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“Black lives matter” does not mean “fuck anyone who’s not black,” it means “support black people.”
“Gay rights” doesn’t mean “fuck anyone who’s not gay,” it means “support gay people.”
“Trans rights” doesn’t mean “fuck all cis people,” it means “support trans people.”
“Respect women” doesn’t mean “fuck all men,” it means “support women.”
It’s not about you.
fuck it. be creative even if you never really *make* anything. write out plot synopses of stories and then move on. design OCs you'll never use. make mood boards and concept art and don't do anything with them. life's too short to forget everything that inspired you and creation doesn't have to be "complete" to be worth the time you put into it.
Sometimes you just gotta let shit go. Whatever happened, happened. Stop stressing over it. You still young & still got a lot more shit coming your way.
just putting this out there but if someone points out something you’re doing has racist/homophobic/transphobic vibes, you dont have to defend what you’re doing, you can literally just say ‘oh, i did not realise that, im sorry, i wont do that again’ like we all have internalised things we do that are offensive without us realising.. just say sorry and work on it. theres no need to defend
10 Steps to Self Care
1. If it feels wrong, don’t do it.
2. Say “exactly” what you mean.
3. Don’t be a people pleaser.
4. Trust your instincts.
5. Never speak badly about yourself.
6. Never give up on your dreams.
7. Don’t be afraid to say “no”.
8. Don’t be afraid to say “yes”.
9. Resist the need to always have control.
10. Stay away from drama and negativity – as much as possible.
Source: Lessons Learned in Life
10 Prompts for Shadow Work
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Keep track of your feelings from day to day. Record how you felt and try to pin point why you felt certain ways in different situations. How could you habe handled it better? Why did you react the way you did?
Write a letter to your past self, or your future self. Then break down your thoughts on why you said the things you did. Address any emotions that pop up during this process and record them. Why did you feel that way? What events in your life made you right what you did?
Are you living true to yourself? Are you changing who you are based on who you're around? What are those changes? Why do you make those changes?
Are you holding on to something or someone that you should let go of? Why do you hold on to it? What are steps you can take to let go of it?
What are your fears? Your REAL fears not just spiders or heights. Why are you afraid of those things? Are there any steps you can take to lessen that fear?
How do you treat the people in your life? Is there anything you could do for them to better your relationships? Are you being a positive, healthy influence on their life or are you being a toxic one? If toxic, what changes are you going to make to your behavior to stop being toxic?
What do you wish other people knew about you? Why do you keep it hidden?
Are you healing from past traumas and or incidents or have you just distracted yourself? What healthy ways could you address unhealed trauma in order to move to a healthier place?
Make a list of people you don't like. Why don't you like them? Are they actually bad or do you see bad parts of yourself reflecting in them and that's why you don't like them? Be honest.
Write down everything that happens to you in a week that makes you feel bad in any way. Examine this list and ask why certain events make you feel bad.
BONUS: Write down what you believe about a variety of things (from religion and karma all the way down to relationships and your career path). Why do you believe those things? Are these feelings set in stone or are you willing to accept alternate views? Why or why not?
Remember Shadow work is all about unlocking your subconscious. This helps you understand yourself better which is important for many different aspects in witchcraft, and your star seed will thank you for it.
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hey, take some more video essays. (part one)
how tiktok makes you feel ugly
a relaxing critique of animal crossing new horizons
the 27 club: mental illness and art
talent belongs to the beautiful - how media manipulates your tastes
lindsay lohan: the rise of a starlet ( part one, part two )
the unrealistic beauty standard is deadly
how beauty brands failed women of color
the devil wears prada style analysis
the beauty standard between men and women
what happened to all of the black children sitcoms?
