “try men” just to be sure. If you find that you are attracted to men and that you’re bisexual, that still doesn’t mean that you have to act on those feelings. Men are the biggest threat to womens’ health, happiness, and safety. There are bisexual women who only date other women, and the term for that is feb (female-exclusive bisexual) or febfem (though there seems to be some disagreement as to whether that is meant to indicate the sex of someone identifying as feb or the politics) so if you’re uncertain of your attraction to men and feel like using the lesbian label may be offensive or inaccurate, you can always call yourself that, either in the interim or permanently. My best advice though is to never force yourself into any physical or sexual circumstances to discover your feelings, and to not stress too much about men. Our entire upbringing from before we were even out of the womb has told us to love men, please men, exist for men. Many lesbians struggle with comphet because of this and find it harder to identify their true feelings. The truth is only you will be able to figure it out, but in the long run, it’s just going to be a word. Your sexuality already exists in it’s natural form and it’s not going to up and change on you. If you feel genuine attraction to both sexes, you’re bisexual and always have been. If you only feel attraction to women, you’re a lesbian and you always have been. Regardless of what you end up discovering about yourself, remember that you do not owe anyone the benefit of the doubt or a chance unless you decide that. And always, always stay safe if you ever decide to date men. Please please stay safe

[kontrazvedka-deactivated2019031]

[mommy4sissyslut]

this fucking tea

[dreadedloreenkid]

[chestervelt]

when movie tries to make you sympathize with a cheating man

[user87262893]

when movie tries to make you sympathize with a man

[bad-wombyn]

when a man

[violetdioxazine-deactivated2020]

this is low quality but i needed to create it

[sadlysadlysalad]

as if no one has made it clear

lesbians and bi women may like strap ons because it is attached to a woman and is made of plastic. penises are attached to men.

because homophobes don’t seem to get it- men and women are completely different. their skin feels different, they smell different, they kiss different, they taste different, they fuck different. a straight man may enjoy penetrating a woman’s anus, but go ahead, ask him to have sex with a man, see what happens.

people should only be involved with what they desire sexually

women loving and desiring female bodies only is not dirty, it’s not disgusting, it is beautiful. stop shaming lesbians and febfems (or just bisexual women who want pussy) for their private sexuality.

[catchymemes]

[bad-wombyn]

you know I don’t care why he did it I just wanna say that I’d buy this dude a beer 👏

[tenseoyong]

i wish, i wish, with all my heart

that every pedophile, gets torn apart

[vladtheunfollower]

just saw the phrase “bio dildo” and I have to say…Men aren’t valid

[bad-wombyn]

HILARIOUS like I would ever select a dildo that a) I don’t know the size/shape/texture/cleanliness before use and b) is exclusively cleaned by a man.

literally I would forgo dildos forever if I had to rely on a man to clean them. but they think they’re more appealing than a woman with a strap?? haha Wrong

[spritzeal]

straight men be like “Oh i love women” but then the only women they like are skinny long-haired girls age 18 - 25

fake fans smfh

[lioncalledparsley]

#oh you love women??? name three of their albums

[bad-wombyn]

I have realised that I age out soon and all my friends in their 30s and 40s are just like. “it gets better and better. men just stop noticing you. there’s so much freedom.”

fucking can’t wait to be ignored by men so I can get on with my life tbh

[radkuromi]

Kinda makes me sad to see people attack @menalez for her old kinks when she was literally 15 because I was literally the same if not worse at that age and radfem ideology fucking saved me from that shit. Radfems should know how women are gaslit into liking those things at a young age. I kinda expected better ://

[bad-wombyn]

thank you x1000

@menalez I’ve lurked for ages & seen some drama & like...I was on here as a baby radfem at 14-19 (?ish?) and women taught me things. about five I actually knew in real life, in meat space, and they were my friends. they didn’t judge me, they shared their stories of kink and male violence and sex work with me. and I agreed with them but I’d also been groomed into kink since I was 10 & so I went down that path.

getting hate for that, for making a bad choice, would have stopped me coming back. but all I got was love. nobody said “yes, I think it’s okay that this guy beats you” but they said “he shouldn’t do that, and you deserve better, and I am here for you when I want help”. they also set the boundary that they did not want to hear about the relationship unless it was in the context of me seeking help, and that’s fine. good, even. protect yourselves and other women.

the stories I was told by an ex-sex worker? well, at least I knew what I was getting in to. I was ready for the reality, and you know what? a couple things she mentioned she did for safety were things that kept me safe later on. I remember her because she shared the gritty reality of womanhood as well as her own ideological beliefs. that was honest and good.

idk I’m just surprised that we’re all jumping on the vulnerable ones in our own community. maybe I’m just rose tinted but I remember the women in their 20s being like my surrogate mothers when I was lost, confused and struggling with my gender identity/sexuality/etc seven years ago. and if anyone remembers my old blog (something like radicalvegan idk) then you can like definitely find some problematic stuff there! I was a problematic 15 year old! if you want to attack me for literally re-enacting my grooming and csa with older men from a young age then go ahead!

but think about why you’re attacking women for making “bad choices” and maybe have some fucking empathy idk.

[radkuromi]

Women were never asked if we wanted to give up our spaces. They never genuinely asked women if they were okay with males being in change rooms or female prisons. Any woman who objected where are harassed, bullied, and shamed. Because in truthfulness we never truely owned these spaces. Just like anything else we were only allowed to have them as long as males allowed us to

[bad-wombyn]

of course they didn’t ask. men think they deserve a fucking nobel peace prize for remembering to ask a woman if she wants him in her body. let alone in her bathrooms, showers, changing rooms, shelters, places of worships, sports teams......

[meangirlnurse]

another thing that’s truly amazing is the number of people who refuse to talk about who exactly edited anne’s diary….it’s all about how the LGBT gentiles were Wronged by “them” or “people” or “historians” and not. like. a grieving father who recently survived Auschwitz and whose daughter (and the rest of his family) had just died horribly in concentration camps who made edits in large part so her narrative could be read at all, not to mention the edits/censorship made by Anne herself

[bad-wombyn]

Wow imagine being so far up your fucking anus that you feel entitled to every recorded thought by a Jewish teenage girl who was fucking MURDERED?

Fuck, send just your teenage diaries to your parents and ask them to publish them 100% untouched under your real name 😊🥰 Why not? It’s ~HISTORICAL ACCURACY~

[jolakottinnn]

Wtf is wrong w these people? Now I get why cotton ceiling got so fucking popular, y'all got no brain cells 🙄🙄

[bad-wombyn]

omg is it now controversial to not pity fuck people???????????