AO3 ficwriter, psyc major, autistic and maybe ADHD adult, material may be nsfw, TERFs and aphobes don't interact https://archiveofourown.org/users/badassbutterfly1987
when i was a kid i was so mad all the time bc i thought someday i'd have to be somebody's wife i didn't know it was optional. is everybody reminding the young girls in their lives that it's optional.
is wanting to be a wife and mother a requirement for being a woman?
why might OP be annoyed with replies assuming that this post is about being aroace or transmasc if a woman doesn’t want to be a wife or mother?
are there reasons unrelated to sexuality and romantic interest that might make a woman not want to be a wife or mother?
are there reasons unrelated to gender identity and expression that might make a woman not want to be a wife and mother?
core concept: what is gender essentialism?
is it gender essentialism to imply that all women inherently want to be wives and mothers? could this be what OP is critiquing?
look at the notes OP responds to. is it gender essentialism to imply that being a wife and mother is so affixed to womanhood that to not want to be those things means you’re incapable of sexual/romantic feelings, or not a woman?
what trait are you perpetuating when you assume that women who do not want to be wives and mothers must be aroace or trans? is it gender essentialism?
I don’t think healthy people every really get chronic illness.
I have a friend I know from when we were both 6. She is the only person living nearby and so she saw me go from walking through limping to wheelchair on a daily basis. I keep her updated on my health even tho we rarely hang out anymore.
She was gonna come over yesterday and I had to cancel. She asked if I can’t hang out later that day. When I said i won’t feel better later, that if I feel that bad in the morning later will only get worse she got annoyed and “joked” that I’m just finding excuses. And I was surprised, she knows all about me being disabled after all? So, a bit taken aback, I told her it’s a normal thing for me.
“But you got the diagnosis now, aren’t you better?? I thought you’ll get better now”
She was honestly surprised and it made me realize a thing. They don’t get it. They don’t get that getting diagnosed only equals benefits like welfare or parking spot for us, and sometimes better pain meds but that is just like pushing luck. That it’s a forever thing. That that one day we felt good a week ago was just a bright spot and doesn’t mean we won’t need our aids anymore, cause chronic illness is not linear and will make a great comeback in next four hours, and the next good day is planned on when we’re 70.
Cause when abled people are sick, they get better. And our illness is just an excuse for them. And when we say we will never get better they think we’re being dramatic and pessimistic.
And I don’t think they’ll ever get it, cause to get it you need to live it.
And I want my friends to stay healthy and not go through hell.
turned away (300 words) by badassbutterfly1987
Chapters: 1/1
Fandom: Shades of Magic - V. E. Schwab
Rating: General Audiences
Warnings: No Archive Warnings Apply
Relationships: Holland Vosijk & Original Character(s)
Characters: Holland Vosijk, Original Characters
Additional Tags: Pre-Canon, Isolation, Angst, Triple Drabble
Summary: As both spiritual leader of the Kosik and local apothecary, Hala's door opens for most people. Even Antari, until it's no longer feasible.
bestie i feel kike you have a lot of body sharing posts, do you have media recs
I do indeed have recs for body sharing media!
Movies/comics
The Venom movies and Venom comics. Goo alien makes its home in a man's body and they sometimes fall in love. For specific comic runs, I recommend checking out @land-of-brains-and-chocolate list of required eddie!venom reading.
Manga
Greed and Ling from Fullmetal Alchemist by Hiromu Arakawa. The embodiment of Greed takes over the body of a prince searching for the secret to immortality, but they eventually become buds and share who's in charge. Unfortunately, it's a side plot, not the main plot, but it's still pretty classic body sharing rec.
Shinichi and Migi from Parasyte by Hitoshi Iwaaki. An alien that takes over people's heads (effectively killing them) gets stuck in the arm/hand of a teenage boy. They have to work together in order to evade detection while Shinichi tries to warn people about the other parasytes.
Books
Karys Eska and Ferain Taliade from Asunder by Kerstin Hall. Deathspeaker Karys accidentally binds an injured Ferain to her shadow and has to find a way to detach him before he unwillingly forces her soul out of her body and before her eldritch benefactor calls his claim on her soul. It's not exactly body sharing but it's like. Really close. And really good. Please read Asunder.
Artemisia and the revenant from Vespertine by Margaret Rogerson (@marrogerson on tumblr). A nun-in-training uses a relic holding a powerful revenant to protect her convent and gets embroiled in greater problems. She ends up sort of befriending the revenant so that it doesn't take over her body and soul.
Various Animorphs books by K.A. Applegate. The whole series is about kids fighting alien slugs that take over brains. Sometimes, the yeerks (the alien slugs) and their host cooperate instead of being parasitic.