a deep dive into ‘aesthetic’ youtube
dan schneider’s wife aka hungery girl exposed
why black people hate justin timberlake
janet jackson: the underrated legend
erotica: madonna’s career ending album
the cracked reality of the ACE famly
the lovely bones is scarier than we remember
lady gaga is performance art
why rappers are the new rockstars
colorism and violence: what really happened to 3lw
the real ellen - the bitter truth behind the daytime icon
pretty privilege: beauty standards, bimbo effect and free scones
from fame to shame: shane dawson’s story ( tw for racism & pedophilia )
you’re not relatable anymore
the beauty community: racism & toxicity
a goofy movie and the power of nostalgia
music that defined the 2010s
heathers, jawbreaker, & the timelessness of killer cliques
deep cuts: society & queer horror
pinterest aesthetics, fatphobia & whitewashing
tiktok vs black creators: if you hate us just say dat
the “blaccent”; nonblack creators key to fame
ghost singing: who was really singing on michael jackson’s posthumous album
judy garland: the end of the rainbow
marilyn monroe: living blonde
the downfall of the singer cassie
this teen idol manipulated everyone
how frenemies reveals a mental health misconception perpetuated by the internet
legacy, chronical, & every other reimagining of the craft
it’s not a coincidence, it’s colorism
evil queens: a gay look at disney history
the authenticity of lana del rey
some very important life reminders to help you through your days:
“i’m taking up too much space.”
this is hard to get into your head, because it can feel like no one wants you around. you are not a waste of space and you are not taking up too much space. you are a person, and people know that. we are so focused on ourselves in different ways. for you, you might worry you’re annoying people with your presence. but for them, they don’t think much of it because they know you’re a person who will take up as much space as needed.
“crying is a weakness.”
some kids are raised to think it’s not okay to cry. which is crazy because it’s a normal bodily thing to release emotions. don’t feel bad for crying. do it. cry. let it out. no one has a right to judge your feelings or your tears. we all have those days that are overwhelming and call for a good cry.
“i’ll never be enough.”
you will always be enough for the right people. you will always be enough in general but some people won’t appreciate that and that’s on them. you are you. you are you doing your best. don’t let anyone, and i mean anyone, take that away from you.
“my friends treat me like a therapist and i need boundaries.”
it feels great to be trusted enough that your friends confide in you, but it’s okay to be honest with them when they’re asking for too much. you can’t replace a professional who is trained to help with mental illness and shouldn’t be held to that expectation. let them know that you have to take care of yourself too.
“i always drive people away.”
people will come and go no matter how much we want them to stay. sometimes they’re not the right people for you, especially if they make you feel like it’s always your fault. if being yourself drives them away, you dodged a bullet. but it’s okay if it takes you time to come to terms with that. it’s easy to blame yourself for people not staying, but try to slowly learn not to.
“i don’t know how to live with myself.”
learning to live happily with yourself takes so much time and patience. start with a little time. get to know yourself apart from other people. understand it will be frustrating. do things for yourself you normally wouldn’t think you deserve. the time will come when you realize it’s not so bad.
“i need help but feel like a burden for asking.”
everyone needs help sometimes. that does not make you a burden. it does not make you weak. the people who love you are more than willing to help especially if it means you don’t drown in the things you have to handle. reach out. don’t fear coming off as annoying. people can be more understanding than we think.
“i’ve been told i have an annoying personality.”
first i want to say you do not need to change yourself to make other people like you. their perception of you is theirs and it doesn’t define you. the opinions you should actually listen to will come from those who know you and love you because they know you.
“if someone doesn’t like me back i feel like it’s my fault or there’s something wrong with me.”
we can’t be everyone’s cup of tea. and we can’t choose who we like. there’s nothing wrong with you, and how they feel about you is out of your control. it’s out of their control. you deserve someone who accepts you as you are. you deserve to know that there are people out there who will fall in love with you as you are. rejection, unfortunately, will happen a lot in life. it’s not your fault. it’s a part of being a person with your own personality.
“i do everything wrong.”
everyone makes mistakes but they don’t define us. it may feel like you’re always messing up, but what it really means if that you’re learning and growing. you do a lot of things right that you don’t think outweigh what you do “wrong”. but you’ll do good things and make mistakes too. the presence of one does not mean the absence of the other.
“i feel useless if i’m not helping my friends.”
we all play a part in other people’s lives, but the most important part is the one you play in your own life. your value does not equate to how much you do for others. it’s wonderful you can be the kind of friend they rely on but you can’t realistically put all the pressure on being only that friend. i’m sure your friends will love you no matter how you contribute to their lives.
study with adhd
Hi, it’s werelivingarts. I’ve been creating contents about academic life, but I realize that I leave out many students who are having ADHD that can make studying very challenging. I’m a no expert in this field, but I’ve been researching some tips that ADHD students find useful. Therefore, I really hope that some of the tips can help you to make studying less boring and easier! ❤️
Remember: Don’t let anyone tell you that you’re being silly, or lazy, or fussing over nothing. They are trying to apply rules that work for standard brains. You don’t need to explain anything, it is nobody’s business but yours. Don’t let anybody shame you or push you around. All you need to do is smile and say, “Well, it works for me.” 💙💜💻
P/s: If you have any useful tips, please share them below!