Matthew Swift and the electric blue angels from the Matthew Swift books by Kate Griffin. The last sorcerer in London shares his body/mind/soul with the spirits of the phone lines, or maybe is also the spirits. The narration changes between I and we frequently, which is trippy but also cool writing.
Jack Morgan and Draycos in Dragonback by Timothy Zahn. Human boy becomes the host to an alien that has to return to live on his skin every six hours or dies. They get involved in the mystery of why the scouting ships Draycos was on were destroyed.
Nathaniel and Bartimaeus from the Bartimaeus Trilogy by Jonathan Stroud. Nathaniel is a magician and Bartimaeus is a demon he sometimes summons. They reluctantly work together for mutual protection but don't really like each other. The body sharing only happens at the very end of the trilogy, but the character journeys that both went through to get to a point where they willingly shared a body was *chef's kiss*
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Despite how much I love body sharing as a trope, it's actually hard for me to find stuff I like that's also a significant part of the story, instead of a minor side plot or featured in characters who don't have a POV and aren't there for long. I hope this is what you're looking for, anon!
my favorite genre of fictional character is like "i am terrifying to almost everyone, i'm very good at killing, i can endure anything, i've become exceptionally good at playing into my reputation, and if you try to give me positive social interaction i will react with confusion and cower in a corner like an abused animal. and i may try to shoot you. but there is also a chance i may imprint on you like a feral dog receiving its first loving touch! good luck."
One of my favorite things about The Cruel Prince is how Vivi, Jude and Taryn are literally raised by the murderer of theirs parents! Any other book would make Madoc a despicable and abusive villain, but I love how Holly Black made Madoc a reliable and caring father-figure… while kind of still being a villain.
He raises the twins alike his own blood, he teaches them everything he knows of combat and strategy, he makes sure they study with the noble children, Oriana forbids the girls of telling Madoc if they are mistreated bc she knows he will be furious about them being hurt, he genuinely wants to paint the walls with the blood of the folk who made Jude eat fairy fruity, when Taryn desires to marry the jerk of Locke he lets it clear that he knows it’s gonna go wrong, but allows her to do whatever she feels she will be happy and says she can always come back home when that thing blows up, even Jude mentions in The Wicked King how Madoc would call an army surgeon to take care of her shot leg.
And not even mentioning the fact Madoc pampered Taryn a lot in his war camp and stabbed Jude in The Queen of Nothing and had the nerve of saying he wanted to take her to the medics bc he would never let her die. Also, he sending a letter to Cardan furious and cursing him for being the “reason for his daughter died”.
Ruthless yet caring villain dads give me strength <3
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This is the first ever entirely unraveled papyrus scroll from the great Herculaneum library. In its entirety. The technology that allowed us to do this will make it easier to unravel every single one of the thousands of scrolls still waiting to be read within the library.
Herculaneum was buried in ash thousands of years ago, along with Pompeii. The above text is Philodemus’ On Gods, written around the 1st century BC. Other Hellenistic works are expected to follow it. Upwards of twenty-five-thousand scrolls are thought to still be down there. Tantalizing us.
Philodemus is thought to be the owner of the villa and a philosophy enthusiast, hence the abundance of such texts already discovered and partially decrypted before now. In my mind, this is the most important historical innovation of the millennium. This will revolutionize our understandings of Greece and Rome. It’s already helped us discover the precise location of Plato’s tomb.
I, for one, am hopeful about the preservation of the works of ancient female writers. Many women wrote manuals of proper behavior, or their own philosophical interpretations of the world. That’s what’s most exciting to me. Also learning the names of poetesses and philosophresses we’ve never heard of before. AHH this is so exciting
A digital (?) artwork of Anne Bonny (as depicted in Black Sails). The background is a vivd red with a pattern of small, deep red dots that slowly fade at the bottom.
Bordering the image vertically is silver-outlined text (left): Anne (right) Bonny [the 'o' has been replaced with a stylized skull].
Anne is in mid-stabbing motion, pointed toward the viewer but turning (her head is facing the left, looking off-screen). She bares her teeth fiercely, and blood splatters her knife-holding fist and chin. Her loose red hair sways with movement.
Yes this is a serious, sobering story and I am an extremely big fan of leaving viral famous animals the f alone so that they don't end up getting killed or euthanized.
But also, this is the best article I've ever read.
(ID: "AI Overview: On July 6, 1997, a horse became the first animal from Earth to land on Mars, descending the front left wheel of the Sojourner Rover three and a half weeks after it landed. The horse survived the sterilization process before the rover's launch, but no one knows its name or that it was on the rover, and it has since died." End ID.)