please keep in mind that learning is always a process. learning to draw, dance, play an instrument, but also learning to say no, learning to start conversations, learning to be more comfortable in your own skin. it’s great setting goals for yourself, as long as you allow yourself to get there gradually instead of immediately wanting to be the best at it (and setting unrealistic standards for yourself because of it). change is rarely a single moment during which everything suddenly shifts, but rather a period of time in which you learn and adjust and improve. you’ll get there, but you must give yourself time to do so.
so many songs to listen to. so many books to read. so many things to watch. so much stuff to write. i think i will sit here and decompose
Jonice Webb, Running on Empty: Overcome Your Childhood Emotional Neglect
Normalise liking poetry because you like the way it sounds and art because you think its beautiful. You don’t have to understand the deeper meaning of something to appreciate it - poetry is bloody difficult to analyse and art requires an extensive knowledge of movements and artists to properly get - so please just wonder around art galleries and decide which pieces you’d buy if you could, and read out lines of poetry simply because they have a nice ring to them.
being gay is just like. damn it tattoos are expensive. damn it piercings are expensive. damn it getting your hair dyed professionally is expensive. damn it combat boots are expensive. damn it therapy is
One of the weirdest things as a Millennial is explaining DIY to younger generations. Like, before we were couture, punk/alternative/goth/gay fashion was cheap and lowkey crappy. Army surplus boots and Doc Martens hurt to break in. Black was a popular hair colour because you didn’t have to bleach your hair first so you could do your own hair in the bathroom sink. You sewed patches onto a jean jacket because it was cheaper than buying a custom graphic t-shirt. If you wanted jeans ripped, you ripped them yourself. The point was fashion that was accessible to kids in Middle America.
But now the bar is so much higher and nobody gets Home Economics anymore. :/
tbh, this is something a lot of Alt kids need to learn, and need to learn NOW.
Shit was cheap because that’s what we had access to. Cheap n dirty and now.
You picked up jeans second third or even fourth hand and yea they had tears in them. Don’t know how to sew, that’s fine, use safety pins! We used waxed floss to sew on our patches because we knew it was stronger than thread but ALSO we had access to a random needle left lying around and the floss in the cabinet.
It didn’t used to be High Fashion. It was us, in our basements and our friend’s rooms, doing things we saw other kids doing…. but ALSO, it was just… part of the lifestyle. We didn’t know leather care like we do now, but we know it NOW because of Gay Leatherfolk for the most part. We used red and black hair dye, yes, because we didn’t need to bleach it. We also used really dangerous methods to bleach our hair…. don’t do that.
Learn from what’s available to you now and be safer definitely, but don’t forget the DIY roots of the movement. You don’t need to be decked in Blackcraft and Dollskill to be cutting edge. You can paint your jacket yourself and use fabric modpodge to seal it, y’know? Then it’s truly one of a kind…. not the same jacket you’ll be seeing on a thousand other alt people at the next concert.
It’s crazy to me now seeing people get their green hair or whatever at a salon for like $100+. I remember in high school someone would get a bottle of developer and everyone would get whatever color they wanted, and we’d all do our hair in someone’s kitchen (whoever had the best sink sprayer, usually). Like, back then, if you wanted a COLOR you usually couldn’t get it at a salon. You had to buy the colored dye at the record store.
Are you part of an alternative community? Queer? Goth? Metal? Punk? Any sort of not-particularly mainstream? LEARN TO DIY.
When I was in school, we used Kool-Aid unsweetened packets to dye our hair. You can use it to dye wool yarn (an animal protein fiber) and it lasts forever, and hair is also an animal protein fiber, so it dyed us just as easily. If you wanted extra longevity, you mixed it with a little vinegar. Goth accessories didn’t appear in stores before Hot Topic, so we made our own with second hand clothes and scads of black lace.
Make Do and Mend, the subcultures edition.
If one did want to learn some DIY sewing skills, you coulkd try:
https://gothfashion.info
And honestly, DIY and thrifting are a lot of fun. Way more fun than scrolling through websites of things you can’t afford, anyway…
(Lilibat’s projects are an excellent way to learn to sew, can confirm, made a bunch of them back in The Day)
